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OMG....this is an amazing video about my 9 year relationship. Ended almost 2 years ago. Healing takes a long time. Knowledge is power and has helped so much in healing. Do you ever do one on one therapy?
I would say if you dont have one then start by supporting yourself, then seek out a suitable therapist. There are also groups online or face to face that you can attend and also somehow and maybe therapy can help us with this...is we have to take those steps and get out there in the world and begin to make connections again
@clearvision2146 Nope. There isn't. All of the online groups are for child abuse. There are no teen/adult SRA groups. And the therapists call me a liar and dump me.
Think my father is mix between Covert and Malignant. Yes they do drain us emotionally! They say one thing and mean another. He's definitely more covert these days!
I was so exhausted and drained thinking my narcissistic mother would change and decades went by and she's still a malignant narcissist, I gave up and no longer care about her after what she has put me through and stolen from me, she is evil to the core, us empaths cannot change the narcissist no matter how much we love them or care and want was best for them they do not change!!! I'm done!!!
Depends on the narcissist I’m a covert narcissist just been through a lot. But what you have to ask yourselves is how do we become narcissists you aren’t born with it. 1) My first memory as a child I was 5 my mum and dad got divorced. My earliest memory of a child is shouting my mum and dad shouting dad barging through the door pushing my mum out the way. My mum manipulated me during that divorce telling me I had to choose her over living with my dad. 2) My grandad died a year later they bought the coffin into the house. My mum wouldn’t let me go to the funeral I was shouting and screaming i want to go. 3) I grow up age of 13 I started anxiety. The doctors put it down to anxiety in some cases yes but actually turns out this week I have ADHD (Stems from child hood trauma. 4) Age of 15 I got saved I was in the middle of an anxiety attack god come into my life I was hit Holy Spirit. 5) i start listening to god following his word as a life path. 6) I always feel something isn’t right in my head don’t know what but I’m very wrapped up in me 7) I get married find an amazing woman great first 5 years unfortunately I had addiction of porn since the age of 15 as my mum didn’t offer any boundaries as a child I could do whatever I wanted she would even stay up and play computer games with me I was the golden child. Couldn’t do anything wrong. 8) unfortunately we start to treat our wives as maids not humans we talk to our selves negatively constantly but who’s feeding that information? 8.1) You have the humans of this world who look negatively at you 8.2) You have the spiritual side of demons(please don’t say this stuff don’t exist it’s 100% real. 9) We go on in marriage but I couldn’t stand the cry of a child and we block everything out as narsassists to protect ourselves as a covert narcissist we chatter in our head. Now ADHD can lead to NPD if untreated I didn’t get the help. What happened well basically our marriage had drifted none us wanted to end it and when you’re a covert narsassist you don’t know how to talk I was mute I couldn’t express my feelings everyone I wanted to say something I put it in box. We become people pleasers we please other people helping them but then we rely on money and that becomes power and control. Basically what happened after 13 years of marriageI ended up seeing a hooker I had whole hour experience chatter in my head in the car before I went god and Satan telling me what to do. I’d slipped away from god. God wanted me to go home and show me my future. I refused he said ok if you in 2 years time your nan will die and your mum will die. I said yea right you wouldn’t kill my mum (I knew my nan was dying) I got told I would have suicidal things happen and PTSD So I went instant regret couldn’t get it out my head. We didn’t even have sex she just touched me but we as narcissists hold ourselves to high standards 8 months head burning I lay on the bed said god take it away I rebuked all things to do with the occult porn literally nothing burning chitter chatter in my head gone. I was told to get my marriage back on track and go back to church. And I had got 18 -24 months before Satan would get me again this time it would be like honey on my lips and he would bring up all my past. Yea right!! As a narsassist you don’t listen you crack on I was told about march 2022 you need to come back to church. So I didn’t started going a men’s group. Anyway week before this happened I’m just stood talking to builders in our house hear this word you need to go upstairs god wants a hire word with you. He said to me I want you put 3 things Christian in your car. I said music god said you don’t listen to music any more I said a cross got moment to print a cross off forgot. Night before I wake up 3am off the sofa go to the loo really wanted my Mrs out little girl in bed so I go lay in her bed (voice satans going to tempt you tomorrow you need to put the armour of god on) remind me in the morning Morning comes you need to call your Mrs tell her you wanted her and put the armour of god on…yea right Went my clients to install a pc came out hit with demonic spirit hire hooker hire a hooker hire a hooker. It was like being grabbed by your head and pulled and you can’t do anything else it says. You can only follow it because your weak. At this point yes my mum was dying we had builders in and it only came on when any kind of major stress. So not only do we as narcissists have the human world we have the spiritual one as well. Lookup the Jezebel spirit and narcissists but it’s only been recently im able to see why we do these thing impulsively. ADHD narcissism and the spirit world. We don’t stand a chance really. You can’t tell me you just wake up at 3am think satans tempt me tomorrow unless someone is feeding this information. We suffer in silence and no body knows or cares!
can somebody be a (covert) narcissist without the 'isolating you from your friends & family' part? great video, thank you for this valuable information!
