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I work in a daycare and we treat them like our own. I don’t understand how some people who work in daycare, neglect the children if you don’t really care for kids, don’t work in a childcare environment.
@@user-wd3po8sd7k This video isn’t directed at childcare workers. It’s directed at parents. Parents should stay home with their little ones as much as possible and find relatives if at all possible if they have to work because of being a single parent. That’s the point. No matter how loving you might be, you still aren’t their parent and there are lots of other childcare workers who aren’t loving. Thats just a fact. What is best: Parents raise their own children. Moms stay home and raise them. That’s best.
My 3 year old son is incredibly strong willed and just plain strong. I'm going to try this but my first thought was that he's going to be attacking me the entire time. He will be hitting, scratching, biting, or head butting me. If I'm close enough he'll grab my hair or glasses. I'm at my wits end.
@@amberheaton9419 also, do not allow him to fight. Get hold of him and don’t let go until he surrenders. You can do this. Once he realizes he won’t win, he will give up. And if you are consistent, this will help him behave which will make him a much happier little boy.
I am a single mom of 2, my son is 18mo old, i also have a 9wk old daughter. He has recently started short screechs/shrieks as well as very loud crying fits when hes told no (ei like when he wants the blanket she's on or tries taking her binkie away from her etc) When applying this method, how do i correctly and effectively keep him from moving, turning or backing away from my hand? Am i supposed to hold one hand on his mouth and the other behind his head? So essentially wrestle with him flailing until he gets too tired to keep fighting it? His behavior is dramatically affecting my newborn during sleep and ultimately just really scares her. I don't want to make any of this worse for either of my children by incorrectly applying this method due to not understanding completely. Thanks for sharing your knowledge!
Thank you for asking. The first thing I want to make sure you do is watch this other video about how to prepare a sibling for a new baby. It is VERY important that your son feels loving toward his sister rather than envy or jealousy. You can help by doing everything you can to have him feel like he is part of her care. Yes, he is only 18 months old. I get that. He is not going to be changing diapers or reading her a bedtime story! But, ANYTHING he can do will help. He can take a diaper to the trash and put it in after you have changed it. He can hand her a toy, retrieve her binky, lightly pat her back when she is going to sleep, etc. ANYTHING he can do let him do it and encourage him to do it and then PRAISE him for his efforts. ALL efforts of caring for her should be met with appreciation by you. This will help tremendously in his behavior surrounding his sister. See this video first although I realize much of it is for BEFORE baby arrives. It is basically the attitude needed to help with the jealousy situation that seems to be developing. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-jshyB1aQ3gQ.html To your other question: Make sure you have plenty of one on one time and eye to eye time with your son. He needs to know he is important and his feelings matter. Then, when he behaves badly, you can apply CTM with confidence as needed. If he is trying to get away from your hand, you can use both hands to stop that from happening as you described. You can put him on your lap too or whatever is needed to keep your hand there. Remember NEVER inhibit his breathing in any way and remove your hand as soon as he stops --- and follow the CTM instructions exactly. If you haven't downloaded the instructions, I suggest you do that on my website www.mommyanswerlady.com You can do this! I hope this helps.
OH... I forgot. The short shrieks are likely something different. CTM is for the tantrum thing. Not the short shrieks for attention. Here is the video about the short bursts. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-TTWacXHCMtw.html
My son is 2 and I’m enrolling him into daycare now because I’m finally going to work. It’s best for MY mental health and my care for him. I appreciate this video because it makes me think about the negatives and this assures me that I’m okay with everything said 🩷
This comment is a bit confusing. You are enrolling him in full time daycare and are ok with the negatives presented here? That's really too bad especially for your child. Or am I misinterpreting your comment?
@@MommyAnswerLady to me, these are things I need to assess whether I am okay with it or not. It challenges my thought process. Lots of people have different opinions and I’d rather take them as ways to check how I feel about something as well. I know that most of these scenarios don’t either bother me or they don’t apply to my situation
@@MommyAnswerLady how is it really “too bad” for my child when you don’t even know my situation? You just seem like a typical gringa that expects everyone to agree with your thought process based on your last comment. I gave you a compliment and thanked you for providing this content and then you disrespect me? Garbage channel then lol Don’t share info expecting everyone to agree with you.
Thank you so much for your videos. You’re a great and intentional mother. I appreciate your videos as a 25 year old stay at home mother. Obedience, training, and maintaining a relationship where the child knows the parents are in the authoritative position is so important, but I can’t find that information from most people because people think that the word “obey” alone is wrong and taboo. You show me that you can be a kind and gentle mother and still maintain the authoritative role. Thank you so much and God bless🙏❤️
@@MrsBreezyyB You are correct. The progressive parenting world is going so far as to believe any boundaries or requirements put on a child are too restrictive. Any time a child is uncomfortable in the least bit, that is abuse! It’s ridiculous and causing so much chaos in the lives of families who listen to that nonsense. I’m glad you can see the truth! I also appreciate the encouragement 💕
@@RDR18851 that’s wonderful to know! I wish other parents could see some solutions are simple if they are willing to think through how things feel from the child’s perspective. Children can learn self-control. 💕
@@MommyAnswerLady definitely! I forgot to mention this is my grandson and as yummy as they are, I still felt close to strangling him!!! so now that I did this, I told my kids about it and they were like 'oh, really???'. but they just move on with life! I am very involved in their care so I can keep doing things to help them grow up to be more responsible. for example, they throw everything from their high chair when they are done with it.... omg, so I keep saying 'no throwing, give it to me'. they give me this LOOK but eventually throw less! I just find the parents to be so overwhelmed and anxious so I am a level removed emotionally and it is very helpful.
