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Clay Definitely not My interactions with her are very positive I’ve written on one of your other vids too you Abt your Christmas message I actually got a message from her Christmas night So I can chat too you abt that once you have seen it I really appreciate your input on your vids Thanks
For a deeply committed long term SUCCESSFUL relationships = Emotional Attraction For a hookups and quickies = Physical Attraction In the end, both do play a part in any relationship but I always hold emotional connection above anything else...As I believe what matters inside a person is what counts.
Clay Andrews I have no contact for 6 mnths now. He wanted to stay Friends and use the contact with me for him (to build of his emotions towards me by email. Doesnt wanted to see me) i said no contact Its been over for 12 months now and now he is seeing some one. Tot 5 months after 7 months dating with a few woman she is not a rebound. And in love. So they are attracted to eachother also. So there is no hope for me?
Hi KXF, If our ex loses their attraction, we can also use that as a way to asses our own self and the quality of the relationship. Reflect on why did your ex slowly lose their attraction towards us. All the best.
Great! I like getting a MAN'S point of view about a MAN, makes sense. I don't know why women get advice about a MAN from a WOMAN. A MAN KNOWS WHAT A MAN WANTS!
There's physical attraction and then there's emotional attraction. Notice how most likely your ex will jump to someone less physically attractive than you but because this new person makes them feel better, they will be with them. Yes, you don't actually do anything to make your ex attracted to you, although I did do a "Sun rise dance" this morning and magically it worked, the Sun came up, lol
warren n/a Well, attraction is not a choice first of all, so if she likes something about you, you really don't have to do much to make her feel anything, that all comes from her but just remain unattached to any certain outcome and use humor to keep it light and funny, never be too serious with females The flow between you two should come natural and not forced or awkward.
Jack Bravo my ex hooked up with a guy who later said he was still in love with his ex yet they hang out and txt each other and now she's hittin the gym all of a sudden.this dude says he would get back with his ex instantly if he could and tells her she should find someone for her..i kno she doesnt take rejection too well and i think she's doin her best to get his attention somehow.
I like your videos man. Why? It's so simple. You don't want to complicate sht. It makes sense. Why? She put up with my 'tude and she still liked me back then. I have read a lot of psychology books and heard a lot from other people that are relationship coaches. "A relationship is not a competition" A competition ends and you don't want that to happen. Right? You deserve more credit.
well it is true tho. She wants to compete like "My love life is better" so the best way to make her stop is by stopping the competition about a relationship and say "my life is the greatest too bad you're not a part of it right now"
oh, no, I don't think what you're talking about is 100% true. whenever I broke up with a guy, it was because all the attraction (both sexual and emotional) was already gone.
How can i focus on cleaning all then negativity out? So far, i've been doing active no contact. It feels great to succeed! I still miss her in the back of my mind though, after active no contact should i reach out and contact her first?
I’m not sure how I feel anymore about getting back together with my ex. After 6 months of hot and cold and then recently getting along besides his hypersensitivity making him get mad at me at the drop of a hat, he told me he no longer considers me family despite him previously saying he loves me. He’s there for me in times of need if I beg or drill him to keep his word but it’s not feeling genuine and it’s draining. Overall, I do need to practice relationship skills. I didn’t grow up with the best role models and have been to counseling and researching for years and am better than I used to be but I think taking courses would be much more helpful in further developing my social and emotional intelligence. Looking forward to taking your courses when the time comes. Very eager to learn more! Thanks Clay!
hey! klay, i already finished your no contact rule.. we are texting about 4 days ago but when i ask her if she is single. she answered yes but she's dating someone new. my concerned is i messed up. when i finally found out she's single i force her to get back together.. i really felt i messed up coz she said she just want to be friend with me. should i establish no contact again or should i communicate with her more often. thanks
What if ex wants to be friends and has a wife as well? Not a bad idea to have another woman if he's not getting enough from wife, get it off gf and keep both women in control. I blocked my ex as he got back in touch said he loves me, can't wait to see me and when I said let's meet up..he said he just wanted to be friends..strictly friends. I just blocked him.
i have a question and i hope you give me an honest answer.. how exactly successful is your RIG program? i just wanted to know because i have been thinking of trying it out but i want to know the success rate first.. Do more people give gratitude and thank you when your program worked or do they ask for the money back after a while? I need help with an ex just as badly and i just need to know
Clay, How would this work if he blocks you everywhere and doesn’t want to talk because I left him a message to break up because I had not heard from him for weeks ?
Hey, Clay, let's say, I went on a blind date, the date didn't go quite well, Because my date think s I'm a few extra pounds!? Is it possible if I drop the weight, and he sees me a second time, I may get him back?????
