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The best book ever for me was "How to win friends and influence people" The two best bit's of advice I've ever got are, #1 "Perfect practice makes perfect." Rather than practice makes perfect because you can practice the wrong thing and never get to your goal. #2 teach people to teach people to teach. I'll leave you to think about this one 🙂👍🇦🇺
I'd offer that as a more traditional person the value that's lacking is honest communication tate is convinced it was his vulnerability that lead to him getting hurt we all know the dudes origins well enough and can see the subsequent actions, brutal honesty is cheaters should be given to the streets they belong and people need to rediscover love for humanity fix a lot of the problems in that idealogic camp
I'm very sorry to hear you lost your sister and friends to suicide. I too nearly committed suicide a few months back. Only someone who has been to hell and back can realise what human suffering is like. And I have realised that suffering ultimately builds true compassion, empathy, and ultimately makes you a real man.
Really glad to know that you are back and can serve as hope for others. Depression still has a bad stigma associated with it and, unfortunately, many people don’t seek treatment (sometimes with fatal consequences).
Only one who has been through hell and back knows what its like to suffer. You are 100% correct. Thats what Jesus Christ did and thats why hes the only God in the world worth worshiping and suffering for. The rest are false. The universe and manifestation doesnt care about you. Money and power doesnt care about you. Therapists and psychologists give zero damns about you. We must go through life carrying our heavy crosses for the glory of Jesus Christ our Lord and God.
@user-ok1xq5qm9t I think that this proves my point that depression is poorly understood. Depression is a very real disease and not a sign of weakness. Untreated or treatment-resistant depression can drive a person to a very dark place where suicide seems to be the only solution. Fortunately, there are treatments available even for those people. A call to a suicide hotline is a great first step. ❤
@@512idkidk It's an ongoing process. I combine evidence-based medication, nutritition/exercise, and faith-based mindfulness. Forgiveness, living in the moment, detachment from the self, and dedication towards a higher purpose is essential for individual well-being.
Antonio, as a man in his early 50’s that’s trying to raise three young boys, this is so refreshing. I’ve found your channel this year and it’s benefitted me beyond measure. Self improvement is something that so many sadly lack, including me, so thank you for your insight, intelligence and grounding. YUTTTTT!!!!
You're in your 50s and have NO IDEA how much the world has changed due to social media, ESPECIALLY dating. Antonio does NOT know what modern women are like today. He only knows about women BEFORE social media. Y'all better stop listening to old men that ARE NOT currently in the dating market. Y'all have NO CLUE
I don't watch them, either, but you've got the other side calling working out "alt-right" or something, so I'm going to side with the red-pill guys over that
Yeah that's pretty much the only thing with value they have to say. Most of the time they steer men towards hatred and insecurity without providing any actually useful advice. Antonio is much more honest, helpful and masculine than the macho wannabes will ever be!
Anyone can tell anyone that they need to improve themselves. Even a serial killer can say that shit. Question is, are they doing it? Is thier mindset in the right place? Are thier intentions proper? Or are they simply jus saying shit for fun?
Had to be said. I am no longer a young man, in my mid 30s now but this type of honesty is what young men need to hear. These type of channels can be very influential and can also have a severe negative impact on young men seeking guidance. This was well done.
One thing I've learned is the public library has a lot more to offer than most people think. Help with your resume, business networking, free online classes, and access to licensed databases to give you researched information not available on the internet. Oh and Shackleton is an incredible story I highly recommend it.
Yes. Just don't let your kids in there unsupervised by people you know well and can trust. Which may or may not include otherwise helpful library staff. And make sure you read critical reviews of the titles they check out before letting them crack the book (watch the movie, etc.) open.
The same libraries that have trans people read to 5 year olds with boners? And they ban right leaning books all while having leftist and Marxism books everywhere
As a young man and a long-time follwer, I proudly tell you that you made me a person. I take from you many advice, both style and behaviour. Much of your advice is practical. And I never disappoint you. This video reiterates my opinion. Thank you for your advice❤
I avoid the YT comment section like the plague but I just had to leave you a note to say what an awesome video this is. I would show this to my own kids. Solid advice. Well done. Also, as a bankruptcy lawyer for the last 28 years and a business owner, thank you for your candor about your earlier business failure. I've helped so many smart, talented people pick themselves up and go on to great things in their lives and it is very rewarding. If you're not occasionally failing, you're not playing the game hard enough. So impressed with your channel. Best of luck to you. Semper Fi!
