Divorcing a narcissist or experiencing a child custody battle? You aren’t alone. The Family Court system is ill equipped to handle high conflict custody battles when a narcissist or sociopath is part of the equation. This can be an isolating journey that very few people understand. Tina Swithin understands your battle cry.
Tina Swithin’s family court case spanned from 2009 to 2019, during which time she acted as her own attorney. She faced extreme post separation abuse but refused to give up. She would not accept the court system's attempts to place more weight on parental rights than on the rights of her daughters to be safe, healthy and happy. Her ongoing mindset was, “if you are not going to protect my children this month, I will be back again and again... until they are safe."
Tina’s daughters are officially safe. Her ex-husband‘s parental rights were terminated in 2019 and now she wants to help you protect your children.
I finally just recently requested support for my children. Two fathers, same situation. Threats to take my child away and nar trickery to get out of paying support. So far, lies amount income.
Albert Einstein (1914) Albert wrote to his friend Heinrich Zangger that his soon-to-be ex-wife was 'poisoning' the children against him. Albert wrote, “My fine boy had been alienated from me... by my wife, who has a vengeful disposition.”
Hold on a second. This woman puts her name and the names of her two minor children on RU-vid along with a tragic, but one-sided story about how she lost custody of them? And worse yet, the host of a series titled "Divorcing a Narcissist" republishes it??? Is anyone here thinking about the best interests of this woman's minor children?
Thank you for validating my everyday experience(hell). It is very helpful for my own peace for me just to know I’m not the only one and there is little I can do about this.
Hola Soy una Abuela que está preocupada porque las trabajadoras sociales del condado de Ventura Ca. Están reunificando a Mi Nieta Ashley de 6 años con la Madre y Novio,que la an abusado física y sexual mente desde hace más de 2 años y medio,
Do you have any resources that you recommend for therapists trying to understand how to support moms who are clients? Really struggling with how horrid the court system is and the restriction on me to convey what my client is going through.
We have a lot of therapists who go through our coach training program: www.hcdivorcecoach.com It is an eight week, intensive program where we do a deep dive into everything one needs to know to support the healthy parent in the court process.
Do you have any resources that you recommend for therapists trying to understand how to support moms who are clients? Really struggling with how horrid the court system is and the restriction on me to convey what my client is going through.
I wish I could talk to you I have court Wednesday and I would love to share my evidence and get advice I’m prose and I truly would love advice I know you probably are busy and may not have time but please pray for me I have SO MUCH evidence but he has 2 law firms
I am so sorry for what you are up against and I am sending you so many prayers. I truly wish I had the capacity to jump in and help. There are lots of coaches I’ve trained who are skilled at these issues - you would go to www.hcdivorcecoach.com and then click, “find a coach.”
I love where you started, but when you got to court and tries to come before the court as not equal, you lost. Coming to court as anything other than equal without evidence or proof of allegation is mute. You seem to be speaking as though you and yours should be heralded as beyond equal for their reason and experience, which is not equal and ambivalent judicial decisions.
This is absolutely horrific, gut wrenching and heartbreaking!! WTF is wrong with these blind inhumane heartless people in the court system between the lawyers and the judges and even child care services! All they do is rip families apart! This is just twisted and wrong!!!! Those people have RUINED these children’s lives forever and destroyed everything pure about them! They destroyed this family!! A mother can’t protect her own kids and is powerless!! This makes me SO angry and disturbed!! This judge needs to be fired and removed! Know telling how many families this judge has destroyed!! They know they have the power and knowingly destroyed these people’s lives! 😢 How can these types of things be brought to light for the JUDGES to be heals accountable and called out for their lunacy??? Surely there are other judges out there aware of this and seeing what’s happening?!! I am so sorry for you momma and your two babies! The heartbreak you’re all feeling is I’m sure unimaginable!! Praying for all of you!! God hear our prayers and help our broken system, society and world.
The best way to attack victim is to play victim yourself, especially for females. These "woman and children are always the victim, she said - is a proof that something happened" laws are another tool for personality disordered female abusers to attack the real victims - their ex-male partners. They can tell all kinds of lays what happened behind closed doors, call police on heir victims. Courts should only look at evidence, not he said she said. And if you cache one party laying in court, you can assume that they are laying about everything. Police and courts should punish harder those who play victims and make false allegations.
There is something you can do for your kid to be better despite a divorce: let the kid half his time with his father. That's the kid's right. Be in peace with that. The kid is the product of two humans, you and the one YOU chose. Child custody is not about you. Its about the kid.
When both parents are healthy and not abusive, I do agree that children should be with both parents. That type of situation is not what we are talking about here.
I applied to be in the community but because I still reside under the same roof with my narcissistic spouse I was denied participation in the community so vitally needed. I’m in process of divorce. I’m struggling immensely and even from place you claim that is understanding and helpful I got turned down. I’m at the end of my top for any type of support and advice. I have a special needs toddler and my spouse accusing of not providing my child with all she needs she is demanding 50/50 time temp orders as a condition to move out of the house and I need help of people who have gone through this nightmare.
I am incredibly sorry. Unfortunately, we have learned some difficult lessons and it is a safety concern for group members. If you are still living under the same roof. In these situations, we recommend getting support from your local DV shelter or DV organization. Many have support groups and resources that can help you.
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I'm a father who just finished 6 hour final trial. Divorced over 10 yrs ago and mother had primary at divorce. Mother NPD and started hitting on an escalating scale past 2 years when her words no longer manipulated my son. When her narrative isn't followed someone gets hit. Son, dog, boyfriend. Master manipulator and can play victim easily too. Small frame and uses the optics to confuse authorities. 1.5yrs later I have son full time except 1.5hr visits w a police escort. Please reach out to me - I think we can collaborate and help others.
Ms.Swithin, you are 1000% capturing my experience with my ex-narc. It's such a sticky game for them--- narcs just love it. THankfully, I'm educating myself to understand the strategy and nuances involved in family court, and how to deal with a narc and his narc parents. They're actually evil. And I've seen God defend and protect my kids and myself through this. It still really sucks to walk through, as you said, it's painful and fear-inducing. Thank you for what you do!
Could you share your story of “chopped away night over visits”? That’s exactly what I’m trying to do but opposite keeps happening: he keeps being successful getting more nights over. I’d appreciate your sharing!
Social, courts and cafcass are all corrupt they do not safeguard children. All go with who says jump and whoever has pr doesnt't matter if they abuse the child physically or mentally.
I’m a man who has 3 daughters and their mother has narcissistic personality and sociopath behaviours. Its sad to see all this work done without sex discrimination. The empowerment and low self esteem can also be bad for a mother’s behaviour to her children. No comments on equality, justice, respect and professionalism from me here 😅
I was raised by my father, who was the healthier of my two parents. With that said, there is a reality to the work I do: statistics and research shows that men are far more likely to have these personality disorders, and, I speak from my own personal experience.
This method is how u survived ten years in the call center business. Spoke with a handful of narcissistic customers per day, yellow rocking was the only way through those conversations.
Tina, you are a disgrace. To claim Parental Alienation isn’t real is pathetic. In fact, I challenge you to do some interviewing with me to prove everything you claim here is false and the damage you were causing to children by denying facts is horrid. I’ll wait…
