These requests are so basic. So minor. Many are just base level interpersonal and communication skills for relationship management. As so many of these trolling comments convey, women’s asks for decency scrape the bottom of the bucket and are still too much.
Delphine, you were spot on from beginning to end.I appreciate and thank you for your effort and deep research. Your perspective on this matter is worth more compared to the sadly common insaitable mindset. There's always an area for us men to bring out the best version of ourselves 💪 Keep it up amid all the negativity 💯 (🧑🏿)
Thanks so much for that, J! I really appreciate your continual encouragement - and absolutely, we are all learning (and will be until the end of our time) God is patient with us, so we ought to be patient with each other, even when there's negativity ;) But gosh, what a ray of light this comment is in this stream.
I just clicked on this video to say, who the F cares what women think. These rules don't apply if you are a rich and famous dude. Most women can be bought with money. Bye
Interesting comments. You must have been married with kids a long time to truly have a concept of what men believe, or perhaps you'll have 20 cats in your 40s and reflect, who knows. Many men find your speech faults, such as an excessive use of "and like", an "ick". My husband included. Quality men are not interested in women who are so invested in the male psyche that they preach about it and make their entire social following about "dating" advice, especially from someone rather lonely.
6:50 into this, you say that you want yor man to be willing to "die first". Yeah, right. . . , so you can live to move on to the next man. So a big "Ick" for men are (and you also said) Hypocrites. Women want "Equality". Equal pay, equal this and equal that. But you want your man to be willing to "Die first". Heck, I'd toss her in front of the horse-and-carriage.
The driver has to avoid accidents not the accident avoid the driver.. what you need is what you need to integrate within yourself not change another to suit you
women don't like straight men, that's why they don't bother with most of them. they even dump the guys they marry 70-80% of the time. they should just marry gay guys or fess up and admit they prefer fantasy to reality.
hate to burst everyone's bubble but you're never gonna be double. while you're here you're always going to be separate from god and from other people so enjoy the time you have with them as you aren't guaranteed anything further.
i really appreciate the time and effort you put into this video. i can tell you're a great girl but i'm just not ready to hit that subscribe button yet. i'm at a place in my life where i'm not fully capable of giving you the kind of commitment that you deserve... but i do have two hot guy friends, jake and trevor, who might be a better fit. whenever i reject someone i always bring them an alternate offer and limit it to two options because 3 or more short circuits people's decision-making ability. kinda like when you criticize a work of art or product online it's always considerate to leave constructive advice on how to improve something rather than just say it sucks.
the most effective line is: 'sorry, i'm already taken'. it's vague and pins the rejection onto your situation rather than his inability to look like jason momoa. if you friendzone or tell him you're not romantically interested he could be insulted or take that as a challenge (remain in a friendship with you until he can prove himself). if you know he likes you and you don't like him back be a good person, don't accept anything from him and shut the door completely to any kind of relationship.
Enjoyed the video content. I totally understand the impatience thing! On a side note, hypothetically how would you feel if you where still single in ten years times? Could be an interesting topic to investigate.
So glad to hear! On your latter point, I'm trying to stop working in hypotheticals because it's waaaay too easy and distracting to our present situation to live in the past or the future. I think it'd be more interesting to hear lived experiences from people who have actually been single 10+ years instead. I saw this recently which you might be interested in: "How longing keeps us from healthy relationships by Amanda McCracken"
Sorry you think that, Jessica. I have some autistic people in my life and I love them - never a dull moment and always a good, honest conversation! I of course meant this video to address things only if they are in our ability or control. Learning social skills, in different capacities, will probably be lifelong for all of us!
People ghost each other in business, within our own families, long term friendships have ended because of this. It has become a rare trait for people to be upfront with each other in a firm and clear way. Women tend to utilize this method with men which is understandable if they are disrespectful and rude, it's deplorable if they ghost a man that has clearly shown them that they are cared about and offer a genuine friendship that has formed a strong bond over time and then bam, they disappear! Most likely because they may have found someone else. This causes the victim to wonder and feel like shit after they have shared a part of themselves with them.
It is a terrible trait - and often can come from a fear of commitment, a fear of finality or closure, or just an overwhelm. It's a terrible habit that this generation has gotten into, across the board - not just in relationships. And for sure, the healthiest response is to not take it personally, as hard as that is. I heard a podcast recently where a woman asked the question: "I've noticed communication has changed between us, after what I thought were a nice few dates of getting to know one another. It's fine if you've changed your mind about wanting to pursue this further but please do let me know. Thanks" and this opened the conversation and it ended up that the man had just been made redundant and had all this other stuff going on. I believe they stayed together in the end but it was her completely open, receptive and willing to walk-away attitude that opened up that communication. I thought that was interesting.
Right!? I've really been challenging myself when choosing what social events to go to. Asking myself, do I want to go, regardless of who might be there? That helps immensely!
There is always hope, especially if you have faith in the future. “The greater and more persistent your confidence in God, the more abundantly you will receive all that you ask.” Saint Albert the Great “Pray, hope, and don’t worry. Worry is useless. God is merciful and will hear your prayers.” Saint Padre Pio
Hi Delphine, while I am younger than you. I am also at a point in my time where I’m about to be 25 and a lot of my friends are in relationships or getting proposals or a lot of my coworkers who are my age are getting married and it does affect me. I have not been in a serious relationship. I’ve been in short-term situations and yeah, I will say that for me it does affect the way that I see myself and it does affect the way that I think how the people see me but I really like your perspective in this video. I think I used to go about dating in a desperate way and I too would stay in situations that didn’t really serve me and I still am learning what it is to be in a relationship. I’m still learning the things that I want and it will take time, but I know that my man that is meant for me will be for me when he is ready and when I am ready. There is no rush in that. I am spiritual but not religious but will leave it up to the universe/my god. Much love to you beautiful woman
I am so encouraged to hear that you're already able to be so reflective and relaxed in your approach! Absolutely, we can only compare ourselves to us as we were yesterday - there's no point in comparing to others as we all have different trajectories and timelines. I'm so glad this video spoke to you!
Some good ideas. I just stumbled onto your channel. I also appreciate that some of these comments are ones you can use when you already know the person but they don't seem to be getting any hints.
Absolutely. I think a lot of us have lost some of these more natural social cues, especially "in real life" with the advent of digital communication so it was great to crowdsource these ideas!
You are always going to have an exception to the rule like the last comment you shared. As you can see, how the majority of how most men commented is what I will follow. We know that society has changed a great deal since the Victorian age because of how a woman's identity and role has changed in today's society. Therefore, we have to make certain adjustments in order to stay current with these changes.
Absolutely, there's no one-size-fits-all - and it's always going to be a balance trying to adjust to modern times while upholding traditional values. Definitely something I'm still learning!
Just got out of a toxic 4 year relationship and feeling uneasy with singlehood and having anxious thoughts like am I even going to meet someone healthy, am I running out of time, what will happen to me if in the end I have to just “settle” for someone, etc. This video came on my fyp just at the right time. Thank you Delphine, subscribed to your channel! 🌷
I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this! Break-ups are so difficult but truly time is a healer and being strong in your single season will make you a strong, great partner when the right person comes along! Take this time to really advocate for yourself and to learn what fulfils you and brings you joy - another person isn't there to "complete" us so getting to a state of contentment alone is soooo healthy and will help to attract equally healthy people!
