I used to care about what other people thought or said about me, but now that i'm 57 yrs old, I don't get a fck what anyone thinks or says! I just do me and fck it if you don't like it!! Life is short, do what makes you happy! Peace! 😄😄😄
Well stated and those who have moved to the Philippines will get the most flack from other expats. Sad but true and I could care less what they think now. I was a 6 year resident of the Pi. Many expats are bombed by 12 noon and sit in judgment of anyone who is around.
This is one of your best videos imo. I really enjoy her honesty and sincerity. It gives a very realistic view from a real filipina. She's great, and they are both very lucky to have found one another. At 55 myself, I'm not particularly concerned with how society views me, but it's nice to know there's still a bit of hope.
Wow! I’ve watched a lot of interviews with various aged Filipinas and this one by far is THE BEST. She is obviously young but also soooo mature and open about the topics. She has a great perspective on it all. Thank you so much for doing this interview and I look forward to more. God Bless.
She's well grounded and congrats to her for finding the right guy for her. Funny but hearing that rooster in the background reminded me why I could never live in rural parts of Philippines. Hearing that noise for the 100,000th time would just drive me crazy LOL
@@ChadFosterExplores I had an online relationship going with a lady in General Santos. Everytime we called to talk or video guess what I heard? Like several roosters just going nuts the entire time!!! She said it is constant noise from like 4am - sundown (often a bit later). Yikes, would drive me bananas.
I have to say that this is one of the best clips and answered many questions I had. Your guest is very intelligent and honest. Excellent attitude and realistic. She actually cleared many doubts afam's have. I'm so impressed with her and your questions 👍
I like her. She is so genuine. I guess she's young but the way she answer questions make sense. I just wanted to add that if you want to find a good loving Filipina, know what you look for. Common values, common interest, spiritual beliefs and so on.. If you are the kind of person that requires many things then i suggest get to know the Filipina first or vice versa. Do not jump into a relationship out of desparation. And for this Filipina, i think shes smart. Shes not ignorant with relationships. At her age she knows the stages and the progression of a relationship. And she was right when she said, for older people do not rush to have someone in your life it might not be the right person... First, make sure you are ready for a relationship that can lead to a commitment. Know what you want, and if you think you have found the one ask all the questions in your mind, do not play games. If you are in LDR then make a plan to close the distance. I believe in a ldr there are 4 factors to consider to succeed... Honesty, trust, assurance and faithfulness.
Very interesting and smart thinking gerl! For me the phrase : I love you , is very very strong... and if anyone one will tell me this phrase before we are meets in person will be a red flag .. By my self I use this phrase only 3 times in my life ..
I don't care what anyone says the truth it's 50 percent about money and 35 percent better life for her family 15 percent love for a phillipina to be with a foreigner
You don't think it's about the money in america? Why do you think the girl marries the lawyer or the guy from a good school for the guy from a good family? Of course money is a factor. But not just in the Philippines all over the world. And rightly so. It represents stability and security...... And it's a man's job to provide that. And if you can't understand that.. then you've got a bigger problem
Another great video of what life is like for some folks! I’m so glad Frenchie and her man are happy together and that they are creating a life together, regardless of their age. Peace ☮️
The most profound thing this Filipina said was. Know What You Want. As a Canadian now living in the Philippines with an awesome Filipina, I would say most foreigners do not know what they want, either in their home country or here. If you are a goof in the west, you will be a goof here, and deserve what you end up with.
