Ready to joyfully and confidently embrace your gray hair?
I ditched the dye back in 2018, after 25+ years of coloring my hair. I had been thinking about quitting coloring for a long time, but it wasn't until I turned 49 that I decided enough was enough! I found embracing my gray hair to be incredibly liberating and fun, and I hope you will, too.
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I keep mine collarbone length. Every summer , I get tempted to cut it short and be done. But I love the ease of a quick updo or pony tail in the heat and humidity. It takes longer to shampoo , condition BUT , I don’t need to get up , shampoo and style every single morning. My hair is thick , wavy and it just will not cooperate with whatever dream styles I see with shorter hair. Plus I’m not that handy with or eager to spend time and energy styling every day. If things were different, I would cut it. But I Always end up growing out short styles and it’s a misery I don’t want to experience again.
I went cold turkey and encountered many negative remarks. Then I internalized them, felt like an ugly duckling for nearly three years. Pretty hair clips, gray scrunchies , brighter lipstick were my crutches. My hair is past my shoulders and I knew I didn’t want to deal with growing out a pixie. So I trimmed every 8 weeks, cried a little along the way. Had it not been for Sharon Danley Going Gray and Loving It group , I would never have made it. But it was worth every miserable moment. No more chemical dyes every three weeks , dry rough hair. It’s like Freedom and honestly , i think I look better with light silver hair. My husband loves it too.
Miserable today!!!! Been growing out my grey/silver for the past 3 months and I’ve been really proud of it!! Then yesterday my step family came round and felt the need to ask why I don’t go to the hairdressers and get it died grey if that’s what I aiming to do. Honestly I know I have demarcation and the died hair is brassy, but I’ve personally been happy because I thought it looked more like the sun had highlighted it. I know I have a long way to go but I did think I would get even a single compliment from someone who would say they could imagine what it’s going to look like when it’s fully grown out. The silver will suit my complexion so much more. Still it’s pulled me down quite a lot and I’m just going to pick myself up again and carry on ❤
I'm so sorry to hear that! I wish people wouldn't feel free to comment. Also, it's not easy to "dye your hair gray" unless you're a very light-haired person - and even then, it can cause serious damage. It's an ignorant comment. Keep carrying on - you can do this! We're here for you! xoxoxo
I needed to hear this especially the mortality topic. I am 43 and working on being ok with going grey. I've realized that I am so sad to give up my life as a brunette (and sometimes red head). I haven't come to terms with spending the second half of life with just one hair color - grey. Which I know technically isn't true but seems daunting.
I know what you mean - I felt that way for so long. I was very invested in my green-eyed brunette identity. But to my surprise, I don't miss it! You might be surprised, too (but no pressure - everyone has to do this on their own time - or never - whatever works)! The nice thing is that your natural hair will probably change over time (if and when it loses pigment). And some people play wtih wash-out colors - I'll be doing some videos about that soon. You have lots of options!
After watching so many videos the past week I have decided to go for ashy brown and start cutting my hair a few inches each visit. I just can't commit to grey yet. I tried and hated how I looked but I can't afford to have what I really want - my natural dark hair. It's going to show grown within weeks and I can't commit to covering that either. So the lighter brown seems it may help me ease into the grey and when I feel 100% about it I can cut a pixie and it won't take much to get rid of the remaining brown. I appreciate how many videos are out there explaining options though
Yeah, I tried this years ago when I first started going gray and now know that if you have brunette or black hair, these type of things don't really help you look more gray or silver. They work best on bleached blonde hair.
❤ I’m going to go with don’t chop it off. I also hate hair touching my face with a bob etc. I love seeing my long grey hair in all the colors and textures it chooses to do for me as it grows. And so many styling options. I don’t have the hang of what styles I could try or would work with my hair. Also I have chronic illnesses that sap my energy and cause pain. Making doing different styles draining or impossible. I’m considering getting a blow dryer. Joli recommended a good one recently. But I haven’t used heat or any styling tools in over 15 years. I do enjoy playing with my hair and I will braid sometimes. Mostly it’s up in a bun or just down and not done any specific style. I will be subscribing to see what you come up with and maybe you’ll inspire me. Your hair is beautiful and I think you will be sad if you cut it off. Plus you’ll be annoyed when you’re drinking your G&T and your hair keeps getting in your eyes or face. I’m happy you’re waiting before making a big decision. And if you cut please donate.
