You are so very welcome. It means a great deal to me that you are growing as a person. It takes persistence and courage, so I applaud you for seeking ways to develop who you are.
You're like the older sibling I wish I always had. Please never stop making these videos. I feel like I can trust you because you actually know what's going on in my head.
This is very kind ... thank you. Like I told you before, you have to start trusting your own process. Then you won't need my videos anymore, you'll be able to figure things out on your own. This is my wish for you.
I'm experiencing that anxiety right now actually. I know I have to take a new step towards my life. My intuition is telling me to pursue this goal. The problem is there is this uncertainty that I'm not mature enough to pursue it. Freedom is a great thing, but sometimes the endless possibilities can be a burden. My intuition guides me to the areas that interest me, I can tell you there are many things I find interesting. Sometimes it's really simple things like walking alongside the river or watching the leaves grow on trees. It makes me feel really good, but I don't really understand why. It just does. I've been trying to understand my intuition because I feel like it would make me more confident in myself. The anxiety comes when I don't know why my intuition, especially when it comes to life changing decisions, is telling me to follow it. I know deep inside that I have to follow it, but it's scary when I don't understand it. That leads to depression because I feel dumb. If I don't find out the reason, I feel that I don't have control over my life. I really hate being in that position, because it really brings me down. I guess at the end of the day I'm just human and I shouldn't justify everything with logic. I just wish I could predict how things would go in the case that I make a bad decision because of my intuition.
We are never enough. Never mature enough, never financially ready enough, never physically strong enough, never mentally strong enough, never, never, never, never. But that shouldn't stop you. Because we don't live in neverland, we introverted intuitive dominants. We think like adults from the start, and saying "never" is just another way to put your whole state of being in a childish box. I'm going to challenge you to do something "risky". Take just one small risk, one small step. See what happens. Study the results. Then do it again. Repeat the process, maybe taking a bigger step. You will almost get to the point where you'll find yourself not saying "no" because what presents itself is almost always a "yes". That's how powerful intuition is. It's not overthinking ... it's trusting the process. You are teaching yourself how to trust. And "as soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live."
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty thank you, this makes so much sense now. Even when I was a little girl I felt I grew up so quickly and was older beyond my years. It's okay to to not be perfect, nature enough, and I can be okay with the never good enough statements above. Helps me stop worrying about being want way. It's okay to fall and stumble. I'm still developing myself....*cringes and feels vulnerable* anyways done exposing myself for now. Learning to embrace the failure and be like oh I fell. Then chuckle 🤭 and try again. See what happens. Thank you so much.
Same. I’m experiencing the anxiety of not knowing who I am and don’t understand what my intuition is telling me and where it comes from. Is so painful and frustrating 💔
I found this prayer by Thomas Merton two days ago and I think it contains some of the anxiety of freedom, the unknown, mysterious and yet discovery and the reassurances from the past. My Lord God, I have no idea where I am going. I do not see the road ahead of me. I cannot know for certain where it will end. Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think I am following Your will does not mean that I am actually doing so. But I believe that the desire to please You does in fact please You. And I hope I have that desire in all that I am doing. I hope that I will never do anything apart from that desire. And I know that, if I do this, You will lead me by the right road, though I may know nothing about it. Therefore I will trust You always though I may seem to be lost and in the shadow of death. I will not fear, for You are ever with me, and You will never leave me to face my perils alone. Amen. Best wishes on your new path.
Yes, mastering intuition has much to do with the workings of time in our lives. I am both humbled and privileged to watch it work. Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt prayer ... there is something about change feeling like the shadow of death. I believe it's why the 23rd Psalm references paths and comforts and a going ahead, because it is important to know that while in the shadow, the movement is directional and focused.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty As an often unaware INFJ, I listened to this video differently at first, thinking how I would fight with my anxiety and try to repress it when it was just my inner self waving a red flag telling me to pay attention to who I really am and what I really want. I would fantasize myself to fit the situation while all the time anxiety kept it's steady humming inside me. I'm so glad I know this about myself now and can look back marveling at it and laughing some though at the time it was painful. Unfortunately, if I'm not careful, I can fall back into this habit. When you said you felt excited and hopeful along with the anxiety, I think that's important because after analyzing all the times I was involved in self deceit, I don't think there was anything like joy, just immediate movement into a fantasy to cover up reality where I was not really me and everything was going to be great except for that incessant anxiety in the pit of my stomach keeping me awake at night.
"Anxiety" is possibly our antlers at work. Scanners. My grandma, a highly sensitive empath wasn't her own self without always feeling a touch of worry inside . She took time to think things over.
Your Never Sleeping Beauty my brother had sensed something wrong , n rode a long distance on bike from a friend's summer-cottage, only to find out the loss of his budgie. This is how intuition works.
Your videos are the most relatable content I've ever heard in my life. You put into words things I know, but can't articulate. It's amazing 👏 Thank you for what you do 🥰
I am an INFJ in her late teens and I just want to say that ever since I've found that I'm an INFJ, it had been quite life changing. Previously, I always felt conflicted and thought low of myself as I never was able to keep up with my school friends. However, as I got to know and learn more about myself, I could make peace with it; and now I'm in a much healthier position mentally. Btw, I love your content! It really helps me to self reflect and understand life's perspective. Keep it up!
Mentally strong ... that's a beautiful woman. So smart of you to learn those lessons now. You'll get even more confident as you grow and seek out experiences.
Wow the timing is something special. I wonder if it's similar for all INFJs right now ? This year's anxiety is so much different than last year's. You pretty much distinctly explained it in this video. Wow, thank you ..