Changing yourself for someone in hopes of that they'll approve you never goes well in the end. If that person and you hit it off amazingly on a first date but the ONLY thing that is stopping them from continuing to see you is your extra weight...sounds like he prioritizes external beauty over what matters the most--deep emotional connection. Do you think a man is worthy of someone as amazing as you despite your weight? It sounds like you dodged a bullet there. In other words--NEVER CHANGE yourself for someone else's approval. ****But if you want to lose weight because YOU want to (not to please someone else) by all means, lose weight. I would never recommend to anyone that they can find love by physically changing how they look. My advice. Lose weight for YOU....not for anyone else. But because you love yourself enough to feel healthy. If you think changing your body in hopes to make a man love you...that's a recipe for heartbreak and self-inflicted suffering. Work to improve yourself because you deserve the best, not because you think that by molding yourself to someone else's idea of perfection is how you'll get love. Don't settle for relationship crumbs. Go for that big cookie.
Nahhh. Don't get into that shit. He thinks you're a few extra pounds? If you would never reject him for that reason, then this shit will bother you. If he wanted to be with you, he'd like you the way you are. It's easy to lose weight, but not easy to accept someone for something beyond looks.
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@@ClayAndrews Hey Clay, I´d join right away, so what does it contain? Video material as a download I guess? And then also specific question+answer session weekly. Are you involved in it also? Would be great, cause it´s tricky/special as my ex and me have a child together. Greetings
I have no contact for 2 mnths now. He wanted to stay Friends and use the contact with me for him (to build of his emotions towards me by email. Doesnt wanted to see me) i said no contact Its been over for 7 months now and now he is seeing some one. 6 weeks)I bet after 7 months dating with a few woman she is not a rebound. What do i have to do next?
You are saying in a sense that we are currently in contact with them. My ex blocked me when he saw I was partying and moving on. How can I get him back
Ok but what if the problem was that we were fighting a lot, and already tried to solve things before we broke up and couldnt? Now I understand everything, I was so afraid I'm gonna lose him that I became needy and jelous and it made me fight and then i actually lost him. but he doesnt think about it, he wanted it to work and he's sad that it didnt work but he let it go. I could work on myself but I'm afraid he wouldnt give me another chance cause he thinks it would be the same. I really cant show him its gonna be different if he doesnt give me a chance. We agreed to keep in touch (havent really texted since the breakup, 3 weeks) but I think he wouldnt want to meet me cause he made a decision to let it go and seeing me in person would hurt him too and its harder to move on.
I am really fed up with these types of videos because it's easy to say and listen but hard to get back after I started to see reattracting ex again and again I have started to hate him 😑
Getting back together will never be a walk in the park. That is why we encourage our members to focus on the process and not just on the results. what makes us frustrated at times is when we are attached to the outcome and results instead of enjoying the journey and personal development. All the best.
Agreed- my ex is already attracted to me. He wants to keep being physical with me. That’s not the problem. The problem it is he has lost all faith in us. How to fix??!
Hi Stacey, We understand that rebuilding trust and each other confidence back may take some time and consistency on your end. There is no easy way to fix that. But you have to focus on building that positive connection with your ex. If our change is coming from a place of authenticity, it will show in the consistency of our action and the vibes that we send out to him and the other people as well. :-) All the best.
Clay Andrews Yes, thank you. That’s why I’m continuing to be patient and working on myself- remaining open to him. He is still doubting the possibility of us being together...for now! Remaining positive :)
HI Sath, It is best to ask yourself if you would like to be in a relationship with an impostor. How do you feel falling in love with someone whom he is not? All the best. :-)
Hey Raul, that idea of No Contact is something that we call Passive No Contact. We advocate the Active No contact as we find it more helpful. You might want to check our video regarding that topic. :-) >>>ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-5bflqHTR8ds.html
That could be possible, 1105pitbull . Relationship end because attraction and feelings slowly fade due to different reasons. Sometimes, our negative experiences in the relationship block our emotional capacity to have that positive attraction towards the person.
@@ClayAndrews so, what do we do when we find ourselves back in love with an ex husband from 50 years ago who come back into our life because his wife died? He lives in Australia and I live in California. I helped in out of his grief and now I'm the one grieving after visiting him in Australia, meeting his friends and family then having him here in California for three months with my friends and family. He returned home to Australia in March for a knee replacement operation this past May and somewhere in the emotions of realizing the aging process was catching up to him he decided he didn't love me and we had no future. I'm devastated. I've tried to "be friends " as he suggested but it's rather difficult when my feelings for him are so strong. I had indicated my interest in moving there but now he has quit calling altogether. Thoughts?
If it has been 23 years, it's hard to say. That's a long time. He may still find you attractive if you haven't changed too much, physically or personality-wise.
