You Might Have ADHD - Original Song 

I had a similar moment on the way home today- but it was me. I was diagnosed at 38 and I still struggle with acceptance from myself and my family. Today I was just wishing I was normal. This song helped me so much. Glad to hear it helped your son, too. I bet he has some cool stories to tell. (ADHD kids have the best stories. 😂)

Sending your son lots of love and high fives!! I have it, my kiddo has it-- we're all in this together 🎉

When I was a kid (I'm in my 20s now) I would do the same thing. I would get so overwhelmed with school that I would just break down and cry. Even today I struggle with being "not normal". But, you are an amazing mom for encouraging him. I know my mom is one of the main reasons I was able to make it through my schooling. She was always there to encourage me and help me when I struggled. A bit of encouragement for your little guy, I know where he's been, but it does get better! I now am in college and doing really well. I'm able to live on my own and get good grades and have friends that love and care for me, all things I thought were impossible. But, nothing is impossible when you put that wonderful, hard working brain to it. Treat life like a puzzle, and take one step at a time. You'll get there!

Your son just needs to meet more people from his tribe 🙂

I’m queer, it’s not the same but I also wish I was normal, give your kid a high five for me! Please

For real, more like half a page

Audio books. Changed my life. I could actually get to page 5 before I spaced out.

The first few pages are always the hardest. I often skim them until I get to the interesting parts.

I actually enjoy reading so I hyper focus 😂😂😂

@@hboudreaux66 Same, once I get past the first few pages.

Wow, that's amazing. I am glad you figured it out and that you both are there for each other!

I understand the sobbing in relief of finally knowing why. I was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD as an adult. It was a struggle to get the diagnosis of ADHD because I don't present what everyone thinks as "normal" symptoms of ADHD like hyperactivity, as he describes in the video. My brother was diagnosed with ADHD at 5 and I was constantly told my brother had an excuse for why he acts the way he acts but there was nothing wrong with me so I had no excuse. I learned to mask very early in life. I present like a lot of girls do, the different symptoms I present are appearing withdrawn, Crying easily (more so when I was a child), Daydreaming and in a world of my own, having Difficulty maintaining focus; and being easily distracted, Don’t appear to be trying, do not seem motivated, Forgetful, Highly sensitive to noise, fabrics, and emotions, Often late (poor time management), Problems completing tasks, Seems extremely shy, Shifting focus from one activity to another, Takes time to process information and directions; seems like she doesn't hear you.

I can relate to this so much. My wife and I have bonded over Holderness Family content about ADHD over the last year since her diagnosis. We also love listening to the podcast together while driving and pausing to discuss how what Kim and Penn are talking about relate to our relationship and lives. I hope the Holderness's realize how many lives thye have touched in such a positive way. CAN'T WAIT FOR THE BOOK!!!!

@@theholdernessfamily That was my story too! I watched the same video, laughed at it loads then thought, "HANG ON A MINUTE!!!!"

I literally started researching because of how Penn explained his ADHD. I do a lot of those things. So while I can’t afford and official diagnosis… my mom went and got one after I told her I was thinking it may be what’s up with me. Which is ironic because she always said it was an excuse for lazy parents to medicate their kids growing up. But thank you for finally giving me answers to why I don’t think like other people.

This is heartwarming. Greetings and all the best for your son. 🎉

My daughter has adhd, and she literally chewed holes in the collars of all her shirts, lol. School was a real struggle, but guess what? She is brilliant, has a wicked sense of humor, and is attending college in the medical field because she wants to help save people. Your son needs to remember that all super heros struggle at first, but someday it will all fall into place for him. (Cue montage of superheroes falling on their face while trying to master their skill, lol)

Crying. Mine is only 4 and won’t understand yet. But it’s beautiful that this made yours smile 😭

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

Is he on instagram?

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

It's called giftedness. People with ADHD can be gifted or not as any other person on planet, giftedness has no real relation with ADHD, they simple coexist in some people.

​@MarijanaSarilar and giftedness not only often coexists with ADHD but sometimes also covers for it, making the inner struggle invisible to everyone except you. There are massive benefits to an ADHD brain, but major downsides. Same with a neurotypical brain honestly, except the world is designed for it.

The so called giftedness is from hyper focus - the moment the hyper focus drives into burnout there's no giftedness left for you to see

It's a message we don't get often enough. We're different, absolutely, but there's nothing wrong with us.

Awwww hugs. My youngest was diagnosed last year at 11. He’s tried 3 meds. It’s so hard. It’s so hard seeing him struggle. I’m pretty sure I have it too.

You're not the only one. Been diagnosed since I was 8. Hated taking the meds, still don't want to. I'm 39 now, so I feel your pain. This was an awesome song for us

🫶🏼 have you seen “How to ADHD”? She’s great and definitely sees it as a (challenging) superpower (My daughter with ADHD is stuck in a crisis of confidence, as I write this, struggling to start her first essay for University…😢 (I’m sure we’ll get it started tomorrow) 😊

I feel like we went through a period were it was "cool" to have ADHD (then ADD).

