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some feminists: "men never stress" hold my whole life: heart problems finger ticks hand tick whole body ticks insane stomachache everyday for 4 hours insane sweating i need to scratch every part of my body 24/7 the moments where i cant see anything headaches 24/7 cant sleep society will say "youre a man shut up"
I am always worried on what my coworkers feel about me. This has resulted in not being in a relationship and getting married and having a family. I fear they would he mad about that. I haven't talked to a guy in over 5 years for fear if my coworkers find out.
What do you do when you're the only single employee working in an office full of family men/women? My boss thinks it's OK for me to be burned out because I don't have anyone to take care of back home. He obviously doesn't say that out loud, but that's the mentality.
That must be so frustrating! The reality is we ALL have competing demands on our time, whether those demands are young children, spouses, juggling an illness, aging parents, volunteer work, etc. If your manager isn't saying it "out loud," is it possible he isn't even fully aware he has this mentality? I wonder what his response would be if you called his attention to it. Something like "Boss, when you say X, when you know I'm already full up with Z work, I'm getting the impression you want me to add Z to X. Is that correct?" And if he says "yes," maybe you could respond "That's not possible, because as I just said, my plate is full with X work, which you told me was the priority. I've noticed that the same demands don't get made on parents with small children at home. Am I misreading the situation?" A burned out employee is a burned out employee, whether you are burned out from Work + Work or Work + Kids. If there are ways you can show him that it's in EVERYONE (including his) best interest for you to not be burned out, I hope you can start that conversation.
@@CourtneyLClark Yea but good luck. I tried to take a day off to view the lunar eclipse and he thinks it's acceptable for me to come in at 9am after viewing it. I ended up sleeping in my car after work the following afternoon. During the pandemic I was asked to share my PTO time with my colleagues who didn't have childcare. That, and also, I'm atheist in a room full of people with similar beliefs.
@@Anthroid9 I don't mind that we're allowed to share PTO, the problem is when it becomes expected. What is a politically correct way to say I need my PTO too?
Hello Clark, It was interesting to see the way you demonstrated resilience is all about exploring new options and studies while your hands are tied figuratively or literally. Awesome!
Hardest part of remodeling for me has been the dust and trying to explain to my dog why he can't run around the house. Other than that, my favorite part is moving back into a new, improved space!
Oh, I didn't even MENTION how this is impacting my dogs. One of my guys was traumatized as a puppy, and he's so afraid of the downstairs now that this is going on. It'll be so worth it, but we're ALL (including the dogs) struggling right now.
Love this. I also like to call it "I just need to be dramatic and resist a little bit before we move forward". Acknowledging that I don't want the change to happen and just need a little grief time before moving on.
LOL - that's hysterical, Terri! And a good point, too. Sometimes we're not actually AGAINST change, we're just nervous about it/uncertain/etc. It's totally normal to resist a little bit (whether you do it with dramatic flair or otherwise). ;)
Dealing with it today. The waterworks were on after school and doesn't want to go to school tomorrow. Tough being a teenager. I told her we've all been through it and were still alive and she cant go to school to worry about boys and socializing go to do your work and come home and each day will be a little better than the one before.
Aw man, I'm sorry to hear that for her. It really DOES feel like the world is ending - I remember those days! You're right to remind her that every day will be a little bit better. Plus if she focuses on her work like you suggest, paying attention to other things (schoolwork, volunteer work, friends, planning something fun for the future) that leaves less room in her head to grieve!
Oh man, I'm so sorry to hear this. COVID-world is hard enough without throwing *cancer* into the mix. I'm sending you strength and hugs for the months ahead.
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Thank you! I know that raising kids has gotten even MORE stressful since I posted this - what with living through a pandemic and many parents having to manage distance learning. Lots of moms (and dads) are more stressed than ever before!
I'm also gonna stick with daydreaming.... It isn't a bad thing . It really motivate us to work even harder . It help shows us really bright future even if we were suffering from terrible present
Every relationship has a beginning, middle and end. Just because a marriage doesn't go "till death do us part", doesn't mean it is a failure. To mean, it means it ran it's course and ended when it needed to. Thank you for sharing such a personal story. Great advice. <3
First of all, you came and spoke to my school district today and it was amazing! I was so inspired. I had to show my husband some of your videos. We decided to watch this one and we are going through the exact same thing right now! We just bought a house 2 weeks ago and we most likely have a mold problem. We are staying with my in-laws and we have been upset that our inspector didn’t catch it when we had asked if there might be a problem. We loved these principles you shared and it will definitely help me to deal with this problem that’s out of my control. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for your sweet words, Lindsay! I LOVED being with y'all yesterday! What a bummer about your house - how disappointing to have JUST closed and be all excited and then find a problem. I'm sending you good juju for everything to get cleared up quickly so you can move into your new home worry-free!
So basically what you’re saying is to not express true emotions and feelings towards the daily tasks? I’m a man before anything else and I’ll tell my “BOSS” how I feel how I see fit ; profane language and all .... this video is useless no offense lol
I'm sorry to hear you don't think that'll work for you. Perhaps you're in a unique situation, but research is clear that communication strategies that take the other listener's position and needs into consideration are very successful. I hope you find a strategy that better suits your particular personality, and that of your future bosses.
Dude she told u the diplomatic way to express ur feelings... By the saying of yours I can assume that u r not in high position and probably it's a small businesses the one you work at.. Possibly u r friends with your boss and you share the same mindset... Just a reminder that's not something that everyone has... Or if anything I said was wrong then with this attitude maybe u r unemployed
@@herakapnissi1204yep. I find in really corporate jobs or white collar jobs diplomacy is needed. My friends who work as chefs, or manual jobs or even it, can talk crap and the type of language is far more informal. Clearly this person doesn't have a wide scope of knowledge to draw from in terms of the uses for both approaches
This video is so helpful and perfect. Problem with me is that i do dreaming of all luxury lifestyle. I even have some big plan to work on but instead of doing work i just keep procrastinating and dream about that lifestyle . I have dreamed so much that i feel like i have already gotten successful and i am already rich but in reality i am broke af and just keep dreaming of my luxury lifestyle all day long. This scary . I don't know what would i do if my plan never works out , all those dreams will be shattered into pieces and i might end up into depression. Or i am into depression already , i don't know. I seriously need to stop this somehow because i have already started to judge people based on their wealth so if anyone is millionaire i would count him as tiny ass cos in my dream my protagonist character of me is a billionaire but as i said already i am broke af and not even earning a penny right now. The good thing is i haven't lost my sanity yet . I can feel what's up with my mind and body. I just need someone to talk to. Maybe loneliness is one of reasons to convert people into daydreamers . Idk . Sorry for so long comment.
No need to apologize! You definitely aren't the only person who does that - the research shows it can be a really common thing, whether the dream is about wealth, like you're experiencing, or other things like a loving relationship, etc. It sounds to me like the good thing is that you're recognizing that you do this. So now you can take steps to fix it. When you catch yourself daydreaming, that's a good wake-up call to take one concrete action toward what you want. The saying goes "A journey of a million miles begins with a single step." So I guess the journey of a million dollars begins with a single penny! ;) Good luck to you!
Awesome, and its so true, we tend to get overwhelmed with the entirety and fail to even begin, but planning it like you suggested is a soft means of getting started without actually getting started. Neat hack.
