This space is a place for me to share my insights, ask questions, and dialogue with those who wish to travel the path of greater self-awareness and growth. When I started this channel, I initially viewed it as a place to document my observations of nature on this beautiful piece of property on which I reside. As I continued along, my vision began to expand, and now I am creatively interweaving my love of writing, my love of nature, and my understanding of the need for personal growth to add my voice in this place. Thank you for visiting.
This is so precious and vulnerable, also enlightening! Thank you! As an ENFP, I have been in love with an INFJ for 10 years and has been most wonderful and heavenly. But now, he is with another ! 😢
Intuitive information vacuumed up relentlessly by our INFJ brains are a tremendous data stream that can be assembled with root cause analysis (asking why a number of levels down and then come to solution based thinking. This can be driven by our sense of meaning and mirroring our great strategic vision with reality manifested with improvements brough about by an INFJ via critical thinking.
Hello to you! On this channel, I speak about the INFJ from my perspective. If you are interested in learning more about all the types, visit my other channel, Type Book ru-vid.com/show-UCQfJkCWODJorm4SE09-T04Avideos
You can’t relate you have to grow. Sad truth. I think we relate because growing is hard & scary. Thanks for pushing me to grow & discover who I am. Who I really am as well as my place in my hive, if you will.
I remember my leaps I’ve made in the past. I know that feeling & I’m experiencing it again. For well over a decade I’ve wanted to do a self portrait. But I felt invisible. Unseen, so there was nothing for me to draw. The canvas laid blank. It was heartbreaking. I couldn’t understand how others could make one & I couldn’t. I’m very creative artistically. Or so I’ve been told. However, I’ve decided to take up the canvas once more & am amazed at the picture that emerged. Everything is symbolic & I’m taken aback at what I’ve done. I wish I could show you, but alas. I look at it & think is this really me? The me I’m learning to be? What does this mean? I showed it to a good friend of mine & she made a comment about it not knowing it’s my self portrait. It’s just a cool drawing for her. The comment took me by surprise. She was right in what she saw & now I can’t I see it. It makes me look deeper into myself & ask, “who am I really?” It’s scary. I thought my past trauma & abuse had destroyed me beyond repair. But now I realize it destroyed my outer shell. The me inside the shell never existed. She was an illusion. All that was destroyed was the shell. The true me wants out. She wants to be free to fly. It’s scary, but good.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty yes. I wasn’t being myself. I was being a person I wanted to be not the person I was. My illusion of myself got destroyed. I was heartbroken. This whole time I thought I’d been destroyed. How happy I am that I wasn’t. The real me slept among the ashes waiting.
I find myself gravitating back to videos that i previously watched at the start of this journey that's taking place. I understand the anxiety you're talking about, its like being seen talking truth, is not supposed to be, and its wrong but it just is and it just feels right. When you know, you know. 💫 Thankyou once again. 💜
I'm so glad to see you back here as well ☺🤗 Yes, our intuition is really something magical once we let it flow. I'm still learning to do it, but I think I'm getting better at it. I've spent so many years overthinking everything and going against my intuition, be it to try to prove something right that wasn't or trying to prove my intuition wrong, so I can really relate to what you're saying here. I hope this video will help younger people to embrace their intuition more and avoid wasting as much time as I did. Thank you so much for this very inspiring video and the warmth and feeling home you're giving us 🤗🖤
My apologies. So truthfully all week I've been watching this video and I thought of you. I was just wishing for you to create another video. Because I carry them all with me. And in this time of upheaval someone like me. I can't stop seeing it. I'm with the students in protest. We've been so lied too. I'm in my own little world and it feels like for what I think and say the CIA and mossad will come after me. Perhaps I'm on a short list for a drone hit someday. I vote Bitcoin & Cardano over the politicians. As a pianist and a singer and a teacher I really thought you would love these guys because I love them and I love a lot of the things that you love. So I've been saying a little prayer for you.
