There’s also the guys who’re just burnt out, the guys who went years without dating anyone but have been rejected each time they tried so they just stopped trying
Dude, it's so rare to find another guy who knows what that's like. As a guy who did poorly with women in my youth, then dedicated over a decade to getting into shape, developing my confidence, charisma and social skills, only to still get nothing but rejection and disinterest, the burnout is real. I used to watch these videos to motivate me, but now they only fuel my depression because I've done everything you're supposed to do, but get none of the results that should come with it. It's almost as frustrating as the legions of guys who are on month 3 of their transformation and are already getting results telling you to just stick with it.
@fuzzypanda1684 Ya know, I gotta tell a kinda funny story to you. I kinda rejected a gal who liked myself back in my first year of the high school. And, ya know, it kinda happened so weirdly. The most insane part that the reason why I rejected her was my simple obsession with the idea of popularizing Muv-Luv in Russia, so I stopped caring about other stuff at all. So, as for me, I think that the main issue here is that you're too focused on a relationships with your crush. What else do you want excluding relationships with your crush. This is the main question. Just do something that you like until you're fucking done.
Yup. Imagine if you touch a stove, and you get burned. But people tell you, "Just try again, getting burned is part of the process, it helps you grow, eventually you don't get burned and it feels really good, you just haven't found the right stove yet" so you touch the stove again, and of course get burned again. But people keep telling you the same, so one day you decide to try again and get burned. Over and over this cycle continues until you decide to not touch the stove. And then people say, "Why did you stop touching the stove!"
There's no girls for me to talk to. I feel I either shouldn't talk to any or talk to every single one. Not that I need one explicitly right now, I just want to feel like I am liked or even loved by someone else outside of family.
On the grindset before getting my true girl. Just because you don't have your lover or your crush doesn't mean you shouldn't apply yourself and be your best self. Most relationships build up but there's still relationships that involve just meeting at a mall or a coffee shop or somewhere similar and social and start dating then all of a sudden, you two get hitched and start a family. If you want to ask your crush out, do it with confidence and a clear mind; The worst they can do is reject you and if they want to stop being friends, that's their loss not yours because you're more real than they ever will be to themselves
I had a crush on someone in my senior year and we were friends. I found it easier to talk to her on social media but found it difficult to talk to her irl. I even learned a lot about her (her music taste, some of her hobbies, and other things like that). Looking back, I feel like that I had a chance for a closer relationship to work out but I doubted myself and convinced myself that I had no chance. I used to regret not saying anything but I’ve grown from that experience
Recently I asked out the girl I liked, she told all her friends, I think they convinced her to say no since I'm quirky; I felt humiliated, I've been in a serious relationship before but never been rejected (I have been on self improvement for over 2 years now, pretty good shape and have a bunch of responsibility to attend to
You've NEVER been rejected? What... are you? Rejection is not only common, but expected for me. And I started self improvement over a decade ago and have been in great shape for the last 5 or so years.
I used to be incredibly shy, nervous and insecure around girls I liked. Then I decided to focus on building my physique, confidence, charisma, social skills etc. Years later, I finally achieved a physique that draws looks wherever I go, and a confident, outgoing attitude that makes it easy to chat people up. What I've learned from my transformation is that if you like a girl, just go talk to her! That way, when she's not interested in you, you won't waste any more time thinking about her and can move on to the next girl who...probably won't like you either. Nah but seriously, in my case, improving myself made no difference in my results with girls.