I don't know if it's similar for all, but it seems the ones who come here are ready for wherever their intuition is going to lead them. You are welcome ... and I hope you you go where you wish to go.
I so relate to this, despite being 68 next month. But I have faith to believe God hasn't finished with me yet. The other day I was warned by God that I was going to do something outside my comfort zone. When the offer was made , therefore, I accepted it. Despite a lot of things going wrong outside my control, it seemed to be a great success. I will try and override my anxiety next time it happens 😂 I love your gentle presentations too!
I don't know where else to post this, but here goes... Hi! I wanted to share something with you... Do you remember that in one of your videos, you talked about using recorders as a soundboard? I never had a soundboard like that because of low privacy, but last year My dad threw a tantrum and I had a very bad day on top of that. So, I opened a Word file on my laptop and wrote each and every thought/feeling I had. I completely vented myself out. The writing was a proper mess with way too many spelling mistakes. I named it "Life" and started using the file as a diary. I have only written in it, 6 times yet. I was writing in it yesterday and you came up a lot. Somehow, I wrote something happy in it(with a little bit of sad). I don't know how but I closed the file with a smile... Thank you...
This is wonderful. Not only that, but I appreciate the reminder because I think I need to do this very thing again. Just throw it all out there in writing. Lots of things I probably need to express in that way. I'm so happy that I helped you close your file with a smile. That makes me smile. It makes us both smile. You're very special. Thank you.
😳 To say this "relates" to my situation is a gross understatement. I am about to embark on a new journey in life, away from a job I have had for 17 years. All the things you mentioned are eerily accurate...God bless you :)
I find myself gravitating back to videos that i previously watched at the start of this journey that's taking place. I understand the anxiety you're talking about, its like being seen talking truth, is not supposed to be, and its wrong but it just is and it just feels right. When you know, you know. 💫 Thankyou once again. 💜
What a coincidence (or is it really?) that I found this video just now, although I’ve been following you for a couple of months now. I was in a bookstore less than 2 weeks ago reading through the pages of a small book, a compilation of Kierkegaard’s quotes, particularly focusing on the ones about anxiety. I am from Denmark, so the book was in Danish. But the original Danish version of his texts can be hard to understand even for a native Danish speaker. The spelling and construction of sentences are from another time, naturally. You have to ponder over his words to fully understand him. I didn’t really understand what he meant to say that day, and I had to leave the bookstore. But I remember reading the text about the cliff which you read here in English, and it makes sense now. Thank you! I do so agree, with Kierkegaard and with you in your interpretation of it, and basically everything you said in this video. And it is so amazing that I discover your video now. I just took a big leap 2 months ago despite my anxiety, and another leap in connection with that first leap last week, despite having so much anxiety and being so close to giving up. I didn’t give up, and I am so glad, so grateful that God gave me the willpower to keep going. I am content of where I am today and it’s filled me with hope about my future - something I felt I was losing/had lost just 3 months ago. Now I want to take another leap. I’m scared but I really want to and feel that I need to, for me today, and for me in the future. I hope God will be with me and give me the strength and opportunity. Thanks again for this precious video!
You are most welcome. This comment was a joy to read. And I agree with you about there being no coincidences. Things don't work that way when there is meaning in life, do they?
Although I do not envy where you stand, as that leap and all that goes with it is not an easy one. I have no fear that it will all work out for you exactly as it should and what comes from it is always worth every second of the prior torture that leads up to it. Although it is familiar, you have never been here in this place before, with these same variables. The excitement is heard clearly in your voice, and it is inspiring. The next time I stand where you are, I want to remember that. I want you to know that I missed you, and that I appreciate all of the wisdom that you share. Embrace the rewards of the inner work, through compassion for yourself. Never forget that you deserve this. ❤
Your words always make me cry. They make me feel so very loved. Even though I don't know you, I see you very clearly for the beautifully lovely soul you are.
You were the first INFJ I held in esteem when I first learned I was. Now, I know my color... wisdom & energy have intersected... and I trust my intuition too! Your intuition is powerful, and your Fe is beautiful. Thanks for sharing!
I remember my leaps I’ve made in the past. I know that feeling & I’m experiencing it again. For well over a decade I’ve wanted to do a self portrait. But I felt invisible. Unseen, so there was nothing for me to draw. The canvas laid blank. It was heartbreaking. I couldn’t understand how others could make one & I couldn’t. I’m very creative artistically. Or so I’ve been told. However, I’ve decided to take up the canvas once more & am amazed at the picture that emerged. Everything is symbolic & I’m taken aback at what I’ve done. I wish I could show you, but alas. I look at it & think is this really me? The me I’m learning to be? What does this mean? I showed it to a good friend of mine & she made a comment about it not knowing it’s my self portrait. It’s just a cool drawing for her. The comment took me by surprise. She was right in what she saw & now I can’t I see it. It makes me look deeper into myself & ask, “who am I really?” It’s scary. I thought my past trauma & abuse had destroyed me beyond repair. But now I realize it destroyed my outer shell. The me inside the shell never existed. She was an illusion. All that was destroyed was the shell. The true me wants out. She wants to be free to fly. It’s scary, but good.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty yes. I wasn’t being myself. I was being a person I wanted to be not the person I was. My illusion of myself got destroyed. I was heartbroken. This whole time I thought I’d been destroyed. How happy I am that I wasn’t. The real me slept among the ashes waiting.
