I really don't agree with this concept of blaming the woman when the husband cheats. I am not in Toke's home so I don't know the full story aside what the media tells us. However the husband is wrong no matter how you put it. Toke being a career woman doesn't mean she doesn't fulfill her marital duties at home. Ladies shouldn't pull each other down and rather try to encourage each other.
I am a man and I cant believe some of what this women are saying, so it is Toke's fault that her husband could not control himself, is the man a baby? all of you saying men are polygamous in nature, stop making excuses for infidelity. this do or die mentality Nigerians have about marriage is very sad, some people cannot even apply logic..Some Nigerians sound like there is a blueprint for marriage, if you like cook, clean do anything there is no guarantee. A man will get a woman pregnant and some Nigerians will blame the wife..smh
I wonder why this video came up on my feed when it’s 7 years old but i watched and i must say Tope(the lady on white) is the only one that made sense for the rest, they were chatting gibberish but I’m glad their mindset has changed cos i still watch your view and nyma and morayo now have different a different stance on issues like this.
Exactly! I don't get how it is the responsibility of a woman to make sure her marriage is successful. Both spouses have to work at the success of the marriage. It is just so sad that the society keep encouraging men to be adulterous by telling them that he is polygamous in Nature. A lot of animals - with the exception of dogs -- stay with one partner for life. So are they telling ma that animals have more sense/ will power than men? I look forward to a generation that will teach boys/ young men how to become good husbands. A generation that will not only prepare the girl child for marriage, but the boy child as well
I clicked on the video when I saw a panel of women who looked like me. I thought I would be empowered, but the opinions from most of the panelists and the callers are absolutely deplorable. Unfortunately, most of these women have been conditioned by their cultures and environments. Having a piece of a man by any means is not worth it sisters.
I'm thoroughly ashamed of this lot apart from the woman with natural hair. May the men who stressed discipline be blessed. If you don't praise and worship your husband, you are his boss and not valuing him enough. If you praise nko? You are showing off and he has earned the right to cheat. All the millions of Nigerian women raising the love children of their husbands, are they famous or proud? Is it that they are not praying? Are they successful or boastful? She dated the guy for about a decade and started vloging less than 5 years ago- DO THE MATH!!! All the housewives who have "gba kamu" and are now packing condoms in the husband's luggage, do they vlog? kmt. How is deleting pictures a sign of pride? Will you say so if Toke was the cheater? To the lady in blue headgear, "na turn by turn, no spanner go lost". Did you guys even notice that ALL the pics you showed about the so-called party girl were with the he-goat husband? Tai Solarin that lived for his wife despite being an atheist, the men in Scandinavia and other regions were virtually everyone is an atheist but are still faithful to their girlfriends or wives, which higher power is doing it? Jews whose Torah supports polygamy but are militantly monogamous, how manage? Abeg park well. When society wants to silence a woman, you will quote "submit to your husband" but when it's time for cheating you'll drop Bible for "He is African and therefore, undisciplined". You and another adult signed a contract and swore a covenant. The accursed goat then went out and was putting his plumbing in the wrong place (hopefully without bringing HIV home). You now say it is time for a boxing match between one random babe and you- why? why should you compete with classless women? Why must the pictures stay up? If she dies of anxiety and worry, you will still gather to dissect her case. About all men being polygamous, anthropology tells us that both sexes are polygamous! If women can hold it, why can't men? If Toke's husband was the one being busy and successful, would you permit her to go and mess around?
Toxxaluvier well said. I have never heard of such rubbish coming out of their mouths. i agree, thoroughly ashamed of their responses. its 2015 for goodness sake. would you give your son/daughter the same advice should they find themselves in such a predicament. Their views are as backward as their fashion sense! LOL only person with a sound mind was the aunty with the natural hair.
Toxxaluvier u couldnt have said it any better. the woman in blue gele, and the other lady with native scarf have shallow brains and speak without making any point. I cant believe grown up/married women would speak without thinking. A man needs to be disciplined, if he cheats, he should be blamed and not the woman taking the blame for her cheating man.
The lady in blue is disgusting and I hope the same happens to her. How do we blame a lady after her husband cheats on her??. I have not heard them blame the man for his behavior. I'm so disgusted
Judging a woman because her husband cheated on her is wrong! if toke cheated on her husband, the blame would be on her not him. what the hell are these grown women saying? he was wrong, he was wrong idc. call a spade, a spade. if he was still very much interested in the ex, he wouldn't have married toke. He is wrong, there's no backup story to this. Toke's husband was wrong! it hurts that some women out there are blaming her. you could be in that situation, would you like to blamed for it? chai. HYPOCRITES!
Just imagine toke stayed in that marriage trying to please a man who doesn’t care and how her mental health will be rn rubbish!!!! These women just sat down to waste time especially the woman on native🤢
I love the woman with Natural hair (Tope).... She thinks like a realist. What is this crap about al men being polygamous? Why should it be the ladies responsibility to manage a broken relationship? How can it be a mistake for a man to impregnate another woman. How does Caller Funke know her husband has been faithful? The Igbo dressed woman ... you are the reason why men cheat on us continuously. Why is acceptable that men are polygamous by nature? please someone pinch me. Women should then become polygamous also. Please pinch me and tell me that Jumoke was joking when she said a woman's career is secondary. In general, why does it have to be God's intervention? why can't the man and woman intervene because they want to? Am done. Girls bye.