i matched with her in February 2023, we definitely had chemistry, laughed together, we gamed together, we flirted together, she talked like i was her boyfriend for a year saying things like "i love you" or "come give me a hug" (texting) after she told me about her anxiety, problems, and i tried to reassure her the best i could... and 2 months after we met, i confessed to her, and she friendzoned me, that was the most heartbreaking stuff i ever went through, we are both 21, but she's really not perfect, she has a lot of flaws that almost disgusted me, but i could go past that and love her anyway... i was like "yeah love is stronger than anything, one day she will realize how much i actually love her" oh boy was i wrong... i didn't treat her as a queen or anything... i was just normal... every time we got to hang out with other friends, to go eat somewhere or go to cinema, i hoped she she could see me differently again, but nah, she really decided to see me as a "good buddy"... i really couldn't accept that, i kept being obsessed about her UNTIL TODAY, it's almost been a year !! i can't get over her, she tells us about her dates, her hookups, when she's alone, she complains about it, she complains about not finding a good guy, she complains about never receiving flowers... i was like... "yo, i want to offer you some, but i can't, cuz you don't love me back" and she couldn't care less, she was just like "ah", she was so cold... i knew deep inside that she didn't even appreciated me even as a friend... i kept yapping about her to my friends (who are also friends with her i introduced her to them) and they got so tired of my yapping that they left me, i am now friendless btw lmao when she broke up with her first boyfriend after she friendzoned me, i was like "hey maybe she will see the good in me, compare me to the piece of shit who insulted her and threatened her that he will kill himself if she ever broke up with him" (he was a "looser" valorant player") but nah, she didn't even think about it, im just a buddy, and that's it... she just doesn't care one bit, and doesn't want to take accountability for all the "false hope affection" / love bombing she did to me, like this never happened / existed... im now depressed and all alone about a girl that doesn't give a damn about me, has a new valorant player looser boyfriend or whatever the hell (seems like this is her type), and my friends ignore me like im so pathetic hobo, like the 4 years of good friendship and happy shared memories ain't shit to them so i decided to focus a bit on myself, and send her a last message saying something like, "you're not worth the pain" or "i will erase you from my life as you never existed" and then block her or smth... i wasted 11 months of my life being obsessed with a girl that didn't like me back and didn't give a fuck about me, so idk i have nothing to loose... doesn't change the fact that, im the one who lost almost everything, dating apps sucks, dates sucks, hookups sucks (i had those but this is not what im looking for, i only thought about her and her only, she was permanently in my mind, like some kind of infection) you guys just may tell me "just move on dude" like my friends did countless times... but it's hard ffs, especially when you had this much hopes, this much feelings, when you love someone, you don't stop, ever, it's hard to unlove someone just like that, if i could do that, it wouldn't be love, it would be some other disposable thing... anyway... sorry about my long aaa yapping, i just wanted to share my story and wish that people don't / didn't go the same way as i did... im planning on starting gym, focus on myself, start praying too... lots of things... thanks for reading it all, i wish y'all the best
Damn bro, sorry to hear that. Worst part is definitely losing your friends. I’d definitely try and talk to them, and make it about your friendship and not the girl. Did you lash out at them at all due to the frustration dealing with her? If you did acknowledge it and apologise, and ask if you can be let back in. About the girl, I’d definitely give it time, and don’t try to go back to her even if she wants you. You were her 2nd hell 3rd choice and you deserve better king. Good luck out there
@@appixx thanks for the support, i didn't lash out to my friends, i just complained a lot, apologized for spreading my negativity, and then got back to the complaining when i had the chance... i just couldn't stop so they just blocked me everywhere... and about the girl, i think im not even her last choice currently, if she had the choice she would rather get back with her worst ex bf than to be with me, and she currently has a new bf anyway...
@ud_project2542 damn... not much you can do then other than getting back up again. I'd suggest picking up a sport if you haven't already, great for being social and healthy at the same time. A new hobby can also go a long way 🙌
Why did you wait 2 months? That's a long time where the relationship didn't go anywhere and possibly why she wasn't feeling you. You matched on a dating app, so the point is to go on a date, but it sounds like you became her friend rather than a boyfriend. That aside, you shouldn't ignore those flaws because I can tell that this girl doesn't give a shit about you and is not worth being in your life. Don't be friends with that girl. Would you seriously want to be friends with a person that knowingly hurts your feelings? Just because it's your crush doesn;t excuse the disrespect. Keeping her around actively slows down your processing to move on. Your real life friends are ignoring you because they are tired of their buddy still crying over the same girl for over a year as an adult. There are other girls out there. Go meet people. The dating apps are negatively impacting you and aren't ideal places to find a relationship. You are on the right track with the gym, and I suggest throwing in meditation, too. And in the future don't put a bad person on a pedestal.
I'm in high school right now and I talk to my crush everyday. The only fear I have is what would happen to us after I told her i liked her. I used the excuse "I don't wanna ruin the friendship/relationship." But you said some wisdom and made me realize what I got to do. I will wait a bit more untill I am in a good state and shape. Then I will finally tell her. Thank you King
I'm planning on asking her out tomorrow! Oh and btw I really relate to not feeling good enough for her, but screw that mentality I'm great. Awesome, even.
Crushing on someone right now. Usually I’m pretty confident in most of the things I do and I have a rather chill outlook on life if I say so myself. However, my experience with women is 0 (not even a kiss). I’m 20… some of it was bad luck but it is what it is. I’ve gone to the gym and worked on myslef for the past 5 years (visible abs, decently big) I’ve only ever had 3 crushes, and this one is the most intense by far. She’s cute, but more than that we vibe so hard it’s insane, never felt this much of a connection with a girl ever, and I’m anxious as fuck. Thinking of asking her over to watch a series this week.
