Depends on the context. Most of the time yes. But, if you're an engineer calculating thicknesses needed for proper material strength for the plane you are designing, yeah, better take the time to get that perfect. But, I get your point.
@@andrea-sf8pg We have different definitions of the term 'personal.' For me, making an additional observation does not fall under taking something personal. But, hey if it made you laugh, I guess that's something.
@@aminebencheikh6403 It was not my aim to 'make' anything that person said anything other than it was. I simply added an additional observation. If person A says a house is rectangular and then person B says that same house is also blue, is person B trying to make the thing that person A said any different? Not from my point of view, but people have all kinds of points of view, it's what makes life interesting. We weren't all made to be the same or think exactly alike.
My mom always used to say, "feel the fear and do it anyway." I can't say this about many things my parents taught me, but it's honestly something I live by.
@@page394potter8 I'm like that too sometimes. Another saying she taught me was "just get on with it." It sounds simple and dismissive but I have a tendency to wallow in my feelings and want to analyze everything. Sometimes I have to roll my eyes at myself and say "just get on with it!" And take action, regardless of how I feel. This usually happens when I get so frustrated by my own inertia that I just have to do something.
This video hit me like a brick. I'm in a constant cycle of not wanting to do what my parents want me to do in fear of being old I'm wrong, finally deciding to do something well for the first time, and getting shut back down again. If I'm correct, I remember failing to do basic tasks when I was a toddler growing up, and getting my grandmother to go apeshit at me. From my point of view, she hated me. From learning to write, to eating a banana, the list goes on. It was as if every mistake I made was a personal statement of disrespect towards their authority. And yes, I think that fear carried over to everything that I am today, the reason why I strive to be better and better eveyday, the reason why I love completing goals, the reason why I love bragging, it's as if I'm trying to prove to myself that I'm worthy. Like I'm trying to get that "Good job, you did well." I never got from my grandma in my very early life. Hearing a "Good job" would tell me that I'm doing well, and there's no reason to be afraid of failure. If anything, I'd say to forgive myself for all the mistakes I've made in my life, tell myself "I know you don't want to do it, but remember, you have to. And even though you are afraid, just remember, no one's here to scream at you, or make you feel like you're unworthy of love. Just do it, focus on the task, and you'll manage no matter what." P.S.: Yes, my parents and grandparents love me very much. Yes, I did get a "good job" A LOT during my childhood. Yes, my parents are great parents. These are scars created with negative experiences during time.
Most of the times we just need to stop overthinking stuff and start doing it. I've found that once you start that thing you were always afraid of starting, the process becomes much easier. Happy 2020!
Too much inner dialogue/inner thoughts will make you a neurotic, anti-social mess. I’ve redirected my inner voice into something actually productive like maths and programming, without those I think I would be the homeless man jerking off in a bus.
Don‘t worry about that. After doing what I thought was „the path of success“ for more than a year and then having a burnout from it I realised that no matter how much you do of the right thing, it‘s worth nothing if you don‘t enjoy it. I used to look at listening to music and relaxing as a waste of time but nowadays I enjoy it.
@@kinarast maybe you're the younger version of myself... lol "just do it", remember your last semester o whatever, think about the things u could've been better at and how, that's the same shit with this year... (i'm still improving my english)
@@shikamarurules12 ok but what if you don't know what you want to do because you feel like there are too many options. I feel like my passion is just learning about things but don't really know how to implement that into a career or life goal and I have so many things I think I could do that I don't do them all. I'm currently trying to work on multiple things at once just so I don't get bored but I have to be honest. Sometimes I ask myself is it all worth it. What if I end up moving on to something else because I didn't like those things I did before. That really my problem with life/work. Just getting bored of everything so quickly
I'm not lazy, bored or unmotivated... I'm just tired of trying. Fear consumed my life and staying in my bubble and not doing anything helps me manage that fear. Getting out of that bubble makes everything come back. This summer, I was finally happy. Then, school started and I'm miserable again. I still had anxiety, of course but it was more mild. It is now unbearable. I don't feel like doing anything, I feel mentally exhausted even though I barely did anything. I just want to lay in bed, and never get out. But I have places to go and activities to do, and they do not make anything better, they just make things worse and worse.
If you haven't already looked into it, I highly recommend therapy. I was skeptical of it at first, but it's helped me a lot with those sorts of thoughts.
