Welcome! I'm Dan Johnston your go-to ENFP and ADHD advisor. I'm the Author of The ENFP Calling. Since starting my coaching business in 2013 I've delved deep into the minds of ENFPs from all corners of the globe.
On my RU-vid channel & podcast I offer tailored advice and insights for ENFPs to unlock their potential & craft a life they love. I've also cultivated a thriving community for ambitious ENFPs seeking support and camaraderie on their journey called ENFP Unleashed.
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yes .. i could be wrong , but i think most mental health issues today are a byproduct of life circumstances ( or more specifically , the way we've collectively structured life to not be conducive to health or happiness for a human being ) .. its like math ~ some equations are more simple , & some are more complex than others , but if we want to change the answer ( or the effect of our mental health ) , we need to change the equation ( or the cause / structure or circumstances of our life ) . burnout honestly seems to often be on the ' simple math ' end of the spectrum .. the problem is that we've normalized the unhealthy circumstances that create burnout .. all the way to the point of being resistant to healing . taking a break is one thing , but it might also be a call for a more soul fulfilling equation all round . being that we arent here forever , youd think that would be the priority from the very start tho 🌚 @ENFPs make sure your Ne is being fed or itll die 😭 .. or go into a coma .. & it WILL take years to revive :( * we are not immune * losing your spark for life , going into shadow mode , & displaying as an ISTJ is like Hell .
I have quit 7 jobs in 8 years almost zero savings. I had taken all the trips that you have suggested also. I have wasted away time played videogames, just slept off, you tube, Netflix and Amazon prime etc series ....
I had due to financial constraints, I usually adjust that and then quit the job. I have got two loans from my parents to pay security deposit in jobs. Not gonna repay their loan 😅 mostly. I don't what I want. I got married. I have a baby/kid. I have ruined the lives of two more PPL now wife and the kid 😂😂😢😢😢 I'm very hardworking and productive at times with a burst of energy then get bored easily 😢
When i did this test 8 years ago i got ENFP. I did it again recently and its changed to ITSJ I have add aswell but just wanted to share this as i know they say its rare to change. I think its a combination of masking, growing out of trying to keep friends around for the sake of it. I dont care about playing into this shit anymore. Been hurt pretty bad trying to keep frienndships around with people who didnt give a crap about me
Very happy you addressed my day to day problem 😅. As a irresponsible father of a kid, job changing moron and disinterested employees and a potential next big thing in a new job 😅
As an ENFP ADHDer who is 39 and been in a big life transition, I resonate a lot and both feel called out haha and also appreciate your super helpful tips and reframes! I feel like I've felt a lot of shame around jumping around so much with different career/ business directions, yet equally I am also grateful I have cultivated so many skills and have found jobs and clients quite easily from my many skills. For example, after trying to make it off my performance, body-based and creative pursuits, I got burnt out and needed to make money so applied to a govt job back in my left-brain skillset and got the 1st job I applied to. So very grateful as I think a positive is we don't get pigeon-holed and can keep our options open. (LOL I have about 15 different types of resumes). But yet I'm not quite where I want to be in different aspects of my life. It's hard balancing my creative pursuits and love of dance performing, teaching yoga and embodiment, personal training with my professional work experience in Grants administration and fundraising and knowing how to merge these disparate skills into one career/ business trajectory. I want to write down some of your tips in this video.
But that's the thing though, i tell mysel " i got this " knowing fully that i am LYING , regardless of whether i can do it or not , i don't believe in advance, even when going through something that i already lived through millions of time and i should be able to live through it again, my brain be like " but how sure are you that the same old senarios are gonna play out " , what if this happens or this go wrong? Are you sure you can handle, if not are you sure you can handle " not handling it well " cause that about to feel like crap , can you deal with that again? And all that jazz , i am soooooo tired and exhausted of being scared of simply just living through the same old routines , things i have done dozens of time still scare me like i am doing them for the first time ever
I've survived almost 16 years of daily routine, in a job I don't like so much, and don't know how... But, remembering the times when I'd enjoyed and produces the most and better, where those when it was novelty and challenge in the tasks, projects and the likes. Now I'm trying to regain all that and be true to myself again.
