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Other races of women know how to let their husbands lead for the most part. Not sure why *some* Black women can’t relinquish control. Issa spirit not like God. Isn’t that why most get married so they can have a husband who leads them?
Marriage is scary, been there done that. Focus on that one person can only create tensions at least eventually. Humans pride ourselves for being more intelligent than other species; i don't think we are. I'm yet to find a female fighting male or male fighting female in other species but with humans its more or less the norm. Even when there is competition the female will fight the other female though this is less common; it's usually the males that fight. I think if we remove government, church and culture from relationships we could go back to our natural self. I may be wrong, i dont know what other people think
I'm new to your Podcast and love it.😊 However, neither spouses are mind readers, so if a spouse is lacking a need in a particular area then that need to be communicated......which is another conversation. Next, men are quick to say they need peace and respect, but they forget things that they may have done to contribute to the "nagging!" For an ex. affair (physical or emotional), lack of support, validation, or a simple "thank you" for all we do as wives! Therefore, to me it's NOT nagging...it's a women's way of trying to let her husband know how she feels. While she may sound as though she is nagging....it could be because her needs are being neglected possibly and most likely due to some of the things I've named above!
I want to be the wife my husband wants but he wants me to do it all and somehow have the energy to be affectionate and soft. When I broke my schedule down all I got was “you got the same 24 hour like me” basically figure it out your my wife and you have wifely obligations. I have 2 jobs, 2 kids under 2 and a dog that he wants to keep. I can’t even get a monthly date, I have nothing to look forward to with my marriage at this point. I don’t know how much more you want me to give when it’s one-sided. He doesn’t understand why I’m so upset with him when I been through so much to feel like I’m getting nothing out of being together. It’s crazy but these videos are helping me not just end it all with him.
I greatly sympathize with you. Many women have felt that burden and it is difficult to bear. If you are able to lighten your load by hiring help do so or pray that God gives you a job position that will give you the ability to find balance.
I have 6kids 1bd and I literally work all day non stop and I have been communicating this for 9years 17:20 is exactly me I left him and now I’m boohoo crying because I have to let him come back because I have absolutely no help with all these babies I thought my mom would help me and nothing not one person to help me idk what to do I left it to god and I’m just boohoo crying I don’t want to work it out I want to leave and never look back but I got all these kids by myself 😪😪😪😪
"Grace for the wrong choices."--Amen. The LORD just showed me that the other day. I was used to the neglect and abandonment. That is what I came from...so it never seemed like a red flag.
You have to be retrained by reading what God says a wife's role is. It also helps to be exposed to other wives that are successful in balancing the role and working in partnerships. I have a book on Amazon under my name that also details God's principles for kingdom wives. Our parents are our first teachers but sometimes it needs to be corrected.
This is so true!! Accountability must be in marriage. You now have someone else to consider when it comes to making decisions, spending time with family and friends. Alot of marriages miss that mark and think they can carry the same things from the single life to married life. Things must change. Enjoyed this snippet. 👏 🙌
OMG! I never knew that being separated or estranged from a relationship with family or friends is a form of grief. Everything is making since now concerning what I've been going through for several years. I'm so glad this video popped up in my feed. God has a way of bringing us peace and acceptance!
This is powerful and much needed for alot of us women to hear. I enjoyed everything about this episode. I'm in that season now where God is allowing me to step away from work and focus on the home with my husband and our son. I Love it! 😊😊
