Vithya is a Tamil hair and makeup artist from London, UK. She posts vlogs of her tamil bridal jobs, hair and make up tutorials, saree draping tutorials, and anything else lifestyle and entertaining in either english, german, or Tamil.
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Definitely have a sis in law just as you described, and the mother in law is just as immature and have catty women vibez. I tolerated it for 8 years and finally decided to keep my distance because it was too toxic. As you said the beginning sets the environment, so stand up and set boundaries and call out if you need to from the beginning.
Yes often there is generational cultural conditioning within the feminine. This is something I have to clear myself and support other women to do the same. I have had two mother in laws too and both are different and as you say it comes down to your partner how he seems, his mothers decisions above yours or not supporting you in the relationship. ❤ Vithiya would love a shout out if anyone requires support and therapy. We have a big house and have now got my dad with me to take care of him. I too had my husbands dad with us. I agree I reached out some distant family members they didn’t want to get involved. I feel it’s important to get impartial advice and support. I wish I had this when I went through my first divorce. That’s why I do what I do!
Yes often there is generational cultural conditioning within the feminine. This is something I have to clear myself and support other women to do the same. I have had two mother in laws too and both are different and as you say it comes down to your partner how he seems, his mothers decisions above yours or not supporting you in the relationship. ❤ Vithiya would love a shout out if anyone requires support and therapy.
Such a beautiful story time! You are so right setting expectations from the beginning is so important but we are always taught that if you say no to your elders it’s disrespectful and we start to believe that! The trauma of not being treated well is so deep that it surfaces more in your 40’s! Love this story time! So well spoken and honest- love it
I have the feeling that our parents (1.Generation living in Europe/American/Australia) are more clingy towards us (2. Generation) than how it was for them with their parents. They left their home country as young adults so their parents couldn't interfere and control their kids as they do it with us even if we are already in our 30s or 40s. Of course I do understand that it was hard for them to leave their home country because of war but by always controlling their kids, their kids will never ever be completely growing up or becoming independent.
Hi Vithya, Thank you for this amazing video! I really enjoyed listening to this very inspiring felt like an advice from a big sister ❤ Looking forward to more videos!
Hi vithya..i like you so much ..iam amazed by the way you do make up..my dream is that i want you to do make up for me..i dont know if ever that dream will come true..i live in bangalore
Sending lots of love to u dear ❤ will these high end brands like pay McGrath Armani n all run a sale @ Europe ... Or its better to buy at Sephora India
I only want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart. I have been through the situation which you spoke. I was literally crying while watching this episode as this triggered my anxiety as I am going through divorce. But I am glad that you could talk this out loud. Hopefully I will get this level of strength one day.
Hi Vithya, I completely relate about not being able to see parents with their children, very hurtful. I couldn’t even be around pregnant women. Better now but not having children does impact friendships.
I am amazed with your choice of words and the way you put things in perspective...wow, just wow... It is the best ' mind your own business' and 'live, let live' kind of video I came across...I mean that in a nice way... We are labelled, judged all through our life...family or friends or society said this is the way or doom you... When we find a different way and are happy and content, others cannot accept it... it is a kind of social bullying, similar to what happens to differently abled kids at school/college etc Even in the best of interests, it is easy to hurt someone... I guess life is the toughest teacher and student all in itself Hope and pray for all to have inner peace and live a content life... God bless all :)
I still remember your wedding saree yellow and green beautiful look. Sorry for what you have gone through!! I am also Tamil , I can understand how our society is, how they blame on woman and make us so silent!! Thank you for sharing this, we want more people to speak up!! Thank god atleast you had a good cousin not a back biting cousin family. 😢
Hi Vithya. I'm Dashine from Planet Glo 🧡 have been watching your contents on RU-vid from your super early dayssss. And I've just opened my own venture, in hair and makeup as well, based in Penang, Malaysia (where you got married 🥹) and I've gotta say, you've always been inspiring to me and eventually now relating to what you do as a career, is a connection on a another level. This video definitely gave tips Glo up my hair and makeup business too 😍 I so appreciate you and your openness & always stay awesome ✨ XO
Hi Vithya, such a beautiful video.. I feel such a great feeling after watching this that I should be happy and confident and thankful in whatever situation I am in.. I am a mother of a wonderful boy. Didn’t plan , but it was meant to be . I’m learning a new perspective in life and quite honestly motherhood taught me things that you are already wise about . So it’s not about the role , it’s about the mindset . Thanks Vithya . Love you loads ❤