I really recommend that you read “Differently Wired”

That's not a bad idea!

@@theholdernessfamilyI support this idea! Can we listen to it on Apple Music or Spotify?

Yes to a playlist! I was just about to sea if I could find them all!

@@annbrookens945I know it’s a typo, but I now want an ADHD sea shanty lol

​@@thedarkbard That is a brilliant idea!

Yoooo I truly have a desire to be a multilingual dude, I've got 2.5 under my layered brain that has always been a double edged sword in mu life. I am almost certain I have ADHD, I am currently going through therapy and health care, but no one seems to want to really dig deeper like I do, but anyway, that's beside the point. Will you share with me if you can what methods you have used to learn 9 languages??? Holy guacamole that is an accomplishment that I will attempt to mirror

Hyper focus helps a lot! and I grew up in other countries, so being exposed to so many languages early on helped also. But I found that each new language kind of fit into slots already set up in my brain by the last language. Don't know if that makes sense! I always had a notebook that was well organized - parts of speech, adjectives, adverbs, verb tenses, rules of speech that I wrote down by hand. I think using all the senses made them more permanent in my brain - saying them out loud, seeing the words, writing them. And each new language made more and more sense as I saw that they all fell into the same pattern, especially the romance languages. I think Esperanto really helped me see this pattern. But I learned hindi and still found the same basic pattern. I think an emotional connection helps also, I learned italian from spanish from a really good friend who had lived in italy. I learned Afrikaans, so I could write to a boyfriend who moved to South Africa. It also helps to communicate with someone who speaks the language - I spoke spanish with friends and practiced with patients at work and listen to a lot of spanish music, I joined a pen pal site and spoke with people all over the world in Esperanto, same thing with Hindi, and I also watched a lot of Bollywood haha. Music helped, too. I often listened to the music of the country and tried to translate the words. Or found the lyrics and sang along. When I spoke with native speakers, I asked a lot of questions about the best way to say certain phrases that I was using in the moment. Well, that was a book! Hyperfocus is soooo useful! I wish you the best, I admire your determination! If you love languages, you'll get there!

Saaaaaame! I was diagnosed when I was 27. My special interest was school until my third year of college when it became video games and I almost flunked out

My ADHD got in the way of school but not ENOUGH for anyone to consider testing or diagnosing me. I got the diagnosis at like... 22? I don't remember. But I knew for a long time before that, I just couldn't convince myself to ask to be tested Now I still ought to get myself diagnosed with autism too but I have no idea how to get tested for that as an adult in my area

Diagnosed at 29, high functioning in school. I tend to always find the others ones. We’re all pretty awesome 😊

Just went down this path and I think I can help. Google a neurologist in your area and look if it’s on their website.

me too! Diagnosed a few months ago at 40, and now understand why a few other friends and I understand each other so well - our sparkly confetti brains ✨ 💛

The journey can be hard. Remember to tell them they are awesome :)

U guys are awesome ​@@theholdernessfamily

This video and your comment made me feel better. My eldest has it. She’s 19. Now we’re in the process with my 15 and 12 year olds. The youngest has tried 3 meds and hasn’t worked. He’s also sad etc like yours and it breaks my heart. Hugs to you and thanks for opening up.

Take them out of school! Do not give meds for ADHD! Send them out to play as often as possible, home school and keep lessons short, send out to play between subjects. My son as extreme ADHD, plus super duper dyslexic, he just passed a standardized state test placing 2 grades above his age with 100% score in comprehension. My husband has extreme ADHD, dyslexic as well, he was homeschooled (his mom took him out of school when they asked her to put him on meds) he is now a doctor, he has the highest patient satisfaction rate nationally. He is extremely gifted, we met when I was 17, I watched him struggle through medical school, its was beyond grueling. Boys, ADHD , or not, are not designed to sit at a desk all day. Short lessons outside ASAP, no tv. Its amazing. God created them to be doers, warriors and adventurous protectors. They need to experiment with their environment doing crazy boy things in the dirt. The academic growth increase’s the more they are given time outside to process and exist.

@Mama_Bear524 As an adult with ADHD, and taking buproprion for 30 years now, I just want to say that medication only turns down the volume on ADHD symptoms. Much more important is learning strategies for managing daily tasks that actually make sense to the person with ADHD. Also, learning relaxation techniques that fit the individual, eating low carb/high protein and lots of fruits and veggies (really cut out sugar as much as possible), regular exercise (really important for good quality sleep), some kind of creative outlet, and learning to pay more attention to one's gifts than one's challenges. People with ADHD can be their own worst critic, especially if we internalize unkind things people may say to us out of ignorance. Most people don't have a clue as to what ADHD is, and how much it can vary from person to person. So, medication is only a bridge. Learning skills, strategies and self care are the real keys to living well with ADHD. ​@Mama_Bear524

That's incredible!

my 22 year old had low self esteem, started taking ginko biloba and now learning a trade at community college that also offers anxiety sessions!