Yes, they can be a covert narcissist without aiming to isolate you from your friends and family. In my case she insinuated herself into my relationships and used them as extra sources of supply. Easy new additions to her social galaxy.
@@nadinablagajcevic5014 Yeah she left me more than a year ago, I've made sure she can never contact me again but I still mourn the person I thought she was.
I basically got disinherited a long with my sister by my dad's sister after he died. I found a life insurance policy for $30k and my aunt was the sole beneficiary. All my life my dad said talk to Donna my aunt she'll take care of things. After digging found out that she was the beneficiary and she owes us nothing without explanation for why she gets it all when she has Alot of money already she said were on drugs an that my dad didn't want us spending it all on drugs then I got told that he left it for his sister for taking such good care of their elderly daddy.fuck that shit you have kids you take care of them first like most ppl do not to mention I was living in my grandpas house with his when he died and they eventually evicted me and got a judgement on me when I did nothing wrong
Our family were born into a cult. Our father died when i were 18months. My 5 siblings are all 10 year + older than i am. All but one of us siblings left that cult one or two at a time intermittently spread over period of 35 years. Our mother only agree to spend a few days with me after around 25 years of not speaking, to pretend to say sorry, however within weeks i found out it was just a cruel method designed by the cults leader to attempt to escape public scrutiny with a documentary that was possibly about to happen, by pretending to be sorry to gather our forgiveness by getting us back on side, perhaps even con us into returning into that cult as well too. When it became obvious we wouldn't return, our mother ditched us again , under orders to do so. Our eldest sister &brother in law who remained within that cult, gained control of inheritance upon our mothers death. The will was set up to pay $500.00 to the rest of us, i suspect so that we'd have claim to nothing more. I was constantly drawn to emotionally unavailable partners.Which happened three times over. I have two adult children, who are half brothers, who have it seems been brought up to expect money without needing to help out, or even attempt to be sure to use money they'd get wisely. One of them plays me off against his mother who's always been constantly giving him hand outs. allowing him everlasting loans what seem to me to be allowing him to live on and on without incentive backed up by action Over the years i have worked within extremely hard manual labor. Ive saved money, got loans and paid loans off on time too, and secured a mediocre valued property, mainly for nature value as i happen to absolutely love nature. My boys see me as a hard hearted parent as i attempt to teach them how not to expect handouts forever. To teach them how family might pitch in together to work in some form of partnership type deals together, to create a life and living together. However, especially with one son in particular im looked upon as being terribly mean. Being as he still owes his mum around $10'000. And i must be mean as i dont allow ways for him to do the same thing with me too, without also discussing ways how we might pitch in together to work something to help each other to make a decent living Sometimes i wonder if in fact im wrong . He also utilizes his mothers friends close knit families, who have family support plus associated collective capital between them as well, who'll hand out money to the children. As a method to attempt to reinforced an idea of how i must in fact be extra mean and nasty and uncaring I still struggle a bit. I feel, mainly as ive been a loner much of my whole life. I generally do ok by budgeting and by being prepared to make do without having a whole lot Be straight up with me.Please tell me your honest opinion
In my head, I have a saying when you can be anything why be an ar-ehole? Thing is now, at an age of almost a “senior” I’m realising that my question is not very helpful because it is coming from my values.
You are very clear. I also want to say, my family / adult siblings were very undermining of me and that suited him just fine and I did not even see it. Also It is unreal how one can be blamed and the therapists who operate with a very narrow mindset. “Find yourself to be the woman you were before you mat this abusive man” Don Hennessy- Steps to Freedom. Very helpful book, available on Amazon.
I'm glad my volunteering is over because I think he's a covert narcissistic person I miss working with my animals but I can't take them home I have no place for them to go I can't take a milk cow or pony to town
Do you think it's possible to help people that are like this grow out of their manipulation or is it a core immutable part of their character? In other words, is it always the right thing to walk away from someone who shows these signs or is it possible that you can help them recognise the tactics as destructive and unhealthy without having them think that you are weak and naive for doing so? I ask because I'm reluctant to turn my back on people - if I exclude them from my own life then they will just move on and cause problems for other people. On a systems level, cutting them off doesn't improve the net health of society.