20 years married , after 18 mos courting and visiting her and family and friends . 24 yrs gap still isnt a problem 🤗 ( Thank God for an occasionally needed blue pill 🤣) We are still so close and shes a VERY HIGH QUALITY WOMAN @ 46 , and making more money than me ( I m an electrical worker/ troubleshooter) Shes 100% a light in the room - wherever she is ! We still date regularly and travel a lot ! We are so blessed as a couple ❤️❤️❤️
I re-watched your interview with Fretchie from 4 months ago. Of course there will be additional pressures and risks bringing her to Germany, but she is already being judged in PH and seems to have a strong sense of self and know what she wants.... and is learning and benefiting more from a relationship with an older guy. Just like any relationship, time will tell. IMO every relationship is transactional anyway - Western Women ALWAYS include Dollars as one of the "6's", but somehow Filipina's are Gold Diggers if they want security too... hypocrites... and what do we get in return - a Gold Digging Divorce Lawsuit. I really like this chic, I think she speaks truth. Peace and Love, B Goat
When men from other countries have been in the Philippines for a while, a Filipina knows that she's not the first and the man has probably been with several of them already. We know they're jealous and that's just not appealing to them. Call it a red flag. Just like with men, If we know a Filipina has been dating foreigners, it's a turn off and also a red flag.
If you are Christian and old enough to retire here, skip the online stuff. Search for a location that fits your needs and wants. Then search for a church of your denomination. Almost all are here. Everyone will welcome you when you come to their church. It may be a little hard not knowing what the preacher is saying. They sing a lot of songs in English so that gets me by. I am 64 and met a woman who is 19. We been together about 6 months . I have no children and would like to have some. It is like she is saying about them being scared, meeting you in person compared to online. You really have to go slow so they can really be assured of your intensions. If finding a wife is your intension then this may be the best way. If you're looking for a girl to just play around with this is not the way.
Absolutely great interview Chad! Really enjoyed it. I am 60 yr old American in NC, had a 34 yr old Filipina GF for 2.5 yrs till earlier this year. Traveled to see her on 3 separate trips. It didn’t work out due to personality issues which had nothing to do with age. I’m absolutely convinced (after 2.5 yrs and many weeks of that in person with her) we had a REAL romance no different than if I was 3-4 yrs older than her. She NEVER asked me for money. I’m now involved with an even younger Filipina (she’s 22). We VC every day and I plan to visit her in the PH next week. No money involved in our relationship either. She indicates age isn’t a problem. (I’m active and in fairly good shape, workout multiple times a week). She’s quite young, I know, but she is devoted. We need to interact in person, of course, to more fully assess our relationship.
I am 61 currently in Myrtle Beach. I have been "dating" a 21 year old. She is a friend of my friend's son's gf. I am going back to Indy for the rest of the summer. She is going with me... and then back to school in August. We are having a great time. She is an amazing person. She is quitting her job to go with me. It hasn't been discussed....but I will more than make up for her lost income when she goes back to college.
It was great in the 90s in Dumaguete...loved it I was near the Airport Maslog. But wen the bars appeared I thought it brought a negative impact...I'm not against bars but there's a time n place for them and it's not Dumaguete 😊
Bars are almost always negative. Not seen ANY great net gain contribution bars adds to anywhere in the world. Keep the drunkness and alcohol back in the west. Going to other side of thevworld... to hang oyt in bars... in my view that is just sad and pathetic tbh. Why waste life time on alcohol.
Something to realize is that a good Filipina will have an old fashioned concept of romance. It can throw a Westerner off his game. You need to be old enough to remember real old movies, for a reference. Expect a friend or cousin to be at her side on a first date.