Dear Your Never Sleeping Beauty, I found your channel very recently, and I immediately clinged to every one of your words. After watching some of your videos, I felt like I started learning something new on a very deep level, so deep, that I couldn't even rationalize all the thoughts swirling inside my mind. However, when I began to understand some of the concepts that you have introduced me to, I started to find some paradoxes that didn't really make sense to me. I am a young INFJ trying to figure out lots of things about myself and my life right now. I resonate with the majority of what you say, but not with everything of course - all people are a bit different. My first unresolved paradox comes from a time when I showed one of your videos to a non-INFJ, and his opinion was that your advice isn't "INFJ exclusive" at all: he also resonated with some things that you said, and there were things he didn't resonate with - just like me. Though my rational side started to seriously question the whole concept of typing, my intuition still tells me that there is something to it: I feel like there has to be some kind of deeper similarity between some people which leads to deeper resonance between them. I have no idea though how I can rationally prove my intuition right (if I need to at all...), that is why I feel a bit lost in this question. The other thing that bothers me a bit is the concept of maturation. Other than what my intuition suggests, how can I know how mature I am? I definitely feel like I'm more mature than most people at my age, maybe even than most adults, but I know that thinking and truly believing this can easily lead to self-deception - am I mature then? When you describe the differences between the mature and the immature INFJ, I feel like I fall into more of a mature category, especially in regards of self-awareness, but there are some things I cannot agree with - I'm not sure if it's because I'm still immature or maybe what you state to be true can't be applied to everyone. For example, you've stressed the importance of helping others very much: you stated something like "our purpose as INFJs is to help others". You also said that we can't really be ourselves when we are with others, because we function as a 'mirror' to them. Unfortunately, I haven't come across many people who could truly 'see' me (yet...), and I didn't manage to make any kind of bond with people in general. You said that when you were young, everyone liked you and wanted to talk to you so much, that they even crossed some boundaries of yours - I've always been ready to have deep and meaningful conversations with others, but no-one seemed to open up to me spontaneously, and when I tried to spark a conversation, it never worked and it felt rather akward. Not having connections with others, therefore not being able to use my mirror to help, and simultaneously not being seen for who I really am made me very isolated and lonely. I kind of lost myself: I couldn't find my proper place in social settings. I don't know if I've done something wrong or if I'm just very unlucky... The pandemic isolated me even more, but I feel like this break from almost all social interactions gave me some valuable time to introspect, and I think I'll be on a better track than I was when life gets back to normal. Going back to the topic of helping others, I fully understand why it might give us a kind of satisfaction that's matchless, though I've never had the chance to experience it. However, I have a strong feeling that I won't be completely satisfied with just helping - I also need to find a way to express myself. I have a desire to show my real self to others and to be understood - this collides with the idea of INFJ invisibility. I don't want to be invisible; I completely understand the logic behind it, and my intuition tells me that I can't really fight it, but I have a hard time accepting that I just won't be seen. Do I really have to be someone in the background making the world a better place by each little interaction I have with others where my true self is hidden away? Can't I be in the foreground sometimes? Because if I can't, the only person that truly understands me can only be myself. Your video about INFJ intensity made me even more self-aware of the times when I use interactions to just pour all my intense swirling emotions and thoughts onto another person - I try to minimize these now, because I understand that it's only good for me, not for them, but the desire to express still remains. I think nobody can navigate through life without emotional support - even the 'helper' INFJs need to be listened to and helped sometimes, right? I've learned to look into my own mirror which is enough in a way and not enough in another. Why would I want to ask for someone else's help if I can help myself? How can I be sure that I can help myself in all situations without sharing my problems to others? With these thoughts in my mind, I'm afraid I'll become too insecure to ask for help even if I really need it. I've been through some difficult situations all alone, keeping everything a secret from (almost) everyone except myself. I survived them somehow, but I'm not sure that it was completely healthy not talking about them that much... Lastly, I don't think the world can simply be broken down to truths and delusions. Of course, it is crucial that we don't actively deceive ourselves, that we are trying your best to be completely honest with ourselves, but what seems like the truth now can turn out to be a delusion later, and vice versa. Even if I let my intuition decide what is true and what isn't, the conclusion I get is just temporary - time changes perception. Realising that I'm just going with the flow of time and my intuition without any stable truths makes me wonder: will I ever be certain about anything? I don't want to define myself with any harsh lines yet - I don't think I'm old enough to make permanent assumptions about myself, my beliefs or morals, but remaining pliable gives me instability. Is this necessarily a bad thing? I don't know... I hope you appreciate my thoughts. I'd love to get a reply from you - you might be able to resolve some of these paradoxes. Best, A young INFJ
I absolutely do appreciate your thoughts. When someone takes the time to reach out to me in this way, I am very grateful. Thank you for laying out your thoughts in such an honest way. Even though I don't know you, it says so much about you as a person. So I guess I should return the favor and start by returning the honesty, sharing my thoughts and what I really think. These are not the words of a young INFJ. These are the words of a young INTJ. Other than my own type, INTJ is probably the one I know the best, because if I know myself, I know them. We really are two sides of a coin. You write from a place of deep self-understanding. Even though I do believe that for some INFJs, this sort of self-awareness could happen younger in life, there is no way any INFJ could write like this, with such self-awareness and maturity, at this age. If you doubt it, have a look around here at the comments where I interact with another. You can hear the uncertainty, the confusion, the questioning ... which is not what I see here. This has INTJ all over it. Look how you just laid it all out there, and with such logic and brilliance and awareness. I'm in awe of it, honestly. I always am when in the presence of such self-awareness and clear-cut precision thinking. This is why you are wondering about paradoxes. Because you and I are not the same thing, even though we function in much the same manner. I'm very content being in the background out there in the world, being in the background, even in this place. I believe it's what I was made for. In my closest relationships of course, I am known but otherwise, this is my life. And I understand it fully and there's great purpose and meaning in it. You would not be content with this. The desire to make your mark through your thoughts is strong. Te is a will to power and this writing most certainly is a strong will to power. No one