I’ve always thought I’ve had BPD but anytime I bring it up i feel like im self diagnosing or something, and therapists end up telling me that anxiety can mimic the symptoms of BPD. While I most definitely have severe anxiety, it just goes deeper than that…I don’t know the difference between the two and it’s frustrating because anxiety medicine doesn’t even behind to touch the root problem. I think it’s BPD. I haven’t been reassured of that yet tho so I feel lost.
Lived it once. Sex was amazing, but god damn was it a rollercoaster of "wtf is going on" at any point of the relationship. Never again in my own case. Her having a Bpd and me being a very solitary guy normaly, having a mild adhd and forgetting lot of things, it was chaotic to a point where it was impossible to navigate through it. The "self deletion threats" when i was just going out to breath, calm down and try to take time to rationalize the situation. The constant need of attention and validation on her part, plus the 0 to 100% emotions recktrain was draining me so much, and me forgetting random little things constantly (closing the lights when i leave a room) would drive her NUTS to the point that she would become verbally agressive....which doesn't work at all for me as i tend to laugh situations off when i find them ridiculous and say out loud "can't you see how ridiculius it is to get completly mad over such small thing like closing a god damn light when i leave a room." Then she'd start throwing anything at hand to me. Tomatoes basket on the counter, glasses etc etc. Kydos for you (whoever is readin if you can manage this kind of relationship. But i couldn't. I really don't have that patience.
I saw clips of this on Technicals' video "The Victims of Leffen" Jisu was revealed to also have worked with Stephen Kasmir AND Leffen to screw over her former boyfriend, Hax, by ripping off his BOXX controller design to make the never-delivered-on-time Frame1. Jisu, you're such a fucking hypocrite, in spite of Dr. K's respected objectivity in dealing with actual convicts.
I watched until 31:47 and I've had this Idea that I wanted to share... now I am no entrepreneur nor a psychotherapist I'm just a lucky loser, but hear me out regardless cuz I think I have a very obvoius solution that you might just have overlooked... Mizkif said he is stressed all the time cuz he is thinking he could be doing this and that so he is driven by his own efficiency, BUTT here comes the but. 'tis quite inefficient to not be able to relax and release some stress cuz you might underperform while you are stressed... as he himself said it he isnt as funny when he is stressed (good observation/awarness) I know some people excell when they are under stress but boi you gotta take a break someday eventually you know. So here is the deal... you wanna be as efficient as possible? learn how to take a break buddy so you can recharge. I feel like looking at a wall for 12 hours straight is a little bit overkill but 20 mins of meditation twice a day could be very helpful to calm the mind.
No wonder why when im feeling like that post, but i decide to sit on my bed and give myself a time to cry and to just let all emotions come to me I can later continue and do anything i was supposed to do, which is completely different compared to when i feel like the post, i just keep telling myself i have to get things done and try to use sytems and tools to keep me going, but i either dont move at all, or the task get done poorly
Reason change over time, but overall, whoever stayed consistent wanted better mental health. When you cross the dificult first period and realize how much easier life gets when you're in shape, you just dont stop
Man sometimes you're just bored of your workout routine, and the prospect of doing something you enjoy more seems obvious, but then feel guilty for not doing the thing you're supposed to do because. This is the thing with everything in life nothing is exciting long term, al can become a grind or an automatic habit, even gaming or watching shows, and specially working out or hanging with people. Young people are so much propensity to pressure themselves and feel bad because subconsciously "I'll be a looser" hence no sex and reproduction for me... No lot's of money and eventual easy living/survival. Memento mori dudes, just do what you enjoy when you enjoy it and take care of yourself with a long term view, and stop pathologizing everything and taking life so seriously.
I used to be exactly this way. I would get really uncomfortable if there was silence, especially in a group of people and I felt this weird need, almost an obligation, to break it. Even though nobody else was saying anything either. Over the years I've been challenging that habit and found out just how relaxing and freeing it can be to not feel the need to talk all the time. It also opens you up to listening to other people and just generally being more natural in social interactions.
This is why NSDR is sooo powerful during the day, you can add whim-hoff breathing to it, 10 minutes two times, will help you fall asleep easier at night
I honestly love it when two people have a close bond even tho they're sitting in comfortable silence. This should be our goal. Being so close to someone that the silence doesn't end the relationship
The idea is to do something that you like. The artist, the manager and the investor are 3 different personality types in business know which one you are.
Where does he get those viewers for interview from? Id it some kind of high timer Patreon supproters, or like somexkind of random lottery where you csn win this, or some other donation system
dr k is such a pleb. he acts according to his stereotypes and assumptions. every good therapist knows that you don't treat people you don't know well enough. but he thinks gamer guys on twitch are like THIS and in that case you do THAT. go back to school
My problem is I'm painfully aware of the cost of changing but can't really find the reason why I should want to change. The supposed benefits don't speak to me. I know there would be benefits on paper, but I can't make myself care. They don't matter to me. I don't wan't to live the way I live but the alternative, which seems unapealling, would come at a big cost. I really don't know what to do...
Here to say that I agree with the second plan of action to a point, but I'm wary that ppl who actually *have* had the issue explained to them over and over again using the second point to gain the upper hand when they've really just worn down the other person to the point where they don't have the energy to explain anymore. I would spend hours trying to talk through issues with my ex just for them to say "I don't know why you're upset" the next time the same issue came up (the issue was verbal abuse and gaslighting). At that point I absolutely do feel it's justified to say "if you still don't understand why I'm upset then I don't have the energy to explain this to you again. You should know what the issue is if you'd actually been listening to me for the hours of dialogue we've already had about this."
Sometimes, I wonder how many people (with a bit on introspection) look at relationships not as effortful commitments, but as social milestones to signal to others they “made it”. Especially if you grew with a habit of trying to save face, or “fear of failure” perfectionism. Something to think about if you’re unsure what value you might provide to a relationship, and if that’s really why you want it.
Wait, say that again: "I start to make things work for me".... I think I've just realised that I never fully understood what that means. (Check me out becoming more mentally flexible, lol). Please, someone give me a really detailed example.
It is tempting to think I have an addiction to RU-vid, but the fact is, I just have it on because I’m lonely. It’s talking, noise in the background. If it’s not RU-vid, it’s the TV. I know it’s not an addiction because when I have a guest here for a few days I hardly ever watch it. I am engaged in a real life social situation and I don’t even miss it.