Thank you, Brenda! I'm leaning towards not cutting it for now - I still have to get off my butt and start experimenting with styles! It's hard as I have chronic shoulder pain (I see that you are also dealing with chronic health issues - so sorry to hear that)! But once I start experimenting I'll share here for sure!
I have very curly hair which i feel is my identity. You're the second person I've watched that said the curls could become straighter. That really scares me the most. I'm going to try to go gray but I'm only 9 weeks out from my last color and don't want my curls to straighten. That would be a nightmare for me because that would be two major changes in my hair rather than just the graying. Don't know if I could deal with that😮
@@barbkelly9604 I totally understand how that might turn you off. What was your hair texture like as a child? If it was curly as a child - pre-puberty - there’s a very good chance your gray hair will be curly too ❤️
@@KatieGoesPlatinum A little curly as a baby, then got kind of straight, then got VERY curly but don't remember at what age (must have been fairly young). I guess it will remain a mystery. Thanks for your response 😁
Thank you, I'm going to try the City Beauty but for eye lashes first, my eyebrows are coming back with some castor oil massaged in, but my eyelashes didn't respond much except for looking healthier. They are sparse but long, I have gaps due to a few health issues. I'm 70 I'll let you know! Used your coupon, again thank you! I did look at the eyebrow powders etc on EyeEmbrace but I can't seem to get the website to show me the product? Keeps saying no results? I tried several ways to no avail? But looking forward to getting a treat!
Got an email saying you loved my comment but see no sign?? Anyway just wanted to say I didn’t know this was coming from Europe? Hope there’s no duty to pay? I’m in Canada btw.
Hi, that's so odd - I hadn't responded yet (I just loved the comment right now). Re: City Beauty, they should ship from Los Angeles. I'm not sure why it says Europe? How odd ! You can reach out to them directly if you have any issues with the shipment - support@citybeauty.com. Did you ever have any luck with Eye Embrace? This is my affiliate link and it takes me directly there: eyeembrace.com/?ref=0bpgsal2oe - just click on Brows. Or you can go to eyeembrace.com and do the same - just click on Brows. Hope that helps! And hope you love the products - I do!
@@KatieGoesPlatinum Hmmm... well that IS odd! Re the Europe thing, maybe I'm assuming as the email tracking says at the top in a logo... Asendia by La Poste and Swiss Post. By that I thought it was coming from Europe because it also had a lot of jargon in the email about Canada Customs CBSA, and "transacting customs" blah blah?? But I know that America considers Canada "International" so it could just be that. And I may still have to pay duty over a certain amount, we'll see. I did contact the company and haven't heard back yet. Purchased 24th, nothing since but it was a weekend. Anyway the Eye Embrace, I just tried your link and clicked Brows and still says "no results, use fewer filters or clear all".... I did clear all but no luck. I also went to the website and the same result. Not sure why? It is Mercury Retrograde though and that affects electronic things, so... lol who knows! Like me getting an email that said you loved my comment before you did! 😂🤷♀ I will let you know how I like them!
Idk if they look "younger" necessarily, but they all do look better. Maybe bc the hair dye wasn't complimentary to their complexions. That's an important question... Do we want to look like we're trying to look younger... or Do we want to look like our best most vibrant version of ourselves as we age?
Hi Katie - new subscriber & I laughing out loud! You could be describing me and the conversation I have with my 'Type A' self OFTEN. My hair, too, needs the weight to keep it from flipping out at the bottom, and when I cut it even to chin length it becomes very wavy. My suggestion to you is to simply have the bottom 'yellowing' few inches cut off and leave it long.. I now air dry my hair for the reason and leave it long, or - my favorite - pull it back into an elegant low ponytail. Don't cut it 'short' - you look beautiful and a trim will take care of the yellowing ends. You will hate the fuss of short hair - trust me....much more upkeep and 'fuss'. Thanks for this and your 'product' video - great!
