A global, community-based healing experience created by Dr.Nicole LePera +Jenna Weakland. Each week, we host raw, unscripted, open conversations about the things we are REALLY dealing with on the journey of facing our pasts and becoming our best Selves. Together, as community, we create resonance with "strangers" around the world as we collectively witness our own triggers, habits, traumas, and inherent wisdom. This is, and always will be, an ad free experience. Subscribe to our SelfHealers Soundboard RU-vid channel to view these weekly podcasts with (captioned) video and connect with us and each other in the comments. New episodes every Sunday at 12 PM PST.
Mother of 2, AF Vet, Wife of 23 years, made the decision to go “no contact,” (everyday 🧘♀️✨)in the midst of the self-healing journey, EVERYTHING you both said resonated 💯. Thank you for making this video! 🙏💜🌺🧘♀️
Thank you so much, this was what I was looking for, recovering from a very fresh break-up. Especially the remarks about the self-talk and way this is also an opportunity to weave a new net of selfcare and compassion and seeing my old coping. Going for a walk and find some trees now ❤️🩹
funny, you mention being in a sacred bubble of coziness in a little nook, with comfort items such as blankets and such because i was literally looking on pinterest for DIY outdoor canopy ideas, i saw a tapestry used as a diy tent and i was like YES that’s what i need, its cozy, relaxing, its in the elements without being overstimulated by them (i say because i live in the plains surrounded by mountains so the sun can be intense - a gift.)
So thrilled to have been here to witness such authenticity which invites all of your viewers to step more fully into our own authenticity! You are all beautiful human beings and so happy to share in your journey❤❤❤
that's part of the people pleaser reality that people accept, depend on how nice and willing but don't actually return this energy of seeing them as being reliable and good they take it for granted and abuse this nature. and I get we are saying that putting others first is something we learned and it can be destructive. it just feels like its always the thought ones going around being resentful of the thoughtless or something like that! people pleasers get trapped in this single note of giving and those around them lock into this single note of taking ? and its this terrible boring pattern. sometimes people have the habit of rolling over people and need it to be called out but there are these people that just won't "give you the satisfaction" they know exactly what you want but go the other way as the behavior pattern
what happens when you bring up something to someone but they don't see, won't see it, aren't interested. basically shutting you down that this stuff you feel or think is yours not theirs and "nothing to do with them" I mean I can go around taking all the responsibility and excusing everyone from any part but this doesn't feel quite right. we always hear about this i can't or won't read your mind yet, i feel that's the unspoken language of needs and wants that are universal and pretty basic ...I feel like people desire people to participate, to be involved, to be considerate; Not rejecting or shutting down or turning away these things confirm that asserting yourself can get you exactly what you don't want, in fact the complete opposite.
Dr.Bradly cooper developed the Enotion codes which clears emotional blocks from the energy body and helps you to process and release those blocks which will help you not bring your personal experience into the experience
Hi, you can see them on the self healers circle. There is a reasonable monthly fee. They were doing these without any ADS and they were great. 5:55 What disappointments me however, is they just ended at 99 without letting their podcast community know they had decided to take a break or end. Anyway..hopefully one of them see this. Sure hope the same thing never happens in the circle.
I’m sorry, I lost you at “masculine vs feminine energy”. There is no scientific basis in that, in fact it’s grounded in pure misogyny and used by patriarchy to justify traditional gender roles. Ladies, please stop believing in these lies. It’s not doing us any good.
HI Dr. Nicole & Jenna, I loved listening to the poscasts, thank-you. i listened to all 99 of your podcasts on the podcast app and am a member of the circle (Junie). I''m really puzzeled that you choose not to say "good bye" in this community. I listened intently a few weeks ago to episode 99 as I saw there had benn no others posted. for anything that would put a wrap to the poscast or let us know you are taking a break. Anyway, you are amazing and I enjoy the circle very much.
Yes I intently listened on Spotify last year, and found the episode incredibly helpful in my journey to self-love and healing. I came on RU-vid to see if there was any notice of a return, or why the episodes stopped, but to no avail. I am hoping all is well with the Jenna and Nicole and sending them positive vibes and love ❤
The "heart" you describe is pseudoscience. The heart, as emotions, is actually mediated in the brain. The physical heart may put an frequency, but it's not a magical thing.
It's really upsetting that this video with so many important and deep insights, and so many views, have very few likes. This is such an important subject, and it's so helpful and healing, I wish all people who benefits from your content would understand the importance of interacting and supporting the channel with their likes. Thank you for helping us navigate our pain and emotions and learn from your journey. This world needs so much of this kind of work, I hope we all come to this awareness soon!