this a wow interview. she is blatenly honest. good job chad hats off, great interview an She is exactly correct. I have seen these topics unvail themselves many times in the Phils. I have seen 18 year olds with 50 60 plus age men. The Phils has a very different outlook on this topic. I honestly have never understood it, but It happens all the time there. I understand the money thing, But thats not all of it. There is much more an I dont know why it is like this. But, its very true. I have traveled the Phils an Thailand since 2014. It all started with Reekays channel. I think the most comon mistakes made is Alcoholism, Giving to much to the filipina, and the guy not knowing exactly what he wants because of the choices. There is always an opportunity that will come up over time to find a better looking filipina. Be patient an take your time. It may take months to find the right girl. Learning to be content in who he chooses is the best an it makes for a happy relationship an stable life. Know what your looking for an tell the girl the truth. Dont lead her on an later break her heart. If you want to just date an share a great time with her regularly, tell her. If your looking for a life companion, Tell her. If your looking to get married later, Tell her. But do not lie to her. If your living in a community like Duma, It will not be long before all the girls dating will know who you are. If your looking for a dark skin moreana girl, regular tone filipina or a whiter filipina, know what you want an chase it. Focus an dont waist your time goofing around. Know where you wish to be or stay. Take a month to go there an look around ALONE. no girl an search for something you like. My personal likes are on the outer edge of cities, close to hospitals an stores. Mactan New Town an IT Park are great if you like great areas that are upscale. BGC is an upscare area near Manilla. CDO, in the ountains is great. Valencia is in the mountan area an Baugio area. Its cooler in the summer. The heat is a real killer in deep summer an when it rains, IT RAINS. LOL Guys I sincerely suggest you listen to this girl carefully. She is exactly on point. Guys there are 4 basic factors that must be met. If you lack just 1 it will not workout for you if you choose to move to the Phils. 1. You need a steady income. Some say 1500 to 2000 a month is good. I do not agree, but thats just me. I think 3500 to 5000 is a safe sweet spot to be, in case something goes wrong. At least 10k or more kept in savings. 2. You need to be an outgoing person. No fuddy duddies. 3. You MUST have a love for the Phils. Not necesaaily the women. But the Phils an the filipino people in general. If you do not love the phils, its not gona work. Also, DO YOUR HOMEWORK. im saying dot every I, an cross every T. 4. Your member needs to function. if any of these are out of line. You loose taking a chance in the Phils. This is just my observation.
Good advice about loving the place and people. May I add women here very much desire having children with someone with white skin and pointy noses. More I think than someone who is rich.
It’s funny how she points out all the losers that go to Philippines searching for their next gf. True a retired man is perhaps more settled down and financially stable. But in reality many of them that we all see on RU-vid and old and poor and not settling, still searching. Bringing her back to Germany is her working as a OFW as his caregiver eventually but she will have a second opportunity to find a new man when that old guy dies.
So many questions about his looks! You don't love a person based on looks, that would be lust. Looks fade. If the girl has spent lots of time with the guy and he's treated her well of course love will grow between the couple, unless the personalities clash and the argue often. There's also a big difference between dating men who can take care of them in terms of saving them from a life of poverty and exploiting them by being greedy and asking for money and gold necklaces etc. commen with Thai women. If you are born into a poor country and suffer poverty, it's fine to date men who can take them out of that life of suffering. It is only natural and doesn't mean she is a gold digger or dishonest and having a bad character. She will take care of the man and be a loyal companion. I have seen many couples who are in happy relationships. Of course she wants to date a man she likes and enjoys the company of, the finantial situation isn't everything but it's a reality that we must not judge. It won't take long to discover a woman who is only interested in money. Most just want to live an average lifestyle, I lived there in my 20's and never heard of one case where she dumped the guy after getting his money or whatever.
One of mine and girlfriend biggest argument is 3 months already and I'm not head over heals and I ask for more time and I tell her I have love and feelings but we argue a lot but work it out I'm just hoping to get past that before a solid commitment of marriage or something is that wrong?
Have you ever met her? A wife is supposed to be submissive and obedient according to thr bible and the Quran. So if she is so far from shyness that she openly argue/quarell so much with you now... how do you think that will evolve after a marriage?. I do not know you guys, but if this is only online so far... i would adviced to move on. Its high ridk with a woman who does not shy from being openly argumentayive and quarell. It almost never gets better.
@paulruano1903 thanks for the advice you may be right but I will say most of it is communication breakdown many times I've had to say is it possible we just don't understand each other in other words she misunderstood me so she was mad about nothing
Cost of living is better in southeast asia but these guys are self scamming themselves if they just waste the money. Just live within your means even if you can afford a lot, it doesn't mean you should toss the money around all the time and spoil/simp on these girls.
