You cried beside him you tried to speak respectfully tried to be there for them tried to forgive them tried to give them the space tried to do new things tried to help tried to understand and nothing is enough you are so imperfect for them. That you have to been forced to give up for your sanity
Stattera was a Nightmare......zero symptom relief....suicial the entire time !...........it has,since this video was released 5 years ago, almost completely INEFFECTIVE FOR ADHD ! Useful if you need to sleep
This is my 3rd day of taking it as prescribed, a low dose of 18mg and it is awful. Not only did my ability to focus or do anythything not increase (it claims to work after 3-4 weeks though) but i feel lethargic, numb, disinterested, too lazy to even cook a meal, or just to do anything at all. This is just ridiculous, never touching it again. I have tried stimulants a handful of times before being diagnosed but indeed they are effective but temporary fixes with side effects that should really not be a part of a healthy life. Now i'm just investing full spare time in finding a proper psychologist/psychotherapist who knows how to teach proper meditation, and making it by far my highest priority, without any compromises, to just re-learn how to be bored and take control of my mind Just my 2 cents for anyone who cares, my friends
I think my 63 yr old partner has ADHD. If ONE thing goes wrong then everything is AWFUL. This is so exhausting. He is an expert at noticing what is WRONG. One wrong event will set off a tirade of complaints - about things that happened years ago! He is always a victim....this is how he sees himself and it sucks for me to see him like this. Ugh. So one you tube video I watched said I have to "allow" him to "just be”..and not react. Ok but he goes on and on and on and ON…talks too much and Will not stop-even if I say : “STOP I am flooded and overwhelmed!” I have left the house many times just to get AWAY from him and get some peace..and this helps me calm down but if it's dark outside then I will NOT leave and so I have to endure this negativity which is depressing and horrible for ME I'm getting worn out .....agh……..he procrastinates, loses things, forgets thing, has time blindness, has anxiety, over talks and interrupts, gets distracted.
My adhd partner is dry texter and can go weeks and weeks without missing me if we dont see each other (out of sight, out of mind). Never plans our dates and i think that she is so used to that i plan all and im always first to ask should we meet up and thats SUPER annoying. When we see each other everything is super fine and happy. Many times i have talked how i feel and she have trouble telling how she feels sometimes, but she agreed and agreeing everything i say. I know she is trying her best, but i know i am overthinker myself and i think that she is too... Sometimes feels that she is playing mindgames or that my trust for her is lacking, but once again when we meet everything seems normal. Haven't seen her now for around 3 weeks and we have talked only few words via txt messages (she is the one who has 1st texted) and actually also called me for first time, it was a positive "shock" for me. I know she is thinking about me. I Just wanna show her that she needs to do something and i dont want to be ALWAYS that person who plans all...
It's awesome you try to understand your partner, but please don't hurt yourself. Try to be open and ask her if she is ok with more interaction, if she wants to be with You, she will try harder. Some people really can't text daily, but weeks without a properly convo isn't healthy for you and your feelings.
I decided to come out to my potential partner that I struggle with adhd, and I asked him (he’s probably neurotypical) to be patient with me and that I have a therapist to help me tame my symptoms and that I do cherish the relationship I have with him.
Second day taking Atomoxetine 40mg. 67 years old so I felt this might help my learning and attention span issues with focusing on some education I am brushing up on. Maybe a follow up on how the drug manifests itself as I am already having placebo effects as to being hopeful this will do me good. Doctor felt this not being speed based will not harm heart and increase my BP too much. Great video for those wanting to up their game with safe medicine.
Aderall makes my anxiety skyrocket and makes my mind feel jittery and alm over the palce, like I can't calm down. I thought dexedrine was the one for me but I told my new psych it only ever felt about 40% even at a very high dosage. She got me started on strattera and the side effects suuuck, but after a month, I think it's the one for me. I feel so much calmer and clearer and my brain feels organized. It is very lowkey, but apparently that's the perfect amount for me.