You are right - I *do* love them! Wow, such talent and innocence. As soon as she started to sing, I knew I was going to hear something very special. Thank you very much for sharing this with me, and for your prayers and your encouragement. Yes, once you "see", you can't not see. And that can be heavy so I'm hoping you are finding some joy in your life.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeautythe magic trick just occurred for me 😊 my instincts were going off & I was overthinking too much. I stopped & put it in the slow cooker 😊. This was months ago & I began researching other things to distract me from what was in the slow cooker & recently everything came together. Al the research as well as overthinking. It’s incredible how this happens. Truly. Just wanted to share without going into details. Magic!! ❤
Thank you for taking a moment to share this with me! It's so important we understand our process for it to work effectively. It is our strength - our bread and butter - and when we understand it and stop forcing things, it works incredibly well. Congratulations on your TA-DA moment! 😁🎉
@@YourNeverSleepingBeautyI’m curious about something. Since you’ve been at this longer & I’m still kinda new, about 6 months in, I’m hoping you can help me understand myself better or the infj part. When you become aware that you’re infj your past starts to make sense & etc. This is true, however, can how you discover you’re an infj change how parts of the infj work? Your experience, if I remember correctly, came from an intj you knew & trusted. My awakening came from, let’s say, a scary & confusing experience with a bad person. Could this change how the infj abilities work? Some still work, like the magic trick mentioned here, but others seem to have gone into hiding (if you will). I’m sorry if I’m not making sense. I’m still learning how to present my thoughts in an understanding way. I remember how it worked when I was unaware & I’m noticing a major difference in how it works now. I’m also in therapy. As a result I think I’m becoming less hyper vigilant. It’s hard trying to figure this all out by myself. Sometimes I wish I was still unaware, but I can’t go back so…. If you don’t know that’s ok too. Your videos do help a lot btw. I don’t feel so lost & alone. Thanks.
My growth came from trusted loved ones, but my awakening came about exactly as yours did. I've been at this longer and you're kinda new - yes. So keep going. Hypervigilance is a byproduct of anxiety, right? And you said you are having it less, which is excellent, because the further away you get, the clearer things become, and the more abilities will come out of hiding. So keep going. I'm right there with you, sister, which is why my videos speak to you and help you. I've been there too. And I am rooting for you with all my heart.
I would rather just find other people who are capable of deep thoughts and emotions. If someone can't deal with my feelings or my ability to see beyond the surface level details, I would rather talk to someone who can. I know there's nothing wrong with the way I am. If they find it "overwhelming", they're just not for me.
I learned to be invisible in every way possible when expressing my emotions. Whether they were mine or someone else’s. Even the emotions I expressed for them were too much. It made them mad as they thought my emotions were insincere. That I was pretending, but I think when I was younger that I repressed all my emotions to the point where when I expressed them everything came out all at once. I couldn’t stop the tears once they started. I’ve learned over the years to not care what others think about my emotions anymore. I just look at them & think, “yes, I’m crying. Yes, it’s a lot. Yes, it’s over a fictional character in a book or movie or tv show. Yes, this is my honest response to your pain. Deal with it. This is me.” Some are accepting of my emotional responses while others it takes time to accept. I’ve come to be at peace with it. I also don’t bottle them up like I used to do the overflow isn’t as bad as it once was. I hope you become at peace with your emotions too & not be embarrassed by them. There’s nothing wrong with you. ❤️🩹
This resonates. I had a stuffed cat instead of an owl. I still remember her ❤😢 unlike yours my father rarely if ever acknowledged my existence. I was invisible to him no matter how hard I tried to be seen.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty very true. we were both invisible just in different ways. I didn't mean to say that I was & you weren't or that I was more invisible. My father just looked right through me like I wasn't there. I would try to get his attention & he'd walk right by. I'd actually have to move out of the way or I'd get knocked over.If he was supposed to come get me cause mom couldn't. He wouldn't come. I'd wait for hours. My mom realized I wasn't home at dinner or bedtime, depending on my age. She'd flip out & come get me. She thought he'd gotten me & I was in my room. That's what I meant by me being invisible. Sadly, no. The cat is looong gone. Not sure what happened to her. But I still have my old stuffed dog my grandma gave me. It's beaten up beyond words. I used it as a pillow at night when I was little. We recently moved & it's still in storage.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty so true. but please don't feel sorry for me. The past is done & I'm glad my father's dead. horrible right, but that's how I feel. I found a great therapist who's helping me undo the damage done by my father & another. She's helping me to unbrainwash myself. It's weird to write that. I'm also doing a lot of research & maybe one day I can use what I've been through to help others. If so, then it's all worth it. My mom loves me & that's something. My father punished her for it too, but she refused to not love me. I have no words to describe how much I love her for that. My younger sister & I are working towards repairing our relationship that are father tried so hard to destroy & came very close to succeeding. There's much pain, true, but the storm has past & I can finally see the rainbow. & it's beautiful <3. Sorry for the rant. But my father didn't win, if you will. He failed at trying to destroy me, as did yours. That's something.
