It's the brillo pad carpet nappy afro texture reason for spending billions on wigs weaves lace fronts extensions etc to hide the afro making the Asians rich while they're all laughing behind your backs. Mimicking disering copying the rest of the world's hair texture, it's also self and race hate looks absolutely ridiculous a black with our long silky shiny God given NATURAL hair because it's not in the DNA. Imatation is the sincerest form of flattery 🙂🙋🏼♀️
A lot of what you said is what i think about myself. Especially the part when you said is it even worth it to attract a man with a weave if i know ima take the weave out and i have to risk him not being attracted to me with my natural hair 😅
I used to wear weaves and wigs,hiding my natural 4c thin hair under for years.above that i used to wear make up to hide my acne. One day i got tired of this makeup, cause i could not go to the grocery store without. I decided to face the issue by accepting my skin. I felt released. I continued with the wig for years. But still was not really confortable with. It did not look natural for me. Few months ago. I trew away my wig,did cornrows and went to work. FREE !!! At work, people were so amazed by how i looked natural. I received so many compliments. Most of them came from men. I even got present,restaurant invitation by men colleages. I had a colleague who saw me and went and told other men. The rushed to my office and the way they praised me for wearing my natural hair made me unconfortable.😊. I revoveD the cornrows and did another style ,still cornrows. I got the same reactions. Some women were instead given me cartoons name. Luckily,i'm so confident by myself so i was just laughing. Today,i'm learning how to take care of my 4c hair. I'm happy and proud to go out and showcase my natural crown makeup free. What a pleasure . I feel so released. My daughter is also natural,she went for her prom with boxbraids,her classmates made fun of her because she did not wear a wig and no artificial nails and lashes. She is beautiful natural and finds herself beautiful like that. Its not easy to be natural among our community. Peolpe juge you a lot for that specially women. Lets love our natural crown at list for that one.
In slavery times....Do you realize that the idea of Sunday's best was universal. Most people, white and black were poor to "a little less poor", and dressing better was for sundays. Regardless of slave status or not. We create to much made up narratives about slavery.
Hey Canadacw👋🏽 Really appreciate your honesty in this DIY hair product experiment. It’s disappointing when you put so much effort into something and you don’t get the result you want…been there, seen it done it 😏 I also have made chia seed gel for my 4C hair and it’s really been trial and error I watered down the gel slightly so it wasn’t so thick and I applied less to my hair. Also for moisture, on top of the gel I applied a little bit of Shea butter and then sealed that in with some avocado oil, before the hair dried I found that this helped decrease that cast effect and also makes the hairless crunchy…no flaking at all But each to their own…I know it’s a process and very time consuming…maybe it’s back to Ecco styler lol 😆
It’s actually not a stupid comparison, what it tells me is that her eyes work. Now whether she meant it maliciously is another thing. Wouldn’t make me any difference tho bc I’m very proud of my nappy, carpet reminiscent coif 💁🏾♀️ That’s unfortunate for those who aren’t, no judgement. Also.. this is somewhat of a dishonest take bc it’s not that complicated to understand that certain things just don’t compliment each other when styling your look. And while you’re free to step out the way you feel comfortable and good, others are free to see it how they see it. The narrative that just putting yourself together and cleaning up nice comes from the plantation is just annoying bc who here was on the plantation? I’ll wait 🤨 … there are plenty of refined, conservative, neat styles for natural (non-manipulated) hair and some of us are otherwise tuned in with ourselves to just know what we like & dislike w/o external influence.
Today at work I overheard a black woman on the phone talking about her young daughter. She kept saying to whoever she was speaking to that “*name* wants to be white, I won’t let her straighten her hair she wants to be white”. By the sound of it her daughter always wore her hair natural and wanted to try a blow out or something. That’s her child so who am I-still I couldn’t help but think well that’s kind of negative. There should be a balance with everything…including hair. Furthermore being a black woman is so versatile. From literal tones, types of demeanor, backgrounds, and HAIR-You can still love yourself while wearing or trying another style. Some days I feel like I look good asf like damn girlie *kisses my own shoulder* , other days I might look like a whole quarter back after practice…. And I remind myself that even on that day the beauty in myself that I saw the initial time is still me… you get what I’m saying?