This sounds like my younger brother…. My parents gave him their broken coffee machine for parts he fixed it. Fixed one of our old broken phones.

Tell your son I said hi and that he's awesome!

As someone exactly like your son, I KEPT SAYING YES LOL

I wish him the best, and, I can relate. When I graduated and got my Grade 12, it was with a D Average. Thankfully, there was a Second High School, in our same area, and I was able to upgrade. An extremely long wait-period for what I wanted in College, so I was able to use that time to upgrade.

I am glad he has the support he needs. And, I am assuming you do with other parents, as well.

I graduated way back in the 90s, so, I'm sure there were a lot less services available 30 years ago.

@QUICKBOOKS1 thank you. We live in Indiana and we have what's called a core 40 diploma. It's really the only one he can get and it requires completing "pathways". You can't just pass required classes anymore and get diplomas like we used to. Now they they have to do all these different projects and get at least C averages in certain classes before they can graduate. It's so convoluted and frustrating. Definitely not special needs friendly, and he even goes to a nationally recognized STEM school. He lives the school but the resource teacher has not been the biggest help in navigating his IEP. She seemed to the first couple of years, but I believe she had me hoodwinked. ☹️

@@jenniferrogers5372 OK. I am not familiar!

You're right about that

Absolutely ADORE my amazing son just the way he is! 🥰

This isnt about being diffrent. Its about not being able to do stufd you want. Which is the definition of disability. Its like saying, "oh you cant walk? Well at least you can still swimm right?" ...bruh

@@soirema I only said those words because it was a part of the song.

It sure was :)

Whaaaaa? They won the amazing race?! Must go watch!

I remember that episode! It’s the only one I’ve ever watched. Congrats!

I wouldn't say I have IGNORED them, but, I have adapted.

@@QUICKBOOKS1 My parents never acknowledged the problem. They simply told me that my quirks were okay and told me to just keep getting good grades. But now I realize that some of issues with hyper-focusing on some things and spazzing out on others could have been handled differently.

Remember to be kind and patient with yourself. ❤ You would be surprised at how much you already do to cope with the way your brain works, and now that you know that your brain works differently, you can learn some new ways to improve your life too! You got this!

@Steffi.EchoGraphix My son was diagnosed in his late 20s. I also and 57 and he'll stop me sometimes and say, "Mom, I think your symptoms are worse than mine." I've never been diagnosed with it, it never occurred to me to try. We were both standing in an aisle at the store yesterday and caught ourselves totally zoned out for several minutes. Luckily, no one was trying to get past us! Lol

Oh my goodness! I do that! Never bothered getting diagnosed either. Hyperfocus is a major thing for me, or suddenly having super random thoughts and "did you knows".

I see you!

Sending hugs, thanks for being here

I am clapping for you!

My kids were also quite proud of me! I'll take my wins where I can get them!

Dude we're I'm a similar situation. I'm only just now realising I might have ADHD with a few days left for assignments, realising it would have helped me so much if I had realised this earlier

That's too many uses of realised lol didn't read through it

When he got to the line about chewing on your shirt collar... I'd never heard of that as an indication! I didn't exactly *'chew'* on mine, but stretched it out and fidgeted with my collars a lot

Same!

1) Glasses in the exact same spot in the evening. But, the most embarrassing is trying to find my glasses while I am WEARING them. Thankfully, nobody is around when I do that. 2) Scheduling everything well in advance, so I make sure I don't forget. 3) Using the Calendar Function on this Mac, to remember Birthdays. 4) FULLY, able to relate to the video, "I Want To Know What Day It Is!". There is, at least, 10 times more.

@@QUICKBOOKS1 These are exactly the things I'm talking about! Don't feel bad: I've been looking for my phone while I was talking on it! 🤣

I'm an educator with indirect experience with ADHD -- other children and adults in my life and extended coursework about it. My problem is the opposite -- helping students get diagnosed, but the parents have a stigma against it, so the child suffers because help is delayed (meds or alternative classroom services).

@@saba347 I experienced the same thing so many times during my career. It's the children who suffered.

Yeah, I was wondering this as well. One of my kids probably is the inattentive type and I don't see a lot of the awesomeness for him right now. Especially the outgoing and entertaining traits don't seem to be a huge part of their neurodivesity. Nuance is needed :)

I'm sorry if both of you haven't found your niche yet. Find a career that matches your abilities. You are special, just maybe not the traditional way!

It sure short circuits mine.

@@theholdernessfamily Especially when I'm hungry!

Agree with this. I was life of the party (prim king, voted "wittiest" - My 16 yo daughter is definitely ADHD, but quiet and shy, super creative and funny with close friends. Pure ADD no H. I think a lot of girls are miss/under diagnosed.

An ADHD family! I love it

Umm ... Check out ADD, or watch better shows!