I had a friend that would ask me what I’m doing to my hair, nails , outfits I was wearing , where I got my clothes from and she’d be in the same hairstyle , wanting the same type of nails and even wore the shoes I told her I was gonna wear on MY BIRTHDAY 😭
Damn…this is the most accurate video I’ve seen on this subject. I had a friend like this, and I thought I was going a bit crazy for two years because I KNEW she was envious, she was always imitating me, competing and flipping between hot and cold…yet I felt so cringey saying that because I didn’t want to seem full of myself. She was flirty with a guy I brought out with us early into our friendship, and I saw her be super inappropriate with some of her roommate’s partners (red flag one). Then she lectured me for ‘deserting her’ that night despite her doing the same thing several times following this; there was always a huge amount of hypocrisy and contradiction with her. Later, she blamed me for the dude she was dating (who also moved into her place) who would blatantly hit on me. For a long time I redirected his attention and called him out a few times, but eventually when she kept pushing me away and treating me badly especially in front of him, I stopped caring that he was being shitty and just enjoyed the attention. It wasn’t my proudest moment, and I apologized many times for not speaking up for her. But that’s kind of what I realized after I ended the friendship; it was an extremely toxic relationship and I acted out of character in petty and immature ways because it was doomed from the start. She was showing signs of competition and envy early on. I took responsibility for myself but of course, she never did. It ended with her largely denying any envy or competition on her part despite the very obvious behaviour she was exhibiting, and telling me I was the problem. Yet, I saw her behave in the same ways with other people- complaining about having a bunch of competitive people in her circle, when she was clearly the common denominator. I watched her cheat on two people she was dating, and hook up with the friend of the guy she was really into. Obviously, there was a lot of unresolved pain inside her, but the way she would flagrantly avoid true accountability was so icky. I certainly never had these issues with other friends, just her. It wasn’t exclusive to me, it just seemed much worse because of whatever reason.
@@maddyG7414 Maddy, I hear you. I appreciate your transparency, and I want to assure you many of us have encountered similar “friends.” What stood out to me is you mentioning you did not want to address because you didn’t want to appear full of yourself. Thank you for sharing that because I think that fear is what keeps people bound in these toxic dynamics. Also, you made a great distinction. People who genuinely want to honor a friendship are willing to do their part to repair any damage. Super proud of you for taking a stand 💕
I used to feel so embarrassed for allowing certain people in my life for so long, especially when I saw all the red flags but didn’t fully understand them. Coming from a small town, I think I was just trying to have allies because I had so many violent bullies who didn't even know me but would pick fights in public. So when these new girls came into my life and were NICE, it felt like a relief. At first, things were a little odd, but not unbearable. When they started copying my clothes or making sly comments, it felt small compared to what I’d been through. When I moved away for college, I forgave and forgot all of that, but their behavior escalated. They began insulting me, leaving me out of group outings, and trying to dominate my NEW social circle I introduced them too. When they visited me at college, they even tried to turn my new friends against me. Every time I confronted them, they would blame me, and I found myself on this constant hamster wheel trying to keep the peace. Years later, they visited me AGAIN in college and introduced me to a new girl in their group, but it turned out they brought her around just to hook her up with a guy I was dating in college. It was like their goal was always to single me out and tear me down, copying everything about me, then trying to separate my new friends from me and taking the new friends i introduced them to, to be their friends and NOT mine. It’s sick how a group of childhood friends could keep targeting one person well into adulthood, but I finally see it for what it is-people like that don’t change, and they often gather in groups to break others down. I’m just glad I see it wasn't me w/ the problem as I did everything to try to have PEACE. However, because of videos like THIS I see they had evil in their hearts.....i still dont understand WHY ....tho
@Joejoyoyoyo I still don't see myself as much and I think because of that they took advantage of my kindness and I accepted their gaslighting. I've had to do some serious forgiving and healing from my past trauma and move on and rise above.