Subscribed. Together you have given a practical wide-ranging and detailed description of holding space for both therapists and non-therapists. I just discovered your channel and this episode in particular and I hope more people do so too
THANK YOU BOTH SO MUCH FOR THESE PODCASTS! After listening to Episodes 71-75 I've discovered why I've been feeling the way I have for decades. My mother had chronic health issues from the time I was born till 2yrs 9months then passed away suddenly. My dad told me that he came home from work one day when I was an infant and I was screaming from my crib,my mom was too tired to get out of bed to change me and he had no idea how long I had been in that state . My emotional development was severely hampered by her not being able to connect with me emotionally while she was alive. Either in How to do the Work or one of these episodes, you talk about how brain waves go from Delta through the other 3 patterns as we go from birth to 5 or 7 years old, those same stages that adults only get through nightly sleep. Very informative and relevant to my pattern of Dissociation. I really relate to Dr. Nicole's steady state of activated anxiety and coping style, so thank you so much for sharing. My wife has been coaxing me to do this kind of work for 20 years and I've started and given up so many times. The part of this episode where you explain how the 90 seconds of emotion is a constant overwhelm for people who've been living dissociation all their lives that it feels like it will never end and will kill us. THAT is how I've felt and why I've never been able to put in sustained effort. (Also because part of my style is not wanting to start or continue anything that I felt I wasn't going to be good at, hence, procrastination and giving up/walking away.) There is a HUGE amount of grief arising for not having been able to make these changes sooner. I'm allowing it to come up and out as it arises and not being completely overwhelmed by it. I can't emphasize enough the way you have the material sequenced, organized and how you two present it here has helped me in the last couple months consolidate all the things my wife has been a living example of throughout our marriage related to Awareness, watching and verbalizing her own thoughts and feelings as she notices them throughout each day and working to stay in the Present Moment. It is all coming together for me now. I'm being gentle with myself, working with my Therapist , watching my thoughts arise and reading/writing every day. I could never previously imagine making the kind of progress I'm seeing in myself, or the ability to progress through it without completely falling apart. Thanks in large part to you two, this is my moment to OVERCOME! BTW, I notice that most of the Self-Healers comments are from women. I'm male and I wish more men would at least attempt to change their lives for the better. I've already shared the podcasts with one male friend who asked me for details after I mentioned that I'm working on this. I'll continue to spread the word as appropriate.
5:29 I think this fear of loss is connected to the idea of "I'd loose myself if the other would vanish". If I build up my identy or my feeling of being connected to anything around being received by the other. Because they were kind of my anchor of existence. So I agree a 100% - it's about becoming our own anchors by prioritizing our relationships to ourselves. And by feeling safe and anchored with ourselves, we're not so threatened by the idea of loss, since the anchor of our existence - the relationship to ourselves - stays stable.
I am on my 5th yr healing journey and it still stings! I can see things clearer now but I am having a hard time to forgive the ones that hurt me and I feel bad about myself in that aspect.
Chills when you mentioned the memory of laying in bed as a child and thinking you would be attacked if you moved. I haven’t felt like that since childhood but I never ever connected that with my father wound. Thanks for sharing this 🙏🏼
WOW!!! Ladies, this episode (and the meet your emotions one) REALLY hit home for me, especially Nicole's description of her inner landscape. I realize that I am constantly in an activated fearful, anxious state. I've recently started working on myself around this issue and your presentations of the topics are easy to understand and very relatable for me. I have been watching, pausing after every couple sentences and typing the explanations and examples you give and how it pertains in my life. I'm continuing to look at your other shows and choosing the ones that speak to me loudest for more of the same. THANK YOU BOTH for using your valuable time to make these podcasts. They are way beyond helpful for me in understanding my lifelong anxiety, where it comes from, and how to begin regulating it in effective ways. P.S. I just finished taking my own notes on this episode and discovered that the whole thing is transcribed. Thank you for providing that. It will be much faster to copy/paste the transcription then add my own thoughts than typing out your conversations from the videos. YOU BOTH ROCK!!!
TAT (Tapas accupressure technique) works on completely clearing up and healing past trauma at the core. Wondering if you've heard of it. I telate to both your stories and I've completely and deeply healed those triggers through TAT
This is excellent! I struggle within this journey chasing the euphoria state. I realize that I am trying to create a process for healing. I try to be gentle with myself saying that it's all trial and error to see what works for me. Thank you for sharing
Thank for higher clarity and understandable emoitional core issue enlightenment...previous dating of women who mimicked my toxic birth mother personality...narcissistic, rageful, emoitionally distant...etc.....the confusion in my mind of love equels control, transactional love patterns, black/white thinking ...etc....a slow tedious road of recovery has unraveled the intertwined disease with my identity/personality...very grateful for your transparency and gut level honesty...keep the pods going:)
How have I only found this now? Wow. Thank you. I'm power watching the videos in my spare time and also reading Nicole's new book. This is the most hopeful thing I have seen in a long, long time. I'm so grateful....
Omg I still do the longing and chasing in my romantic relationships. Always seeking out emotional unavailable men that I romanticize and try to conquer. I know am aware of it but it’s just the beginning of the healing journey
Ummmmm….. dude… you cracked “it”. The feeling- the pain- I feed and feed and feed…. It’s a part of MY self I rejected… living in exile. I learned I had a SELF a year ago. I hv known a lifetime of my family issues challenges trauma and rejection. I didn’t understand the pain was self rejection. Dude! This is HUGE! I don’t think you can possibly know how big this is for me. Thank YOU ❣️