But I do feel sorry for us, in the sense that I'm sorry abuse exists in our world. We shouldn't have had to experience this; we should have been able to grow up with supportive, loving parents. So in that sense, I'm sorry. But I also know this is an idealistic wish, because the reality is, many people come from broken homes. And because this is the reality for many, like I said, the challenge comes in finding purpose where we are. If it weren't for my experiences, you and I wouldn't be having this conversation. You wouldn't be having this desire to learn all you can in order to help others. We are the same here. I started this channel to help others grow, through sharing my thoughts and experiences. There's meaning in this. Our stories are definitely very similar. The retraining is very difficult, isn't it? I think it's because in many cases, you don't even realize you are repeating (allowing? holding?) thoughts/patterns that were taught to you. Everything has to be reexamined and this can be exhausting. It takes time. I'm still rooting things out, although I think I can say more has been excavated than what remains in the hole. Progress - yay! It is definitely beautiful on the other side! And it makes me content to hear we've both made it.
Thank you so much for this. Hope you're healthy and doing great. I've never been this magically motivated. Listening to you feels like listening to an older/matured version of me.
I’m very ware of others but then I compare that to myself trying know if I have similar issues. I was late to understanding things like anxiety I had a friend tell me they were anxious back in high school (I was 16/17) and couldn’t comprehend anxiety hard to label it for myself but once I got the idea then I dug into it but agreed I’m always saying “I don’t know” I can make guesses but I can’t generally land on a reason why I grew up and more confident in my Fe but I know what I think and feel also has consequences to the outside world so that’s why I will always turn the light back on me to determine what I’m thinking and feeling to understand what outcome I could have on others or my own self future wise (thinking more on it now my previous comment and this one too I guess could make me a bit of an unhealthy INfJ) I’m a non stop over thinker. Ultimately yes the way you put self awareness fits very accurately to me when I was younger
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty I don’t enjoy it if that’s the question I just happen to worry about everything I would say because of my strict military abusive father all his rules and what consequences they would have so naturally I won’t stop thinking until I’ve come up with every possible solution to every problem I would enjoy a reprieve so I would say this is something that’s been engrained in me
I can relate so much to what you've said here, having had the same sort of father as you. That overabundance of cautiousness in many situations, the over-planning - in my case, trying to control situations to the nth degree because just as you said, I had to because it was bred in me. I sincerely hope you've been able to distance yourself from him. It seems to me you are definitely in the right place, because you're not sweeping it all under the rug, but trying to work through it and come out stronger for it. I admire that greatly.
I’m not sure exactly what I’m hiding (which tbh is surprising for me because I’m EXTREMELY self aware (I imagine most INFJs are)) but I was never understood growing up and so I took pieces of personality that people understood in others and used it for myself to be seen and understood myself but ultimately I have never really known who I am and in a way felt confused and fake I always feel inauthentic which can be hard when it’s the most important thing I look for in others. I guess it could be looked at because I feel inauthentic to myself I consider others to be inauthentic until I’m proven otherwise. Idk but generally I’m not much for hiding things I used to when I was younger but not so much as I’ve matured.