Zainab Awobajo Walahi she's the only one on the show who knows a thing about life. The one in blue is the type I never want to have a discussion with because theres no point. I don't know why I even watched this nonsense
I am so embarrassed that Nigerian women think like this... How is this Toke's fault? She should stand by her husband? She should stand by her man and pray with him? smh...
Why is there so much hate in people. Uwa, Neyma and Jumoke are talking like they have some issues with Toke before. Discussing someone's pain and mentioning her name with no sympathy. How did we get here women? Lord have mercy! Tope, God bless you!
Love the lady with the natural hair . U can't train a man ! What else was toke supposed to do in the marriage ??? You can't keep a man if he want to step out . How else was she supposed to manage him?? If he respected her and the marriage himself he wouldn't step out . Grown men discipline themselves .
Toke never said she knew it all, if you are not familiar with her vlogs, dont make nasty comments. Obviously the lady in ankara headtie has a beef. Lady with the natural hair, kudos, you hit the nail on the hair. Good analysis. Lady with gele, shut up, you dont know what happenned in their house. What if she did all that you suggested and her husband still cheated? Is it her fault then? Did she help in the act of cheating. Alhaja, thank you jare. It shows that you live in the real world. All of them saying their husband is not like that..... watch out for part 2.
Its so easy for the woman in gele to open her mouth and talk anyhow. No one is to blame for the actions of another human. You can only try. If anyone wants to cheat they will
its cause women think like this, that's why marriages are crap. No one said anything about her feelings, how he messed up. Everyone bashed her and told her to hold a man that messed up. I am so pissed. No one stopped to think how many times she would have cried or how devastated she must be. The lady in native is talking like being the best lady keeps a promiscuous man. Women need to stop thinking being forgiving and being the best would keep a man. I have been there and done that. IT DID NOT WORK. A man who isn't disciplined will be messed up and mess you up.
shaking my head! yes as a woman you submit, but the man is to love you hold you cherish you consult with you. you are both one together, its not the duty for a woman to be a muppet in the husbands eye. He is the head! like a leader must be fair, just, kind etc. As young lady not married knowing how i know i should be treated and want to be treated and hearing married women on this show blame toke for her husbands infidelity is sad. its sad.
That woman in blue head tie makes no sense whatsoever. She said no matter how discipline a man is, he might still cheat!! Like what the heck? It's either you're discipline or not..... You guys just woke up early in the morning, came on a public TV show to embarrass yourself, and talk trash about another woman that's doesn't even know you exist, you don't even know her life. Y'all just keep judging her as if it's all her fault. From what I get from this Stupid show,it's ok to teach your girls to be desperate for a man and do WHATEVER it takes to keep one . And who says men are polygamous in nature, like what!!!! You're are the ones encouraging men to do anything they like. Toke's husband is a BOY! He's not a man. Because a real man will not go after another lady when he's married. He chose to cheat, he didn't take his stand that he was married before going after the other girl: Y'all ladies on this shoe need to get your lives together and stop coming on tv shows to embarrass someone that's going through marriage problem: Women are supposed to empower each other and not argue about her issue and start staying she made a mistake: it's no woman's intention to get out of a marriage when she's in love. This show basically just said "it's a normal thing that the guy left Toke because he's a guy. And Toke is the one at fault, she never managed her home well". Like who on earth thinks that way.... Please gerarahere mehn.. Y'all have no point.
Mary Omoyele I feel similarly. This idea that it's the woman's responsibility to keep the home, that if he chose you to marry, you should feel so lucky that you must stay with him even after he cheats. If you propose marriage to me, I will assume YOU want to be married to ME and will do whatever it takes to STAY married to me. Point Blank. I will be the best wife that I can, but if you decide you want someone else, I don't want you. Period. This idea of "oh, if the wife gives up, the side chick has won..." let her win a spineless man and let me be free.
Awòn Olodo... 'He carried her to Uk to have baby so the baby could have American passport' what a disappointment just imagine if impressionable young ladies take advice from this ignorant jealous women. The burden of building and maintaining a home does not rest on the woman alone. Both party took a vow and both must work on the stability of marriage together. In my opinion marriage is for people that value true companionship and stability. Having a chaotic and polygamous marriage went away in the 19th century. These women need reorientation
Awòn Oloriburuku why won't she pursuer her career? Toke did masters in Uk for God's sake. Should all that money go to waste. I can read the woman in blue gele jealousy and envy is written all over her
TVC Entertainment Did you read the comments? Please NEVER AGAIN! allow such women to speak on such sensative issue if they are going to be so empty, except for Tope. This is a crying shame! I had to stop watching.
The lady on blue is annoying I pray it doesn't happen to her then we will know if she won't remove his pictures!!!! She is angry, removing his pictures is normal n expected! Thank God she divorced his ass. His loss not him... Has he seen has beautiful n how much she has grown especially in her career? The lady on natural hair is a bundle of wisdom! Don't blame Toke, she is human too.