I agree with Scott, I got a therapist that I see every month just to help keep me on track and ground the ridiculous thoughts/fears I have. I went through three different therapists before i found the one who i could really open up to and it was one of the better decisions ive made.
you want to stay in bed all day because everything else just makes you suffer, but that's the thing, you are the one causing your own suffering by being afraid. you have anxiety when you are in school because you have to interact with people? then you probably don't find enjoyment in it simply because you are afraid of being judged, because you view yourself as inferior to others and thus incapable of enjoying simply talking to someone. the answer to this is that fear is irrational, it stems to protect us from dying. back in the day being rejected by people meant being alone in the wilderness, so those who survived evolved to avoid those situations by creating loneliness and the fear of being rejected. but now that fear is not real, you are not going to die if you are rejected socially. the only way to stop being afraid, to stop all the suffering, is simply to realise that fear is irrational and that the world has changed, to understand how truly lucky you are to be living in a safe country at a time of prosperity, and that you have no real reason to worry despite how much your mind likes to push your fears onto yourself. as the video says, you can apply that to any that you find displeasing, you just need to discover what is it that you are fearing.
@@javimartinez9300 Hey, I actually know all this, and I did know all this before starting therapy. I know it's completely irrational and yet it's still here. I also know that other people are too worried about how they themselves appear to others to notice me. Nobody really pays attention to others enough to judge them. But it's still here. That's what is so frustrating about it. Before school I'll be like "hey, they won't care so you should just relax" and then in the moment I'm completely frozen and anxious.
Hmm..it’s the opposite for me, it has lessened my depression by giving me a different perspective on life. it’s like a small glimmer of light. It’s motivating in a way.
@@playerdude2 How so? I'm a grammar and mechanics pedant and have professionally edited and I can't figure out what's wrong with it. It's obviously informal and intentionally evokes spoken tone, with the apostrophe on "lovin'", but I don't think saying "I am loving [subject]" instead of "I love [subject]" is necessarily incorrect. Perhaps it's technically just barely incorrect since the verb can be used more simply for essentially the same meaning, but I would argue that it's not incorrect since it's structurally sound, the elements all have correct relationships, and there are tons of ways to paraphrase just about anything and paraphrasing isn't inherently wrong. It's like just spelling a chord a different way on an instrument.
This gives "just be happy" vibes. There's some of this that's true, there's some I'm not knowledgeable enough to say either way, but some of this is just blatantly false. The one thing I like about this video is how it points out how fear is a reason behind many of our difficulties in the first world. The thing that isn't true is that "just do it" is the solution. He safeguards this by saying how "this will only work for some people", but that just points out part of the problem with it. Getting over these fears is a lot more difficult than "just do it" and there can be a lot more blocks than just that. Life isn't that simple. Get help from those around you, or go to a therapist who's qualified and knows what they're talking about; don't rely on a video of someone speaking from personal experience with no background in the field of study by own admission.
He's not saying just be happy, but to do it. There's a difference. It's not terrible advice, some therapists will actually suggest "fake it until you make it" type advice. Just doing anything can be productive. That said, it's not going to work for all situations. If you lack good looks and skills/intelligence, just doing something has a good chance of not achieving. At the end of the day you are still limited by how others perceive you (though you can have some influence on that, but not all), and you are limited by your skillset and intelligence. Some skills can be improved, true. But it's not like I'm ever going to be an NBA player or a famous musician, I simply lack the skills and I'll never get them. So the Just Do It advice has to be tempered by acknowledgement of your limitations.
@@jimmym3352 Yes, some situations you can fake it until you make it. But that's the problem, it's only some situations that works. Take someone with clinical depression or general anxiety, both of those inhibit you in ways that you can't "just do it" and there are other ways to work through it. I think generalizing this as a solution when it's really only a solution for a few can actually do more harm than good. If you think you need help, seek help and don't just try to do it on your own.
@@annaairahala9462 I agree with you this has some pretty bs vibes, but I also do thing the heart of this advice does apply to many things, we can so easily get caught up on thousands of reasons for not doing something that we don't even try, but, if we did, we would realize it is not the monster we thought it was or that, at least, it is manageable. For bigger things like quitting work I do think this advice is too impulsive, but I'd say the main idea is to simply move on: if you don't like your job, at least look for other options and stuff. And for smaller, simpler things I'd say you'll never do something by thinking about how to best do it, that will only give anxiety, but the best course of action is to go on, do things, make mistakes and than correct those, evolve little by little. So yeah, I agree with you it is way too oversimplified I guess it is needed bc that encourages people to simply do it, and I feel many of their problems would at least become significantly easier if they did, and for those problems that don't, well, then they would have to search for more specific help.
tinder guy: why do you even use tinder? me: oh, i'm just filling my day with meaningful distractions to avoid existential dread from the stillness of my mind ya know
I don't understand why people get bored or "existential dread from the stillness of their minds." My mind is never still, I'm easily distracted by my own thoughts and can spend long periods time alone just thinking.