Hello, and thank you so much for commenting. This is a very interesting comment because it sounds so deliberate and almost “thinker-ish” to me. Did you realize you were doing these things as a younger person (aka in real time) OR did you realize it later upon reflection? Because I did what you did as well, but it wasn’t until MUCH later that I realized I had done it and WHY. I had no idea at the time what I was doing - I was only obeying some kind of inner instinct to do it. Self-awareness is a tricky thing. I believe it's more of a balance than anything, between one's outer and inner world. As a younger person, I was very aware of what was outside of myself, but less aware (woefully so) of what was inside. I would argue INFJ in general is not naturally aware of the inside, as far as understanding what's happening there. We are aware, but don't have the tools to process the information at a younger age. I believe that kind of balanced self-awareness (for all people) comes with a certain maturity - and everyone arrives at this place at different times (sadly, some never arrive). I made a video here, explaining my thoughts, if you are curious to have a listen: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-EV8bu1YFvpY.html This bit too - “I consider others to be inauthentic until I’m proven otherwise” - is telling. It says you have a strong inner standard by which you are measuring the outside world. Did you always have this or is this a new development? I still naively have hope that every single person I meet will be authentic, and am mostly disappointed afterwards. Of course, I am not the barometer by which every INFJ is measured, but I’ve read thousands of comments over the six years since I’ve started this channel, and your comment is very similar to my process, yet inside out in a way. It was intriguing, so thank you for writing it.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty thanks for responding! I will let you know my introversion was the only thing well over 50% the rest NFJ was very close a near 50/50 I 70% / E 30% N 56% / S 44% F 55% / T 45% J 52% / P 48% I think these numbers are very accurate because as I said I adopt things that I have observed others use and seen it work I will use whatever works best in the moment so for intuition this is just something I naturally have something I use subconsciously very often but I’m aware when intuition won’t help and sensing would be best used (oddly I learn best hands on I like to fix/repair things) but generally instead of fixing things I’m making music or writing stories anything creative is my baseline As you said I have a bit of a thinking habit however as a child and even now being in my early 20’s I’m very in tune to feelings for me I understand it a lot more than hard cold facts and numbers I’m a deep feeler myself I don’t debate things based on facts I try to persuade someone through their feelings but faced against someone who is dominant is thinking yeah I will match them where they are at As for judging I’m normally always making lists and organizing my life to make it less stressful when trying to navigate it everyday however I like to keep things open so if something comes up it doesn’t alter what I need to accomplish that flexibility is key I’m hardworking buuutttt I will also procrastinate a lot as well I think this very middle split for me is what causes the feeling of inauthenticity sometimes I feel like my personality is a revolving door As for if I always thought this way yeah I have I think for the most part I look at the world around me then take a look at myself and compare the two to find my place in it (I too grew up with an abusive father) I was always keen to the rules remembering every little detail but also very aware of his mood my brother is a habitual liar and my best friend is without a shadow of a doubt what most would call a “sociopath” (antisocial personality disorder for those who follow the dsmv) I’m not big on trust and don’t believe I see the real authentic person until much later in the relationship so brief meetings with people I am normally indifferent about them from the start I’m young and still learning I’m a bit of a recluse with no actual friends I see in real life, platonic relationships with coworkers, and a workaholic mother whom I never see or really got to spend much time with ever. I’ve been told my social/interpersonal skills are great but again kind of just a costume I wear and a mask I put on Sorry for the long response and thanks again for the reply! 😅
I am very sorry you grew up like that. I understand completely, and wish it was not that way for either of us. I love long responses so no apologies necessary. I read everything you wrote, plus it's also very interesting considering you recommended NF on my other channel. Do you relate to him - is that why you're interested in seeing him typed? You are too direct to be an INFJ. Very straightforward and open in a friendly sort of way, yet obviously very introspective. This is fascinating: “I’m aware when intuition won’t help and sensing would be best used (oddly I learn best hands on I like to fix/repair things).” It’s almost like a very intimate association between these two functions - in this case perhaps Se/Ni. I have a similar thing with my Fe/Ti. It’s kind of like, what’s the right tool for the job? I’m aware when I should be more “considerate” whereas other times