Years ago i knew an American man ( then ) in his 70s who married a Filipina in her 30s. He went on to live well into his 90s... and she stuck with him to the very end.
Please, someone tell him about whose a hot commodity where. It's not that she is bad, not at all. She seems great. But we change the environment much less than the environment changes us.
I have a friend who works in INS in Florida, according to him, INS statistics, American men \ Filipina wife, in the USA, are a 78% divorce rate within first 2 years, no statistics if they live in the Philippines. So you are correct, NEVER bring her to the USA, I know personally. Russian girl \ American man, divorce rate 96%, Filipina's better, but not by much, enter at you're own risk.
@@JeremiahHexxmy friend married a woman from Russia. She was knocked up within about a year of them getting married. Once the baby was born, she divorced him. The court gave her the house along with alimony and child support. Homeboy got destroyed. If I ever marry a foreign woman, I’ll 100% move to her country. No chance I’ll bring a foreign woman here to the states to get westernized.
I live in Bohol and tried Christian Filipina for dating. I was very disappointed with the number of "scammers" and fake accounts on the site. I canceled my membershio as a result.
Hi Chad, I just met my Filipina in May after just over a year of talking. We met on Christian Filipina and after a month, I did the first video chat to make sure I wasn't being scammed. After 5 months, I spent a lot of extra money to send a lady from Christian Filipina to send her flowers, meet her, and ensure she is single and doesn't have any kids (as she had stated on her profile). From there, we just talked every single day. Our age gap is 18 years between us. Our values and family tradition matches, and she was the shy one. She didn't want to say I love you until she meant it. So, I waited for her "I love you" until she felt it was genuine. I didn't push it, and I just enjoyed our time together. I honestly was shy as well because I didn't think she would find an older guy attractive. While she wants me to lose my belly a little, she is EXTREMELY attracted to me. She is more concerned about my health than my looks. She loves my personality and she misses me tremendously right now. She did not ever ask for money, and was insulted if I wanted to help her get a travel visa to come back to Canada with her, but accepted after I mentioned how long it would take for her to save up for the $100 CA fee, as well as a round trip. She didn't want ANYONE to think that she only wants my money, and she wants to contribute to the relationship. The Filipina in this video is absolutely correct about the way a man thinks and behaves at certain ages, but my personal opinion is that a man who has lived through his midlife crisis, and has made positive changes in his life is going to be the best match. This can happen as early as 42 - 46 years of age, or even younger for some. During a midlife crisis, a man comes to terms with his mortality, and learns what he must do to better his next half of his life. He makes positive choices, and learns to focus on the things that are important to him... his family, making better memories, making better health decisions, and most importantly to a Filipina - learning that love is not hedonistic but selfless and heartfelt. I enjoyed this video for sure! Keep up the good work, Chad!
Do not build on top of FEELINGS. Feelings WILL fluctuaye through life. So that would be as stupid as building a house on top of mud!. Find a QUALITY girl with strong VALUES. Values (core values) is what matters. That is what you can build on top of!. That would be much more stable. Like building a house on proper grounding. Then you GROW REAL love, inside that "home" that is "built" on top of strong foundations (values and intrgrity. Religion is often a good anchor to protect from corruptions). The house is a metaphore to better describe.
@@ChadFosterExplores This young lady is fed up with a lotta young guys who would leave their partners for other women. She appreciates older men because of their wisdom and vast experiences in life that taught them lessons. She said unhypocritically that she loves her old man not because of his physical appearance, but of the lessons he learned and the positive values he developed from many years of experiences in previous failed marriages. When you asked her about financial security, she said it's included in a "package," meaning she didn't deny that fact. When she said she married a "beautiful" old man, she didn't really mean physically but mentally, morally, and emotionally. So, she doesn't mind the wrinkles and gray hair, because she wants an everlasting marriage. Compatibility is the key.