@@anacarolinalessa265 speaking of trauma, the main reason why I'm not bored so easily is because I was locked in solitary confinement for months. I had absolutely nothing to do besides pace back and forth and talk to myself all day long, having the same conversations with myself over and over again. The boredom drove me insane and when people say they are bored when they have the freedom to choose between millions of different things to do I can't relate or sympathize, because they've never been locked in a tiny room for long periods of time with literally nothing to do and no one to talk to besides the voices in your head.
When I discovered my biggest issue is fear I adopted the words of the wise Min Yoongi: "If you feel like you're gonna crash then accelerate more, you idiot." It helps me not getting paralyzed because of fear.
This is what I've observed when I try to understand what the "successful" people around me do right. I sit and wonder and hesitate upon how I complete an action. They just do it. And if it's wrong, they do it better the 2nd time. By the time I'm done with it, they have moved beyond me in terms of self satisfaction, experience, confidence, etc. Idk who all might get this but it seems like, you just need to be like Naruto 🤷♂️
And they failed the 2nd time, but completed it the 3rd time, or maybe the 4th or 5th time. While we are still wondering and hesitating on how to do it the first time, And maybe what we think up makes it so we succed on our first try at the thing, but that other guy that started at the sime time, that just kept throwing himself at it, has just now completed his 4th task. And when you make it to 4, hes up at 15. And when you fail, you dont know how to deal with it because that doesnt happen to you, but that other guy knows exactly what to do, hes done it multiple times already, failing is normal to him, as is starting something new. But for you, starting is a lengthy and arduos process, and restarting with a recent failure of your previous effort even more so.
Shreyash Ishaan It’s not a race. The fact you’re even completing actions, hesitation aside, is a feat in itself. Just remember that one day, suddenly, that person can be hit by a drunk driver or fall over the wrong way and become disabled or stone cold dead. All that progress and supposed success, gone. Success is only defined by what you think it is and, like everyone elses view on it, is probably fickle. It’s probably not an answer you’re looking for, if you even are looking for one, but just remember a giant space rock can hit us at anytime and none of this will ever matter. And because of that - just do it. Surpassing and conquering hesitation is a skill.
@@Valkahike I get what you're talking about. But you're tending towards nihilism. I'm actually comparing myself with my own standards of self development. And not exactly performing how I wish to 🤣 and giving up after 1-2 tries is one of my biggest flaws.
12:03 "You will make many mistakes, but since no one in the planet can give you the perfect answers to the questions created by your own unique circumstances, choosing for yourself and continuing to move forward is not just the best thing you can do, it's also the only thing." True words spoken💯💯💯
Ben Shapiro :"If you need a home, you should buy a house. It does make sense. If need money to buy a house, you should earn some money and It does make sense too. If you need earn some money you should get a job. If you need a job you should try to find a job. And So on... And So on."
@@zachdauman5464 An incredibly important truth for everyone, except the homeless. Almost no employer will hire someone who smells like the street gutter and has no access to a shower/washing machine, no address, no bank account, not even a phone/email contact to say when his hours are. The concept of Poverty Traps go into this. For the rest of us, hard work absolutely is the way forward.
As someone with ADHD let me tell you, if your dopamine is not regulated properly, which is not exclusive to ADHD btw, there definitely are ways to not be unmotivated. I mean, for most neurotypicals the video is still valid for the most part, but please don't forget, that there are many many reasons why people might not be able to do things. Especially with medical and psychological systems in the gutter all around the world. :)
im have ADD and oh man does it suck. doctors dont wanna put me on meds for it because they feel im already on too many pills. im taking 2 diff pills for anxiety and depression and while they work fine, they dont work good enough and im on the max dose for both. yay for my weird body that has a high tolerance to everything ever so i can never have relief. not to mention with ADD i can't enjoy anything because i can't focus on it for more than a min. my brain just stops and wont shut up. constant fucking noise up there.
