My girlfriend told me one day “If you come home on a new motorcycle we’re done” she was a finance major and critiqued my spending which was annoying. So being the dude that I am I went to the dealership and bought myself what I wanted with my money. She dumped me and that same night another girl messaged me to “take her for a ride” I definitely gave her a ride on and off the bike. A week later my ex gf calls wondering why I haven’t called or texted once and wants me to come by to “talk”. I stopped by and she offered me thing previously not available on the menu. I left with a smile on my new motorcycle thinking “Man I wish I got this bike sooner”
I have a similar situation presently unfolding. I got a nice german car last year when I barely knew this girl. Now things are "more serious", and she told me she wont "allow" me buy another expensive german car, because "we" have more important things to spend in... I said, ok, and started to look the 2023 dealers cathalog for my new ride next year. Im positive she will make a scene, but will not leave me. If I cave, Im dead on the water forever
@@blakeh6250 I make it a point to let one KNOW (if she's staying at my place for whatever reason) that if she doesn't like my rules, she knows where the door is!
and even if you don't become stereotypical alpha or what Rich et al say you should be, who the F cares? You do you and whatever works for you. I don't rely on anyone to define me......
@@andyc3012 lol "if you're ill" you're not alpha? Did you just pull that out of your ass? lol You forgot one: If you make ludicrous criteria to be considered "alpha" you're not alpha.
Once you unplug, you can see who’s who. The real eye opener is not only when you realize what you’ve been but also what those around you are. Especially friends
So true man, I didn't realize my own power and unfortunately short comings as well. I actually have a decent position in life but a lot of room for improvement which is exciting. My friends, some are too far gone, some are naturals and most are somewhere in the middle. Got to disconnect from the comforting lies and be the main character in your movie.
Yup and you can always relapse. Dated and lived with my ex for 1.5yrs woke up one day and realized I don’t even like her and the relationship sucks and I promptly dumped her. Ever since then I see all the shit I was putting up with and wonder why I was blind to it before (never anything real bad, but shit like masculine attitude, majorly exaggerating her value, etc). She also stopped taking care of herself and got fat as hell while I’ve been religiously working out my entire life and regularly have people ask if I take steroids. Luckily I’m not dumb enough to get married or have kids, but I’ve been wondering ever since how I fell for her bs after already being redpilled. I think this all stemmed from not listening to my gut in the beginning and second guessing myself, since this girl was good on paper, but in reality she’s a mess. Back to the drawing board I guess
Exactly that, and when you realise your close friends look up to you and start giving you comments about how you "fuck all them hot girls", it's time to find new friends because you don't want betas to orbit you and drag you down.
My dad simped to my mother till she divorced him after cheating on him. My dad disappeared when i was 15 into a depressed life of his own remarrying a controlling woman while hes zombified on meds and living off VA benefits. Im 31 now, raised by a women who used older men her entire life and never purchased her own things untill her 40s (shes still single in her 50s) Ive seen the power of women first hand during my childhood. Ive spun plates through my twenties and had my born again moment after a DNA test saved me from a terrible parental obligation. Ive learned not to chase women. If she wants you she will come and get you. Women are covert specimens. Stimulate her mind and she will spend her time trying to figure you out. Do not focus on women, focus on the prize which is yourself.
@@therealdb95 red pill = awaken. Blue pill = unaware. Red and blue create purple. You seriously need to think before you say things that make you look stupid. Purple pilled is a term made far before I used it. Sometimes I'll never understand how idiotic some of you will make yourself look.
It's a mindset but it's also executed actions living an entire lifestyle from that mindset. That's where those who are not Alpha miss the boat on how to DO it and live it.
yep. I remember as a kid teachers made us vote who was the nicest guy in class. I didn't win by far, and was disappointed because I wanted to be the first at everything. Years later I realised winning that wouldn't have been any good at all ; )
My dad was emotionally disconnected when I was growing up, so never learnt masculinity. I found the Redpill 2 years ago, I’am 47 and my life is much better, You soon realise just how bad womens relational aggression is when you find the Redpill, best thing is watching them react like children when they can’t emasculate you, I had 3 chicks last week try it, thing is I always start out respectful to them then they start there shit tests, an soon as I push back, you get the shaming tactics, threat narratives etc etc etc. 😂😂 being masculine is empowering
I've often thought in terms of being the man you aspire to be, doing the things you want to do, and thereby having the life you want to lead. Similarly, to friends chasing women, I've told them to just stop. Build the life you want to have, and women who want the same thing, will find you. But Be-Do-Have says it so much more concisely. Thank you.