Many expats are attracted with bargirl looks. If a girl looks like that its a huge red flag. Im old school & met my now wife in HS. Old school Philippines courtship visiting her 1s a week talking & knowing her before she gives that sweet "yes" im your gf now. Took me a yr b4 she said "yes". 1 yr was so worth it i got a quality wife. Shes perfect, always takes care of the house in & out great cook shes kapampangan she makes more $ than me bcos she works in a hospital. Being old school Pilipino I not attracted to bargirl look. If thats your thing, i wish you luck.
Well mine is uneducated from the sticks but she runs the house except for her grandmother. All defer to her because she is the oldest. So she has a lot of responsibility but her being 21 she is still a child. I’m in the Philippines at her home right now we went to a rural beach close to where she was born and raised with 15 of her family members. I paid for most everything. Less than $200. I got drunk on the red horse and threw up 12+ times. Diarrhea. The problem is the eat eat eat and eat and overfeed you. Still recovering but my wife jumped right on it and took ever loving care of me massages you name it. They’re all nurses. Not in the US.
As a foreigner, simply based on what I've heard from PH citizens, I'd probably propose that the reason for the judgments of age gap in PH is simply that it's something they *can* judge. :) Just from one person I'm talking to currently (we're hoping to get a long-term relationship work) I've heard how she was ridiculed/judged for being brown skinned, for not speaking English confidently, for not having visited cities like Manila, even for being abused... It's a nice culture with solid values, but it seems it does have a fair degree of cruelty too.
Money vs love is silly. That's the same as saying for guys beauty vs love. Females fall in love with providers. Males fall in love with beautiful women. Of course many other things are important too, but provider is the first bar males must pass. Beauty is the first bar females must pass.
I don't want kids.....so that's going to be a problem. How about Filipina single mothers? In the West, I avoid single mothers, but Filipinas seem to be different.
@@babblingalong7689 Most will still want at least one child WITH you to cement the relationship. Depending on your age a single mum a bit older is more likely to accept NO more kids
@@tilapiadave3234 Thanks yeah seems like an older single mum is what I should aim for. Luckily Filipinas stay gorgeous after 30 unlike most Western women.
To my fellow expats or soon to be expats, the young woman being interviewed is rather charming, and seemingly intelligent. But you can’t really be sure unless you entertain time and indepth conversation with her yourself. Just know that most women here are cunning, clever, and shrewd, and that’s not the same as smart. However, that’s not a knock against them. The society here pretty much dictates that they be that way (survival). But, it’s up to us as men to know the difference and put ourselves in a winning position. I’ve witnessed too many men come here and get duped, burned, and bamboozled. Be wise! Move with purpose and caution…
They're actually not smart at all. These desperate men who are conned have no common sense or awareness when in relationships. They wouldn't know a red flag if it hit them on the face and knocked them out. They become so stupidly in love, that their brain turns to mush. Filipinas are very easy to read with behaviours.
Nice interview Chad! I've been living with my Filipina girlfriend for almost 3 years now. It just keeps getting better and better but we've had to have lots of "tampo" sessions to learn how to adapt to each other. In the end, it's worth persevering so trust can develop. Be kind and respectful and generous and you will reap the reward :)
First tike watching her and before she mentioned her background in the end of the video, I knew she was an educated women. She is smart, educated and funny young woman. I wish them well but I smell long term game in her(citizenship) then leave the man. Filipinos are proud people and tribal, whenever they date or marry outside of their community, it's usually for a reason but there is nothing wrong marrying someone for a reason(win win Situation). Btw, tribes in the Philippines don't intermarry that much. This woman is youn, educated and smart so Filipino eyes, she is lowering her standard but Germany deal is too hard to refuse. Good luck to her.