@@anupamamhasija4272 yes but you might prefer these methods, if you don’t want your roots to show whole you’re growing out your gray hair: Uncover the *SECRET* to Going Gray without a Demarcation Line! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-xwQ7cNPVQ-8.html
It's the BEST feeling in the world to be done with all that! When you're ready to do it, here's my free guide: www.katiegoesplatinumlead.com/10-easy-steps-landing-page
You are hysterical- “a young Paul Simon” 😂 I have all the same issues yellowing ends and same hair texture- ! Been grey since 2018 - same Leisa yours - Don’t cut your hair 🎉
Hi, Jill! So glad you liked my Paul Simon joke 😂! I was thrilled to find that photo of him that proved we had the same haircut! I haven't cut my hair yet 🙂
Yes! Purple shampoo can help tone down the yellow. Here's a video that explains more about it in detail (and provides some alternatives): ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-tRvZJvAqwW4.html
You shouldn't need purple shampoo when you first go gray. Purple shampoo's only purpose is to reduce yellow tones in gray hair and usually that builds up over time. That doesn't mean you can't use it, but it's not usually necessary. You can find out more here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-tRvZJvAqwW4.html
not all who do this grow out get pretty silver hair. some of us get weird stripey brown and gray hair. mine didnt turn out even or healthy. it was dry and had no body.
I am going grey because it seems I need it colored weekly...I'm in the phase/phrase...I'm over it...that includes coloring my hair...Im just going to let it grow out...I heard it will take 2 years
I understand feeling over it! Whether or not it takes two years depends on how long you want your hair to be and how quickly your hair grows. I wanted my hair to be shoulder length, and my hair grows much faster than average and it took me a little over 2 years.
Do not forget about us men, some of us we go through precisely the same situation. With the pressure added that if you go grey from dyed hair people will then realise that your hair is dyed and there is still a taboo for men.
Yes I do spend weeks talking myself in or out of cutting my long hair, I’m transitioning to grey and yo yo between carrying on or giving in to having colour. My hair was fairly long and I felt it looked a bit witch like so I’ve had it cut to shoulder length. It’s fine but I prefer long hair but I agree with all your negative points too! At the moment the hair on my crown is very white making my pink scalp more visible which I really don’t like. I’m trying to hang on to see what happens when I’m finally all grey!! Perhaps that will change. This is not an easy process and I keep wanting to give in to re colouring but I’m fed up the time and expense. But will I just look like a little old lady!!! 😂 Your honest comments made me laugh and struck a chord. Very helpful so thanks 🙏
I'm so glad you enjoyed it! It's so hard to decide, but I'm leaning towards keeping it fairly long. If you're having issues with your scalp showing you can try this great product from Silvering - I'm going to do a video review soon - it's awesome! This is my affiliate link but you don't have to use it :-) _ shrsl.com/4m13m
Sorry - I used to have little metal disks on my front porch to keep birds from hitting our windows (and getting killed). I realized they were distracting so I took them down but have to find another solution (luckily, no birds have hit the windows since). Still haven't figured that out. But if you see my current videos you'll notice the flashing is gone :-)
@@KatieGoesPlatinum ok thank you. I was being nosy. I have trouble with birds and my large windows. Especially in the patio. It’s sad when one hits and dies. I enjoyed your video on going gray. I lost my hair during Covid. It is growing back gray and curly. I’m relearning how to care for it. All the best.
Yes, very sad when the bird strikes happen :-(. I'm so sorry to hear you lost your hair during Covid - but glad it's growing back! If you need curly tips, make sure to check out QuickSilverHair and Holistic Enchilada. They both know a lot!
I am having the same issue with brassy ends. I'm working up the courage to use overtone because I still have a lot of natural dark in my hair and I read one person say it lifted / lightened their natural dark (which I don't want). I'm also nervous to put anything on my grays because I don't want them to end up permanently stained and have to start over with the growing out process. But overall, it sounds like Overtone may be the way for me to go. Did you find it completely washed out of your grays with no problem?
@@HollyMcLaughlinArt it’s been so long since I did that that I can’t really remember. However, I’ve heard from a number of my blog readers that you really probably shouldn’t use Overtown on your naturally silver hair. It works fine for some people, but other people people end up with permanently stained hair 😢 So I wouldn’t take the risk
I’d keep it long. Like you have have very thick hair and mine is coarse and tends to frizz. Need the length to weight it down so it’s not pouf’y and unruly. Like you I tend to wear it up and love the different options that it gives me. I’m 68 and am just starting to go grey and look forward to rocking my long grey hair.