I should just level the truth of a thing. Just throwing this out there for you, but have you considered ISTP? Many of these "personality" tests can be misleading in many ways. Sometimes it's more helpful to look at real life examples of a type. On Type Book, we have playlists categorized by type. Have you looked at the ISTP playlist? I have never met an ISTP I don't get along with. There's a natural understanding there, because we share the same functions, and the ISTP seems to really notice and appreciate my intuition. I've had several ISTP friends and acquaintances through the years and the conversation is great between us. Obviously, I don’t know you other than these few exchanges, but it “reads” thinker to me because of how direct and frank you are. There are other revealing bits too which is why I suggested ISTP.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty interesting out of all the tests I’ve taken I’ve only had 2 types INFJ which came up the most so that’s why (also what I got when tested in my psychology class) and INFP. I would also like to add my “directness” is learned I find it works best when communicating especially complex thoughts since most people didn’t understand me. As for NF yes when I hear him talk and just how he communicates in person is a lot like me. When online or talking about certain topics I can be a bit conversational but 99.9999% I’m a watch and listen kind of person and only speak when there’s something I feel needs saying. I will definitely check out your ISTP video. I find the people I gravitate to for friends/acquaintances are INTJ’s INFJ’s and ENFJ I don’t get along with sensing thinking types much they come of a bit to oblivious to how others feel and calculating than being there emotionally
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty I should also mention there is a reason I like fixing things and it’s because I have that rich inner life I create stories, music, draw free hand, and dance I’m always in my head for good or bad and sometimes I feel I don’t accomplish anything which makes me an insomniac who needs to do chores and things before sleeping so when I build/fix/clean things I feel I’ve been productive in some way which quiets things down (also why I listen to roughly 118 days straight of music in a year because music allows me to focus or to turn my focus onto something else) ultimately I confuse myself I feel in some aspect I can relate to many different personalities. As for the istp I think the biggest thing I don’t relate to is the analytical/logical I only use that with people who dominant in that area but istp is also a good fit for me it’s hard to say what’s right here but I’m a very deep thoughtful imaginative person generally speaking I’ve been called an old soul and very stoic. As per usual I love hearing your thoughts this kind of conversation is fascinating and not one I can have with anyone I know since they don’t understand all this but I think it’s interesting and really enjoy going over it with someone who understands and understands it far better than me.
This video is incredible. As an Fi dom you have helped me to see the inverse perspective of this process in more detail, as I have certainly struggled to understand INFJs in terms of their Fe.
I have fond memories of those bowls too. Holiday dinners, etc. I’m even remembering my grandparents house decorated with some of these items ❤ 😊 thanks for sharing their stories too.
Thank you so much.. I was flooded with imposters of a awesome and highly loved friend+maybe more the other day and that was insane. I think I know whyi was all the sudden overwhelmed I was around someone who was good and similar to me. A new experience definitely..thankfully I'm 789'6411 and I m not tripping so hard. Now. When you have been surrounded by fake friends and lovers for years it is nice to feel someone who actually loves you..i become desperate for affection. I am hope u get that . This video was so comforting and inspiring at the same time.🥹 And is definitely more personal than any id seen. I think you got a super unique idea. Sorry if its not easy to read..my eyes keep dripping water😊
The most famous graphic designer of the 1990s, David Carson, was a complete amateur. His having no formal education in graphic allowed him to break every rule in the book and try things that "one does not do". He had passion and great talent and created amazing stuff which made him a Superstar. Many, including studied graphic designers, tried to copy his style, very few got anywhere close. While I have a formal graphic design education I think in the end it does not matter. Passion about what you do is much more important.
You mention in several videos how people always came to you for advice and wanted to be your friends. As a male INFJ I wonder if this is a female INFJ thing. In my youth I have always been an outcast, the uncool kid. It was me who befriended other kids who weren't popular only to be then be abandoned by them once I had built up their self-esteem. Now I am almost 50 and a teacher in higher education and occasionally a student will seek my advice, but it's not like they will line up for it. And although I am known as someone who is perceived as warm and caring, I have never noticed people getting attached to me. Although there are probably a number of people who consider me a friend, while to me they are just acquaintances.