Don't go for what men "like" on social media, and don't go for their "exes" look like, either. Those aren't the women the men committed to, so _those women don't count._ Let's also be sure we are clear what "natural" really means. A lot of what gets called "natural" is still the result of a lot of work and product...it's not really "natural." A truly natural hair style requires only some oil and regular care...if it takes more than that, you're striving for something that isn't truly natural for _you._ Maybe having 12 inches of curls just isn't natural for _you._ Here is the thing: Human beings like what we _want_ to like. We can change what we like when we want to change it. There is a multi-billion dollar advertising industry based on the fact that people can be enticed to change what they like...every year. Back in the 60s, we decided as a group (for political reasons at the time) that we _liked_ natural hair...and we actually changed our own heads. I was there, I went through that change. It was real. I changed what I thought was beautiful...and I've never changed back...black and natural is _still_ beautiful to me...because I don't _want_ to change back. But a lot of black people let themselves be changed back by white advertising (the guy who invented the Jheri curl was a white guy). The problem today is that what people are calling "natural" isn't really natural...so it takes just as much work and product or even more. Here is the thing about the natural hair we liked in the 60s, though: It was truly natural. If it took any more than Afro Sheen to get it longer than 3 inches...we just left it at 3 inches. Not that many women had those huge Angela Davis Afros...most black women had 3-4 inch Afros. We weren't doing braids and loks much back then, which is a shame, but that's what "long hair' for black women _ought_ to be. We just have to change our heads and like what is natural for us.
Honestly, I am tired of these type of conversations. We all know how hard it is to manage natural hair and how time consuming it is; especially for us corporate girls. Most of us don't hate our natural hair, but it is easier and much more of a time management thing for us to wear braids and whatever else. What I will say though is the response I have gotten from men when I don't wear any braids in my hair.....is interesting? LOL had a man ask me if I was always in my "natural state" when meeting guys and I asked what he meant and he was like "I never see you wear 400-500 weave and it looks less feminine" and that was the end of our conversation. A lot of men will claim they like the "natural" look on women, but they really don't. Ladies, it isn't self hating to wear the hair YOU want to wear!
Honestly if you are on the side of letting people look and present themselves the way they want in society you shouldn’t have even made this video. People can do what they want with what’s on their bodies. If folks what to dress up and look a certain way that’s great if they don’t that’s great. Not everything has to be societal standards it can just be what an individual wants to do. Which seems like something you’d agree with
@@rdkirk3834 In actuality, I've heard from some many of my guy friends that don't mind a woman with make -up, but just not the drag 👸🏼 look. Just more natural and elegant is what most men are really looking for. Ladies, the fellas don't want the over exaggerated look.
@@sis.dlightfull8040 that's true, too. Most men don't like a look that is totally "store-bought" because dudes can buy that look as well. If a woman's look is "store-bought"...she _might_ be a dude. Men who go for the store-bought look...might also like dudes.
@@sis.dlightfull8040 then they can simply go for what they want, luv.. The better advice is to live to no one’s standard. That is the epitome of not knowing who you are/suseptible to whatever the world wants you to be. Tap in and listen to Spirit, you’re less likely to feel disconnected and unhappy in this very dangerous life.
One of my white coworkers stated that when she washes her hair, it smells like a wet dog. And one of my black coworkers been working with me for three years and I’ve never seen her natural hair!
Although I understand and agree with a lot of what you’re saying, I do believe that being natural is a choice at the end of the day and that includes special occasions. If a black woman wants to straighten her hair for a job interview or prom, etc.. then she should be allowed to do whatever she feels is right for her. In no way am I hating on you or anything lol I actually like the way you explained things in the video, I just view the situation differently 😅 and those so-called friends that made that comment about your hair weren’t friends lol
When I see black women strive to look asian and European, it makes me sad, these types of women create a generation of selfhaters and the cycle continues😔
A lot of truth here. I've been natural now for over 10 years and I noticed that on occasions I would straighten my hair because I wasn't completely comfortable with my coils at the time. As far as men go, a lot of them have unfortunately been brainwashed too. I had a guy who liked my hair and kept genuinely asking me questions about it until I realized that he rarely saw a black woman wear her hair out ( I'm type 4 b/c) I told him you do realize we have the same type hair, right? That's how much he hadn't seen outside of locks a black woman wear her own hair that was kinky/curly.Within the natural hair community, there is still more love for curls over coils it seems. Some women get so frustrated with their hair and it seemingly not growing, when a lot of times it's because they're following a regimen of what they want their hair to look like rather than how it is, because it can and does grow and look nice, even though your hair may be more sheen than shine, or more coil than curl, you have to understand and come to love your hair to be natural. That Red girl, I tried to watch one of her videos and all I can say is Bless her, ain't no way I am offended by her words, hope she finds peace within and for herself.
Took me 33 yrs to realize I looked my absolute best BALD-HEADED. Have gotten more compliments from men (though im married) this past year than I ever have in my life. Wanna know If a guy really likes YOU- cut your hair (or rock scalp braids) and see how he acts.
The truth: black women are so insecure about our hair because we're the only ones with it. Asian, Hispanic, native American, white, etc. all have smooth hair except for us. We feel too out of place
@@_CandaceMillerwell nails represent a stylized form of feminine beauty. I keep my nails very short and like them that way and hear all the time how it’s not “lady like” from people with overdone claws. I don’t criticize their claws if they like it I love it. So yeah so called respectability politics is what everyone participates in.