She doesn’t want her man to be Unplugged. Shes asking Rich to teach her man to be more “Alpha” and take his mom out but Really what She’s trying to do is to get his mother out of the equation so it’s easier to control him.
Getting mommy involved isn't Beta or alpha. It is the failure to grow up. Male or female doesn't matter. Had a girlfriend in my 20's who went to her parents for help with every single complication or hardship. It drove me nuts. They knew everything and of course everything was my fault. She needs to run from this guy.
My husband’s parents were dead and it was a huge plus. My ex constantly begged his mom for money. My parents didn’t help me at all. I had to survive in the wild. I think that was for the best.
Can honestly say, I have never heard that phrase. "Be Do Have" maybe variations of it, but never distilled like that. Thanks for the teachings and examples Rich!
This was great. Thanks for sharing! I would also say, a man who has to remind you that he is an alpha is not a real alpha. Like the Tywin Lannister quote “ any man who has to say I am the king is no true king.”
@@flanderg123 Why wouldn't a God be allowed to merely state objective truth if it existed? The alternative inevitably leads to a negligent God which can't exist.
These guys are doormats, they are the ones who follow anything of what an authority says, they believe in the words of frauds because it suits their beliefs. These guys will be peter pan up until they think in hindsight. Just like Lord Cuckatron they will cocoon themselves in meaninglessness to achieve nothing and to achieve copedom.
Eric the best of luck to you, your Acknowledging those facts.keep learning reading, working on yourself, dust off some hobbies , go to the gym, eat healthy take care of the man in the mirror.
Boiler Room is arguably underrated, but was surprised to hear it name-dropped; you're actually describing people doing "Act As If" in regards to Alphas.
I grew up watching John Wayne movies and Gunsmoke. So I thought men were supposed to act like and look like John Wayne and Marshall Dillon 😂. It wasn’t to popular in High School but as a adult the ladies love it 👍🏻. Men that wear jeans that fit and cowboy boots do quite well in this world of betas. The show Yellowstone has really revived women’s fascination with rugged “ cowboy” type men lately so I’ve had lots of luck 🍀 lately Of course it’s not something you can fake. That doesn’t go well. I’m a tall rugged farm Boy so it works for me. I’ve always had sort of a “ John Wayne” attitude and the grit to back it up.
@@midasapprentice8670 it’s a really good show man! Starring Kevin Kosner. The women are just crazy about it lol. The masculinity of the guys on the show have them all hot and bothered 😂
Also read about stoicism in ancient history, Julius Caesar, Augustus men that were iron willed and bent for noone, good read will def help on your road to being alpha. And no you cannot fake it till you make it you are or you are not .
I think being an Unplugged Beta is the real problem. It is so dangerous for men to “know” the thing, but not do the necessary work for it. They simply see that they wil not be an Alpha… They think the game is over for them. However, I guess the journey to become an Alpha is “being an Alpha”… Do the work Brothers! Your mindset, your body, your resources, your social skills can be improved a lot! I am doing my homework. At the age of 41, hitting to gym 4 times a week, trying to learn new technical skills, trying to expand my fucking comfort zone… I was unplugged last year by this gentleman in the car… since then I m better and better. If I can do sth, I am sure you can do much better. Stop talking, start walking!
I'm unplugged but not Alpha, I don't know if I ever will be. I understand why my marriage fell apart, I understand that my sacrifices meant nothing, I also understand it will probably happen again. You often talk about leaving a dent in the universe, for me that was having a successful family. I have one son who I managed to get 65% custody of which is more than most get, but it's not really I saw things panning out. I moved to a foreign country to be with my ex wife who was my partner for 14 years. Looking back I think the point that I chose to relocate (5 years in) was the beginning of the slow decline. I'm now trapped here, social life imploded, no family. But you know what, it never stopped me trying to improve myself. The family home is mine now, new car at the door, my son loves me to death. I'm dating for the first time in my life and have had quite a bit of success, but keep people at arms length. I don't know if I will ever let someone get that close to me again, because I know that at my core I'm too susceptible to trying to please people at the cost of my own happiness, and that is what I still struggle with.