I recently gave some attention to adhd and its symptoms and I afraid that I might have. Before knowing about it I always blamed myself for being "lazy" and feeling weird that even having physical energy I wasn't able to do many things and I just accepted that was procrastination. It's worrying the way we are raised, in this neurotypical standard society. For some people It will demand attention, profissional accompaniment and a lot of patience and acceptance. I don't think this video works to me, but for someone else will do. (i'm not good writing in english, sorry ;v;)
Harsh Patel the aggressiveness in environment may refer to the fast-paced, full of expectations kind of circumstances. it could be from the people or the system one is currently living in. just how modern society in most cities works. we are aware of our responsibilities, and are trying our best to fulfill it. but there are some who can't accept the way we are, judging us based on our small mistakes, frowning upon how we live our life or do our jobs, claiming that we are worthless if we do not achieve something daily, or maybe tightly restrict us from our freedom that sometimes we could feel like we're getting pushed and pushed to our limits till we feel like going down physically or internally and unable to do anything. something like being ordered to "do this and that! obtain those targets! achieve these goals!" i can't say for the "the laziness as defense mechanism" part, but well i could somehow relate to it. maybe by stubbornly claiming that you're lazy, you can't be pushed to do things so you're free of your burdens (i mean, yeah, when i was in college i'd use this trick to just shut everyone else so i can rest from anything i don't want to do). maybe, that, i guess.
@@syarifaamaliamarwadinata5623 my English is poor. So i cant corectly descride my opinion. But i will try. Some people had toxic relationships with others( family, school, College) and pretended that they were tired or bored or lazy to do something for them. Lack of support and lack of sincere relationships makes a person vulnerable to society. A person who feels vulnerable constantly lives in the expectation of troubles... and laziness becomes their only available defensive reaction to a possible threat.
The quote from Blaise Pascal isn’t about being bored or being alone, it’s about death, the room being a metaphor for the casket. Besides that, this video is incredible and so inspiring to change and do what you want to do. Thank you
this video has some key flaws... one that i think it misses is that fear drives us to overwork ourselves. Fear can motivate us to improve but then we crash and burn and it causes terrible things. The reason people arent content with relaxing and letting themselves stop and enjoy life is because theyre afraid as well. If you consistently just do it you can burn out (i speak from experience)
also think saying "motivation to do nothing" is flawed, you dont need to be motivated to do nothing, doing nothing is the default and you need motivation to do something else, and if you look at it this way the entire video falls flat unfortunately. imo the real issue with lazyness is complacency, people arent motivated to do stuff if theyre satisfied with their situation, you might want to write a book, but your survival instincts kicks in and questions why youre giving yourself more work to do when youre surviving just fine, if you "needed" to write that book for whatever reason, things would be different
Very true. But it's paradoxical. Fear is on one hand what's stopping them from taking action and as you cleverly pointed also the thing that makes the push until burnout. I've experienced both ends (mostly burnout from overworking leading me to a physical illness). I'm not a fan of productivity. There is a more balanced approach that "just push through". Don't want to give unsolicited advice, but since you suffered similar stuff as myself I wanted to share what helped me. If you're looking to resolve this unbalance a great thing that has worked for me and many people I worked with (same types) is to learn to listen to your body (great start is start a body scan meditation regularly is you haven't. And do some short "grounding" breaks all through the day that helps centre and become intentional. Also as almost no-one mentioned in this sphere of "productivity" work with feelings and nervous system is important It takes a fair amount of practice but is well worth it and makes it so that actually you can work more effectively and be more relaxed at the end of the day. Hope this helps a little, but I'm happy to point you to anything that might help.
This video also very much paints the picture that you get to try again if your first attempt of just doing it does not work out. This however is not the case for a lot of people and just doing it might just end up ruining their lives. I think this is the reason why so many people are scared to try something, because of the loss of time and resources that comes with it. Or at least that is my problem.
The main idea of this is to just focus and do the small tasks that are present right now instead of worrying about how you’re gonna get everything done. If you don’t think you can handle a couple hours at the gym, focus on the current rep you’re doing. *If you keep taking a step forward, you’ll eventually run a marathon.*
One day in June I randomly decided I wanted to have this certain body by next summer (hopefully). and ever since I have gone 6 days a week for almost 4 months now. It is insane what happens if you just DO IT. At first it may be challenging, or intimidating. Need to relearn workouts/equipment/gain stabilizing muscles so I don't look stupid/Ahh I'm lifting so light I feel like a weakling/has it been an hour yet? I want to go home. But after just a couple weeks you forget ALL OF THAT. Once you get momentum just keep fucking going it gets a lot easier I promise.
