My channel is about stammering and raising awareness about this devastating and debilitating communication disorder which is classed as a disability under the equality act 2010 in the UK, which is poorly understood in our society. Many people don’t understand the social and emotional and psychological effects that stammering can have on a person life and the challenges that comes from living with a communication disorder. By speaking out about this often overlooked disability then we can slowly start to wipe away the sigma that is attached with living with a stammer and by speaking out attitudes will change. I also speak about being gay and how I fully support gay rights and gay marriage and how we have to keep fighting for equality. I also do singing covers from different artists, I haven’t done them recently but I am planning to get back into doing some more covers for you all.
I've definitely got down on my stutter before, especially after receiving no benefits from speech therapy. So many times I cried about it, but thankfully I found an amazing life changing book, Stop Stuttering Short Course: How to Break the Stuttering Code by Lee Lovett and it helped immensely. It's written by an ex-stutterer himself and the methods and practices placed by Lee went above and beyond anything than my speech therapist ever did for me.
I have a stutter too. It’s annoying hey. I get so frustrated with my self. Constant anxiety. Gets in the way. I got this awesome job and I quit it because I was stuttering the whole time. Very dark time for me at the moment. Honestly, I don’t know how we keep going because it can be so painful.
I desperately want to end my life because my stutter is totaly terrible and no one knows what Im saying...and I want suicide...I can't live with myself.....I never want to go to social events like I used too...I avoid situations...I have tried so many therapies already and went to so many coaches already who never gave me the answers I was looking for...I wish someone would kill me.....Im not going to any mental hospital or psych ward for a 5th time.....
Hey man I don’t think you should think about your stammer at all and try to smile and don’t think about the pain you went through. I had a stammer in my childhood. But thankfully it wasn’t severe like yours and I could actually talk and socialize with people I would have blocks once in a while but that was it. Love from Scotland🏴❤️
Hi, Jordon, Thank you for this video posting. I've been battling a stammer for 60 years now. Good days, bad days. You cope with it, It's hard for fluent people to understand. I describe it as if your drowning in your own words. I've experienced all you mention in my life. You find a way through life with the help of people who accept you as you are. These are the friends you take with you into later life. The rest are just passing ships. It's a battle. Some days you win and some you lose. My advice would be to remember that great warm free feeling in your heart when you had a fluent day and keep it in mind when you have a bad day. Be strong and best wishes.
Hope you're doing well now bro. I came here from your comment on P!nk's video for Perfect, and just wanted to say I wish you the best and hope you get far in life. Much love
Im looking to go to Netherlands to take my own life. I just can’t handle it anymore, and the worst thing is family can’t see how it’s destroyed me. At the end of the day, we all we got, and it’s left to you to decide the quality of life you wish to lead
Please don’t allow your mum to indoctrinate you into her cult. I am a former JW living in the U.S., but have been out as a gay man since before I can remember. I’m in my 50s now and haven’t looked back. By the way, there are many gay men and women in the cult, who are living miserable double lives. Take care and stay true to yourself.
Hey man hope all is well. I see youve been an inactive for a year. I feel like you have great content. Anyways no one should have to go through what you went through. Thank you for sharing your story its definitely something to make visble
Thanks for posting this and being a voice for people who stammer, The Iceberg analogy is a good model for what a stammerer goes through and the effects of stammering beyond speech that we all need to be aware of. Keep speaking-out and being an advocate. Kia Kaha! (stay strong).
Eh, I've never been on a date, so I wouldn't know what it's like for someone who stammers or someone who doesn't and will just have to take your word for it. As a kid, I thought that when I grew up, I'd get married and just hide my deformities from my spouse, but as I grew up, I learned about sexual responsibilities (including getting naked in front of your partner) and how having a sexless marriage (or relationship, for that matter) just wasn't going to work out.
I had a crush on a guy with a stammer. He was funny and cute. And also confident. I didn't notice his stammer after a while. His personality out shined it.
Great video. Yes its true, it took me a lifetime before I changed how I saw myself. My future wife thought my stutter was cute and that was the first positive experience I had with regard to stuttering and dating. I had locked it in my head that I was unworthy of love, ugly and no one would find me attractive because I stuttered.