seemed to open up to you, you said. The Fe in an INFJ is strong. People come to us, and from a very young age, whether we like it or not. The warmth is projected and it draws people in like a magnet. Your warmth is inside. You want this for yourself and are confused as to why it doesn't happen. That's because you know who you are on the inside, in that surety of self, but the puzzlement arises from the way the rest of the world perceives you. You are deeply warm and very understanding - why doesn't the rest of the world see that? So confident in who you are, but so perplexed as to why others don't see you that way. Whereas I am very aware of how I am perceived out there, but had no idea what I was actually like on the inside. I could only find who I was in others, and that was a confusing way to determine who I was. Would you ever look to others to discover who you are? This writing from you tells me otherwise. Let me ask you this - is there ever another who could possibly understand you better than yourself? I have some very satisfying relationships in my life which I could not live without, but even saying such, no one will ever know me like I know myself. And this is why this channel exists, why I spent so many years chasing it down, this knowing myself. Because I knew I had to do this for myself, because I spent years without a clue, without even knowing how to begin the process, only that it had to be begun. Even though I needed the help of others to get there, when all is said and done, the onus is on me and me alone to do the work to get there. And it has been immensely satisfying, this journey of self-discovery. But in younger years, probably when I was your age, I spent all my time looking out and not much time looking in. There was a reason for that, but it took me many more years to find that reason. As for "INFJ exclusive", I am still of the human race. So it makes sense that some things I say will resonate with others at different levels. I have comments here from those I know are not my type. But they hear what they want to hear and still receive something from it, still personalize it in some way. I have never claimed exclusivity, nor will I. Do I use the word "we" sometimes when maybe I shouldn't? I'm sure I do, but I never claimed perfection. What is presented here is just one woman's thoughts, emotions, feelings, and perspectives, laid out and spoken with the desire that I could help just one person find their way. That's all I ever wanted and in the process, I could help myself as well. If I could do that for you here in any way, give you some necessary keys in your journey, I would be humbled and grateful to have done so. If you wish to share more thoughts or want my help in any way, I am more than willing to be here for you in that way.
Dear Your Never Sleeping Beauty, When I first took the MBTI test, I thought I was going to get a T not an F - I didn't think I was much of a feeler. To my surprise, I got INFJ; I repeated the test a couple of times since then (leaving some time between each attempt), but the result remained the same, though T and F were always very close to 50-50%. Looking at cognitive functions, Ni and Se work the same way in an INFJ and INTJ, the difference is in the two middle letters: FeTi and TeFi. To be honest, I have no idea which one fits me best. It felt like FeTi was describing what's going on inside my mind more accurately, but your reply made me uncertain. The thing is that I can pick up on others' emotions very easily - I don't know if it's because I rationally understand them or if I unconsciously synchronize with them, kind of both. Others don't consider me as much of an empath; I spent a lot of time thinking about this, and I came to an interesting conclusion: I feel what other people feel "too" deeply, so I have to detach myself from their emotions just to survive the intensity of that moment, therefore I'm unable to give them emotional support, but I can give them rational advice (which usually isn't what they need...). I chose this as an area to improve myself at: I would love to be able to give the emotional support to others that they need, especially to the ones closest to me. Will I ever be able to do that though? This is something INFJs excel at, right? I feel like I should be able to do this: I am an inch away from it but something keeps holding me back... I have a hard time expressing how sorry or happy I am for someone, though what I feel is their pain or joy, definitely not mine... According to the 16 personalities website, INTJs value reason and logic much more than feelings both is social settings and when making decisions. The video you made about truth or peace really made me think: I chose peace on instinct. If I were a true INTJ, choosing truth on instinct should have been evident. When I was younger, I always chose truth: I told people they weren't right for this and this reason, or that they've made mistakes here and there that could be fixed like this and this. I knew I was right, but I didn't notice that this behaviour hurt them. When I got into middle school, I decided not to behave like this anymore: I was very cautious about voicing any kind of critique or differing opinion; I never lied about my opinion to others to keep peace, but I learned to remain silent. Honestly, this balance was almost unbearable to me. I became so cautious about others' feelings, that eventually I never told the truth. First I was disliked for being too blunt, then I wasn't disliked nor liked, because no-one really knew what I was thinking. I'm re-learning to tell the truth more often now, I'm trying to find the right balance between remaining warm and understanding, yet cold and precise. About decision making: since we're judgers, we like to consider everything way ahead of making the actual decision. INTJs are said to disregard feelings, which isn't true to me at all. It is equally important to me how I feel and what I think about a decision. Sometimes I took leaps of faith just because I felt like they were the right thing to do, even though my reasoning was against them. I like playing the 'chess game of life', but I also like to let loose and be driven by instinct. I've always had a strong sense of self - you were right about that - but I've also been quite curious about how others perceive me. Even though I had validation that came from within for who I was, I always sought validation from others too. When someone didn't seem to see me as I saw myself, I always questioned myself first. Being so certain yet uncertain about myself is a bit tricky to navigate through... I've always been a bit different in different situations. In some groups of people I tend to be loose, open and honest, in others I'm the most silent and reserved person. Every teacher I had saw someone different in me: I was hard-working and well-behaved at one lesson, lazy and disobedient at another. I kind of moulded to my environment; even though I always knew who I was deep down, I was shocked to see how different I can become from my "real" self in different circumstances. You might be right: after thinking about it a bit, I do have to say I resonate with INTJs, but I still resonate with INFJs too. I feel like I have most traits of each, yet not enough to confidently think that I'm more like one than the other - isn't there something in between? :) If after this you still think that I don't qualify as an INFJ, I might just have to accept that I'm not one (though thinking that I'm the rarest type has made me feel very special... but INTJs are quite rare too!). Best, A young INXJ for now... P.S. I didn't mean to criticize what you are doing in your videos at all, I think your advice is very helpful in general indeed, whether you aim it at INFJs or everyone. Whenever you said something that made me truly face myself in that moment, it hurt, but it hurt for the greater good. It's hard to come across people like you, whose words are gentle and compassionate, yet completely honest: this kind of advice is what people really need to hear to be able to break their delusions and grow.
