Whether you have ghosted someone, or been ghosted, this toxic culture only encourages a lack of conviction, lots of cowardice, and a lack of healthy conflict. #Dating #datingadvice #datingtips #christiandatingadvice #christiandating
i really appreciate the time and effort you put into this video. i can tell you're a great girl but i'm just not ready to hit that subscribe button yet. i'm at a place in my life where i'm not fully capable of giving you the kind of commitment that you deserve... but i do have two hot guy friends, jake and trevor, who might be a better fit. whenever i reject someone i always bring them an alternate offer and limit it to two options because 3 or more short circuits people's decision-making ability. kinda like when you criticize a work of art or product online it's always considerate to leave constructive advice on how to improve something rather than just say it sucks.
People ghost each other in business, within our own families, long term friendships have ended because of this. It has become a rare trait for people to be upfront with each other in a firm and clear way. Women tend to utilize this method with men which is understandable if they are disrespectful and rude, it's deplorable if they ghost a man that has clearly shown them that they are cared about and offer a genuine friendship that has formed a strong bond over time and then bam, they disappear! Most likely because they may have found someone else. This causes the victim to wonder and feel like shit after they have shared a part of themselves with them.
It is a terrible trait - and often can come from a fear of commitment, a fear of finality or closure, or just an overwhelm. It's a terrible habit that this generation has gotten into, across the board - not just in relationships. And for sure, the healthiest response is to not take it personally, as hard as that is. I heard a podcast recently where a woman asked the question: "I've noticed communication has changed between us, after what I thought were a nice few dates of getting to know one another. It's fine if you've changed your mind about wanting to pursue this further but please do let me know. Thanks" and this opened the conversation and it ended up that the man had just been made redundant and had all this other stuff going on. I believe they stayed together in the end but it was her completely open, receptive and willing to walk-away attitude that opened up that communication. I thought that was interesting.
