YOU CAN'T COMPROMISE WITH NARCISSISTS

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#narcissist #narcissisticabuse Narcissists refuse to compromise in any way that is fair. A narcissist's compromise is a distorted version of compromise that really only benefits the narcissist. Narcissists are bullies and trying to compromise with them will almost always be a losing game.
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@charlottekyoto9519 2 года назад

Yep. This was something that I noticed early in our marriage, he did not ever compromise. I would beg him to help resolve issues but he literally didn't understand the concept of *resolving* an issue. Ironically he would then preach about marriage being "teamwork". I used to reply "but team mates work together not against each other" And he never got it. Thank God its now over, I kicked him out two weeks ago. Correction, I didn't kick him out, I reported him to police and they arrested him and kicked him out for me 😁

@PeterShaw-ne1yq 8 месяцев назад

They live in an alternative universe called a paracosm which you view quite differently

@kimberlys.7097 8 месяцев назад

Happy ending. Yayayaya

@AZDC99 2 года назад

8:45 "No matter how much you give to a narcissist, a narcissist always expects more!" Perfect point about our GREAT REWARD after being unfairly bullied into acquiescing to something that we never should have in the first place. (Yet they want more more more.. "MOAR!")

@danielskyles6184 2 года назад

Unfair and unappreciative. So true.

@chrisboyd4706 2 года назад

I remember constantly saying "that's not fair" about a multitude of situations with my ex during the middle part and ending of my relationship with my ex, I was always excluded from exciting activities but she demanded me to be around when she had nothing much to do... I remember her getting me all excited about inviting me to a concert and I was so extremely happy to go somewhere with her and then an hour before I was supposed to meet her at her house so we could drive to the event together she would tell me we're not going, but then the next week she would go with her brother and sister to a concert but not ever invite me... I just wanted to have a special moment with her too since I learned that concerts were her favorite. I never wanted to ruin that for her I just wanted to bond with her because I loved her and wanted to be apart of her world instead of a play thing when she had nothing better to do.

@someonenew9442 2 года назад

I truly admire how you can express exactly how a narcissist thinks. It has taken me many many more years than you to see and understand. I’d love to know what you think is the most important thing to tell young people now so they don’t get trapped in these horrific relationships. Thank you, and I’m so glad you found your way out. Wishing you every true happiness.

@LookingBehindtheMirror 2 года назад

I think the most important thing is for young people to understand how they deserve to be treated. Narcissists take advantage of insecurity and people that don’t understand that it isn’t their responsibility to make sure they are worthy for others to treat them well. The bottom line is… if someone treats you like they don’t care, it’s time to walk away, NOT time to try harder. That’s what I wish I would’ve known much much earlier. Narcissists can’t function in a world of people that know how they deserve to be treated.

@Rooster75 10 месяцев назад

This video should be in every attorney’s divorce handbook. Thank you so much! I plan to watch this multiple times.

@melindasmith3713 Год назад

Wow trauma bond first explanation is right on .

@dannysze8183 2 года назад

my sister in law is a covert narcissist. normal people behavior be like if I step back you step back. for a narcissist, if you step back, they step front. to stop a narcissist, you have to step on them. they stop when they feel hurt.

@scleo1959 10 месяцев назад

You are SO right. The narc will continually move the goal post. The “game” changes constantly. We are just a plaything for them. Our minds, emotions, physical efforts etc. are continually exploited. Get away if and while you can! Great videos from your first hand experience. I watch them all.Thank you!

@PeterShaw-ne1yq 8 месяцев назад

They call it compromise we call it emotional blackmail - their forte🤔

@beth8275 Год назад

You’ve described the dynamic to a T and I especially like the infuriating tone in your voice because it is SO VALIDATING. Thanks for taking the time to produce these videos. You’re helping the community of people who have had the unfortunate circumstance of getting involved with one of these personalities. ❤

@melindasmith3713 Год назад

But he always says I win ......lol true

@bradmcewen 2 года назад

Life can take great changes. What you put up with just a short time ago has zero chance of happening again. In hindsight, I would say the control and manipulation test was all in the first month. The woman was a subtle sadist. Most of her catches were those in a life, vulnerability ( I distinctly remember her saying she never had a widower. ) That choice of words, now, says it all. Others triangulations were in divorce, separation , in which her realty business was a perfect predators playground. The whole town knew, except me. Goes back to that separation of supply. Its good that time heals. No way would I ever pine for companionship again. "Times like these you try to live again" Foo Fighters.....Rest in peace Taylor. 😪