Yes, exactly. I would probably say this is the experience for most male INFJs. I have an INFJ male loved one (we made a video here together about two years ago), and he has said the same as you have here. I wish he would make videos because even though we align in so many ways, I have found the male INFJ perspective slightly different (obviously). I believe it’s because as females, we are more “open” because society considers that okay as we are female and it’s acceptable. But male INFJs, while warm and caring, naturally protect themselves and don’t appear as open, or give overt signs of that openness. Funnily enough, as I am aging (you and I are around the same age), I find myself more like the male version. I am careful not to put that “caring” out there in a way which draws people to me because frankly, I don’t want the consequences of it. I want to help people on my terms, thoughtfully and with great consideration. Thank you very much for this comment. It helps me to see our type in its full scope.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Thank you for answering. It's not easy for us male INFJs. We are always misunderstood and it's hard for us to be ourselves. I only just came across your channel. I like that you don't constantly mention our type (because it's understood that is what you talk about) and I love the beautiful shots of nature. And as far as I can tell from the few videos I watched, your content is deep and thoughtful. And the presentation is gentle and nurturing. Please keep up the good work! ❤
This means a lot to me, thank you very much. In many ways, this channel has been me speaking to myself. I've been nurturing but I've been strict with myself too, when I needed it. The fact that it speaks to others as well is simply amazing to me. Not unexpected, but amazing.
I like your video. It is so true that INFJ intensity, which to us is just our way of getting to know someone, can feel like a spotlight interrogation to someone else. However, as someone who requires more & more peace in my life as i get older, I have found ENTP types to be too disruptive in my life. I have been married to an ENTP for almost 34 years, and I have to completely distance my heart & soul.
Hello to you and thank you for commenting. I have to say that out of all the relationships I've had in my life, it was the one with an ENTP which made me want to pull my hair out. He had a special way of getting under my skin and sending me to furiously angry in seconds. I could imagine if we had ended up together, I would have ended up doing things out of character, like throwing things. I believe this is more of a self-awareness issue (the lack of) more than a type thing. So would it work with a self-aware ENTP? Not sure, and I'm probably not likely to find out. I'm sorry your relationship is an unsatisfactory one, but I hope you can find peace existing in it. Take care.
Recognizing character and integrity and honor in a person. I also look at their background, and what they've done, and who they've associated with, and who their family is. There's lots of nefarious characters in the world end in crypto and when we're dealing with literally all the money in the world, it's pretty important to have a trust system some way of navigating this thing.
In the crypto markets and in the general markets, they say that it's impossible to pick the tops and the bottoms. As an INFJ it feels like I can map it out. There's a history of a four-year cycle in crypto based on bitcoin's halfing. There's also momentum in the space like artificial intelligence. A. Decentralized LLM doesn't that sound good?
Well you know in my old age I morphed myself into a crypto guy. With all my high-risk careers, this one was, has been really something. Everybody knows the singularity right is coming someday? So wasn't it a no-brainer for everyone? AGIX singularity I mentioned it in here when it was like $0.03 to $0.08 or maybe 13 cents something like this. I try to say you know the world cannot hear me or even my family or anyone that I care about. It doesn't matter if I've been right before how many times it just doesn't seem to matter. So it's almost like even talking about it is rude or it's not polite. I don't know it's it's. It doesn't work. You know I wanted to care about you know everybody in my family and all my friends and I wanted to help them out and it's just like if it goes down you feel like it's the end of the world and you're responsible. I've been telling Rowdy. He's almost 14 now. It's like "Rowdy. If you die I'm going to have to get a girlfriend. You know I can trade up at this point"
Thanks for sharing these thoughts; Having this type of personality is not an easy task; unless you are aware of it and what it entails. Having a real network of like-minded people makes it easier to take on the responsibilities of being an introvert.
I’m sorry for the loss of your mother. Thank you for sharing. I pray you’re in a better place after all these years. I’ve been missing my baby today, my light. Gone too soon. It was years ago, but it still hurts. You learn to live with the grief. This video was comforting ❤️🩹🌹
