You've Been PROGRAMMED To Have Low Self Esteem ⚠️ 

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I compliment my kids everyday As I definitely felt stupid growing up

I literally heard this shit from my parents, teachers, classmates, and some friends growing up. It was hard not to believe. Now as an adult, making any kind of mistake in my mind regardless of how big or small has me go into immediate catastrophic panic followed by the internal negative dialogue of “see, you really ARE stupid.”

Bullied for all my school years and told how ugly I was all the time. At 45 it still lingers

I got cheated on and two-timed when I was really young. Imagine putting all that effort and you find her in some park making out with another guy. It still haunts me to this day. My best wasn’t good enough.

I did a self help therapy that started with one on one sessions and ended up doing a psycho drama session a year later and got rid of most of my childhood trauma. I highly recommend it if you're struggling with self help. My man Tom changed my life and I'll always be grateful. Since the psycho drama i breath better. I can hear my voice. I got my confidence back I saved my little Jeff inside me and living in the now. I hope if you're reading this you find your peace. You're a beautiful person. Feel it!!!! This guys work reminds me of the work I did. I love it

Yeah and then my anxiety got so bad I actually appear stupid

I just got low self esteem cause of that

He’s right

I wish partners I have would stop calling me stupid. It’s so common. Playful or not it’s already a dagger in my side I’m trying to stop torturing myself with and then I get a “haha you’re so dumb”. I feel like stepping away from dating until someone doesn’t need to hold my hand through insecurities, because walking on egg shells won’t make them happy and I’m not handling my triggers well enough to be happy either. I spent 5 years at university, my confidence in my mind is gone. I felt more capable as a child. Now is just doubt, one step forward two back. It’s never well done, always you can do better. All my lofty goals are dead just let me be a barista for the next 50 years if I can find peace from the voices of everyone saying I’m not good enough. Now I’m good enough for nothing, I don’t want anything, I don’t like anything, my only consistency is the bullies voices in my mind

parents didnt care about my emotions. all my relationships end ugly because they see i am insecure

Can you put full video links of shorts

Hes not wrong. It comes from childhood

Which video is this from?

The solution to the human problem is NOT within yourself. "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28) Man is a sinner, and sinners need the redeeming grace of God. ALL the problems in the world, involving humanity, are cause by sin. YOUR sin causes YOUR problems with yourself and others. Sin is what sinners do. In order to not sin, you MUST be changed from a sinner to a saint. This happens through Jesus Christ, who died on the cross and resurrected three days later, and promises that "Whoever believes in me and Him who sent me HAS eternal life. He does NOT come into judgement. . ." (John 5:24) Then, once you are born again into the family of God and are a child of the Heavenly Father, you will receive the Holy Spirit. HE will produce in you "love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faithfulness, and self control." (Galatians 5:22-23) Pursue the Lord, your Maker, and HIS Kingdom and righteousness. Jesus promises that everything else, which this internet guru tries to SELL you, WILL be given to you from the Father (Matthew 6:33). If you will not repent (of porn, fornication, bitterness, etc.) and follow Jesus in all He says, the Bible says there is NO peace for the wicked, and ONLY the judgement of Hell remains.

Your advice is amazing, but please, whats with the clothes of a ten year old? Mate it genuinely worries me. Are you trolling me or what?

damn, he just read me

Imagine when parents and relatives say it 😮

my friend called me "lame" a few months ago. maybe she didn't really mean it or i don't know but it still affects me till today. i don't know why but i can't forget it. ig it really hurt me.

When I was little I was bullied a lot in elementary because I was really loud and energetic. I’d have lots of outbursts at that age because I couldnt quite handle my emotions. No one wanted to be friends with me or play with me on the play ground because i was the “weird annoying kid” If I did get invited to play I’d usually get the worst role like the person who dies at beginning or the score counter for a game. Now im afraid to speak up for myself in fear of being verbally attacked. Im scared to join in conversation in the group chat because i feel like I’d be told what im saying bad or that they’ll stop being friends with me

In a nutshell, if someone has been called stupid for so long, they start to believe that is their name. That is toxic shame when dealing with toxic people and narcissistic abusers alike. That's ten years of therapy right there for their victims

I have zero confidence

If a person with low self esteem become a parent is it necessary their children also learn from their daily habits and become a low self esteemed person

I fucking love this guy man, his shorts never miss!

For me it's "You're annoying".

So true Julien!!

My dad would drill this into my head every time he got angry, which was pretty much everyday.

So I'm not ugly

I only realize just few days ago that I've had terrible low self esteem cause of the word i heard from my aunt as a child. And it's basically affected everything about me. I really need to break out of this shield

Real word here!

I knew many things, but everything i said and did was stupid/shit/cringe.

I was held back a year in first grade and, in seventh, I was placed in 'emotional handicapped' (or emotionally disturbed if you lived in the north) classes. I was told I had psychological problems and was deranged when, honestly, I was a weird autistic kid who had problems doing school work. My mom would tell me that I had the makings of a serial killer all the time and my sister, my quick-witted massive bully of an older sister, would not let up on the insults nd demeaning dialogue. She would call me retarded daily and would go into elaborate explanations on why I was retarded, inferior and less of a person. Any time I would fight back my mother would come stomping in and start screaming. Its funny that my mom coulsnt hear anything, not a single word my sister said, but once I stood up for myself she would have the hearing of a bat. Thats not even going into school life, where the kids picked and teased you and the teachers ignored it because of reasons. Where these kids, these kids who had a happy home and encouraging parents and caring siblings, got to go to school and just demean and insult and I got to go home and hear the same thing, or worse, at home. I'm desperately trying to overcome this, I really am, but its so unbelievably hard. If 99 out of a 100 people calls a duck a duck, what right do I have to say that its not a duck? People talk endlessly about overcoming and striving but when everyone, everything, just is so hostile to you how can you even get a grip on the walls of the pit? If you dont even know where the footholds are, how can you crawl out?

So true. I realised it so late. What can I do to redo all those seeds in my 12 yo son now? Please suggest.

It's so true I ve learned about shadow work but I m still very afraid to do it n in childhood my teachers used to call me I m a bad student n nobody wants to sit with me coz I was dumb n not good at study n till now I m still very afraid of study i feel lyk wht if I fail in my exam wht if I cant solve this question due to this I procrastinate a lot

Ok Julien, I really like your content, can we talk now about that cardigan?

Right but what if you’re actually stupid