"Don't just teach your children how to read, teach them to question everything they read." - George Carlin This quote continues to remind me that in this age everything can be true and everything can be false, so you need to dissect the information you are dealing with to come up with a proper conclusion whether you'll dive deep or stay on the surface.
Andrew Tate inspired me to take up boxing and become a stronger man and not take shit from anyone. F&F taught me (and showed us) that *many* women are delusional and act like children and how they came to think and act that way, and teaches us how to navigate that minefield. Kevin Samuels taught me to never accept a woman's bad behavior and shut it down immediately or get rid of her; WE are the prize. You, Antonio, taught me how to dress better. Take the best parts of everyone and apply them to your life. You'll see a massive improvement.
As it should be, just like Caleb Hammer's channel exploding on teaching/ helping people with serious debt. Taking Best parts of content creators, applying it and seeing results improving your life is the end result to look for.
Same here. I watch F&F, Rollo, Rich Cooper, Kevin Samuels and others. Learned how to dissect the info. A lot of Kevin's old stuff is about self improvement. The "wash your azz" video is funny and sad at the same time. They all have the same basic message. Be the very best version of yourself you can possibly be. If your 6'0" broke, and 300 lbs...guess what....the problem isn't the women, it's you.
Your best video! As a man of 63, I know that improving yourself takes a lot of effort, work, and admitting when you made a mistake. There are no quick and easy answers.
Thank you, Antonio. This felt like a breath of fresh air on the internet. I’ve been praying a lot, and concerned for a lot of young men with the messages (of different extremes) being pushed out there. I am so grateful for the amazing woman in my life, and for her family. Character and integrity like you would not believe. Thank you for guiding young men (self included) the way we should go, and for encouraging us to challenge ideas (including our own). Hope you and your family are doing well. Would love to get caught up sometime.
@RealMenRealStyle talk about advice. You didn't even mention what bad advice andrew tate or fresh & fit give. All you did was bring up self-improvement, which is basically masterbation, and then proceeded to try to sell your garbage. Talk about manipulation. Stay in your lane. You wouldn't last 2 minutes in a debate with these guys.
The strength to talk about failure. I need to be more open about that, and I think the more at home I am with addressing where I am wrong and weak so that I can better attack them would be great for me. Thank you for this, Antonio! I appreciate such a post more than you’ll know. You, Aaron Marino, and Brock McGoff have been instrumental for my appreciation of style, colors, self-care physically and mentally.. God bless you all.
As a young man aspiring to be successful and wise in the future, this video truly helped me in so many ways, i truly appreciate videos like this that you put out, it helps me get my mind straight. I'm currently 18 years old and the advice you give are some of the best ones and the ones i apply
Anthony, I been watching you for years from southwest Wisconsin. I’ve never subscribed until today. Great message, I hope the people that need to hear it, do.
I'm 71 years old, all you young men need to pay attention to this video, it will save you a lot of hard lessons. How you think at 71 an what you thought at 31 has a very good chance of being completely different. I was in business for decades and I feel guys my age need to know when to quit, you younger guys need to step up your game and take over. In my career I had over a 150 employees, be careful when being critical of others, instead figure out what makes them tick.
This is a great video! As a 35-year-old man, I see so many young men being inspired by the wrong role models in today's society, and there is only so much I can do to help these guys in my personal surroundings. So it's great to see someone who is a healthy role model use his platform for good.
Antonio, this is so far outside of your normal videos and I really appreciate you getting into this conversation. You're a voice that people really need to hear on this topic.
Great video, I can’t agree more. The faster you realize you control your life and women aren’t the enemy the better. Take control gents and just try to be a good person.
I respect this. You are not selling something unreal, you are grounded to earth instead of fantasy and you are well balanced in your approach. This however on the internet doesn’t sell, its not edgy enough, unfortunately that’s the world we are living in.
I've listened to almost every guru out there, from andrew tate to izman to petterson, and I gotta say as a 21 year old tjis was one of the best advices I'vee listened to
How is this one of the best advices? All he said that was valuable was "use critical thinking." Other than that, you think reading books will make you rich or get you girls 😂? Also there are good girls out there, but they usually look like land whales. Attractive girls have Instagram with 100s of $imps in their dm's. This guy has never experienced this dating market 😂
They pull you in with that Wich is good advice but then they move it to the terrible mentalities. Like all their terrible assumptions about all women. Or the weird crap they say like fresh and fit saying a man needs to sleep with like 40 women before he settles down because it good for his mental health while simultaneously complaining about female promiscuity… Wich is hypocritical at the least and only a makes them part of the problem with promiscuity at the most Wich is also hypocritical.