@@MsReadTheRoom I had to RE-watch this so in " destiny swapping" it's about one party taking from another and one person is living UP and the other takes lost? I noticed my friends started to do better than me once things in my life got worse. Ups and DOWNs of LIFE happen so I didn't think anything of it but when I noticed I didn't bounce back as quickly or at all it was a RED FLAG. When my friends hit rock bottom, they reach out to me i was there but w/ me they ditched me or distanced themselves and abandoned me at my lowest or worse make fun and comparing themselves to me saying they have this xyz better than me etc.... So if their destiny swapped worked is there a way to get your identity BACK, once you realize what's been happening?
just had to escape a situation like this, down the tea and even sent spiritual attacks my way and poisoned my beloved dog. still working on healing and learning the signs to not suffer this again! thank you for this. RIP Uzi ❤️🙏🏾
Ooh I forgot about Cassie trying to be Maddie in Euphoria 😮. Unfortunately, it's not just fiction. This was another great video ❤! I really like what you said about them trying to take a shortcut. It's so lazy, like just curate your own life 😅
@@MsReadTheRoomI will get the book as well. 4:39 this is me! 😅 I’ve been jealous so many times and envy only once, but it didn’t last long. I’ve always had a strong sense of identity ❤😅 Praise God🎉 Edit: will you write more books?😮
@@Joejoyoyoyo love the transparency! There’s a section of the book dedicated to self-reflection as well! As far as writing is concerned, I will always write! ✍️🤞
@@MsReadTheRoom yeah, no shade but I feel like I’m too good to stay jealous, much less envious of someone for long! 😅 Well, maybe those jealous people are insecure because they didn’t recieve enough affirmation for themself 😅 Edit: not me, I was always told I was pretty, smart and talented 💅😂
I’m so glad your making these videos, we need this type of info out there. We live in different times and when you think like this or pay attention to these types of behaviors your called being “negative” or “ your too sensitive” I keep it to myself these days, I’ve tried to make friends but females seem to only want what you have and claim it as theirs💚✌🏽🤎🌸thank you for your time and energy 🧡
"MsREADTHEROOM" IS RIGHT 👏🏼 You truly are reading them to filth, because that's how they wanna act. You're so smart! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. It is so helpful and confirming, it's healing. I love your book! I'm so proud of you. Thank you, girl 🤍
Can you believe it's my mom? All the friends I've ever had and basically my whole family too. I'm in no contact. Staying close to God. Laying low. Her P.I. works OT. I only talk to my timeline 😭 sounds kind of sad and lame but I'm safe this way. She's after me for speaking and standing up for myself. I'm not worried. God is helping me rebuild my life. I won't be homeless much longer, and my baby boy will have his own space 🙏🏼 by the grace of God, God please. I'll never stop working and praying for a miracle!
Iv'e been experiencing a lot of envy and straight up hostility from people - and I was homeless- not anymore! but no money in my pocket no car and still getting hate - also crazy bums on the street come at me trying to like hang out and then they start begging for something then if I say I'm minding my own business they get violent. But 2 years ago I had a friend trying to move into my apt, and try to talk to my gf, and live my life basically. A movie from around 1990 called the hand that rocks the cradle depicts this syndrome - I never had to consider that anyone might envy me, reading books by Robert Green the laws of human nature 48 laws of power kind of brought it up to me. And since I have a few lady friends the hate gets really bad. Another thing I notice is a phenomenon of people who are in my company may start making huge displays of being bored, dramatic body language, huge sighs and huffing and puffing sounds and once this mode is turned on - its a huge spirit of negativity and disapproval - at this point whatever music I play will be met with a scorn -
You are so right and I absolutely loved this video. I love how educated you are on these interpersonal / spiritual topics. However I say this with all due respect, please consider purchasing a microphone so we can hear you better! For me, the audio is echo-y and I have to turn it up really loud. Just a suggestion so we can keep watching but even better!