I can totally relate to that Tony. Went through basically the same path and decided years ago to live the rest of my life on my own terms and that inevitably means not get into a relationship. I go out with women sporadically and that's all, I just don't want to get involved and get sucked into more bs again . Life's too short. Peace is paramount to me
@@cluggyahoo Yeah I get that, I don't know if I can commit to never having another relationship, but marriage is one and done, living together is probably off the cards too. Part of me thinks there is still time to have another kid, and get my happy family. But knowing all I know now, and having seen so many people go through Divorce for the crime of being with someone for too long really puts me off the idea. I carry guilt about my sons broken house hold, even though I didn't cause or want it. I do not want to inflict that on another child.
When you said it will probably happen again….that immediately made you beta… an alpha mindset at least doesn’t repeat same mistakes….example: if you can’t find and be with a right woman…at least don’t settle for a wrong woman…again !
You have a son and a good relationship with him.... why would you consider another wife? I can't understand the part about repeating your mistake. 2eto though...
@@Son-of-Krypton Well that stats don't lie, failure rate of 2nd marriage is 80%? "Probably fail" is relating to that. I guess you could say being Alpha means you are going to have a better shot in being in the 20% that keep it together. But why put yourself in that risky position to begin with? The country I live in doesn't have any laws to protect non married couples, so I just simply won't be marrying again anyway, there's literally no benefit in it for me.
Ah, knowing how it works is already way better than being completely oblivious. But then to really apply it in real life is a whole different ballgame. It means taking on years, decades of deep-rooted conditionings, core beliefs that often have formed since early childhood. My experience is that this means a lot of work and facing tons of shit coming up inside and in your life, depending of the severity of the conditioning. All these RU-vid channels about how you can change yourself and be the best version of you is great but it's just not for everybody. For most that are embarking on this path, becoming slightly better, slightly more accepting than before, or even experiencing a little relief over the years is more realistic.
She doesn't want her man getting other people involved in their relationship so she gets Rich involved to help her manipulate and control her man. What about women fighting their own battles? I don't know why the guys watching Rich's videos in front of her?
I just bought and read your Unplugged Alpha book. I think it is spot on when you talk about American /Canadian women. Some Asian cultures are different. Asian women are into money no doubt, but are much more loyal and are there for a long time ( i guess as long as there is money). I think Eastern Europe women and Thai women have a lot of red flags. In general, Vietnamese women are far more reliable and trustworthy. Just stay away from women in bars (in any country). Viet women are into maintaining their extended family. As long as you are an Alpha and help the family( act as the head of the family if the patriarch is gone), you will be fine. No need to spend huge amounts of money. A loyal Viet wife/gf will take good care of you. If you want to be Alpha you need to do the work. That also means spend some money maintaining the family. A cheapskate is not viewed as an Alpha.
Referencing 7:50 in this video. To me it's frustrating that one can" Become,Do ,Have' and still be subject to a woman's judgment. But that's the reality of the situation if you want a woman in your life.
Thanks Rich. Wish I'd known this stuff back in the day. I didn't have a clue and paid the price. Big style. In my 50s now and been through the school of hard knocks but still in there.
Absolutely correct!you got to first be then do, = have. This has to be a personal transformational philosophy that you believe and bring out from within. Otherwise your just performing a false act. For many of us it may be not only changing the spots of the animal, but change the animal itself. Keep going at it and it will happen. This has helped me.
When my son got married, I told him, "the only thing I ever want to hear about your wife/my new daughter if things are rocky is "we're working on it' " Don't involve me, AT ALL. Figure it out between the two of you, or ask a trusted male whom you respect & is successful in relationships. Keep me in the dark. I don't want to know. I don't need to know.
NO. Staying out of his marriage, and keeping the relationship good between me and the woman he married. It's about maintaining neutral ground, so both of them get equal treatment. I would not accept her bad mouthing him either. Involving me - the mother - is unacceptable and unwise for everyone. @@coolbreeze9713
Rich, have you ever considered using a dashcam for videos? I think it might be more inviting to make the viewer feel like they see what you see when you drive and it might be a very refreshing experience.