@@afanofyours8351 Interestingly, I have the exact same issue. I'm still confused whether I'm an INFJ or an INTJ. Your never sleeping beauty also believes I'm an INTJ. I've asked myself the same questions you did. There are a few differences with some of the things you said. The first one is I don't mind being in the background. I'd rather not be in the front line actually. It's true that I want people to improve with my help, but at the end of the day they helped themselves. I didn't really do anything for them. I don't want to be seen as a superior human nor do I want credits for it. What matters to me is the result. It doesn't matter if I don't get credit for it. I just ask myself "did this person improve their life?" If the answer is yes, then I'll be satisfied. What really frustrates me is when I know exactly what is wrong with someone, but they don't even try or listen. In that case if I ask the same question again the answer would be "no" and it would probably ruin my mood. That's why I'm trying to identify who are the people that would want to improve themselves by using my intuition. As a fellow young INXJ, I never felt special about possibly being an INFJ. Actually I hated it at first, because i've always been proven by others that I'm different. I just wanted to be "normal". I do realize now that being "normal" is just a delusion. There's no such thing as a normal person, everyone is different in their own way. When I tried to be normal (following society's stereotypes) It just made me more miserable. As a child I never really favored truth over peace. I was a very quiet kid, trying my best to not cause any conflict. It was mainly due to my household being very loud and toxic. I always really hated conflict, because it hurt me and my family. Loud noises in general give me a lot of anxiety. Well, recently I've been trying to seek the truth, because it's the only way I'll be able to avoid unnecessary conflict and help others improve their lives. Peace will be gained by knowing the truth. I never got INFJ nor INTJ on the personality test. No matter how many times I did it, I always got INFP (where J and P were around 50/50). When I read the description I felt like it wasn't completely accurate. Then I thought maybe I'm INFJ (J and P were always really close). I related a lot more to it and I assumed it was my type. When Your Never Sleeping Beauty brought up INTJ to me, I started questioning myself. Until this day i'm still not sure, because I relate to both. Oh and about the maturity thing, I relate to what you said, especially when I was in middle school. I felt like people a lot of people were "dumb" and often didn't do things the way I'd would have done it. I even felt like a lot of my teachers were bad and I would definitely be better than them. A lot of teachers liked me, but about the same amount didn't like me. Like you stated, some were seeing me as serious and hardworking and others thought I was lazy. It really depended on the teacher and class. The reason I felt like I would be a better teacher isn't because I couldn't understand the class (at least not the main reason), but because I could tell others were very bored and would start talking to their friends. The teacher would then punish them, but I knew it was the teacher's fault for being boring. It's really important for me that people have a good experience, because then I also do. When a teacher argues with a student, it always ends up getting into a pointless argument which would ruin the atmosphere. I could tell that when people leave the class at the end, they all look exhausted. At the end of the day, if I help people become better, they'll get happier. When people are happier, it makes me also feel better. That's why I don't care about validation or getting credits. I just care about the results. I guess sometimes I do need validation when I have to make a big decision (uncertainty about my intuition), but once I get started I know I'll be able to do it.
