You Need To Stop Seeking Instant Gratification 

I was looking for this comment. I hated that laughing audience

​@@DanielaSantos-tv8tt Same, I was like "Why the hell are they laughing? This story isn't funny, it's tragic."

Theres nothing funny about it unless your very fortunate but not very conscious Ive been that guy, and now im in the position of these people who laugh, but theyre laughing becsuse despite how convenient it is to believe our lives are uniquely difficult, the people chuckling probably havent been that close to the bottom before, likely ever

? he started the story saying it was very comical and funny

😂 same!

Aha

I'm in this top comment and it hurts.

How cute!!!!! I hope he reads this

Small steps. You’ll be here for a while.

🤣"no shit, Sherlock"

@@burtlangoustine1 I didn't get shot in the head today. What a victory. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

That's a great achievement, well done!

That’s amazing to hear, keep up the great work. We may not know each other but I hope you continue to improve yourself.

Damn! I thought I smoked a lot. lol. good on ya

Amazing work man, keep it up and stay focused, you're gonna be a big inspiration and role model for the people around you

Great job man, keep it coming! On a side note tho, 18kg of pure muscle in 10 months seems unrealistic unless on PEDs, so for anyone willing to follow his steps don't expect that kind of results 😅

You are not alone, we all tend to be a little to eager. Or greedy at times.😂 But that's the road we are walking on, and in all still great as we are moving forward. Not where we want to be, but better than yesterday.😊

Yes! Part of being disciplined is knowing when to STOP pushing to "improve". I learned this from listening to Mark Rippetoe for strength training. If you do all those bicep curls, is your body going to recover enough to be able to add 5 pounds to your squat next week? The same in any area of your life, if you push beyond your limit too far its going to tire you to the point where you'll be so weak while recovering that you relapse (perhaps into laziness, perhaps it will make you sick) and move backwards. Net negative. Got to know what your limits are and just add ENOUGH challenge that you get A LITTLE better

Absolutely! There have been dozens of times I tried to learn to code and whenever I start, I will sit at the computer for 5 hours and then suddenly I've built an association in my head that coding is supposed to be a 5 hour commitment and my lower brain literally is scared to make the commitment. I need to take Jordan Peterson's advice and just take the smallest step instead of making it a gigantic undertaking in my head

@@stupidrainbo Thank you so much for this comment, maybe I'll start learning programming again one step at a time

Consistency is key.

Nah if the cost exceeds about $50 I'm out.

@@Profile.4 US or Canadian?

@@user-ug2hk3go6i ruble

another smart human lol this world is full of them.. He is a fkn Jew pretending like all the rest of the jews that they care. wake up! Jews hate everybody who isnt jew but they mastered hiding their emotions.

@@Profile.4 I suspect it is very unstable right now.

That's the greatest gift. Too many people out of frustration for their loves ones' loss of potential will chastise them for not being able to do simple things

His level of sympathy for his parents are not typical Western tradition, that moves people towards ultimate individualism. That deep empathy you observe in him is more accounted for by plenty other traditions that are non Christian and non modern Western.

The 1st time I worked up the courage to see a therapist, I was totally lost. It was HUGE just to be at that appointment. The therapist talked to me a bit. She could tell I was terrified. My next visit wasn't for 3 weeks. Her soft spoken homework for me, to be done in the next 3 weeks, was simply to look n the phone book for 3 numbers. Not to call. Just find 3 numbers and write them down. She understood I needed teeny tiny baby steps. At the next visit, we discussed what kinds of things to ask when making those phone calls. Just asking for help was pretty huge. I'm so grateful for her extreme gentleness. I was lucky to get her first and not some impatient one who expected more of me than I was capable of.

what’s up fellow jerm-dawg😎🫡

@@akindelebankole8080 traditions such as?

Scott Adams says the most important thing is to get dressed in your gym clothes, to have a specific set of clothes you associate with exercise. This triggers the trained response of at least travelling to the gym. See how you feel then. The trained response is to exercise. Same sort of thing but it's systems instead of goals. But I guess that's for embedding the habit after you've broken through the mental block of trying in the first place.

Did the people who took weeks to visit the gym.and not exercise ever get fit?