Been listening to this pc for a while and I love the fact that certain issues or advice is being brought up to me that I wasn’t exposed to as a kid. Not having a firm father figure really f*ckd me in some ways but now that I’m older and able to actually think/act for myself to do better, I’m taking advantage of knowledge like this. I hate how people depict all this men help pages to be toxic it makes almost no sense to me…
I only know one man (a coworker) who calls himself an alpha male and... 1- Nobody at work follows him or wants to follow him. 2- the women won't initiate a conversation with him. 3- the women at work don't think he is an alpha (believe me I asked them all). 4- He invites me go out to bars, nightclubs and poker games with him but if I invite him to go workout, hiking or boxing he isn't available. 5- I challenged him to a boxing match and he said he would need 5 months to get back into shape, and a week later he chickens out. 6- The one woman at work he wants to date the most is an older single mom with 2 baby daddys, tattoos and a nose piercing.
My grandfather told me from day one to never pursue a woman, act like you can’t be bothered and never kiss their ass, do that and they will come to you. Guess what? It works and always has for me. I was a touring professional musician and I’ve had top notch women from all over the world cater to me.
In my opinion, this is the best comment in here. Same has worked for me since I started it in college. High school I was a beta. Once I learned to not pursue, dont be bothered, and not to kiss ass, seemed as though women started pursuing me. Love your comment and your grandfathers' words are very wise.
LOL @ Be ALPHA then become...that sounds like my ex GF who used positive thoughts so her car wouldn't need a new exhaust....yeah, when the mechanic called, she needed a new exhaust. Ok, I'm a billionaire.....unfortunately the McLaren dealer won't accept that and won't give me the 720s they have on the lot. Ok, I'm 6' tall....so why can't I still reach the top shelf of the kitchen cabinets?
Sometimes comments sections for these videos are second hand embarrassing and so is some of the mindset, honestly. Red pills, blue pills, spinning plates, etc...all cringe-y stuff. Reality is, there is a very small percentage of what's actually considered Alpha male. Thing is, same is true for females! Here is some advice, take what you need from videos like these, but don't worry about fitting some bullshit mold. Maybe try to be a little better each day and live your life/chase the dreams you can. It's actually pretty simple...male or female...if someone is holding you back from being better or chasing your dreams then think about getting rid of them. Doesn't take an Alpha mindset or deep pockets to do that or have a good life. If you want to chase the $1M or even $1B marks and be what they are saying is "Alpha" then more power to you, but money doesn't make the man it just helps you to bury your problems. If what you are doing is bettering the world or making a significant change, that's an admirable goal. We all need more of that. Take care brothers and sisters.
Lol, the problem is that the mold works. Every legit RP guy shares the same belief with one another, and they are beliefs only an alpha would live by. You can’t pick and choose which parts of success you want to abide by, because the parts you didn’t pick will always be the next step. May as well adopt the whole mindset from the start if it’s where the truth has led you.
@@andyyhimself Hey if it helps you out of a tough life that's good, but at some point that mindset itself may become an anchor and not a sail. In the end it's just pretentious.
my dad was a pimp, he was rich , had buisnesses and money, he also cheated on my mom and made her cry a couple times i remeber, but she stayed with him and whatever he said goes... so now i know she was a good girl
My opinion is, everyone man can take the redpill but not everyone will become an Alpha An alpha exists at the top of the hierarchy of his realm, whether career, buisness, relationships, and network. The problem with this is there can only be 1 which can be called Alpha
That's why I call out other podcasts. "man up, make bank" etc. If every male in society became a millionaire, women would STILL go to the top 20%, it's just that the top 20% would be $20 million not $2. Look at Bezos, billionaire and still a beta. The "pitch" that anyone can be alpha is just that...a pitch. No matter how hard I try, I won't be 6', and even when I worked out 5 days a week I wasn't "buff" it's genetics. The best you can do is take their advice, do what works for YOU and run with it.
If there is only one, I guess that must be God, the ultimate alpha and omega! His son would be the 2nd in command. The rest of us are ultra betas and comparison but we must strive to climb up the ladder on the beta scale.
