We ain't gonna drool but tbh I get what they mean with that it's distracting. Not like we're particularly into shoulders, just looks naked somehow? Hard to explain.
@@sunnysisters999 it isn't?? What school dress code allows boys to be shirtless?? In some other scenarios it's okay, like the beach, but there you can wear bikini's. This is a very poorly thought out take.
so it's true they really don't know what natural beauty is 😭 it's rly sad but hopefully men know better 🙏🏻 everyone is different though and age doesn't equal maturity
This is what gets on my NERVES. I barely wear makeup, I just started wearing lipgloss and eyelinerlike, a few months ago. But it's so dumb! The same guys who say "I like natural girls" or " always take girls swimming on the first date" are the same guys who will show you a girl with a full face of makeup, minus the eyeshadow, and say "this is what I mean when I say I like natural girls" You literally DONT like natural girls, you just don't like eyeshadow.
@@-karma-2426happened to me before, I never see ppl put on makeup etc. so it’s easy to think that they just look like that I don’t like assuming they are wearing a bunch of makeup, we boys are rlly ignorant abt that stuff fr
@@corbels yeah tbh it kinda worries me sometimes tho that we've gotten so used to seeing people with makeup that some people think EYELINER and skin with NO PORES is natural lol
I'm sad for my sister lately, because she has been through this and continues to go through this, she is only 14 years old, she doesn't listen to me, and one day I hope she will pay attention to me...(sorry if English is bad, its because i am using google translate, as I'm from Brazil)
If someone says: “you should smile more, you look prettier when you do”, simply reply with: “You should shut up more, you sound smarter when you do” ;)
I was always skinny but ppl only started to tell me to eat more (even though i already eat a lot) when i turned 11, its so annoying i dont even care cuz then if i do gain some weight they will prob tell me to lose it?? they re just never satisfied
I also have a similar situation I was in yr2 and I checked my weight in the hospital and I was about 4kg overweight..In the beginning of yr4 I started to eat less and exercise and now (almost yr 5)I’m about 6kg less than average and people say I should eat more but I’m satisfied with my weight now 😊
I know right? i was struggling with my weight as a teenager (breathing problems and diabetes runs in my family) so when i finally started losing all of it my gramma started telling everyone in the family I was anorexic and was constantly forcing me to eat when I wasn’t hungry 🤦🏻♀️
"Being born is the saddest day because your brought into this cruel world Dying is the happiest cause your brought bc out of this cruel world" - my grandma
@@I-like-bigos You are pretty, but the ppl you are with doesn't consider you as so. For example, dark skin in asia is considered as ugly while in europe it's the dream of everybody and considered as very beautiful. Go make some vacation and put nice and chic, but not extreme, chlothing on. Like pretty dresses. There ppl who were as beautiful as the night but ppl told them they're ugly. Bro, some are just jealous.
I remember when aunties would tell me how pretty I was. I used to feel pretty when they told me that, but now no one mentions my looks and I feel uglier.
In the Quran Allah says: (94:4) Indeed, We created humans in the best form. لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا ٱلْإِنسَـٰنَ فِىٓ أَحْسَنِ تَقْوِيمٍۢ ٤ So look in the mirror and be proud. Also our beloved Allah azzawajjal says: (10:65) Do not let their words grieve you ˹O Prophet˺. Surely all honour and power belongs to Allah. He is the All-Hearing, All-Knowing. وَلَا يَحْزُنكَ قَوْلُهُمْ ۘ إِنَّ ٱلْعِزَّةَ لِلَّهِ جَمِيعًا ۚ هُوَ ٱلسَّمِيعُ ٱلْعَلِيمُ So care for your clothing, not to look extreme, but groomed and sensible and chic. Like a pretty dress or sth.
@@OggyJack-uq9zuyes! He is distracting the topic and blaming it on us, this technique is called Feldman Fallacy. Famously used by those who don’t accept and keep manipulating others to basically make you think that ‘If I am wrong, you are more worse than that’
@@heysirigivemeacoolnickname Well it’s just how you view it. Life for females wouldn’t be hard if it wasn’t for the way that currently is society. Being born a “girl” doesn’t necessarily make your life hard, It’s the expectations that are given to girls that are hard
someone once said "you could be the juiciest, most delicious peach, and still, not everyone will like peaches". be you, boo ✨✨ ok some of yall got a pea sized brain or sumn. the quote is a metaphorical analogy. if you don't like peaches, use literally any other fruit. not that hard 😭 edit: came back 8 months later to say i still stand by this and babygirl u should love yourself no matter what!! also hot girls make other girls feel hot too so please lift each other up 🙏🏻🙏🏻 toodles booboo
even boys experience it, like you can’t be skinny and you can’t be too big, can’t wear certain clothing cuz they too nerdy or too jockey, but the dress code doesn’t apply to them which is goofy
I was always skinny-shamed but when I started to eat more I felt like I wasn’t enough, still ate out of my comfort zone and eventually feeling like I’ve gained a eating disorder, I don’t know what I should anymore😭😭
“You will always be criticized and teased and bullied for things that make you different, but usually those things will be what set you apart. The things that set you apart from the pack, the things that you once thought were your weaknesses will someday become your strengths.” -Taylor Swift
It’s true tho. 12 year olds nowadays that were make up just to fit in. Real Make up is only for adults and teenagers, not little kids, who feel like they have to grow up early just because society tells them to
Everyone is beautiful*society is just picky -a wise person Don't follow society to be beautiful be yourself -wise person Edit:I think I made a war in the comments instead of making people not sad about they're body
I'm not picky, for me I just want everyone to eat 3 meals a day or whatever is enough for their body, not too much not too less, too much is too much, too less is too less and I don't mind how ppl dress up, prolly bc i dont mind how i dress up either so why would i care ab others' outfits
Whenever someone tells me my shoulders are "distracting the boys" I say "well their shoulders distract me then" and every time I'm told I look tired, I say, "tired of your bs" and when people make fun of me for being overweight... I walk away and cry when I get home cuz they shall not get satisfaction of me crying, or I'll just say "I have a eating disorder" (which isn't a lie) and they immediately f off :)
This hits hard. This makes me miss my childhood :( back when I didn’t have to worry on how my body image looked, how my face looked, how I dressed or acted. I hope someday all be able to overcome this constant fear of ppl judging me.