I have had Several stylists completely Disregard my requests for how I want my hair trimmed, end up doing what They want, and ruining what results I worked Very hard to accomplish with my hair. It is difficult to really find a reliably, trustworthy hair stylist these days! Too many bad experiences!
I grew mine out naturally. Went from about 10" 's long to a long bob, which removed almost all the old dye. I was a dark brunette with about 90% gray/silver roots. My second cut (about 6 to 8 weeks later) removed the rest of the color. With using silver shampoo (amazon) and purple conditioner, I now have a light violet hue to my silver.
I’d love my long, curly, grey-haired self to have a wolf cut on the shorter side. Sort of a Joan Jett vibe. For some color fun, try fairy hair; multicolor shimmer strands throughout your hair. No dye commitment, you can cut and style as normal and they fall out when your strand does. Just some thoughts
Well I did grow my hair out and it was different tones of white and gray and it's very beautiful. But I had started dating somebody that was a little younger and he wanted me to dye my hair black and I regretted it . So I went and got something that what metal the color out. because it was too pronounced . It was actually like a chalky black. So I was hoping that I could get some of it removed. So instead of listening to the garbage that people tell you on Google and RU-vid all I did was go get my hair conditioner and I left it on for about 30 minutes and I did this every time I washed my hair and it would take a lot of the color out. I didn't use the shampoo all I did was use the hair conditioner and then I would rinse my hair and the color would come out. So now I'm at the color of a brown with a little bit of red highlights showing. But it's a whole lot better than pitch chalky black. My natural hair color before it turns gray wasn't off black which had a lot of brown and black into it. But I wish I had never touched my gray hair because it was beautiful. And I'm headed that way again I'm just going to let my hair grow out and then I'm going to cut it as I go . Because the sides of my hair is already showing my gray and it looks like a neon sign like I got a light over my head. The part that goes white ,is like it's a glistening white and it's so beautiful. So once I get my hair back to the color that I want nobody's going to ever talk to me about dying my hair again. I'm 69 years old when I was younger I used to dye my hair all the time and I would most the time have it burgundy and my grandson which he's now like 6 years old who said Mimi he said I love your hair when it was red. He didn't like my hair being Gray. It was a long time between seeing him I had been sick with covid pneumonia for a long long time and I didn't go around them very much and so I was very weak so when he did see me he saw me with the gray hair then my hair had grown out. Actually it's a good thing because you know my arms hurt and the sockets of my arms. My rotator cuff is not like it used to be so it hurts to put dye on my hair. Because I sprained my arms when I do the work for my hair. I tried to let somebody else do it for me but if they don't do it as good as I do. So I quit trying to ask for help. So the way to go is to go back gray and white. GOD KNEW WHAT HE WAS DOING WHEN HE MADE MY HAIR COLOR AT THE END OF MY LIFE. MY HAIR IS SOFT EVEN IF IT IS GRAY . NIGHT COURSE HAIR LIKE THEY TALK ABOUT. I TAKE COLLAGEN. USED TO I CAN ONLY GET MY HAIR TO GROW IF I USED DYE ON MY HAIR. I THINK THAT'S THE REASON WHY I GOT INTO THE HABIT OF DYING MY HAIR WHEN I WAS YOUNGER. BUT IF YOU BUY A COLLAGEN AND IT HELPS YOUR SKIN IF YOUR FINGERNAILS YOUR TOENAILS YOUR HAIR YOUR COMPLEXION EVEN HELPS YOU TO LOSE WEIGHT.
So I think I'm going to keep my hair and throw away my boyfriend. I still attract those younger guys old enough to be my children. But they're mentality and their immaturity is just blows my mind. And I sure can't tolerate that. They get on my nerves. So the best way I can keep the young people away from me. Is to go back Gray. I love my hair. I would have a lifetime of my gray hair that I have all these fickle men. When my hair is dark and I can pass for 45 or 50. When the young guys asked me how old I am and I say I'm 69 years old I'll be 70 in April and they tell me I'm a liar. That pisses me off. How do you say so young. I don't know that answer. We just have good genes in my family. My oldest daughter just turned 50 years old. And forever everybody's always thought she was in her later twenties. Used to make her mad. I get to feeling the same way. The God has blessed that's all.