Just started Atomoxetine (3 weeks in) and it is putting me to sleep. I mean, I love that it helps me sleep, but I kinda need to be awake for work lol. Stimulants work better for me. Since it's been making me so tired, I've started taking it after work which kinda defeats its purpose.
It builds up slowly in the system, so should it matter if you take it in the evening or not? Also, have your side effects improved over the next 4 weeks since you posted the comment?
Thank you so much for this video. As a new mom and a partner to someone with ADHD, I have struggled to understand why they will seemingly forget we exist or feel like I'm becoming a parent to 2 people. I appreciate the advice and enlightenment into their struggle as well as weight off my own shoulders.
Strattera will absolutely crush your libido. Google it there are Reddit forms still with women and men complaining about your sex life completely disappearing on this drug. I’m surprised this is even legal because of the harsh consequences on libido.
Thank you. Tried 3 stims and none have worked, 40-60 still sounds way better than being in a bad state. Did you go through the NHS (I'm guessing youre from NI)?
I’m not able to take any stimulants because of a weight condition that results with me usually at 10x lower than what’s normal, taking it would cause my body to not be able to respond to it properly, especially with my weight, and i’ve been taking strattera for a month or so now and it’s changed my entire life. there’s of course been times i’ve gotten depressed when off of it since because of my weight it only lasts for 5 hours then wears off but strattera actually helped me with doing so much more in my life and fully being able to express myself so much, even if it’s just 40% better, it stilll is something i see my entire life differently with now
Is anyone like me? I basically do literally everything but the task i know it is very important to do? Like I know that i must study for an exam and i know i will. but im keeping myself busy to the deadline! Its like i really cant do something about that😀
I never knew all about any of this , I on verge of loosing someone I love because I didn’t understand or listen … I sorry Maria , hope I can fix this because I do love you…
Strattera just have the chance of causing severe liver damage and destroys your heartrate. Basically you get 1/3 of the effect of Amphetamines but the side effects of a lifetime meth user -.- Yeah im staying on Yvanse
It really hurt. My boyfriend is the same he has ADHD. He’s a good man but it’s hard to communicate with him. Also I get so excited mentioning you woman’s name that hurts my heart so badly I love him. I try to help him as much as I can. Hopefully he will get help. That’s what I’m waiting for. My heart goes out to all of you and I know how you guys feel, it really hurt makes me feel I very sad. 😢😢😢😢
This crap made me feel spaced out and slow. Not much help on ADHD except killing my energy drive. I felt real spaced out and almost floating after day 4 of taking only 25mg. (My body is sensitive to meds) luckily no urine issues that I noticed but I just feel out of it which makes me more anxious.
You said a lot in this short video, but God it goes so much deeper than feeling rejected or perceiving rejection. It is anticipating rejection and feeling as if you been punched in the gut or a heavy brick is laying on top of your chest. You can go from feeling happy to feeling like RSD came in like a wrecking ball; wrecking your whole mood. And it comes on so fast, and in a snap of a finger you feel it so intensely. It gives no warning, and often times you hate yourself for feeling that way. That something that is in your head, with no evidence attached can seem so real. That you just cannot shake until you hear from that person. My RSD is what leads me into my impulsive behaviors and not giving a damn; it is what causes me to shut down and withdraw, thinking people don't like me or I am just pushing them away. When RSD kicks up for me, I literally lose my breath. And depending on the situation it can last for days or weeks, or even longer. And I really experience RSD when it comes to people I like or start to feel an attachment to. I have already thought multiple times that my therapist is getting tired of me and she doesn't like me, or she is starting to not like me. But I know she does, and me projecting those thoughts on her is not fair. I also have BPD, so reading natural body language when I am in that state becomes so difficult, I really have no words for it. I know I will get better because I have a good therapist (she's not perfect, as none of us are, but she is the best therapist I ever had, which I get scared because it seems too good to be true, and because of my BPD I fear that I am going to push her away). I absolutely hate this, but right now when the feelings come all I can do is feel them and write about them. I have a tendency to get attached to people that I feel understands me, or just allows me to be who I am. I am working in therapy when it comes to my BPD favorite person, who is also my ADHD hyperfixation person. Literally low key obsessed with her, and again, I try to stop the feelings but they are so strong. I am really trying to work on healthy attachments. It's just right now my mind in its dichitimous thinking is telling me that seems near impossible. But I am not giving up and I will put the work in. But just wanted to say, yes people feel sensitive to rejection, but the key word in RSD is the word Dysphoria, which means unbearable. William Dodson on the RU-vid channel ADDitude has really good content on RSD and emotional dysregulation. Many people have strong reactions to rejection, or even perceived rejection, but not many outside of ADHD mostly, and other mental health disorders such as BPD and Autism, have (R)ejection (S)ensitive (D)ysphoria.