@@EddieC460 I did not say or imply that. All I was saying is there are terrible things the red pill teaches you. They put you in a very unhealthy mentality about the world and women. Like in the video their are good women their are bad women and their are good and bad men. Red pill warpes your mind to basically thinking their all bad and if they are “good” their a unicorn. They give you a false sense of reality. Now the promiscuity remark I made was just pointing out a flaw in red pill. How can you hope all women will remain “pure” or whatever if you, a man, is making many of them stray from that by being told to sleep with as many as you can? That’s creates more of said problem then fixes it. Btw I actually think both sexes shouldn’t sleep around alote because it can creat a sex addiction and warp your mind on sex. Yes both genders are different or different “leagues” as you put but that doesn’t excuse bad behavior and mindsets from both genders.
👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 Antonio.... I haven't commented on your page in years, but I have ALWAYS liked you. You are a REAL MAN with REAL MORALS, and you continue to have a deep respect for what LOVE & RESPECT FOR MEN AND WOMEN TRULY IS.
Dude, I wanted to say this was such an extremely empowering video! It's amazing to know where you came from and how you got here. It's equally impressive that you got here, given all that's happened to you! I thoroughly enjoy your videos, and you're really beginning to inspire me to be a better version of myself. Both with this video, and all your top-tier fashion advice. Being a 33yr old man with a daughter and wife (also being the only guy in the house), I really put a strong emphasis on the example I display to them. Thanks for all your knowledge, guidance and insight man! You gained a fan!
I 100% agree with dealing with each person as an individual. Myron and Tate shed light on things I was negligent and naive about in my case and most of their content has value. With whatever content a person chooses to consume and apply, it's always best to 'eat the meat and leave the bones' (whatever that is to the individual).
Exactly! I learn a lot from Myron and Tate and now I’m a married man with a beautiful wife! Improving myself betting thanks to them they gave a lot of helpful advice..
Favorite biographies: The Life and Narrative of Frederick Douglass and Dr. Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning. I wrote my World Literature research paper on both of them. I got into the red pill space but I'm SO glad I was wise enough to sort through the toxicity. I learned from being "red pilled" but I still chose to be a good person.
Man.. I appreciate this, I have some family members that I love came down hard for a situation that I cause. I jump out of the trucking industry and was out of work for 2 months. That got me and my family kick out of the apartment in a hotel atm. I know they mean good but geez. Don't kick me when i'm down especially when i'm crawling back up. But i forgive and move on.
Hey Antonio I started watching your videos during the pandemic. You’ve taught me alot about style and what values are worth following. Know that I and many others appreciate the time and effort you put into your videos.
Thanks for this great message and thanks for all the great conent on showing how to be a man though style.... which every few years a old friend of mine will come talk to me and say "Thanks for setting me on the right path." which I believe you do for the men here too.
I feel like the biggest problem about watching red pill videos is that they become an excuse for not acting. Instead of applying the tips you get on how to hook up with women in real life, you instead sit at home watching videos. People need to get out.
Antonio, greetings from Texas (East Texas). I'm 36 y/o, married to a wonderful woman for 13 years now, and I agree with your view on women. Spot on brother. I've been watching your videos for several months now and I've been working on taking responsibility for myself with the way I dress ever since my father passed away in March 2023. He always dressed up even for a simple appointment. I never understood the message he was trying to send until he passed away, and then I saw your videos. He wanted to show respect to those around him. You're one of the mentors at a distance that The Lord has put in my path to help me grow as a man. Thank you for caring enough to leave a legacy of what masculinity is supposed to be. (I noticed you wearing what looks like an Oura ring! I'm wearing one right now. Interesting little thing)
been following you since i was 16 and im 28 now. been to the top of the world as an extremely successful musician and the bottom of the trenches since then and this video is an absolute banger many folks need
At first i saw the thumbnail and instantly i was going to kinda hate, now i watched the whole video and i gotta say my mindset is changed entirely, words are not enough to thank you💙
I would strongly recommend Victor Frankl’s “Man’s Search for Meaning”. An incredible story of how to give purpose and meaning even in the most horrific circumstances.
