No pain , no gain .

I struggle to just do one task, i even get dressed to do a certain task, but the paralysis just kicks in, and i get that same fear. I'm 63 recently diagnosed AuADHD, i also suffer crippling anxiety and serious depression, that stop me leaving the house, sometimes my bedroom. Im scared of people as it is, that comes from terrible bullying during my life, physical during my schooling, (i was the school punchbag) and mental in my adulthood, right up to 3 years ago that lead to me going sick from my 36 year bus driving career in UK, and ultimately i was dismissed last year, and effectively im now retired, but still 4 years away from my state pension, that i may not get if our new govt get their way. Im married to a lovely Thai lady , who lives at our house in Northern Thailand, whilst im still in UK, as i was here when i got so mentally ill. I live with my elderly sick mum as her primary carer. And this paralysis hits me when im asked to do jobs for her. Also , i got badly scammed last year, so now im scared of everything. I havent seen my wife since July 2023. As for choice paralysis. I am so bad with this, and i end up making choice that i later regret. I hate being me

Surprise, people paid money to blow smoke up adhd people’s asses go around blowing smoke up adhd people’s asses. Steady money in telling people they’re not ever responsible for their actions.

Heyyy I am actually in burnout rn :-: so I get a bit I guess numb or like just not interested in anything I also have seen myself just start to cry if I have to do anything- it’s sucky-

‏i believe that the main reason of depression is the lack of going forward No matter if its fun or not.. forwards is is never the same. Try to never live the same day twice

I'm curious how you recommend handling it when financial constraints are the reason why we aren't able to do what lights is up

Jokes on me, I have both 😂 kill me lol

My attention disorder says otherwise x3

Thanks for this information!

guy named "consistency":

This is not so simple. As a non adhd partner i am really devastating trying to keep up with our lives this way it is

Can you have both

This feels like it was written by someone with adhd,(absolutely not an insult).

100% happens to me too. I will avoid small talk like a plague when having social interactions with people, but as soon as I find my zone (far away from small talk) in a conversation I feel like the most interesting and charismatic person ever.

Just subscribed, just found you ... just listened to this episode and THROROUGHLY ENJOYED the fucking cussing, BRAVO ... LUV this shit !!! BRILLIANT / Cheers :)

I recently started meds that have helped with this a lot. It seems to happen randomly. Some days are worse than others, and I can get irritable when people talk to me on those days. Probably because it's so hard to participate in conversations and I can't keep up or process what they're saying. What's scary is that it also happens a lot when I'm driving. One minute, I'm pulling out of my driveway, and then I suddenly realize I'm exiting the highway on the other side of town. How fast was I driving? Did I run any lights? Did I cut anyone off? HOW THE FUCK DID I GET HERE?!? Thankfully, it seems that I'm a fairly good driver when I'm on autopilot. I haven't gotten any tickets, or gotten into any accidents, and no one ever honks at me, so I'm guessing my basic survival instincts kick in and drive the car while my mind is... wherever it goes. That's actually one of the things that helped me to see that my meds were working, because I'm finally able to remain mentally present on the way to pick up my kid from school.

This is great. Thank you

ADHDers? Lol

No way. I'm probably one of the most aware people on the road.

Why would I feel guilty when I replied in some way :)

Was super surprised to see the title! Going through unexplainable pains, recently came to know hyper mobility is the issue. and I really think I have ADHD. Though I m doing yoga since so long however there is soreness in the body most of the times. Haven’t found anything more resonating as much I did with this audio. Thanks a ton

Thanks, I needed to hear some of this. I'm struggling a bit with my ADHD husband at the moment. I wish there were more support out there for the partners too, because I never hear mentioned that we have to give up what we need and our dreams to live with them, or at least that's where I'm at. I'm learning. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done.

yeah, i recently did a final project for school that i thought would take 3 hours, but took 9 💀

It's a made-up condition.

My problem is online shopping.😢

Thanks

Thank you. Very helpful

I swear so much behind the wheel I make up swear words and it feels GREAT!!

🖤🎈🖤🤘🏽🍻🙏🏽

Too many f words, s**t words...sorry lady, not worth it

Are you using medication?

Love your interpretation thankyou

I have always been a swearer and have got into a lot of trouble at work for it and never made the connection. Now at the ripe old age of 49 i have been diagnosed with ADHD and struggle with RSD and emotional regulation i wonder if its related.

Great Video except for the FUCKING word all of the time...

It shows up when I transition from room to room sometimes. It shows up when I know I have something to do and the entire house is begging for my attention. I feel like I can stand in this one spot in my kitchen for hours throughout the day.

I’m really upset at the moment because I got shit for swearing in an adhd support server. How can they not empathize? Your video really helped me. It’s nice to have somebody that understands. Apparently I also have issues accepting rules that I don’t understand. Interestingly, 3 people don’t gang up on me because of the actual swearing but because I chose to have a conversation about it.

My joints are stiffer now but i could bend my joints previously

That's really helpful. It's easy to get lost in the negative thinking patterns. Easy to mistake being trapped in that loop of pain as something good for you in some twisted way, because you 'deserve it for x reason'. Everyone needs to break out of it by themselves, by clinging on to something positive for you. Even thought it's nice to have somebody else to help you out, no person should be the anchor to stop the negative pattern, you have to search and learn how to anchor yourself.

Comes from a different part of the brain... Check it out

The brain just needs a break now and then!

I make sure to bring only enough money for what I want

hahaha I can relate 😂

This explains so much. And why I look for moments of unexpected joy and laughter. Thank you. Now, I need to find a doctor so I can get back on Adderall... firetruck.... (HR friendly swearing... it starts and ends right...)

That is me! Great insight, thank you!

I found out early in life that I could never work under someone else. That's just not my thing. I like to work at my own pace. So I quit my job and tried a bunch of stuff that genuinely intrigues me... and ended up doing all of them 😅 Now I have multiple interests and multiple sources of income. I basically gave in to my ADHD and it’s worked wonders for me. I truly feel fulfilled... doing 10 different things I love. 😅

Is it too late to sign up? I just found your videos like a week ago - and today I saw this …I have never found anything online etc that matched exactly how you describe it to feel like in my head. I need help.😢

you said all the things I want to say to myself, for it to understand myself. it happens and i dont know if i really have adhd or i am really just a dramatic person trying to reason what is happening to me and how i do with life. sadly, i think i will never get the chance to get diagnose for lot factors.