I live in the Philippines with my Filipina wife and our family. We met in Hong Kong, 11 years ago. Now we live here. We own property, both residential and commercial, and have a decent income. Our kids are doing well - at school and in university. We met in person, not online, but I am not going to criticise such relationships. When we met, she was 36 and I was 47 and we both have kids from previous relationships. We are doing fine here, as are the kids. I have afforded my wife opportunities she would otherwise not have had. We have been to Thailand, Malaysia, Macau, Belgium, the Netherlands and France. But we still come back home, to the Philippines.
There is no difference with the West. Western women also want a guy who has more means than themselves. It is just hypocritical to say that it's only women outside the west who think like that. Even women with their own means want a guy who outearns them.
The first accomplished The next goal: Finder richer western man in Germany All these old guys paying for so called relationships Come on? Get real. Just enjoy the moment There is no relationship
Some interesting topics covered. It is interesting that whether in the West, or in the Philippines (and other countries) there are expected conventions when it comes to comparative ages between two people in a relationship, but I rarely hear anyone from the anti crowd, back up their opinion with anything solid in terms of justifying why they feel so strongly about it. Ever heard of the person who loses a lot of weight having a hard time from their out of shape or overweight friends, with negative comments like 'I bet they put the weight back on'. Is it the same for outside observers either not in a relationship, or not in a happy relationship, expressing negatively in some sort of way to make them feel better about themselves. This young lady is more eloquent and able to express her feelings and opinions than most young women in the west, that's for sure, and her open mindedness, without being reckless or inconsiderate, makes for a refreshing change. If age is just a number then the age difference is almost irrelevant. Of course there are examples in the west that most people know, Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher (even if they're not still together, they were together for 8 years. Anyways, good luck to them both.
I love her observations " most foreigners come there are not rich" exactly. they are mostly older men who are lonely and then find all of this interest in younger women that never would consider them back at home....It becomes a new world to the men and now a major promotion among vloggers on RU-vid. If you are happy great.....just be careful with your finances because that is critical as you get older.
The big difference which is laughable at first--just as the rock to the waves-gradually over time it tales it’s toll. I can’t speak about Germany as even a less older guy, if she were my wife living in the States, everywhere she goes by herself dudes would be throwing themselves at her and even trying to sabotage the relationship! It’s an usual almost doll-like beauty we are not too used to in the West and attracts a lot of attention! I personally will never bring my Pina to live full time in the States.
Why doesn't anyone ever talk about the fraudulent monetary systems in the USA and in the Philippines? It's impacting everything you talk about in this video.
I think she "nailed it" when she said "know what you want" in a woman. I learned early in life that women exist who are beautiful, smart, with good personalities. But after spending time with them I knew I could not live with them. For example, I dated a hot lady who initially seemed to have all the physical and personality attributes I liked but when I stayed at her house a few times, lol, the "thrill was gone." She had pets to include birds, dogs, cats. Her house reeked of bad animal smell. We were going upstairs for an evening of intimacy when I stepped into some dog excrement... - yeah a real buzz kill. She was in her late 40's but was still in the party mode which included pot. I don't do pot. I'm a social drinker so a beer or two is fine. she drank too much. While our intimacy, except for the dog poo, was fantastic it turned out that the porn she liked was a bit too weird for me. A number of other factors of her lifestyle also resulted in me breaking things off. In short, I look out how a woman lives in relation to how I want to live. I'll take less attractive if we have similar tastes in how we want our household to be. BTW I did live in the PI for 2 years. I loved it and believe many great Filipinas exist but you need to do "due diligence" and that applies to women of any country.
Yeah see this plays back into knowing what youre looking for. As a "younger" guy thats not looking for marriage give me the hot 40yo with the p0rn fetish any day.
Agree, western women will all try and marry up, its no different in the Philippines its just that westerners have a lot more choices in women who want to marry up. Simple as that. Just have to find the right one. Some western guys are single because they are so gruff. Coming to the Philippines will not change who they are, and if they get taken advantage of or scammed, it would be understandable, I think. Good video, Fretchie (not sure if thats right) and Chad...Jim