Antonio, I've been following you since you had your suit business. You have done many great videos that went to the heart of many topics but this one I think hits the top of the list. I can only think that as a Marine Officer, you did well and as an Army Officer, I would have been honored to have worked with you.
THIS IS FAAAAAX!!! I'm so glad this popped up into my recommendation because I was thinking this for this whole year. I dont know who needs to hear this but... life works differently for different people, you must focus on what works for you and eliminate what doesn't. These red pillers don't care about your dating life, they're just influencers. Theres so much more to life than just dating and women, if you focus too must on that you'll stress. Its not the end all be all. Remember if everyone is rich and at the top 10%, who's gonna work for your business for it to succeed.
One thing to note about developing your rhetorical skills is that it also makes you a better liar, including (I believe) to yourself. It may give you the confidence to think more critically about what you're being told, but it'll also make you better at convincingly rationalizing your biases and misconceptions. It's still a good skill to work on, just one that comes with some potential pitfalls.
Good advice Antonio. Guys, good reads on how to deal with others are “The Book of Proverbs” in the Bible and Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends & Influence People”.
The pre-80's version of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is apparently the REAL one, the revised edition is watered down as it was rewritten by family
OMG, I love this video. I have a 17yo grandson that needs to hear this. Maybe you can do more of this type of content to try and combat those lunatics content creators. I first stumbled across your channel when my husband had his stroke. Your content was such a tremendous help in building his wardrobe. He gets so many wonderful compliments on his appearance. Thanks for all you do. And FYI, digging the shades…😂
I agree he could use his platform to help young men. Especially teens and young adults. We need hard working individuals that treat others with respect and kindness not whatever nonsense this RU-vidrs spill about ladies or what have you. Men need to be men but not something they're not.
Your channel is very good informative and great advice to be a gentleman. Many of the other youtubers are just about getting results without a moral compass. Most of these youtube gurus are just in it to scam people. I agree with you completely.
There is a reason that I've been a subscriber of this channel for almost a decade. This channel is gold, a true big brother like advise coming from this channel.
I have been following you for almost 10 years and I am so happy to hear your words now! So glad you are a healthy minded man, not like all those toxic influencers trying to scam young people and manipulating them into a sick world view that has nothing to do with reality. Thank you.
Great video !!! Critical thinking is always important. I was lucky that, at my canadian university (in the province of Québec), my teachers cared so much about us students and our personnal future. They didn't expected parrots, they didn't try to endoctrinate us to anything and they always listened to our different ideas, as long as we were polite, respectful and methological. Also, as a scientist, my favourite biography is one of Marie Skłodowska Curie (1867 - 1934). No matter the obstacles, this pioneer in the field of physics and chemistry really struggled hard and had to break a lot of barriers to accomplish her dreams. All while raising a good family, then having to keep advancing even after tragically loosing her husband too early.
Absolutely amazing video Antonio! As a man in my mid 20s, I wholeheartedly agree with you on all these points. Don't fall for the snake oil salesman like Tate guys, you can have everything you want by following the true great men in history not someone who is good in front of an audience.
This is such a great video. As it turns out, the best advice in life is timeless yet boring - be respectful and kind, work hard, take care of yourself, learn more, etc. Doesn’t sell many books tho! I particularly appreciate you addressing some of the content out there for young men. I’m 43, I’ve been around the block re: dating, marriage, etc. - but if I were 17, I could totally see how I would get caught up in that content, and it can lead people to some pretty dark places (as well as rip them off). Thanks for making this, and for the book recommendations.
Good work! Amazing, it's great that men of influence have a balanced critique of these guys. Point 1 is on spot. If I could promote this video 100 times I'd do it.
This is great advice for men of all ages. I have 50-years and the first thing I learned in life is that there is no "life hack" which can grant you great success literally overnight. You have to work both harder and smarter to achieve. One is nothing without the other.
Bravo! This is such an important message for young men today because there are so many opportunistic con artists on the internet and too many guys take it too heart. The most important skill in life is independent critical thinking and too few people have it. In my opinion, the only way to obtain this skill is by becoming a sponge for well sourced information and keeping an open mind for the rest of your life. The moment your mind is made up about any issue, you have stopped thinking critically. Always be open to new information!
