This year I have realized one extremely powerful thing. And that is that regardless of what happens, whether you move forward one year or backwards, or feel stuck, in the grand scheme of things you are still making progress. I used to be a 16 year old who was suicidal, hated himself and didn't even plan for the future cause I thought I wouldn't be around. Yet, 8 years later, I am much better and have dreams and understand that change is always there. You will not be the same when you're 30, or 40, or whatever. The same time that makes food go bad makes a tree grow. The only thing is we need to learn how to take care of our garden so it can grow.
Your videos make me feel better about myself, you're right even if I have no friend and I'm too anxious I'm cool too ! thank you so much for sharing your story !
honestly social anxiety is no joke! one thing that helped me was getting a fast food job, i was forced to socialize with co-workers, managers and customers. it truly helped with me social skill which intern made me more confident and friendly to people who also struggle with social anxiety. this job worked for me, so if someone wants to branch out but doesn’t know how to, maybe try working in some type of team oriented/ customer service job. it worked for me and may work for you!!
2023 was... a year. Not much happened on my end either so I get how you feel. Embracing therapy is great, it's important to have people to talk to and to understand who you are and how you're feeling. Whether that continues to be a therapist or a best friend or a random voice, we as humans need people like that having our backs. Glad you're still making these videos, baby steps am I right? Wishing good vibes your way dude, you aren't going through anything alone. I'd say you could reach out if you needed to someone to talk to but I'm sure you don't wanna do that with some stranger online haha
I learned better habits in 2023 like mindfulness meditation (used a little book called 30 Days to Reduce Depression by Harper Daniels which was coo), exercising a lot more with much more intensity, cutting down on caffeine by 90%, and going to be earlier. I hope to continue these into the new year and add more.
My 2023 was awful. My parents put me in a religious cult that manipulates drug addicts, me and some other boy were there just because of depression, I understood it was a manipulation cult, got out. Without job, I was with a freelance here close to my house. But I had to start dating. I HAD TOO, didn't I? Just to deal with useless sh1t! Broke up. When I finally could work in my freelance after a period of rain, I fought with the ownet. Now, I am unemployed, doing nothing all day.
Hey man I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that this year. It really sucks when you get into that cycle of one bad thing after another happening. I’ve also had some family and job issues so I can somewhat relate to all that stuff. I’ve just been trying to take things one step at a time so that I don’t get completely overwhelmed by all the problems in my life that need solving. Who knows maybe 2024 is our year 😂 hoping things get better for you soon!
2023 was interesting. I definitely developed the hardest work ethic of my life, but things still did not exactly go my way. Also, anxiety and negative feelings are a part of being young, inexperienced, and a lack of real world accomplishments. It’s nothing to be ashamed of! We all go through it to an extent.
It really helps being out of college and being away from the pressure to 'fit in.' Dont get me wrong it was easier there than in high school, but that was when I started to realize that I'm autistic, and because of that people are likely to leave me or take advantage of me, which causes the social anxiety in the first place, but that's ok because I still have one true friend and I'm ok with being alone for right now, while I'm still in the process of filtering out the crap that society has imposed on me/learning to walk in my own shoes, which builds confidence.
Try getting on buspar. Works wonders and it's non addictive. If that doesn't work, embrace solitude as your friend, we all eventually branch away from each other when we get older.
School daze yeah.. but now NONE, either. It's OKAY tho. Yeah. I felt the same way too. I'd just be like shy heh.. yeah, I'm like how do you converse with ppl? How do you be with someone, etc.. so yeah. I feel your Pain😢 It's OKAY. You're touching many through your Videos now heh😊 Keep your head up. Much ❤! 😊🙏💕
I know about what you went through because no one has the fully exact same experience but I'm just turned 39 and I still don't have any friends because of the exact same in school and after school Just don't never ever give up
This is 100% true, however, because I don't want people to know that I have SA I just admit to people that I'm "Introverted", and usually they agree with me and we go on with our day. I was born an extrovert and I do enjoy talking to people, but that feeling of serotonin or whatever is gone now so this is called Anhedonia and it has teared my life to pieces. I usually just make small talk with people and don't go overboard with talking too much like I used to do before SA.
My son is about your age, he told his mother that he felt the same as you, I will take this on board when I talk to him next. We don’t see each other much, but this is good information for me to understand we’re he is at. Thank you.
God bless you brother you are in my prayers i hope you are better im sure you will make lots of friends it does get better i never had friends until i was 26 it will get better take care God bless man
Schools have always punished introverted behaviour, but they do it in subtle or indirect ways. Schools always have a desk fitted with two chairs, so sitting on my own would look “weird” and thus, I’d be considered an even greater outcast than I already am. Also quiet kids are usually easy to identify, and it sometimes feels like even the teachers participate in the alienation and isolation which leads to the suffering of such individual. This is exactly what I’ve had to deal with for such a long time. I’ve struggled with social anxiety which is further exacerbated by my speech difficulties, this effectively lead me to being extremely depressed and anxious and it’s taken a toll on me. Even though I have healed, part of me is gone. I was a kid, and I had no protection from my school institution (private catholic secondary school in Ireland), but I am forever grateful for my family, who love me and always, ALWAYS accepted me for who I am. If anybody reads all of this, and especially if they struggle in social situations, life gets better, don’t listen to anyone who tells you your school days are your best days, because they’re not. ~ Sam
I’m really sorry to hear you going through that. I hope over time it got better. I was in the same loop. Had an awful time in high school no friends and everyone ignored me. After high school is tough because I started working right away and it so much harder to try at work versus younger. It’s really hard to get out of the no friends loop. I’m still trying and determined to get out of it. I hope you found new ways to make friends
So what? Why you begging? Be a man! Who gives a shit about friends? The best friend that you can have is yourself man! Take the responsibility for the way you are! If you don’t like the way you are just start doing something about that! Go workout! Do something! Stop complaining about everything! It’s time for you to change your software 😂 To be honest you have something very good on you: Social anxiety! That’s very good brother! Makes you be far from the human stupidity! Go to the gym! Create goals on your mind! And fck everybody!