back then, when young girls are so mean to people, the social games preparing us for adulthood, preparing women to never be satisfied and blame all their mistakes and ignorance on men
It’s true. I feel like the girls now feel like they have to live up to those standards when really it just a bunch of people, Telling you what they want from you, and then changing their minds
There’s always going to be someone saying there’s something wrong with your body, but what I learned is you should just be yourself because you can’t please everyone 🙂
This made me shed a tear as a man. I feel bad for women who experience this. Constantly judge and when you try to change they judge you even more. Such a cruel world.
NEVER tell anyone they need to smile *more* Edit 1: i never gotten so many likes thank you guys❤️ Edit 2: i get 1k likes everyday wth Edit 3: 11k likes:O
One of my friends ask me continuously if I’m okay then I say “yes”. Then she said “Well maybe if you smile more often, then people would stop asking if you’re okay.” I then thought, “But I don’t have to smile just to look happy.”
I LOVE THIS VIDEO!!! This is exactly why I’ve given up on beauty standards, and I just wear and look how I want. Not everybody is going to like me and that is okay!!
This is so true. The people around me started calling me depressed even though I wasn't, and this led me to actually being depressed. They made such a big deal 😒
That's why you shouldn't do exactly everything someone else says, be yourself and don't change just because an other person wants this, you're all beautiful remember ❤
Loll me and my friends make a bigger deal abt shoulders than actual what teachers think happens, we have a joke where we’ll compliment each others shoulders until the teacher yells at us😂😂
@@Max--782 a lot of schools where I live have dress codes where if you show your shoulders apparently guys will fall in love with you (not true) so everyone jokes about it
Read this if you want a healthier mindset: To everyone saying you can never win, you’re lying to yourself. Just don’t listen to the standards you believe society is forcing upon you. I didn’t go a day of school wearing makeup to cover acne. Never regretted it, and I’m proud to now have healthy skin that I would have significantly damaged in school if I wore foundation every day like everyone else. I wore sweatshirts, sweatpants, and sneakers every day to school. Didn’t regret it, because I belt extremely comfortable in those clothes and was able to focus more on school because uncomfortable clothing was not a distraction to myself. I never felt the need to wear more revealing clothing, because I was not focused on finding a partner who focuses on beauty most, and I was instead focused on school. If I ever felt a little overweight, I simply ate healthier and developed better habits. Always strive for healthy, not unattainable (if you naturally don’t have a curvy figure, etc). That’s how I got through life how I wanted, despite everyone around me complaining about how society’s “beauty standards” were constantly limiting theirs. Don’t let yourself be limited and you won’t regret it.
Love this message! I really needed that this evening because sometimes I feel like the prettiest girl alive, yet other times I feel like a whale, haha! One thing though: Doctor Mike said that wearing makeup doesn't actually ruin your skin! It's down to you washing it off as soon as you are done with it and taking care of your skin with some good moisturiser so that it doesn't clog your pores. Other than that, makeup is totally fine and has no long-term effect on your skin. Hopefully this helps someone! Have a great day/evening wherever you are :)
“What matters is how you view yourself. Not how the world sees you” -✨Me✨ edit: bloody hell i’m getting a lot of hate for trying to spread positivity. i can’t even do that without being hated on. great world we live 🙄
@@Spid4rsw3bz how can u ‘definitely’ tell? And does it really matter if I ‘got inspiration from another comment’? What matters is the msg that people get from it. And that’s to never care abt how ppl view you
If we AREN’T the standard, we’re ugly and should take advice to be pretty. If we ARE the standard we’re trying too hard, and should not care what other people think.
@@michaelsotomayor5001i think thats what that quote means. If your partner doesn't love you when your typically "ugly" (just rolled out of bed as an example) then they don't love you and therefore dont deserve you when your all dolled up
Yea. Instead, people should say "are you okay?" Instead of trying to program you to mask your true feelings. That's an unhealthy practice, and can lead to self detriment on the worst level 😢
My Lolo used to be a plastic surgeon and he fat shamed my cousins and tell them to eat less but then he called me emaciated and said I need to eat more 😭
whenever someone body shames me or tells me to change myself I just say "my body wasn't made for you anyway" or "so your telling me that basically all the 4 billion man in the world want a girl your talking about?" and if they told me I dress sl0tty I will just say "it's my body, not yours. if you don't like the clothes just don't wear it"
as if boys are really that observant anyway.. a real man will love you for YOU. and if anything, being confident in yourself no matter your "flaws" makes it soo much better. this world just needs to let people live AND FEEL COMFORTABLE IN THEIR OWN SKIN 💯
fr and the teachers saying "shoulders, nails, makeup, etc are distractions", im a girl and i think it just makes them look bad, boys are not like that, just some.