@@netyimeni169 at the beginning of 2021, i used video games to escape my responsibilities. After playing i used to feel guilty, and to escape from being guilty i would play more. It was a vicious cycle, just like every other addiction. I decided i want to embrace being bored and feeling bad. I decided if i don't start right now, i will look back and wish i had started that day. I realized if i don't start walking one step at a time (sometimes not even a full step but still forward), it would only get worse. Use games as a reward, not an escape. Even as a reward keep it short. Because you need to admit you are sick and you can't get the same amount of others.
@@pjdougherty6442 quitting my last one has been the best decision I made. I was doing what was described in this video, being more afraid to lose what I had even if it was kind of shitty, probably more afraid of not being good enough to reach my dream. Now I am focusing on doing what I need to be good enough to reach that dream, without the stress/fear of a shitty job with people who hate you but won’t say it because you’re productive as a worker
I hate the phrase "just do it". It gives no value to conversations and focuses on will power that is finate. It doesnt encourage you to find long lasting solutions just hits your insecurities of being lazy and giving you momentary motivation out of shame. It really is something that I think brings more harm then good, it may be a kick starter but often is something that just brings more shame, bc it is "that easy" "just do it" "what is wrong with you" "why dont you just do it?" and other similar thouths that ran over mine and Im sure not only mine head. I WANT TO NOTICE, that I appreciate that in this video it was described the more productive way of thinking about it. It was actually really good, but in general understanding I dont think that most ppl feel like this about this phrase. I myslef heard that definition for the first time.
@@thefunnylovingomega3429 but then again, it is a healthy approach to motivating yourself and getting started, this phrase can do it, but I still think that in majority it is more demotivating then motivating. Especially that it is often used in comercials with talented athletes or something like that, running marathones and climbing Mt Everest. Wich in fact both of these activities and others like them need something more then just will power and motivation, they need sustainability, dedication. Motivation and will power eventually run out, you have a bad day or smth. It is not reliable. And your actions need to be reliable in order to succed at long term goals. Thats why I think it can be harmful, bc it shifts focus from sustainability to short term motivation and shows you like everything is possible with it. And its not true. So people say at the start of the year that they are gonna work out, in a motivational kick in a theme of "just do it". And almost nobody last, and most of the people that dont last feel worse about its then in the start. It doesnt promote acceptance to our feeling and lazines wich are both natural, it doesnt show how to work with them not against them, and overall it doesnt give you any real solutions just a vague idea that everybody can "just do it" but you are just too lazy for it.
@@thefunnylovingomega3429 I think that if you refine this phrase, make it more about acceptance like you did, it wont be damaging so much, it wont give you the guilty feeling that it does in its raw form. But not many people do that, most just see this on a motivational addidas video and it goes into their subconcious mind. And if u dont have other tools to work with motivation it brings guilt.
That one actually doesn't apply to me. Sometimes I would just think a little too much. And I don't mean overthinking some deep shit.....I just mean all together. It's really not that bad. But it also doesn't solve the issues presented in this video.
you're putting it in the wrong context. It's not a cure. It's supposed to be a strategy or a tactic. Doesn't work out for you? Then go find something that does! Just do it!
This video resonated with me due to recent life circumstances. There was something looming over my head for weeks, and the only solution was to JUST DO IT regardless of how boring or unpleasant it was. Normally, that is not an issue for me, but I had developed a sense of PTSD regarding this particular issue/situation and so I felt uncharacteristically put off by it. But at its root, it was simply fear. Another fear is that if you keep moving forward relentlessly in life, you will actually go somewhere. Things will change and time will pass, and that can be scary in its own way. But you have to realize that time will pass either way, and if nothing has been done and nothing has changed, then you will simply keep ruminating about the same situations endlessly. Moving forward does not mean forgoing self-reflection. It means making significant changes and progress in your life, so that when the time for self-reflection comes, there is always something new to think about and new options to appraise. It means means making the most out of the limited time we have to be alive.