@@Yamoon2000 My comfort zone is definitely the background, not the foreground: keeping away from conflict, remaining invisible. However, I feel like if I never get out of my comfort zone, I'll not be satisfied with how I live my life. The foreground is scary: I risk unintentionally offending people, and if I get out there in a completely honest and vulnerable way, I risk getting hurt. I struggle being there: because of J I want to have everything pre-planned before making that leap; if I have to improvise, I get stressed out so much that my mind almost stops functioning. After such an interaction, I always have some thoughts about what I could have / should have done differently... I've never wanted to be "normal". Even if not consciously, I realized very early on that I'm different from others for lots of reasons. At first I didn't really care about my place in social settings: I just was who I was. After some years though, it started bothering me that I became an outcast. No-one hung out with me, no-one invited me anywhere, no-one talked to me. I felt like I was missing out on so many things I wanted to do, that normal kids were doing, but I never wanted to become like them in that sense, I just wanted to be part of the community. Still to this day I don't know what exactly to do about this: in my experience, if I approach others, the situation gets akward for all of us; if I wait for others to approach me though, it just never happens for some reason I don't understand. The only thing I could do to survive this was to learn to see and appreciate the benefits of being different from others. I'm not even trying to 'fit in' anymore, because I know it just won't work: I'll always remain a 'weirdo' no matter what I do. That's why I like to embrace being 'special' and 'unique', because at least this makes me feel a bit better about my situation... About giving/recieving credit: I always give credit to people who have helped me or have made an impact on me, even if I don't know them personally. I feel grateful for them deep in my heart and sometimes spoken out loud: I always try my best to let them know this. I'd love to receive this favour from others, though I know that not all people will return it. I don't want to be in the foreground for helping at all, I'd just like to know that the person I helped has appreciated my effort.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Dear Your Never Sleeping Beauty, After watching some INTJ videos, I have to say I’ve become pretty convinced. The struggle to be empathetic towards others and to express my feelings - it just aligned so well with what you and I wrote here. I see now how FeTi differs from TeFi: whereas I think with others and feel alone, you feel with others and think alone (if I’m right). I guess my confusion came from being not just an INTJ, but probably a highly sensitive INTJ, which is kind of like a sub-category in and of itself. I’ve always admired people with strong Fe! Apparently, I have an exterior that pushes people away from me - I just never felt or thought that I intimidated others because I never meant to do so. Whenever I was in the presence of an Fe user, I always felt mesmerised by their powerful aura. My Ni and Se kicked in, I observed them from a distance trying to grasp how they were doing this. I saw their face, heard their voice, studied their manner - I didn’t feel like I was that different from them, yet they managed to grab everyone’s attention effortlessly, whereas I didn’t get any no matter how hard I tried. Honestly, I’m quite envious of this ‘superpower’ because having it would just solve so many of my problems! It’s frustrating that my mind picks up on every little detail of how it works, and I can recognise the situations where I would need it, but it’s just not there for me to use. A couple of days ago, being an INFJ felt like the truth - looking at it now, it feels like a delusion: being an INTJ feels true now. I’m pretty certain about it, yet - as always - some uncertainty remains: if I could believe that I was an INFJ, then what guarantees that believing I’m an INTJ now won’t turn out to be a delusion? Paradoxes, paradoxes everywhere, but somehow, they make sense now. :) Thank you so much for your help! Best, A young INTJ then
Oh my goodness... I thought I was the only one! This is amazing 😁 these leaps have made me who I am. It’s quite the experience. Like the stages of a butterfly
I've had some anxiety revelations recently so thank you for your insight on this, I always love hearing your perspective. I've finally realized the reason I've gotten through all the difficult times of my life was because of the anxious part of myself. I'd been acting like it was something to vanquish but it had been a warning bell that I was living in a way that was self sabotaging. My relationship with my anxious self is much more compassionate now, and I'm trying to listen to what it's saying. I recently heard a meditation teacher talking about how on the other side of fear/anxiety is evolution, a thought that's helped me stay present with those difficult emotions. I thought about you recently because I saw a headline about the 17 year cicadas coming 😊 One of my favorite videos of yours, and I had to wonder at the timing. I took a huge leap in November that not only changed every aspect of my life but started a snowball effect of more and more change. I feel like I'm going to burst with exhilaration and terror simultaneously some days, which I imagine a cicada would feel coming out if the ground if they had emotions like humans.
I just can't thank you enough. My anxiety comes from lack of action. I am so content with how things are in my head I don't even bother to work. I was so anxious because things weren't working out but listening to you made me realise that even if you're self aware and know your possibilities, lack of appropriate action will bring you down. Thankyou so much for being here 💜
Been in my very close community place for years, doing jobs I dislike or detest and putting up with peer pressure from my environment and the society around it (everywhere I look there are people who know me and my family-almost zero privacy) and the expectations you inevitably are burdened with, job hopping for about 9 times in the past 7 years alone. All because of my anxiety to leave my land and the phobia I have. I know what I want to study for..even if I never work on it. I also know that in order to really find myself I need to escape this environment even for a while. I am tired of not having any privacy, of not doing anything without some 'familiar' person, friend of our family or even friends of friends hovering over me and my life, invading and abusing boundaries just because we live in a small close community where everyone knows everyone. Right now, the only thing I like about my area is its beauty and my family. I've been thinking lately of the step I need to make and hopefully things will be okay. I avoid making plans and dreams as they usually shatter and I end up feeling dumb and helpless.
I lived in one place until I was 12, at which point my parents moved us all around a few more times. Because of my childhood being uprooted in such a way, I grew up desiring and longing for a community I was a part of since birth ... looking around at people who experienced it and envying them. But as I grew older and wiser, I began to see it wouldn't be all sunshine and flowers. I've seen in small communities the very things you've referenced. And like you, it would be upsetting to me as well. I think this has more to do with satisfaction. I never had what you had and yet I always wanted it. If I had had it, I wouldn't have been satisfied. You kind of want what I have, the chance to leave the place you grew up and spread your wings. But I'm quite sure when you do it, even though it is something you most certainly should do, you won't be entirely satisfied. And this is perfectly okay. I think our lack of satisfaction has more to do with curiosity than anything. A wondering ... what's behind this closed door? Sometimes what's behind the door is a bad experience, and sometimes it's a great one, but we continue opening doors because of what we can ultimately learn from doing so.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty I agree with you. It's satisfaction we try to find or maybe something to settle for. Curiosity is also one of my primary traits. I've always said that my curiosity has been both a blessing and kind of a 'curse' for me. I've gotten some really bad experiences because of it, but I've also discovered my faith because of it. Or perhaps God used it to lead me to Him, the later being more likely. We usually crave what we don't have because we always think it will be better. I know what you mean. But this time I do not crave this for 'fun' reasons. I genuinely think it will help me a lot. You see..when you live for a long time in such communities..people tend to get a feeling of having 'rights' on you. On your person, on your life, on your actions,etc.. Even if you don't do anything to give them that right, even if you are a very distant cold and unapproachable person (which I personally am), even then they will find a way to abuse all boundaries and try to 'dictate' your life..all for your own 'good'. And I believe they indeed do it for good intentions, but does it really matter? Oppressing someone and invading their privacy is not okay regardless of your intentions. This situation has exhausted me psychologically. I keep having escape tendencies maybe because instictively I know that if I don't get away for a while, I will be in constant emotional burnout. My psychology has been pretty much stagnant for the past 7 years, with phases of severe anxiety, depression and bursts of intense anger and frustration. These are the main emotions I've experienced, with the few exceptions of positivity in between. I cannot find myself here because there are influences and pressures on me from around me all the time. Influences I cannot shut down. Sometimes you really need to shut down from everything, especially if you've had an existential crisis since childhood.