Pls Allaja, Toke was never always praising her husband in public. the only time i remember her doing that was on there anniversary which is a normal thing for couples to do..obviously u all are old skool so y should i even watch this.
The three women at the left are very very shallow, it's a pity. Women are supposed to empower each other and not blame themselves for their husbands misbehaviour.
This is quit unfortunate, given the platform that u are on,I honestly taught you guys were going say something sensible instead of the trash that is coming out of your mouths...excluding the natural hair lady,it's obvious you guys have so much hate for Toke. HATERS😡😡😡
And to the lady that said men are polygamous in nature, please and pretty please try to raise your son(s) not to believe this myth😌🤔🤔 and your daughter(s) that they are not to be enslaved against their wish in marriage because of "your myth about men's nature".
This is very irritating to watch so it toke’s fault that her husband cheated 🙄 I don’t understand how grown ups sits down and judge someone else’s crashed marriage 🤮,that woman on native is just stupid , a successful marriage should be an effort of both parties and not just the woman
it's so funny how Nigerian women thinks... the only person who seem to be realistic is the lady with the natural hair. for the ladies who blames Toke, abeg will the man remain married to her if she was the one who cheated? i don't think so... everyone should be held responsible for their actions and i don't think she should be blamed for this.. We should learn to comfort each other and not pull each other down. she did nothing wrong for striving to be successful neither did she do anything wrong for showing him off on social media... Every woman should stand for their rights and know their values... You can't part the man in the back for cheating just for the fact that he is a man... am just saying
Lol, aunty is upset that the husband’s photos where taken down from social media 😂😂😂😂 ..ha!! Hanty please respect yourself ooh. No wonder men think women are stupid
this is rubbish...This sounds very shallow minded. Even if you will talk about her, its not proper to use her as a topic of discussion and call her name. You are all women and its heartbreaking the way you blame a woman for her husband's infidelity. That is not acceptable. I am upset. I agree with the lady with afro, a man who wants to cheat will do so irrespective of what you give to him or how public d relationship is. The woman should not be blamed. You ladies can as well say its a ladies fault for being raped probably because of the way she dresses. So what happens to d children who are raped or a lady who is fully covered up and still get raped. Never blame a woman for her husband's infidelity!!!
People should stop expecting GOD to take care of marriage. Two people made a vow to be faithful to each other. Please leave God out of this, He is Minding his own business in heaven as he has already given everyone free will
men using this avenue to excuse their utter indiscipline. "women should keep their home", not "the married couple should learn to keep their home". The vows of marriage are sacred; if you're not ready, stay single. These same people would go to their places of worship and act hypocritical. i wonder if it would be described as Maje being proud if Toke was the one that cheated and somehow he had the "audacity" to delete her IG pictures. i laugh at the thinking of most people. making a relationship work is half God, half the effort of BOTH parties.
Truth is bitter...alhaja saying african men are polygamist in nature is right except someone can sincerely show me five men that has only slept with just one woman.....we can find that in women but no man...ever...i have not seen one...butnot witstanding once u ve sworn an oat to be with your partner why going back
omolara abimbola HAHAHAHAHA I can show you five women who actively cheat on their husbands. BOTH MEN AND WOMEN LOVE SEX.....So based on your analysis both men and women are polygamist.
pls calm down this ladies are not tossing the blame game. they are all sharing their opinion. everyone including you and I have a right to their opinion. neither have they castigated the woman. At this point there is more than what meets the eye. I kind of agree and disagree with everylady. Pls watch the entirety of the video before commenting. nobody is actually blaming the woman neither are they blaming the man. For me i hope each party find a common ground to rectify whats going on. if it aint worth it just move on and if its worth it stay. Anyway this ladies to me did no wrong, They themselves are married and speak based on experience and what they belieive.
anyways just love the way the ladies in the show 're throwing their own views;;cos if i must say;;all of them 're saying the truth;;despite of all the interuption..
Again I have been watching TVC News Nigeria for a while. Watching this show on RU-vid @ this ladies do more than a fantastic job with all their comments. As I said women or people coming to this video and making assumption to say this ladies opinion are stupid and ridiculous need to watch this video again. As I said if you go to the world giving relationship advice to people you have to make sure that your relationship is great. Toke relationship with her husband must have been flawed based on what I saw on an interview with Liz yemojah pls before you make a comment about this go watch that video. Its on RU-vid. Something wasn't right about this relationship, also based on interviews she gave prior. And that's were the lady with the natural hair on this video said. Look this ladies are speaking from experience. They are not newbies to marriage and relationship. A lot of you commenting to say this women are pulling Toke down are either newbies @ don't wanna hear the truth. Let's get real. How do you date someone . man oh woman ohhh for 10 yrs @ don't know them that much. Come on if am with someone that long and I know they have walked out on me before pls there is no way I will agree to be married to them. Thats me. My take if it worth it Make @Toke should make it work. If not all should find who they intend to spend the rest of their life with