Another gay stutterer here. Although, in my case, the two things went on quite unrelated, it is possible that being a homosexual in a conservative environment adds on to an already existing social anxiety - the anxiety not to be "caught" and/or judged. Even if I consciously embraced my sexuality without any problems in my early 20s, it's possible it was silently pushed down before that in some obscure corner of the mind, in communication with the anxiety monster. However, as for dating, it was never an issue at the beginning - my stutter is very mild in face to face intimate conversations. But then they do arise inevitably those moments such as talking on the phone, turning down jobs mysteriously because they involve phone calls, taking orders, doing bureaucracy. At which point it was necessary to make the whole thing clear, although by then he already intuited it all. So I guess it depends how severe your stutter is, you can either make it plainly clear even before the actual date or letting the thing unfold itself when the moment arises, at which point, probably, he will be already in love with you. Good luck x
Stammerers struggle with their speech problem and never commit suicide. This is a positive attitude in them and I appreciate it. Be bold to live life and never yield to weaknesses like drinking alcohol as an escape from the problem you face. I have suffered a lot due to severe stammering and now I speak fluently.
Oh Yea does the bible also use scare tactics as you call it?1 Corinthians 6:9, 10) Or do you not know that unrighteous people will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Do not be misled. Those who are sexually immoral, idolaters, adulterers, men who submit to homosexual acts, men who practice homosexuality, 10 thieves, greedy people, drunkards, revilers, and extortioners will not inherit God’s Kingdom.
Hi Jordan, Thank you so much for this video and it's educational value is remarkable. My mother when younger had a bad stutter and I did not realize how different that is from a stammer. She somehow outgrew her stutter and I wonder if one can outgrow a stammer over time. The brain is a tricky gizmo and may also respond to a drug that could minimize the attacks. Any research you know of about this ? You are awesome & keep up the good work that you do!
There's a difference? The only problem I'm noticing is the spams he seems to have occasionally. I don't find myself laughing but concerned. I suppose he's all right.
:( I'm an American. As a kid in speech class, the teacher tried to get rid of my hillbilly accent and make me speak with a general American accent, but listening to recordings of myself, the hillbilly is still there.
I have a stammer and it affects me on a confident level. I'm year 7 and in English we take turns in English and we was reading Romeo and Juliet. My teacher asked me to read and I assembly to buy she said i had to. I stammered severely and no one laughed but I could feel people being uncomfortable. I'm very lucky to have quite a lot of friens,though I'm not popular. I do count stammering as a disability as it affects us day to day life. One of my worst fears is public speaking,just because of my stammer. My most annoying and discouraging thing that happens to me is where I'm talking (and stammering) then people THINK they know what I think I'm going to say and interrupt me. Like I said I am a year 7 and so I feel "pressured" and awkward. And also i do think it's a disability in some sense
Don't let it anger you. Feel bad for him for being an ignorant jerk. Also, in Canada, that guy woulda been fired on the spot and bar would have a big settlement to pay. Buddy's also lucky I wasn't there with you that night. I mighta flattened him, psychologically , cause I'm a Buddhist. Lol Feel pity, because you're a more evolved human, a compassionate one, who understands the world more deeply than that guy will in the next 100 lifetimes.
Jordan, you are an amazing person. I think your tips about how to be with another who has a stammer is good advice on how to be with ANYONE. The stammer is one human trait, but there are others that people try to change in their friends. I think the key to a REAL friendship [love] is to accept the person totally as he is and don't be trying to change anything about him. In my view, you are describing being a human being, and every human being has the equivalent of "a stammer". It has taken me decades to learn to accept another just as he is, don't try to change him to what you want. All of your tips are excellent and I think apply to ALL people in all situations. Thank you, bro, you are one awesome guy.......love you.........Ray
Last Dance, thanks for the compliment about being "savvy", but honestly I am no more savvy than you are. I would say that you know yourself much better than anyone else can, so you should listen to yourself and what resonates with you. I think each person needs to be open in love to what the universe is trying to tell us. We all have walls around us that we have built to protect who we think we are; at various times in our life experience we are given insights that might allow us to take down some of those walls. We do that not because of what others tell us, but because of what we hear our self saying. I believe this takes patience, openness and love. Thanks, bro, for the comment..........Ray
Most of those who commit suicide, are people who feel like their voices aren't heard, are people who think that whatever problems they're groing through, won't be overcome What is thinks we can do to help teenagers and those who need help it to start councelling and find a way to enourage them, all for those who need help and that way their voices are heard, and we need other resources for those people to have like church and spiritual help for finding a way to solve their problems
Stay strong mate, 👏 I stammer as well, its beyond hard frustrating and its hard when you cant really say what's on your mind or a simple comment But what I do is you see I get stuck with letters vowels I cannot say them I usually tap say "uhm" and I find another easier word and I breathe. And I repeat the word or sentence I'm getting stuck on or I say words or sentences. Anything with "t or d or my own name I practice" I hate the word "Dishwasher" "Dryer" I still can't say "dryer!" Bloody oath so I practice saying it. Until now I don't order in restaurants or fast foods my partner does, when I do Its shit beyond difficult. Keep your head high stay strong, we are all bloody legends for handling this I'm 26 btw too since I was little I stammered.
