I have definitely experienced a shift in priority from work to family life since getting married and becoming pregnant. I resonate with it being a biological shift. Almost like this is what I was destined for. My maternity leave is almost over and financially I don’t have a choice but to work. So I am definitely experiencing an identity crisis, and a lot of guilt, especially because I don’t have the luxury of choosing and my hours are not flexible. As a result I have resolved to work only my work hours and not a moment longer. This has caused conflicting feelings of not being ambitions enough because I am now choosing to implement firm boundaries and to prioritize my baby outside working hours. I think it is also necessary to recognize that female employment is not geared to family life and a mother’s priorities.
For the other first time mommas (I’m pregnant with my third), a big reason why she probably got so tired so early on in labor is because she was super hyper-focused on every sensation which does wear out a person mentally + physically. It’s best to ignore it as long as possible until the pain is not ignorable. I know it’s easier said than done when it’s your first pregnancy and it’s all unknown. 💓
Love this episode Lucie-- can so so so relate as a business owner and someone who just had their second baby in August and has a husband who is an equal parent. I love my work, AND also daydream about homesteading every other day now that number 2 is in the mix. Curious how things have been going for you with baby number 2 here now. For me, this teetering has gotten SIGNIFICANTLY more intense.
You make a lot of great points. I think an option that is not really available to working mother's is part time, flexible, and or hybrid work. I think so many more women would be in the workplace if there were positions like that that provided benefits, got them out of the house, gave them some adult time and still allowed them to parent as needed. But that's not an acceptable option, most companies do not allow for this it's either full time or nothing. You've got college educated women unable to be utilized to their potential because she can't work 40+ hours
I absolutely agree that society needs to be set where women (and men) can make the choice that is best for their them and their families. If I had the means, I’d love to be a stay at home mom. Whereas one of my good friends has the means and chooses to work. And I respect her choice
I totally agree with you! And as a mom who does have a corporate job and doesn't even really enjoy my job, I still priorotize work because it is a time I can sit and be by myself, drink coffee, be in silence, pee when I want to, get out of the house and while I do that my son is at daycare where he plays with other kids and learns and does acitivities. I think it's a benefit for both of us. His childcare he gets to do new things that he doesn't do at home, and I get time to refresh
This was great to listen to! I totally agree with you Lucie. I am so sick of women being pressured to have to do either, work or stay at home. I personally am excited for the phase of life when I can be a homemaker and stay at home with my kids, and I honestly felt bad sometimes because in college my professors made me feel less than because I didn't have huge career ambitions. I know that mother's who work probably feels the same pressure and judgement because they DO want to work. I agree, society needs to be set up to support the family unit, and whatever they decide is best for each individual family. Thanks for your thoughts Lucie 😊
Love this episode 🤍 I've been following since your Refinery days, and you've been a source of inspiration for me for years while building my career in finance while still maintaining my hobbies, sports and relationships. 😊
I fundamentally understand your reasoning for including the part where the guest didn't want to be a surrogate for anyone other than heterosexual couples, but to me, she also represents a good example of the new trend where people who hold and act on such beliefs have increasingly mastered the ability to express their views in a way that sounds incredibly empathetic and intelligent, while their intention remains the same: I do not want equal treatment for LGBTQ individuals. While it's neither required nor expected that you would do this (especially because it's incredibly confrontational to push back so hard), I would have enjoyed it if you had asked her more about her views. In a way, I think she was allowed to come across as more open-minded than she really is - it was great that editing Lucy chimed in; you made it very clear that you were also shaken. I’m a journalist by background, and a few questions that came to my mind were, for example: ‘Would you see it as a problem if no surrogates were willing to help LGBTQ individuals?’ - ‘How do you think you would approach talking about startong a family to your own child if they turned out to be homosexual?’ - ‘If you had to explain your views on same-sex parent couples to someone without any concept of religion, how would you reason it out?’ I think we must try to get people to stand by their views with very explicit words when those views actively harm others. When they're allowed to package it nicely in rhetoric, it’s easy to be dazzled, and when you’re dazzled, it’s easier to become a supporter. I think you did an amazing job, and this is genuinely not meant as a criticism of you, I was just really disheartened by the guest’s views. I ultimately do not support creators with these views and I would not have opted for giving them clout to spread those views on my platform