I teared up watching this. You perfectly described everything I'm feeling. I always procrastinated my school works because I'm afraid if I made something I'm proud of I'll get a subpar grade and it will remind me that I'm not actually talented; I tend to not aim for my fitness goals because I'm afraid that once I lost my weight all of my problems won't be magically fixed; I don't even bother try to leave my toxic environment because I'm afraid I won't be successful once I leave it and I will have nothing to blame my failures in anymore but myself, and so many fears that I can't fully articulate. This video perfectly described what I'm going through. I came to a realization that I have all these self destructing habits for the sake of distracting myself from actually accomplishing goals because I fear that my preconceived notions of them won't be attained. Thank you for this video, I don't know if I'm part of the 10% people who are in the right place and at the right time, but it certainly did woke me up. I'll dedicate my entire year to finish my damn goals the previous years, and Ill always make sure to watch this video to remind me that I am not unmotivated, lazy, or bored, just fearful.
Dude, you'll never realize how much you've* been a part of changing my life. Keep it up. I can't be the only one. I only wish I could meet you and shake your hand. * and Marcus Aurelius
"laziness, boredom and procrastination are all symptoms of the same disease. My dad!.... once told me this story" I literally thought for a split second he called his father a disease. :")
this video just proved to me that I'm not lazy, bored, haves self-doubt nor do I procrastinate. All I have is FEAR. AND NOW I FEAR THAT I HAVE FEAR LIKE WTH.
LOL Actually, I've come to this conclusion myself and chose very close to the same mantra: *DO IT ANYWAY* _But I don't want to do everything myself all the time! I need some help!!! I'm exhausted and making too many mistakes and lonely and it hurts!!!_ No one is going to help you. Do it anyway. _I can't do it anymore! I've lost all my motivation. I give up._ This will pass. And when it does, do it anyway. I've lost all legitimacy and authority and dignity and sanity. Fearing the loss of those things is delusional. They're already gone. My discouragement is passing. And I'm back to doing it anyway.
James Thurber said, "Don't get it right, just get it written." I guess the modern equivalent would be, "we'll fix it in post." For 15 years, across 3 different residences, my Ex and I worked on building a model railroad. We spent a lot of money, developed a couple of skills, went a lot of places and met some interesting people in the process. Aside from raising our dogs, it was really the only project we agreed on. To this day it's still a common, friendly topic and the pieces are in a couple of tubs at her place. I don't think we ever ran one train totally around one circuit of track but we don't carry a disappointment because "just doing it" was more fun than it having been done.
My coworker asked me what I did over the weekend, I answered I mostly sleep the entire time. He was disappointed at my answer, saying something about…being active…do something…sleep is like death…I rejected all of his ideas. There is a social factor as well.
Stupidity never held any successful person back. In fact, it is a positive advantage to be an idiot in many professions, it gives you the absolute confidence and unshakeable faith in yourself that only comes of being too simple minded to understand the terrible consequences your actions may possibly have and soldier on regardless until eventually, leaving behind you a swathe of destruction and waste, you achieve your goal of having lots of money, a plastic family, and nothing at all of any value.
“Because we know what lies beneath the stillness: existential dread.” I feel like I just got slapped in the face with a hand made of Wonder Woman’s truth lasso
This is exactly what I needed. I often fear the unknown, the difficulties and challenges that I may encounter and hence I choose to procrastinate to numb myself. It doesn't matter if things turn out to be good or bad, but I'd still get the job done if I take action. Otherwise I'll stay stagnant forever. Best advice ever. "Just do it!"
Then get some help man. If you’re not content with your lethargy, get up, and do something about it. It doesn’t matter if you’re motivated or not, or what you’re motivated to. The important thing is are you content? If not, change that.
Thank you my man. I sat up from my bed hearing you speak, washed my face, did my face routine and I’m taking my next step to conquer my fears. Thank you for your work. I’ll be listening to this again.
Problem isn’t fear or those other labels, my problem is not knowing what my true purpose is. Good thing is that I have a lot of goals I wish to accomplish someday but there are too many. Its overwhelming and I don’t know which to focus on. Therefor I become stuck, blocked, and stagnant. A sitting duck floating backwards towards a waterfall about to get hit with depression for not putting any action anywhere. Like CaseyNeistat showed in a short clip, life is like a backwards moving sidewalk (or treadmill) when you walk, you stand still, maintain. When you stop, you go backwards, and if you want to get ahead, you have to hustle, run!... but in my life, I have a beaver dam of goals blocking my path 🤦🏻♂️ I know ill see this comment again someday and be like “ey I made it!” Lol. Till then, Still need help! Edit: What I did to conquer this is by tracking which opportunities are available to me at the moment and start unwrapping that opportunity like a gift. And well, this is what I did, and I'm full speed ahead working towards accomplishing the tasks needed to get it done.