@bradmcewen 2 года назад

Btw, I comment to what thoughts the vlog stirs up. All in a calm reflection yet may seem off topic. Oh I listen intently for sure. One on one behind closed doors terrorists for sure. I'm so cognizant of what real large scale terrorism really means. It is sickening to see what is happening. Maybe it all starts with one on one acceptance, then in the narc mind a unsaitiable lust of malevolence occurs. Most of us cannot understand the concept. That's good for it is not cognitive dissonance by any means. Same now with our temporary terrorist. They cure your lack of quick discernment. Never have I seen a subject with absolute predictably like the narcissist. That is their Achilles Heal. No matter what gaslighting is used for a reason for their actions, they are lying. What they have done is horrendous. It will be horrendous again unless self protection is employed. Personal terrorism and large scale terrorist. No second chances, just absolute resolve.

@danielskyles6184 2 года назад

Good word

@anneprocopio8519 2 года назад

This lady is fabulous, she always add clarity where there’s so much chaos and confusion. Bravo! Once again.

@melindasmith3713 Год назад

Wow she knows

@tjtampa214 Год назад

That's funny. Stop negotiating with terrorists.

@aussiekate880 2 года назад

Great upload as always. Can you do an upload about the ‘ new partner’ ( supply ) I am still struggling with is he still treating her better ? The love bomb bubble must be popped by now they have been living together 1:5 years already all seems like unicorns 🦄 and rainbow 🌈 for them still. I definitely was in devalue stage that time in.

@LookingBehindtheMirror 2 года назад

There is one I did about a month ago called “The Narcissist’s New Supply”. It might be helpful for you. Thanks for watching! For the record, I was once in a relationship that I did not realize was abusive until about 3 or 4 years in. One and half years might not be enough time for things to get really bad, but it’s still just a matter of time when it comes to habitual abusers.

@dottyp137 2 года назад

Exactly 😁☺️👍🏻💕

@user-em3np4vr8c 10 месяцев назад

I layer awake last 🌙 night thinking of how I am not included in npd sisters children weddings or anything, they never acknowledge me, because I don't drink, they all drink a lot and I went to AA, my sister hates AA because she lost contro Of me, I was no longer a mindless victim she could manipulate and all the secrets my sisters don't tell me, it's so hurtful.

@AZDC99 2 года назад

Great description of it all. You get gaslit so badly that you actually think it's a "compromise" at the time. (After slowly being terrorized into it step by step as the mask slips off). Just like you say, you cannot compromise with these clowns. If you give an inch, they'll take a mile. The only way to not keep suffering at the hand of a psycho is to OUT PSYCHO THE PSYCHO before you leave (As hypocritical as that might sound. Sometimes you're trapped or you feel trapped before you can just leave for good)

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Год назад

Nope. Not going to a movie just to not be punished. Let them punish. I will never cower to a narcissist ever again!!!!

@melindasmith3713 Год назад

@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 that is a true sentence . Yes do what I want , I'll punish you another moment .

@ronaldculley 5 месяцев назад

Nothing is good enuff for the narc. Why bother?

@amothergoddess2774 Год назад

I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR HOW THEY KEEP A RELATIONSHIP, BOTH NARC. SISTERS BEEN IN LONG TERM CONTRACTS, WOULDN'T BE A RELATIONSHIP, THE PARTNERS MUST BE COMPROMISING THEMSELVES, I THOUGHT ONE WAS GOOD, SHE TOLD ME, THEY WERE IN LOVE!

@melindasmith3713 Год назад

Worse my dad did this for years , even in my marriage

@melindasmith3713 Год назад

My husband banned him and took over

@carlroth2405 2 года назад

Do you have any experience with “co parenting” with a narcissist?

@LookingBehindtheMirror 2 года назад

I made a video on the subject about a month ago. I haven’t experienced ongoing coparenting with a narcissist after the relationship has ended myself. I explain a little of my experience in the video if you’re interested.