Thank you for writing some more, because even though I could see what you were hinting at in your first comment, this clarifies things greatly. You know exactly what you need to do, and why you need to do it. All of this makes perfect sense to me, and I can completely understand why you must get distance between yourself and the community. Shutting down is a very natural reaction, and most necessary, after a crisis of any kind. I shut down after losing my parents to tragedy, and even though almost everyone was telling me it was the wrong decision, it was not. It was the best thing I ever did. It's EXACTLY what you said ... you cannot find yourself in such a place because there literally is no room to think and be. Without thinking and being, how can we know who we are? I want you to know who you are, and I hope with all my heart you are able to give yourself what you really need. I know it will be difficult, and very few (if any) will understand your actions, but from someone who has experienced it herself I can assure you that you will never regret it.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty I'm really sorry for your loss, I hope you will soon recover from this trauma and find peace inside :) Thank you for your encouraging words. They mean a lot. I very rarely find people to really pay attention to what I mean and understand me. My biggest issue is my doubt and insecurity. I get a thought of what I must do and then question it, doubt it and get phobia over it. It's a relentless toxic cycle. One of the reasons why I no longer let myself plan and dream of anything. My 'plans' and dreams usually fail and come back to my face to 'mock' me. Either way I'm in the process of finalizing some 'thoughts' and making them into decisions. I'm also in the process of trying to find out if I'm INFJ indeed and your channel is very helpful in that. So thank you very much. I wish you the best!
Am I the only one who watches these videos and wants to ask a question but talks myself out because it might be off topic and cant bring myself to bother people?
There was a lot in this video and my intuition was going in many different places... First, I would like to congratulate and encourage you for this new leap... i wish the best for you.😊 Second, Thank you a lot for mentioning and explaining your thought process of my problem... i kinda felt you made this video just for me...🥰
What did I say to you the other day? That your words and vulnerability inspired me, because it was aligned to what I had been considering. In that way, my words here were for you. I hope they give you strength.
Wow I woke up 2 years ogo and then my wife.. .well let's just say she could not have picked a worse time and spotted a change in her behavior almost immediately and knowing something was off i knew what she was doing and I wound up with really bad anxiety after finding out the extent of it but my intuition had warned me right away within a week and was actually seeing images, for about 1 year prior, of me being pulled away ascending reaching back for my family not wanting to leave them behind but they couldn't come with me. I knew I wouldn't have a choice in the matter it was happening no matter how hard I fought I like to think that wife was God prying me off of her knowing I would have never leave her and my kids behind so he made them betray me because he has something else I need to do for him and can't do it with them, haven't figured out what yet but I know my time in this realm isn't over yet because he needs me to do something still but the bad anxiety I still deal with
I'm very sorry for all you've gone through with betrayal. I personally believe that we work within the circumstances we have in life, good and bad, because they can work together for our good. All my best to you as you find your way.
Hello 👋 I'm Gabe and I just found out about the test thing from a friend and I came out infj and as rare as they are I'm a male infj so ..... I'm really just a unicorn of the unicorn. If that makes sense lol but yeah if anyone can get me some advice about male infj I think I would be greatly interested. Thank you for making these videos I whole heartedly felt the advice from your infjs to infjs video and I'm greatfull to have heard it from you thank you and bless you
Humans have free will so they make choices. Based on the choices we make our personalities can change. You can have one personality type today, but a different one in a few years from now. For example: A person who constantly lies, one day decides that it is not a good thing, hence I should stop lying. Once the lying stops, the entire personality trait changes. Personalities can change from positive to negative and vice versa. Humans are not robots to have a certain personality trait throughout their life. Do not fall into these theories which are extremely faulty in their core.
If you’re going to tear something down, you need to at least study what it is you are criticizing. There is no point in me addressing your comment, as it is clear you have not listened to anything I’ve had to say on this subject, or for that matter, any other commentary on typology, cognitive functions, etc. Your examples have more to do with character traits than type. You can watch this video I made which presents what I believe about the subject: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-tgvc5OVt_ms.html If, after listening and further study, you wish to discuss it more, then I will be open to discussion.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Greetings to you. Wish you a good day. Watched your video and like to mention a few points. 1 = The science of human psychology is theory based, not fact based. Human blood types are fact based, hence proven. Human personality types are theory based, there is no way to prove them. The theory of human personality types came out of human minds/brains [Isabel Briggs Myers, Katharine Briggs]. We cannot claim that it is in fact, the universal system. There is no way to prove that. There is a universal system though, which we can never fully grasp or understand, because human mind/brain is limited and cannot know everything that there is to know. 2 = Computers do not have free will, but humans do. Computers need an operating system because they cannot make choices themselves, they rely on the operator that inputs commands into the computer. Computers are not responsible for their actions. Humans are responsible for their actions because we have free will. If we say we have operating systems [operating types], this means: An operator is controlling human actions, so humans themselves, are not responsible for their own actions. 3 = you mentioned your likes and dislikes in the video. Likes and dislikes change in humans as they get older and older. human physical body changes from childhood to adulthood to old age. The same is true for human personality and character. People change all the time. 4 = Birds are typed due to their physical differences, not their personality types. If you like to type humans like birds then it should be like this = [Blacks, Whites, Browns] or [Asians, Africans, Caucasians, middle eastern and so on]. There is a universal system but to claim that this one theory is it? The question arises how can you prove that this theory is in fact, the universal system?