Oh, of course, ADHD makes relationships a breeze! Who doesn't love constant surprises and miscommunications? It's like a romantic comedy, but without the romance! 😅
Was diagnosed yesterday, first psych appointment coming soon. I the meantime, I promise I've done wonders for your video watch time, as I've had to re-watch this at least 100000000000 times because I got distracted.
😢 I dated my now ex boyfriend for 4 and half years he has ADHD. I tried so hard daily to help him with assurance and understanding him. But as much as I tried seems like nothing mattered. Sadly I will miss him. Wish things would have turned out better. 😢
I have dated another neurodivergent person, but at the time I didn't know about my own problem. It was really hard to understand eachother and to talk about our problems. We broke up, and that is when I had time to think about my problems and that is when I discovered my ADD. Now it is too late sadly. But I do now recognize that a lot of the problems we had came from undiagnosed ADD and not knowing how we had to communicate because of it.
i wish i had watched this before things went south with my girlfriend, people need to give way more importance to adhd rather than just a "shes kinda silly"
For the folks with ADHD, trust me, there is a partner out there for you. If you look at some of the negative language used in these comments, you can see that ADHD is still not given the same care as other conditions physical or mental. On the outside, ADHDers appear “normal”There is a responsibility that you have with ADHD, however, there are partners out there that are for you, and will help you and be a positive in your life that motivates you. If you’re in a relationship with someone who uses language like you’re like taking care of a child, I am telling you now, this relationship will not improve and you will continue to feel bad about yourself. This person only cares about how they feel. get space to get your mind right through therapy, medication, fitness or whatever you feel is necessary but get that help etc etc. the right partner who understands you is out there for you. Don’t be a slave to someone else’s happiness only. Because you with ADHD, will never be happy in that situation
Many of us on the other side end up forced to only care about how we feel after repeatedly trying to be there for the ADHD partner. It is as if they push you to the limit until you have no more left to give, and then they turn you into the bad guy while completely ignoring the cost of dealing with their condition. We end up focusing on ourselves and hoy miserable we feel because we need to survive. Mental conditions are context, not an excuse for bad behavior and neglecting the person you claim to love. I understood my partner, I simply got tired of a one-sided relationship where he was not even able to communicate his needs and instead, he would explode or become distant without even saying a word before. Maybe because he couldn't, who knows, the thing is that everyone has their limitations, not just ADHDrs
So I’m here because my boyfriend has adhd… I’m so conflicted because I love him and his a great man but the adhd cause issues in our relationship. I really don’t want to leave him but I feel like I have no choice. I wish I had someone to talk to that had it or a support group or something…
l'm in the same boat my bf has adhd. Are you still with your bf ?if so how do you manage coz I find it very frustrating despite of loving him so much. Thank you in advance x
@@luciilamnuzou1246 how do I manage, lots of communication, understanding, learning him, sticking to my boundaries and standards. Worrying about myself and not mothering him. You have to build up a strong sense of self, be secure and dependent on yourself. Most importantly have your own life and support system. I also have a therapist as well…. Sticking up for myself and not being afraid of confrontation. Also educate yourself about it… how he is, how you need to be.. giving yourself space sometimes because it can be a lot…
@@luciilamnuzou1246 also control your emotion, learn how to fight fair. Make a list of all the good and things you love about him…. And hold on to that… and figure out how you can deal with the bad..