You raise a very good point...thank you for such an interesting question. In short yes...people can change given the right support and help. But they also need to realise and do it for themselves of their own volition. I guess the question to ask is how much of your time and energy are you willing to spend on certain people who engage in said behaviour and at what cost to yourself? As for society on the macro level...you make a very good point, maybe something needs to change earlier such as prevention being better than cure
More videos on this subject would be great. I have 2 young adult children struggling to understand why their father (my ex-husband) left everything to his new wife when he suddenly died. They both had a close relationship with him and there was never any falling out. Apparently he and his new wife agreed to leave everything to the other with the verbal agreement that the surviving partner would then leave everything to the children (including her adult child from a previous relationship) when they died. But there is no mention of this in his will. The kids simply aren't mentioned at all. 3 years on and my children feel betrayed and question their entire relationship with their father. His widow and her adult child have both since quit their careers, sold 2 properties she and my ex owned, travelled extensively and set up a new business. Meanwhile my children are emotionally bereft at the loss of their father and have zero financial security or hope of buying a house. They are at a point where they feel they may have had a right to contest the will which they didn't want to do earlier because they had some trust that the step-mother would do right by them and they didn't want to rock the boat, but now it looks like she has no intention of helping them out and it is too late to do anything about it. It's heart breaking and very difficult to understand why he disinherited his kids, even if that wasn't his outright intention, that is what he did.
Hola thank you for sharing your experience of this subject, you highlight exactlky how much disinheritance goes beyond the financial aspect and into the questions it raises about love and relationships between parents and children. Much love to you all stay strong
Oh thank you so much. My husband raped me after the birth of my third child and I didn’t have seen it coming. He was always pushing past my boundaries. But I just didn’t. And when you‘re freshly in love, you give in easily and don’t think how that will play out in 10 years. He‘s fallen asleep on top off me often and it was kind of a running joke.
I have done this too and I now realize why. I feel trapped in my marriage, I will not break it off because of my children and I’m completely dependent off him. But he has done some inexcusable things and begged me not to tell our children or close friends. And then he triggers me because he loves telling me who tells him when how absolutely great he is and what a wonderful person he is. Nope. How about checking in with me how I am after all his sht.
hello, thank you for sharing your experience and insights, It sounds truly awful what you have experienced and continue to do so, I hope you eventually manage to emancipate yourself from such a situation
I agree the mirror was difficult but I'm addressing my part, I acted like a 2 year old, yelling, avoiding, leaving, fawning, I left I'm not willing to fight so I'm leaving
It's always hard breaking away from a narcissistic person The manipulation was bad trying to keep us there A friend not relationship A friend of mine and my hubby's Breaking free and talking about it with others trying to sort out the manipulation feels like a mess
With full NPD it doesnt really as it is developed in childhood and the environment literally changes the structure of the brain. Children are quite powerless in their environment in terms of making choices so the damage gets done and if it goes on long enough it is permanent. That said if said child developing strong narc traits was placed into a healthy environment it has been shown to reduce such tendancies. Especially if placed into a healthy environment before or during puberty when the brain is naturally undergoing a massive and intense change for the second time in the individual´s life. Even genetic predispositions need the right environment to develop. If someone has strong narc tendancies there may be a way to help them realise and then they may make that choice but it is rare and usually at the detriment to others before the realisation occurs. If you want to check out some other videos on my channel I go into much more depth on narcissism than i can writing here or on a short tv segment. Thanks for a great question have a great weekend
Is there any hope for a child, now a man, to get set free from this burden? What if the adult is aware that he is living a life of delusion? If they lie about certain aspects so they can seem perfect, isn't it possible for them to seek help so they can go on to lead an authentic life? What is best? To try to love such a person unconditionally, without allowing them to run over you, or to just give up in order to preserve self? I really want to know if it is possible to love someone enough so that their life as an adult is the thing they try to protect and honor rather than the parents?
Hola, Thank you for such a question, without knowing all the details its hard to say...in some ways there seems to be a mixed dynamic and maybe something else going on for the person in question. For the other part of your question I would offer this: In an effort to save someone do not forsake yourself. To love someone unconditionally can also be detrimental to them, there is no boundary in this but then you would also have to define what you mean by unconditionally. People will only change and look into themselves when and if they want to. For a person to protect and honour themselves as opposed to someone else such as their parents they must want to do it, you can show them love but as to if thats enough to get them to change i think its highly doubtful, they would first have to want to untangle themselves from the other. It seems your question can be asked of you too there seems to be a mirror image of dynamics happening, they protect their parents and you try to protect them both at detriment to self potentially...take very good care of yourself I wish you well
HealNPD RU-vid account might be a good place to start. Wishing your friend the very best. Apparently it takes hard work and dedication but they're not a complete lost cause, as long as they're self aware.
My ex-husband is a narcissist. At one point, my daughter was scared she was one too. While she emulates him, some times, the fact that she is self-aware, doesn't want to be one and she desires therapy and growth is reassuring. We both have much healing ahead of us