Thank you.

Genius.

sounds like the concept of atomic habits

You’re right but if you wait for that you might be waiting a very long time

I’ve started throwing things out. Stuff can’t make a mess if I don’t have it anymore.😃

@@wilhelmvg9978 Thanks for your insight.

@@gormenfreeman499 Approach that thoughtfully. I have sometimes found that I toss out something in a moment of frustration or enthusiasm then find. I want that very item shortly after.

💯 sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Is that his wife up there?

@@ChilleDINJerseY yes it is! Nice to see after hearing about Tammy in the books😊

That's JP's daughter. Lol. Apologies for the dad joke. The first draft was really misogynistic.

I know, so good right! What are you wearing at the moment?

@@redtobertshateshandles what?

One room at a time may be an effective approach.

She’s interesting.

I learned that lesson when I quit smoking. I tell anyone who wants to quit smoking is to just see if you go an hour longer then you’re used to without a smoke, then ext see if you can skip the morning cig and make it to lunch. Small goals first before the bigger goal.

@@brantpowell5483 To people who live in the dark, someone shining a light around them can really make a big difference in how they view themselves and the world... its not trivial. JP has hereditary dispositions to these things, its not like psychological intervention magically shuts these things off. Its like a chiropractor who has scoliosis, does that mean chiropractics doesn't work? Of course not. If anything JP's psychological conditions have given him more insight into how these things manifest, and how to deal with them.

Well, I assume that you USED to be able to think coherent thoughts, before posting this comment. Of course, I might be wrong....

@@PigPeejums it's pretty easy to criticise isn't it? To sit there casting criticisms and offer no solutions.

so hot

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This is the most relatable thing I have read, you pretty much summarised what goes on in my head for a while now. It's the bitter feeling that comes with accountability. When you know that you have responsibility for the circumstances that you're in, and you want so desperately to get out of them and be the best version of yourself you can possibly be, you're also always reminded that the reason you have so many obstacles is also you. As much as there's feelings of drive and determination, they get completely outweighed by my own shame, disappointment and anger for allowing myself to reach this leve of failure when I should've and could've done better. It gets so difficult to envision a future version of myself winning because all I know and understand is losing. It's like you gotta mow the lawn, but the lawn is the size of the whole neighborhood and the only tool you can use to get the job done are scissors. It's much easier to feel defeated knowing it'll take you years then to start mowing bit by bit. Sorry for the tangent, my situation might be very different to yours, but I just wanted you and others to know there's someone out there who understands those internal struggles you were talking about. I don't have any solutions clearly, but I hope one day we all clear those books out the way and leave the rooms that we trapped ourselves in.

@@p1reviews789 It always helps to vent once in a while. The scissors example is relatable too; once you see how big of a challenge/job it is, you'd rather just stay in your "safe zone."

The cool thing about this advice is that you can take "your room" to be any domain where you have some responsibility. Your house, your yard, your workstation, even abstract things like your family or your community. Work from the inside out.

I have learned from this one that that is something I value more than i could have imagined. It is a rare quality but so vital

Just start with cleaning your room, and then step by step, you can begin moving toward the life you really want. Learn & grow from your mistakes. There will be another girl, or maybe the other one will circle back. Put the game down and start with your room. :)

Never too late to start again. Look for small gains, then they snowball quickly into monumental changes.

Keep watching Peterson and maybe David Goggins and they’ll light a fire right up your behind. You’re at the right moment, when things are so low you decide it’s time for change. The first step is to acknowledge you’re not using your full potential.

Good Now you have an opportunity to bounce back like the hero of your story.

You are not alone. I know you feel it, because I do too. I hope you fare better than I

Honestly that (was) so me

@@alvareo92 hahaha…love that Mine was sitting in my living room last week for 4 days 😂

How's things now?

@@greenonions23 I would say, heading the right direction 👍

@@KonJonnorMusic 👍👍

If you enjoy subjects about masculinity and mastery, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire and respect. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own points of view so that others can benefit from them as well. All the best to you!

Yes, advice is always for "people". 😉

@@thekeysman6760 Uh.. 😮 .. 🚪🏃💨