This resonates so much to me that I have to write this comment, thank you! I am also in a friendship that still confuses me sometimes (I am demi), because we also cuddle each other and enjoy sleepovers. But honestly this is the most romantic thing ever. Searching each others company voluntarily over and over again and not because we said "ok we are a couple now". Kind of a relationship anarchist approach if you see it from another perspective, and ideally allo couples approach this too I think (because they say choose a partner thats "like a best friend") but disappointment starts when the butterflies and physical attraction start to crumble and so friendships are really the most beautiful relationships there can be and I think ace people see that because this sexual component that is also strongly linked to a partriarchal definition of desire is not distorting the viee towards the other
So in my situation I got a friend that I found she was asexual, I am straight man and I am finding it hard to figure out how to be a friend to her without making myself think it can turn to a potential romantic relationship. It doesn’t help most of my other close friends are guys and so this presents a difficult challenge to figure out how to not make her feel any pressure about her being my girlfriend and what not. This video definitely helped me understand her mentality more but is there more advice that can be useful outside of the video?
The opposite of asexual is allosexual - not straight, bi+ or homo. I'm bisexual (as in sexually attracted to more than one gender), probably biromantic (as in can probably develop romantic feelings for more than one gender) and possibly demisexual (as in sexually attracted only when there's some kind of connection).
they're all in hardcover and they're the same size so basically....they just match hahaha i don't like collecting paperbacks personally! and they're so hard to find for contemporary romance - especially since check & mate is YA too
I love your fangirling videos and all the enthusiasm and excitement you show in them! It makes me excited too and proud to be a fan girl of my own things 🥰 please keep on making these, they give me so much joy 🫶🏽
I don't understand why people are freaking out about Captive Prince. Has no one read or watched Game of Thrones? Compared to GoT, Capri is a fluff fest.
The truth is that romantic love was made up by poets in the 19th century and is actually bullshit that people buy into, because it's beautiful and they can't explain why friendship could be that deep. And because it's generally the case that the one you have a relationship with is the one you have a family with so it's convenient.
i feel like these two are linked in the fact that they’re kind of problematic but honestly kings rising is just SUCH a good book. these two trilogies I just love them so much - and your video too of course!
I see this series recommended as a comp title for AFTG but it honestly horrifies me so I've never ever considered picking it up. We'll see if you confirm this feeling 😂
The lyrics are taken from Loreena McKennitt, a song called The Bonny Swans. Sarah J. Maas admires her and took her lyrics directly from her, without crediting her. If you like the words, you should check out Loreena McKennitt. And you should be aware that people have lost copyright suits for much, much less than this. Otherwise, nice job. But I want you to be aware there's already a song, written and performed beautifully by the original creator. Not many Maas fans seem to know that.
Lmao love the story about meeting Casey. Love when you plan to say something and then your mouth goes rogue and your brain is like ??? BRO that’s not what we planned 💀 AND YAY I’M SO GLAD YOU LOVE THE BERGMAN BROTHERS!!! I was worried you wouldn’t because they lean on the side of sappy and you aren’t usually into that. It’s my favorite series of all time & I named my cat Rooney after Rooney Sullivan 🐈⬛ and yes, I love my Afterlight editions, don’t get why the sprayed edges have to be reversed
listen i LOVE some good sap every once in a while i think i just like it more when my romances have some meat too? like i love that chloe has the romance but it's also about people learning how to communicate and learning how to accommodate themselves and also why lie i am a sUCKER for male vulnerability like SIGN ME UP
I recently read ‘a language of limbs’ by Dylan Hardcastle , a story that is set against the aids crisis in Sydney and there is this quote that really stayed with me. “Four decades from now , a disease with sweep across the world, a they will call it a global pandemic, and governments will act and mobilise , and borders will close. The world will be locked down and people will speak of this strange and unprecedented time. Again and again, they will say, this strange and unprecedented time. And for those of us who are still alive , we will say, this is not my first pandemic”
I really enjoyed Everything for You and have thought about tentatively about reading the rest of the Bergman Brothers series. I'm definitely more interested now!
I might just be following too many people but I don’t really see your goodreads updates! And I’m on there daily. I also use it like social media sometimes 😂
i just shed a tear. my sweet jean 🙁 when he revealed how old he was my brain exploded. also just like the entire kevjean lore that was dropped was actually insane. i’m sooo keen to learn more about jeremy and also cat and laila as well!!!
5:10 Blurred lines and different forms of attraction/affection is me. I don't like labels or sticking to definitions either. I may be more of a "demisexual" or "queerplatonic" focused individual, but I'm not against "romance" or sex. The emotional bond is more important to me, which is why I guess I always blur lines.
I actually just read my first book of hers last month, Not in Love and really have been thinking about picking up another one of hers ever since then 😅I really think Love Theoretically is gonna be my favorite just based off the blurb. Like you I've been put off from reading her books for years due to the mixed reviews, but tbh I'm here for a fun time!
Im currious, arethere also other people like me who shift between sex repulsed and sex positive? Like yeah mastrubation is usefull for getting rid of a headacke and relaxing sometimes and sometimes when im with my partner i wil even be into it (verry rare tho) but on the other side i wil absoluutly puke whenever i see someone that is too naked or when people talk too mutch about sex.
For me, its like sexual attractionwithout the sex lol, like if I see someone and find them hot or smth like that, it doesn't really get to wanting to have sex with them like at all. If anyone could simplify this for me, I'd highly appreciated