This is fear. Sounds like you fear doing things that don't have meaning. Do you don't do anything at all. Here's the catch. You get to give your life meaning you're the only one who gets to decide it. So instead of living in the fear that those things might not make you happy live in faith that you will find your purpose of you keep moving forward!
@@amanyali8638 Religion is man-made to control people like you. You have no idea what is really going on behind the scenes, don't you. The problem with humans is that humans are a very gullible species. And with enough repetition, the habit brainwashed you into believing other's manufactured lies. You are smarter than that.
theoriginaljean introverts are really good at thinking. Since I am an introvert why not do what I’m best at? Thinking. And Jordan Peterson is wise, if you like this stuff. Honestly this stuff changed my life and did something my parents didn’t do so well at. As to teach me how my thoughts work and opinions and attitudes. I feel a lot better as a person, I get more confidence too which is something I never had in my life. I could talk about this for hours.
Sam The Fool I get it but at this age there’s a lot of confusion and too much focus on the mind and on problems... couple of more years, it gets more graceful. More clear. You start learning about the nature of men. You start learning about things so abstract. Early 20s is an age of a lot of confusion and transformation, so the way they try to handle it is with this weird intensity and unnecessary puzzles. But that’s the process we must all go through. Don’t mind my comment too much 👍
From personal experience it can really help to just recognize the actual source of fear instead of just thinking you’re bored or lazy. I wasn’t actually to lazy to do my research paper, I was scared I wouldn’t be able to finish on time. Instead of working on it, I just tried to avoid the source of fear. I’m not too lazy to go to work, I’m just nervous because I’m still new and it’s a stressful environment. No one wants to be lazy, and thinking that you are probably makes you feel guilty. Have some compassion for yourself and see that it’s not just you, there’s a reason. Thinking that’s its just your personality or that you don’t really care can keep you down. Something like being afraid or depressed is not your fault. Try to take steps to make yourself feel more at ease!
This is what I've been realizing recently. The being afraid part is very correct..... but for me I don't fear being alone or "in my head." I never understood that quote that's like "humanity's problems stem from an inability to sit in a room quietly." It makes me confused, bc there's truth to it, I've def seen it in others, but it feels like that's the only problem I *don't* have... my problem is that I don't have this problem. I feel most comfortable being alone, in my head. I don't really care too much about validation from others, and it seems that's what ultimately drives everyone else in some shape or form... It makes me feel guilty and broken... because that's the norm. Like everyone else, I do have a void inside, but it is not people-shaped, and that is very strange... I do love my friends, but I always feel empty. I need a goal, or a calling. I'm trying to stop being fearful so that I can get out there & figure out what I want, but it's hard. Trying to find something to fill the void, whatever it is. Something that can bring me peace. This video was very helpful, thank u
I relate to your feelings on many levels, what I decided to do was sit down with myself and truly, truly try pull my purest interest from out of me, regardless of limits, risk to pursue and other factors, and just listen to what I suggested forth. For me, it was actually animation! This surprised me as I literally had never pursued art and got an F on my first exam, yet I still wanted to do it, deep down, even though I feared being incapable. So I stuck to myself, never showed anyone my work and now I’ve produced some great little scenes and I’m building ever-skywards. Another thing I genuinely wanted to do was volleyball. All my life I had been severely unathletic but now that I’m in a new area nobody knows me, so I’m just gonna go for it. The point is dig deep to find what your raw interest gravitates towards, and, well ‘just do it’, however small that may be, however hidden your practice is from everyone else, just follow your interest, because it’s unique and will lead you to great places.
I found found comfort (help to fill 'the void') in digital art and programming. My girlfriend in gardening and some craftwork (macrame). My brother, in sports (skate). My father, in gardening and cooking. It's a process of trying to find what makes your day better. You may not discover in the day 1, but take some time to research what you could enjoy and get you some fun. Also, start small, always. Better have something done and ugly, than beautiful and incomplete.
You have the opposite side of the same coin, basically--which means, pretty much, you need to be more vulnerable and show off to your friends more. Trust me, it sounds awful at first, but (unless you have shitty friends, which is a whole seperate problem) it will make your confidence soar; it's not necessarily to do eith validation here, but reinforcing to your brain that you can do things, whether other people are involved or not. The rest will come with time and thought
This’s is one of those right place right time deals. Aka “meant to be”. Wrote down the same goal for 2020. FOCUS. Much success to you, yours, and everyone in the new year. ✌🏼
@@dionysus3774 As if we need someone with an ivy league degree to tell us or confirm how we feel. Rely on authority, how's that been working out for the world? Do you understand people don't think/feel/act the same as you or do you throw stones at random people for fun?