@@RDR18851 I guess you didn’t see the video on this channel about throwing food? I’ll send a link! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-CT3cCmdcrPc.htmlsi=05h4aNbxfSuiLvEM
OMG, daughter in law’s niece 4 yrs old screams every time she wants something…seems like it’s non stop when we’re w them. Yes I can stay away and may have to. No one seems to care to stop this behavior…….. (she is verbal, bosses her parents around) l can’t stand it…. my 3 kids never had this behavior so my tolerance is Zero.
@@SmidgeofSnow-ye8gh that is so sad. That’s not only a problem for the people around them, but it is a problem for your niece. She will have a misconception about her place in this world that will likely affect all the relationships she has. I hope someone is able to intervene, but that can only happen if the parents have an open mind to hearing it.
@@MommyAnswerLady oh thank you so much for your reply. This four year old screams are so high-pitched that it is painful to my eardrums. when I make a comment to her grandmother, she just shrugged her shoulders, my impression after being around this for a couple of years is that there OK with it. I won’t be surprised if this child is kicked out of kindergarten. She is not in daycare nor is she in preschool and she is an only child. She is very defiant and mouths off constantly to her mother or her grandmother or aunts
Think I’m going to start trying this with my son. He’s almost 2 and he likes to run off when I take him outside. It gives me anxiety so I don’t like taking him outside bcus it’s hard to tell him not to run off and the last time he sat on the ground for a while and we talked. Then once he got up he took off running again lol so I told him he can’t run away and to stay by mommy. He then sits back down and I also have a 7 mo but she was in their stroller wagon and can’t really see us. So I have to keep my eyes on her as well. Majority of the time I take them walking to avoid him running off but I know it’s hindering him from exploring outside. But I live near a busy street and just want to keep him safe. And once it’s time to come in my son will thro a tantrum really bad and he does this every time I bring him inside. I try to talk to him and tell him we can’t stay outside but it still takes him a while to settle down. Is there any tips or advice on how to manage his tantrums?
There is an entire playlist on this channel about how to teach a child not to throw a tantrum. That kind of behavior is not acceptable and he can learn that if you teach him. Here is a link to the playlist. ru-vid.com/group/PL3UBb1ffpIiuVEk0xtsbb99TaYdq94-ND
Thank you for your amazing video, i live in europe and i quit my corporate job and started a half time business at home to be with my daughter as much as possible . Since she is 18 months she goes 3 hours per day to a very small daycare (ratio 3 to 1), very nice staff , lots of montessori and outdoor activities, when she cried they call me and let me come to see her or pick her up. Her nap time and the rest of her day is with me always. I was able to breastfeed until 2,5 years old. She is now almost 3 years old and very happy to go see her friends and do the activities for 3 hours each day but if i have to do it all over again i will not put her there before the age of 2. I hope these 3 hours per day did not harm her i still feel so guilty because i learned more about how it is important to be with our kids at this age 😢
Thank you for telling parents that it would be best if their young children were at home with their mothers. That is really the ultimate solution because babies and young toddlers are naturally going to prefer their mothers to anyone else. The fact that children have separation anxiety is proof that they have bonded with their mothers and that's a good thing! Childcare should be a last resort.
lol. Thats about the most ridiculous comment I’ve received yet! Thanks for the laugh and comment. It helps the algorithm. And btw--watch a video through before commenting. It will help you avoid looking so foolish.
@@Shyster099 That would be very wrong. A child needs to be able to let a parent know when something is wrong as long as it is not to tattle. We should allow our children to warn us if there is danger about to happen. See this video about tattling vs telling. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-tooUvGlEmkQ.htmlsi=QhCJtzK9ETsKvLNa
I still believe in Santa but I decided this after Mom told me the truth. I like it because it's fun and it reminds me of when I was little. I still write Santa letters but I still believe in the true meaning of Christmas.
I like to check out churches. I would only like to know which one you go to so I can check it out online? I also like traditional churches that sing hymns. I'm not asking about personal information, just the church because I like to check out churches online everywhere. And I have enjoyed several of your videos.