Yes, this works for me. I design new routines for myself leading up to a priority goal. And I set myself up for a coffee date with myself at a different favorite cafe but I allow myself to only go there once a week, while the rest of the week, I stick to the routine. It allows me to have something to look forward to.
oh man - so appropo for me right now. Am in a super concrete routine now, try to stay motivated by making plans to do things/see people, but the in between times are super tough. I think your premise about trying out a new routine to somewhat meet that ENFP need for variety is SUPER helpful and practical. thanks
ENFP, lately I HAVE BEEN STUCK with a few very complicated problems that I FOR ONCE can’t figure out and omgggggggg i’ve tried every angle other than giving up… AHH if you’ve hit that part and made it through PLS TELL ME HOW
True, my therapist was recommending me to start taking anti-depressants, I didn't, I knew what I needed, just made a trip around my country, felt great afterwards
I am 39 and I think my soul is tired of driving the slow bus, I have had so many careers but still have no idea what to do. Thank you foe your videos ,they are helping a lot.
Im 48 and infp. I have a septic tank business, a body shop, i do electrical work, wood working, and a professional guitarist. work 2 or 3 different jobs every week and play music shows every friday and saturday. Dirt work doesnt get old..always making things look better, same with the car restorations. .i definitely suggest heavy equipment operators or something in a different location regularly.. body work is hard but creative and satisfying. Plant and office jobs are a definite no.. I cant function long without playing music tho and theres always some science channel or history documentary playing while i work.
I am an ENFP-T, even schedules dont work for me, as my mood swings are heavy....so I have like 5 projects running...even my family laughs about it and how stressed I can become when not finishing one of those projects.....
I don't know about other Enfp 's but I can't handle negativity It burns me out and I hate it if I get mad, it wasn't allowed in my childhood, now I'm scared to get close to someone because I don't want to hurt someone and get mad My temper has gotten so bad sometimes it scares me
This is great... I was almost ready to get depressed again about my personality type but this is HILARIOUS and just what I needed before I finally kick my butt to get moving on my business today!
It happens to me all the time-whenever I plan to do something within a certain timeframe, unexpected things tend to pop up out of nowhere in large amounts lol
Makes total sense..!!! I'd always try to do everything, all at once, not been able to split it in parts.. or in other words, my planning vs doing is terribly awful
Making a plan alone as an enfp doesnt work, you need someone else to manage you...if theres no one can check you all the time then dont make a plan, make a preparatiom instead (have a goal and do action to get that) instead of having a goal and make a plan to achieve it)...it looks the same but different...that mean we should not plan what we need to do, but just do anything to achieve your goal and just prepare on the way
Happy Birthday Dan! Hope it is all you desire. It would be fun to see your badass mom on video someday. I am a mom of older kids too and my soul is a badass who wants to come out, be creative and have fun. My brain and fear are keeping me secure and bored. Soon it will be time to make the change you talk about. Thanks for sharing your gifts.
2:37 Are you not forcing yourself to be a freaking HUSTLE ROBOT??? I thought you are Feeling and Percieving! What If you don't want to do it. Sure it must be done! BUT WHAT THE heCK are you Feelings and Percievings saying! Should you listen and know? Instead of Bulldoze?
I got success as an investigative journalist in terms of global awards and I did that in 3 years but I burnt out- I have 2 global awards and 3 regional awards and I could not have done it without the team I was at. Since then I’ve spent 4 years freelancing and since expanded my career into teaching, acting and emceeing mostly because these were things easy for me to do and provide for myself financially through my burnout. Now I’m ready to take on something more challenging but I don’t know what that is but money has become more important for me. Unfortunately that’s not something I can get passionate about, it’s money, it makes things easier and it gives me more options and more control overall. So I’m heavily contemplating going back to a remote full time job where I can finance my travel and fulfil my dream of writing a book which needs me to travel in order to research about Nusantara- something focusing on the culture of the region and which answers the question “What is a Malay?”. Unfortunately most of the jobs I find make me feel like shooting myself in the head because I would rather sit around and do nothing with little money than do the jobs. I didn’t quit to do what I loved I quit because I was burnt out and I had already ended up in the hospital by then prior to the burnout which followed after a series of clinic visits and off days because of overworking at my previous job even though it was successful in terms of award recognition. I’m basically having an existential crisis. Been having one for a year because nothing is feeling strong enough for me to make a decision. I’m stuck in limbo.
I’ve been embracing the zest up to my mid 20s but now as I’m approaching another milestone birthday too I feel like I might’ve wasted the other half to depression and self-doubt and pouring into relationships that were draining me and I feel like I finally have clarity on the reasons, but I’m not sure it was worth it to even stuck it out to understand every little thing at expense of my present. I’m taking that opportunity cost pain you’re mentioning but it’s not enough at the moment, but I hope soon I’ll have had enough to keep moving at my natural speed of light ✨