I’m having such a distressing time going gray. I haven’t found a supportive stylist yet. I want to transition with a money piece. I show them beautiful sample photos, but they always talk me out of it or mess it up. I honestly wish I could just have my natural color. 😭
i'm so sorry to hear that. Do you have an Aveda salon near you? They are often more gray-friendly. I also have a directory of gray-friendly salons - maybe there is one near you? directory.katiegoesplatinum.com
I understand remembering why we grow our hair out regardless of color. My hair has reached my mid back and the triangle look a sad style. I had my stylist cut into a U shape. I use professional shampoo which has a lilac tint. Pureology hydrating. So I don’t see any yellow. I installed a water filter from home depot to my shower head to keep water from depositing unwanted residue. I invested in Dyson airwrap and airstait which minimizes my need to heat style as much. I use a leave in conditioner, Pureology, heat protection for either blow dry or hot tools, yes, there is a difference. Most of these tip u got from the Blowout Professor, even though he would never suggest $600 hair tool. And hair oil is a necessity with my texture of hair. Hope you consider working smarter with your hair style rather than giving up to the ✂️ Take care
Hi! I have a gray hair website where I talk about all of these excellent tips and help educate other women on gray hair care as well. So I do understand how to take care of my gray hair and how to avoid yellowing - but even with my hair shower filter, protecting my hair from the sun and from heat damage, etc. I still ended up with some yellowing. 🤷♀️ All I can think is that I experimented too much with the Dyson Airwrap when I first got it (even though I use UV protectant and thermal protectant before it touches my hair, I use it on low heat or no heat, and on the lowest blow possible)- I had SO much trouble (and I still still have trouble) getting it to create lasting curls I think I just used it too much and left it on for too long. Lesson learned - my fine hair is very prone to yellowing, so I think I need to either forego any hot tools whatsoever (including the Airwrap), or I just need to be able to live with some yellowing. I’m leaning towards the latter ♥️
Can this help with the brassy blonde that is in the ends if my hair? I have recently committed to going gray and hate the old hairdye line. I have about 2 inches of gray now and I want to hang in there but the old dyed oart looks wierd. Help!!!!
It should help! Purple shampoo targets brassy yellow tones in blonde and gray hair :-). I find Bold Uniq to be especially strong but you might have to experiment to see which one is best for you. Just don't use it more than once a week.
I'm over 70 and got 14 inches cut off my gray butt-length hair last year. I still regret doing it, now I just look like everyone else. I used to wear a long side braid and miss it. But I did donate my hair for cancer patient wigs so that was worth it.
I went cold turkey and cut off 8 inches to shoulder length and I am just going to continue cut ends til color is out. I also started a fun wig journey and love trying different colors, lengths and styles. I am now thinking of buzzing my hair.
I am just at the beginning of embracing my gray after dyeing my hair for 40+ years. I've gone nearly a year without the dye and I love the look of the gray in the front but not so sure about the back. It seems darker gray, but still kind of pretty. I think the only thing I'm concerned about is that my hair seems thinner than when it was a light/med brunette. I notice my scalp more. Might be just me. Right now I'm doing the cold turkey but my daughter is getting married in about 6 months and I want to look my best. Definitely planning a trip to my hair dresser soon.
Hi, Kathy! If it makes you feel better, a lot of us experience what i call the "baldness" illusion when we first go gray - where we notice our scalp more. I think it's an optical illusion as it seems to go away once the last of the dye is cut off. Here's a product i just discovered that can help fix that issue - it blends your hair with your scalp. The white version is best if your roots are white, but they also have a salt & pepper version: shrsl.com/4m13m Congratulations on your daughter's upcoming wedding! A lot of women who are transitioning cold turkey but have a big event will use root spray, wigs, or gray toppers to disguise their roots. Hope that helps!
I am a long time stylist-clear glossing natural or gray or white hair is also a wonderful way of enhancing and shining whatever natural color you have! No ammonia or harsh permanent chemicals. It also helps control frizz and adds an extra layer of gloss that lasts up to 4-5 weeks. Some added body too 😉
@@inesines227 It is a non-ammonia deposit of clear (no color tone) that lasts up to 5 weeks depending on which product is used and how often you wash it.
I’m not sure what you mean. Do you mean you don’t have any gray hair and you want it? Nobody is too young to be gray - I’ve met women have gotten gray hair as early as five years old, and I was probably fully gray by 30.