First thank you for the book recommendations. I have read the Critical Thinking and I truly loved it. I can't wait to read the others. Thank you Antonio for this well opinionated segment.
A great take-away: Find mentors, --and inspiration, within biographies of GREAT PEOPLE. You'll always be in good company. Best wishes to all for an enjoyable and meaningful Thanksgiving celebration!
Thank you (again) Antonio, and a blessed Thanksgiving to you and yours. You mentioned Starship Troopers - the author, Robert Heinlein, has had a profound effect on me over decades through the stories he's told and the characters that populate them. He had an amazing gift for getting a person to think (if open to it) and somehow seeing himself within the story. He's one of the few who has ever measured up to my father, the greatest man I've ever known: Heart of a warrior and soul of a poet.
Man I'm so glad you made this, ended a couple of friendships because they were trying to turn me into a Tate fan. I remember specifically addressing critical thinking and holes in his own logic.
@@NWBwana the point is Antonio married a traditional woman NOT a modern western woman. F&F and Tate could lose all relevance tomorrow and western reality would still be western reality.
Congratulations Antonio on making a video in which the content is simple to digest and yet can have profound consequences on an individual's life. I felt I could relate/agree to so many of your points/advise. And a special thanks for mentioning Tagore as a person to study; most people outside of South Asia wouldn't know who he is, but i think they def should.
Critical thinking part was on point. I was blindly persuing personalities like these earlier but now i carefully anal yze each and every thing they say instead of hoping staright to conclusion missing the thinking part. Great video sir 👏 Edit: Also I would recommend people not to watch these people. Even I stopped watching them last year. I wasted a lot of my time on them but gladly I learned the truth about them in time. Also thanks Antonio. I actually watched your hair care videos and corrected many of my mistakes. And now my hair are much better .
I agree those guys are idiots with microphones. The sad thing is that most young people grew up in broken homes without a proper upbringing and they are easy prey for sensationalism. Growing up in broken homes doesn’t make you a bad person, two parents can be complete idiots but I totally agree about thinking for yourself. Being taught by two mature adults makes for a better upbringing.
Thanks for keeping it real Antonio. And I love those book recommendations. I'll probably pick up a few. 55 yrs old but I guess it's never too late. Biographies I have loved : Captain James Cook (Richard Hough) Leonardo da Vinci (Charles Nicholl)
I am glad your exictency, Antonio. You are at the same age of my father and your thoughts and infos you give us are really meaningful for me. You never talk nonsense. There is always some experience, respect and sincere. Thank you for these advices and other things. 🌹
Thank you, Antonio. Especially for the book and biography recommendations. I feel like part of this personal development community through the brotherhood of your channel. I want everyone to know that if you're on the fence about "Team of Rivals", it's about Lincoln's cabinet and how even though they were pretty much ALL out to be President themselves, they were the best men and he needed them to save the country. How he LED these men and the country is such leadership wisdom. It's a MASTER. CLASS. The monumental task of his presidency literally Saved Our Country as we know it. It's THE best book of leadership, and it's by EXAMPLE. Massive Respect to Antonio and these videos that bring so much value to my life.
Hey Marine, real talk. These dudes are correct about men, young men, not 1) getting involved with women with high body counts and 2) dating, or marrying, single women. It’s a true fact that “Men are in love, women are in business.” Unfortunately, I speak from experience. I counseled hundreds of young Marines, during my 22 years in the Corps. So many good Lance Corporals, Corporals, and even a fellow Lieutenant Colonel married to a Medical Doctor, were crushed by women who were evil
Yeah people who are married for a decade and haven't been in this new world of dating don't know how bad it's gotten out here. Society, morality and in turn relationships have become so shallow and depraved. Bad people from both genders have always existed but man it's become a literal race to the bottom for both the last couple decades. Not all woman are evil and selfish but an evil woman can absolutely destroy a man and there are a lot more out there than people think.
@@ThatGuy-sc5rx An unhealthy mindset will lead you to choose unhealthy partners, and in the long run these influencers don't teach that healthy mindset
Also he's married to eastern European women who's specially in those times were raised in traditional value households. If you living in western country is very rare to meet a woman like that specially now days. Now days even in eastern Europe most of women are feminists, maybe not as much as in western countries but they not the same as they used to be. Is all because of social media and dating apps plus promotion of promiscuity by the system.