Not all categories of things are physical. Take love, for example. There are many different types of love - the love a mother has for her children, brotherly love among friends, Eros love, etc. We can speak to these as different types of love, yet these categories of love are obviously not physical. Just because I’m saying there are categories does not mean I am denying people can change. Where you and I disagree is the level of change that is possible. Of course people grow and mature (hopefully) but that doesn’t mean their entire “operating system” changes. Your operating system is what is given to you when you are born. You can add to it your entire life and you can delete things from it, but it is the basis that defines how you prefer to think, feel, sense, intuit, etc. Just because a human observes a system doesn’t mean they created it. A human can observe a system and put words to it and define it, but that doesn’t mean it was a human invention. The love of a mother for her child already existed before someone began talking about it as a type of love. The love for a friend existed before someone decided to say it was a type of love. Myers and Briggs did not create this system. Carl Jung did not create the system. They just observed the world around them and described what they saw.
Please read... You need to get away from people to know which people to choose to be in your life. It's all about how people make you feel. If you pick up any bad things about people, don't stay with them. I know from experience they'll cause you a lot of unnecessary pain and be a massive burden to your life. I know you still care/worried about that person but they aren't doing any good for you, whatever they do isnt your fault and trying to help them won't help, and it's at the expense of your life being ruined. Think about it. We want to help everyone but we need to start from a place of clarity. Society and people don't accept your nature, so why do you try to please them? Just get away from them so you can be yourself, and be at peace and make decisions based on what comes to you. But here's the thing, nothing will come to you but what society/people want you to be, if you stay sorrounded by the people. We need to be able to have an awareness of everything sorrounding ourselves. Sometimes when we are around troubled people, we want to shut them out mentally but this affects our level of awareness. And we can see life in a very closed minded way. We need mental clarity to remain sane. Listen to your mind. If your mind is telling you something isn't good and you need to get away from it, listen to that thought/emotion. Having a clear, uncorrupted mind, is the most refreshing thing you can do for yourself. If that means getting away from everyone in your life to know what your needs are so you can make the right decisions in your life, make sure you get that. It's very easy to lose yourself in society. Get away from all the noise. Find who you are. And avoid the the things or people that make you forget who you are/what you care about most. If you don't feel free in your mind, your not in a good place to be making any major life decisions. You'll make all your decisions based of what the people around you care about, but they're not you, you're different but you'll never know that till you get away from what your mind is telling you to get away from. We find ourselves in freedom. We are different from everyone else. You cannot find out what you actually want to do with your life whilst being sorrounded by other people. You need to spend some time with yourself alone(that's when you realise all the crap that was clouding your mind from seeing the big picture). Being around im just going to say people because it's everyone. Society just makes people go after the wrong things, and constantly compare yourself to others when you shouldn't because you're different. I guess people just want respect and praise, but in my opinion that doesn't matter. And if you what you. It has to be what comes naturally to me, what I would do for free, what I really care about, not for what people will say about me. I think it's pressure/competition which causes people to go after certain things for the wrong reasons such as status, ego etc. Guys you have a deep urge in your heart, you lost it because society isn't aware of it/doesn't care. And tells you to be a certain way, and being yourself isn't really accepted. So find your own way, don't follow what others are doing, follow what matters, follow your heart.
Self-awareness is not bad. Relax . Everything in life can serve either an evil purpose or a good one. The choice makes US humane. Monsters live in utter ignorance from where there is no way out. Humans are the only " animals" ? in control of their deeds n actions .
Serenely let us move to distant places And let no thought detain us The Cosmic Spirit seeks not to Restrain us But lifts us to wider and wider SPACES✨🪐✨ Herman Hesse Thank you so much for your sharing 🌹🌹🌹
Am I the only one who watches these videos and wants to ask a question but talks myself out because it might be off topic and cant bring myself to bother people?
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty I thought I was just seeing things before but recently I've noticed how often I see the same kinda face. Like, I see different people who look the same. I wonder if it's just our souls recognizing other souls...I'm not sure if that makes sense. Regardless, thank you for what you said. I've felt so alone recently...it means the world that u seem to care
Do you think they look the same or just "feel" the same? I get this too, a familiar feeling with people. I think there can be different reasons for this. It's hard to feel alone. You wonder if it will ever end. It does sooner or later, but when it's later, it gets very hard to bear. I hope you have at least one loved one in your life. There's nothing like the feeling of being understood.
@@YourNeverSleepingBeauty like almost exact same faces. I hope this makes sense but I believe in science. N first rule of thermodynamics is energy cannot b created or destroyed only transferred. So our energy when we die moves to a different vessel having learned from the prior knowledge. Maybe it's the same 'soul' for lack of a better term. Idk been too introspective recently