I liked this girl, Amanda ( still do tbh ) and I ended up getting into a bad relationship with a different girl. The one I dated cheated three times and is now dating Amanda's bf, I tried warning Amanda but she said I was dumb. Amanda found out and has been looking at me differently. Do I have a chance with her?
I'm a girl and just as a quick disclaimer, not all girls would think like me but she might trust you more now than she did before considering she didn't believe you the first time. But you might want to give her some time to recover from the cheating bf before you make any moves. You want to be a friend she can rely on but make your intentions clear from the start or she might think the only reason you befriended her was to date her which she might not like. Like " Hey I like you and would like to date but I understand that you need time to recover from your ex. If you need a friend I'm always here. You don't have to feel guilty if you don't like me back I just want to be there for you" Something like that. With that you'd have established that you're open about your feelings(which girls like) but you also don't want to force her into anything which will be a huge relief if she unfortunately does not like you that way. It also gives you a chance to win her over in the case that she doesn't lie you back. Reminder:Not all girls would think like me and there might be other nuances in your relationship that affect the success of this advice. Good luck :)
@@heliosthefirst1397 ok so I forgot to mention at the beginning of this year she asked for my phone number and we talked for a while, but my dumbass ended up choosing the wrong girl. So basically I’m pretty sure the only reason she dated that guy was because I stopped talking to her because after I told everyone I couldn’t go to homecoming she canceled on him last minute
@@Airhead2099I cannot give you wisdom. But I pray God will. All I can say is, a no from her is better than all the daydreaming (and literal dreaming if thou is as down as I am) from your head. Be a gambling man
I'm in highschool right now and have had a crush on the same girl for 2 years. I've recently been playing football and wrestling, but even with more physical strength I still can't seem to talk to her. She recently got a boyfriend and I felt like it was all hopeless, until I saw this video. Thank you for your support, I really needed this morale booster.
My boys, he’s setting you up for failure, everything is true accept asking a friend this, just do online dating, so that weird barrier doesn’t exist, and you can keep your friendship. Also, watch your back, very little people are faithful, I see break-ups, and cheating every other day!
Building oneself takes decades, a lifetime even. That crush will find someone else in the meantime. I don't know why this was recommended to me since I never had a crush and never will. Never had a relationship either. Negatives just stack up with time: I was short and ugly in school; short, fat, and ugly in college; now I'm short, fat, ugly, balding, and old at 36. It doesn't really get better with time.
But if you took care of your self ( and can still do now) you could have been better looking, fit, confident as a person. Hes not saying go find a whole ass career path first then date but rather grow as a person and improve one's self. You can also grow together with the woman in the relationship.
Hi younger me's Old head here, fes up regardless of situation. I had someone I had special feeling for, but somehow that made me scared of timing and other bs. More than 10 hears later, that magic timing never came. And not until more than a decade later I found out we both shared those feelings. And that we had both expressed the same type of intense feelings to our closest friends. Now I did date extensively through these years, but I could've dated who I wanted to instead if I had been less of a coward.
Fire video! Glad to see a new King Theo vid popping up in my notifs. I think it's also important when it comes to media portrayals that these writers were probably introverted themselves. When Kishimoto was writing Naruto, I figure he wrote Sasuke being this quiet type grabbing all the attention cuz he wishes he would've been treated like that. In a similar way, the writers for Johnny Bravo might just have some sort of ill feelings for those more outgoing. These folks are not the type of people who are gonna write a realistic portrayal. The music starting at 7:20 sounds like some sort of lo-fi version of the World is Yours beat, care to toss me a link? Worked really nice as BGM.
Still working on believing in myself. I’m a queen though😅 Constantly working on myself to be as good of a person as I can but damn… I’ve never felt worthy of love so I’m working on that.
also side note i met a girl at my old job one time. I didn't like her initially because she wasnt my type. She startef inviting me to hang out with her and she would ask me if i was hungry and make me food on my breaks and kinda make herself look really wifey material. I started liking her and everyone around us would question like if there was a chance things could escalate. I asked the question to her but she told me that she doesn't want me to get attached. So basically no. If things were looking a certain way before i confessed, and then they suddenly changed when i actually did confess, that means i got played. I was in the friendzone without realizing it. I haven't talked to her since i left it.
Just saying gym crushes are a different level than most of us suffer/ed in high school and college, just sucks to be so self concious, maybe she just wants to lift weights and i’m being a nuisance/creep
Did bro really reference Rick and Morty as a classic cartoon? to be a classic a cartoon would have to be off tv a little while or at least ended 5 years ago