@@kevinasdfoubaesg2466 You're clearly mad about something, lol. You do realise doctors *TRAIN & LEARN* their job. Your logic makes no sense. With your logic, a random civilian can give surgery on par with a trained professional surgeon. 😂 I bet you're an anti-vaxxer.
@@dionysus3774 Everyone with a different opinion than you is SOOO MAD. Debate is a lost art apparently. Going to school for years on end and graduating with debt shackles doesn't make you qualified to read minds or understand the reasoning behind someone else's behavior. Great argument. I said you don't need a doctor to tell you what you feel and you jump to surgery. Emotions inside individuals vs. physical restructuring/repairing of a human body. How does my logic infer anyone is on the same level as a trained professional in regard to surgery or any skill for that matter? My point is that you don't need " an actual doctor" to tell you you are depressed. With your logic, no one is qualified to know or take care of themselves without a professional or proper training. How interesting that other power hungry monsters feel the same way... I bet you believe everything you're told by authority.
This is one of the best thing I've seen on the net. I've been trying to figure out the core reason that pushes me back from my responsibilities and you just gave me the answer with a single word, FEAR! Thank you so much for the vide and your effort. I'll just do it!
I'm glad I did just clicked on this video and RU-vid recommended me this. Bad things always happens, so to confront that I only just have to do it, sometimes premeditating my actions and some other times just go straight forward and do that. Thanks kind stranger and have a wonderful new decade!
we have different perspectives, please make consideration to other people who are not 'strong, lazy, independent and bored.' but are lazy and bored. We are all not perfect.
The most realistic and true advice I had ever ! All this gurus dividing fear and procastination and many other bs. And here its all laid out ! We are simply afraid, all we need to do is to get our ass up and start making stuff.
I literally always tell myself “just do it” I literally try to live by that because everytime i be scared to do something then I just do it, it never be as bad as I thought it was going to be
Ask yourself why you're upset over the idea of fear being the problem? As someone who suffers from depression, I can completely see how my fear of failure or making the wrong choices has overridden my sense of purpose and determination which led me to feeling sorry for myself and hopeless, which, in turn, created my depression. I own that. But then you might be pissed off for other reasons. Idk but I understand why you would be annoyed over the idea of fear being the cause of these problems. It's annoying to admit to feeling fear especially when we've been ignoring the emotion for so long.
Hey! I wanted to thank you. That's the channel I was searching for a while now. It's great to hear like-minded people sharing thoughts and reminding me what is on the back of me head out loud. All the best!
I AVOIDED watching this.. until I came to my own revelation of my laziness having to do with my FEAR () leading to my hermit tendencies. in all seriousness, what CURED some of it was pre-visualizing how I will enteract with my environment before I leave the house.
I can't imagine having a job I love; the associated feeling of happiness with a job? Even if I'm doing something I enjoy, like play music, I'm still wrought with anxiety over my performance...
This was more helpful than what I thought it would be. I love the idea of reframing boredom or lack of motivation. It was simple but extremely impact full.
There's another fear, a more pernicious fear. The fear of commitment to one possibility. When you commit to one possibility, and take the rime to bring it into actuality, the field of endless possibilities narrows significantly, and what if you don't make the right choice. Maybe that's the sensation of growing old. I don't know, I still haven't figured it out.
When you are afraid of commitment to a single outcome, you've actually committed yourself to avoiding every one of those possibilities. Choosing wrong is better than choosing nothing.
this lady is right we took depression for serious only cuz it said to us how that is so it motivated to our depression side and fears for killing out time
"You are who you are on your worst day. But you are also who you are on the next day. And the next day after it. Every single day counts, from your best to your worst. And every day is a new chance to take all that pain and try to make something better out of it" - Rich Burlew
Ah yes, your drawings and 13 minute video have cured everyone of their depression, ADHD, and other crippling mental health issues where decades of research have failed.... Thanks!!!
but why so bitter? this person said they ain't no psycologist or something and is not necessarily qualified to explain all this as such. if u expect this kind of content to "cure" people's ADHD, depression, chronical anxiety, etc. that's an issue of yours, not the creator, since that's not even what they're looking for or pretending to be doing. have a nice day beth, i don't wish to make u feel any more bitter with my response to your public comment.