I don't know if your church has an organ or just a piano, but if they do have one, that might be one of only a few places where the toddler might get to hear that instrument. When it's time to sing hymns, the child can listen for that instrument and maybe they'll begin to recognize it as they go to service more. They may begin to look forward to listening to the hymns the congregation sings in the future because of that and maybe one Sunday, the parent can discuss the instrument after a few church visits. I did not go to a traditional church until I was 5 years old, I associated hymns with snuggling with Mom at night because she would sing them every night. But the church we were going to sang modern praise and worship songs.
Yes, I work at a center and I can’t tell you how many times the children come to me crying for his/her mom or dad. So sad! Parents, pray that God makes a way for you to care for your own child(ren)
Eye to eye conversation alone is fundamental for any child, we see the impact it has on learning about their emotions and how to manage them. Moreover, it cultivates open and transparent communication that will bear fruit into adulthood
Even though it is a struggle as a single mom, I have refused to put my children into daycare. I only get jobs that work around my child's needs to ensure they get more of my time than anyone else. Being a mom is the best and i wouldnt trade it for anything.
Peas were one of the few vegetables I actually liked as a kid! My siblings not so much. Once, when I was 11, my brother was 9 and my sister was 3, my mom served a meal with Peas on the side. Just for fun, and because she knew my brother and sister weren't fond of peas, she put 3 peas on the plate of my 3-year-old sister and 9 peas on the plate of my 9-year-old brother. I got a regular serving, because for a change this was something I wasn't picky about. She didn't say anything. My 3-year-old sister looked at her plate, my brother's plate, and then my plate. You could tell she was thinking, but before we could ask what she was thinking about, she asked, with big eyes and an amazed voice, referring to the huge pile of peas on my plate: "How old is Erika?" 😂 It's one of my favorite family anecdotes. What a smart 3-year-old to make that connection, right?
I read Martha Peace's The Excellent Wife years ago and she mentioned exactly that about the second income going to other cost rather than really contributing to the household having more.
We had the choice of either 30min of playing on the computer (per kid, and we got to watch each other play) or watching one movie per day. We also had two screen free days per week. This was before smartphones. Now I'm a grown-up with a smartphone, just as addicted to it as those that grew up with no boundaries, except I have positive memories without screens to look back on. Any advice for grown-ups on training themselves?
For context, it's past 2am now, in my time zone and I meant to go to bed at least two hours ago, but got stuck in a RU-vid rabbit hole and ended up here. I'm going to go sleep now, but this happens more often than I would like.
@@MommyAnswerLady I've got a lot of hobbies (reading, sewing, gardening, knitting, crocheting, guitar, singing...) but how do I discipline myself? How do I not only set myself rules and boundaries, but also ensure that I keep them?
It’s a choice. You have the power to make changes. Make good choices = have good outcome. The only other thing would be to get a friend to be an accountability partner.
As someone whose parents divorced when I was 18 (though the divorce was announced out of the blue a year earlier), I am so glad to see this video! Absolutely, divorce is not good. It tears families apart in unimaginable ways and shatters children's foundation of life. Even when the divorce happens when the children are "old enough to deal with it". Great. I get to "deal with" reassuring my future kids that even though their grandparents don't live together, nothing will ever separate their parents... Neither of my parents had divorced parents or grandparents. That gave me such security as a child. Security that my children won't have at the same level.
I don't believe in spanking children for poor exam results some children just can't do certain subjects I am in England we once had religious instruction and one of the boys said but sir we don't believe in God , the teacher became angry , in this case a pupil doesn't want to learn the subject , I am a Christian myself . ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I have never ever heard of any teacher or parent for that matter giving a child a spanking because they got a low-grade. I believe that would be absolutely wrong. As far as spanking in school and at home, the only time is spanking is ever appropriate is if the child has been willfully disobedient. In other words, they know what is expected and they purposefully go against instruction or do something that they know is not acceptable. And even then a spanking is not always the best solution depending on the circumstances. If a parent and child have the kind of relationship they should have, and a parent has effective skills, a spanking would be very very rare. In school, generally, it would have to be a very big problem that has had many other attempts at solving it before that would even be thought about. And then, it should never ever happen without a parent agreeing to, and even being present at the time applied. But these are very extreme and rare circumstances. Generally, I do not believe spanking in school is appropriate.
I feel sending kids to day care for few(3-4) hours a day helps them interact with other kids and gives you a break and take rest and also you wint miss them much and still van teach them through out the day and enjoy the milestones.
I suggest starting when they are able to pull themselves to a standing position. There are videos on this channel to address throwing food. I’ll find the link and post it here for you. Here’s one about throwing things generally. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-LZ0G4vSzj3c.htmlsi=NwIg6DKe-UQld9IK Here’s one about throwing food from highchair. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-CT3cCmdcrPc.htmlsi=om_4oSd82EEPLH0O Lmk if you have any questions!
My baby is 3 1/2 yr. She is getting much angry. Most of the time after sleeping or while sleeping she is hitting me and saying go like that my dad also if she does wrong thing shouting. I also try to control her she says go go like that hitinh quickly she changes to angry mood earlier not like that
please not everyone can afford that. also if you give someone the power to feed you you give them the power to starve you. “traditional values” just cater to the husband