@TAG I’m 42. But it’s foolish to believe you need to have lived a long life to know a little about very important matters. However it’s easy to know a load about unimportant matters! Been with my wife 15 1/2 years 3 kids. I spent a lot of my time cross country trucking. My cab was my classroom. I’ve spent 1000s of hrs listening to self development. Earl Nightingale was always a favourite. Jim Rohn. Wayne Dyer materials, Napoleon Hill. Never change yourself for anyone. You have to be able to look yourself in the mirror and be honest with yourself. Maxwell Maltz’s psycho cybernetics paints an amazing perspective on self image. You don’t need to be rich, a model, or even want to be with someone however you have to truly be, Responsible, Accountable, and Honest with everything the “RAH” principle if you want a functional life. If any of those areas are out of harmony in your life you’ll have a disfunctional life. Fail forward. Do not refuse to correct your errors or they will soon become your mistakes. Be humble but use your voice in a way that inspires rather then destroys! Alpha men are not animals and they must act like a man. We have imagination. The ability to know that our actions cause pain and suffering not just to other ppl but everything on this earth. Be an example worthy of remembering!🫵😎
A woman determines if a man is alpha or not, the same way us men decide whether or not a woman is Feminine It’s what we find attractive in a chick and we know it when we see it
That was great. Finally, so tired of these macho morons walking around as if they are important. Now widowed, I married an older man who was a Patriarch, as was my father. These men are what men are supposed to be--the head of the family and, usually the head of their work or endeavours. Coopers content is great, but his most important point is often ignored, thus you never reach your potential. As Cooper says, gentlemen; DO THE WORK.
@@jameslave98 I do, when I'm with an actual MAN. Don't be an entitled winer, beta boy. Only men can define masculinity, but woman respond to the real thing...stop overthinking a simple formula.
@Jack Sprat Of course I do, but that hardly alters the fact that he gets a great many pathetic losers to see beyond their insecurities to the possibilities...all while lining his pockets.
Well, practicing what rich preaches IS doing the work. If a guy is raised by a single mom, and the courts prevent his father from being a part of his life, how do you expect him to become a MAN? He doesn't act beta UNTIL he's actually become a patriach then voila....? That's not how things work. It's a process and you not realizing that, is indicative of a problem.....
What is this obsession with a fkin label anyway? Who gives a shit? Just do what you want to do. Be good, bad, whatever. Just live your life how you want and accept the outcomes.
It’s because guys can’t get the girls they really want, they keep getting shit on by society, they’re tired of it and they’re convinced becoming alpha is what they have to do in order to escape to problems they keep having over and over again
@@MrMan-fx3ow Yeah but I think its kinda bs. I think what it all really comes down to is just try to be better at 'stuff', whatever that happens to be. Try harder. Have higher standards for yourself and with that you get more confident. The rest is just a by-product. No silly labels or measurements required.
@@MrMan-fx3ow I don't mean with women. I mean with anything. Try harder at work. Don't be lazy. Don't say oh it doesn't matter. Be a bit more pedantic about things. Don't ignore the thing you're not sure about. Try and learn it. Ask questions. Learn words if you come across them and don't know. If you see something on the news do a bit of reading around it. Eat a bit better. Drink a bit less. Do sport or a hobby. Anything. Just try and do something rather than slump into the armchair. That task you can't be bothered to do...just do it. That kinda thing. That stuff ends up becoming a habit eventually and you just end up being a bit better than you were before.
Rich.....I enjoy your videos, even though occasionally there's advice I don't agree with, but it's very minor. But I have a general comment that I don't know if it's been brought up before, but you often tell women with unrealistic expectations to "lower their standards". Maybe I'm arguing semantics, but I wish you would say instead, " CHANGE their standards". When you say lower standards, that is usually understood to be an inferior "product"......and that isn't necessarily the case. In fact, in a man as a mate, it could mean a SUPERIOR "product" that is a far better "fit" for the woman. Does a woman who's a six or seven really want a man who's a nine or ten, and then has to worry about him being "stolen" when a more attractive woman happens along? .......Just a thought. Thanks.
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A guy in UK once told me south asian women, indian pakistani etc are like dry coconut ,brown or black on the outside but white on the inside.I apologise to coconuts for that.a real alpha doesnt care what women think! A tiger cares what a deer thinks?🤣🤣🤣
No, because women will cheat regardless if you’re alpha or not if she doesn’t perceive you to be her best. You can be super alpha but if she sees someone from her past as better for whatever reason, true or not, she’s susceptible to cheat.
What did Robert from Boondocks say? " sorry Billy Blanks why buy the DvD when i can get the infomercial for free lmao. Im sure what he has on his book theirs a video for each subject. An i've heard them countless times but what's the saying the only way to win is not too play the game an that's what i am doing aint got time for that shit when i can be doing me. Plus i like my alone time.
I notice that VERY FEW content creators actually DEFINE what the "alpha" label means in detail. Defining that label would be helpful to those who are new to this level of programming.
It means whatever the hell you want it to mean. To me it means having your own opinion, not being bothered by nonsense, being successful and having fun in life.
