Why You Shouldn't Resist Watching P*rn 

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LMFAO

He's doing a great job presenting this information for free.

Definitely hit me, too.

Yes that hits now extra hard partly also because of AI.

It wasn’t even a week ago I was asking myself “why should I stop?” And this comment just hit me like a ton of bricks

*sense of horniness

always

It's actually obvious. You don't have to be an addiction counselor in CA to understand it. The problem is that the vast majority of guys don't have a girlfriend, a normal family, or normal friends

@@romanishchenko6310 you’d be surprised how many people don’t make the connection. Especially for men it’s incredibly easy to fall into your routine and completing the process of your day to day life ie work, errands, etc. many people never reflect on how they’re feeling they just act on those feelings

That makes so much sense and yet is so incredibly disheartening. Most of us aren’t even craving sexual pleasure merely the simple feeling of warmth that comes from hugging someone who love us.

@@HKRAQ I didn't make the connection, but now you say it, it's so obvious :/

I kinda wished i had a wife that loves me.

Yes instead of filling our socks and pillow sheets. We need to fill our minds!

You're 100% correct and Dr. K is sort of saying it at the end when he talks about the sense of purpose. Even if you are not working on a greater purpose at the moment, just give yourself a bunch of tiny ones to keep yourself busy (do an online course, go for a walk, even play a game for a while). Fun fact: I spent last week at my grandparents house preparing it for the summer so I was busy all day every day - didn't even think of porn once. Now I'm back home and I spend more time in front of my laptop, I definitely think more about it.

thats not necessarily resisting porn. It is giving yourself value within your day and giving yourself a sense of worth, even if it is from small things. Keeping yourself busy gives you a purpose and as such a feeling or worth, which causes the addiction to mostly go away.

we need to ban all porn and promiscuity on social media to save this society from collapse in the coming 30-50 years

Thank you for reciting the video in a dumbed down version, genius…

@@SergiusXVII whats the problem??

@@SergiusXVII It serves as a warning to commenters that have just read the title and are coming to comment something about it without watching the video.

​@@bside6859 Growth ponzi scheme.

I read this right as he said it

Bro tempted somebody just then😂

He is trying to tempt people so that they stay in the cycle of hedonism, making then weak, so that they can become more effective consumers of his “content”. Disgusting.

@@thegreatandmightyseff7214 and why are YOU under one of his vids?

@@temperino I just clicked on it, I am not subscribed to him. Classic assumption fallacy.

The jokes are exhausting. It’s why it’s hard to navigate Reddit or YT comments for awhile now. It’s always someone trying to outdo everyone else so much so it feels like a sitcom and everyone wants to reduce communication to memes or phrases overused.

@@gottisttott6350 everyone wants attention by typing these comments! pathetic

-Grape Man

-The man who did nothing wrong

Exactly

Honestly porn is an avengers level threat

Bars

Was looking for this comment.

@@Pebbledrop I'm happy someone noticed lol

Just beat it, beat it, beat it, beat it No one wants to be defeated Showin' how funky and strong is your fight It doesn't matter who's wrong or right Just beat it (Beat it) Beat it (Beat it)

But it is, in fact, about beating it :O... Dr. K be misleading us

​@@thenew4559King of Pop

Yes same, My Guy Student just yesterday watching corn at night. It's Worse, He having bullying every student including Form 1 or 2 Student. However, I think his brain didn't was destroying before late. I hopefully he must going to church and reading bible everyday than watching corn. Amen.

Dr. k is person not have enough experience about it how is real dangerous all kind of corn and spicy stuffs on applications and plistic Sergry on women to who's look at them and how effect so extremely on men lifes and good women lifes. I tell u something about my life my parents were work hard to keep family together give values to their kids. I'm older one on siblings never want say (my) cuz they are evils that why i cut off them of my life forever till die. my parents trying to have good kids rising good. there 3 group on me of siblings who's under age then me when I was care about them all time when they were babies when I was still child also but I was care about them for who am I as child after years they are growing up be teens they are starting hate enemy 3 of them do group together to mocking on me all time call me stupid I was not care about it till my dad bought computer was for who's study to use it I not use it at all was also I don't care just read book about computer to also computer one of siblings that group who's hate me I trying understand it without use computer avoid problems with them put something on me but during these 5 years I was saw their behavior getting worse they starting doing unbelievable things even my parents still till today not know about it they also starting hate towards to my parents like they enemies but my parents still not pay attention about their behavior use my parents hurts me.. If someone really wants hear more about it ill do write it save a lot of families lifes from destroy it.

There are no misters. -Yoda Master @@ItzBinboyWhyNot

i feel like that just adds build-up and expectation , which makes u failing more painful

Allah SWT has dominion over everything, pray to him and he will answer insha Allah. But we have to put in the work as well

Exactly, its a terrible idea... Like saying to an ex drug addict that its bad to resist drugs like wtf

That’s what she said

Say the line silvio!

@bingbong2721 I recommend watching the video, my guy. If you're certain of a conclusion with minimal evidence, you're probably more likely to be wrong. I assume he means that you should improve your own life elsewhere rather than simply remove the coping mechanism... because that's what it is, drugs and behaviours and cravings exist to suppress suffering, just try and take the bottle from the alcoholic- if you succeed, which you probably won't, but if you do... see what happens. They'll be jittery. Annoyed. Physiological responses; nausea, headaches, etc; Withdrawals. Compare that to being put in an environment where alcohol is LESS gratifying than quality socialisation (replace fellow alcoholic friends with sober friends, you'll notice they won't have NEARLY the same amount of cravings) studying for a purpose, learning engaging hobbies, etc. You'll be less likely to crave, more likely to put the bottle down yourself. Don't resist; Divert attention and intention. Watch the video, compare our assumptions.

​@bingbong2721 he literally talks about that in the video. Please watch videos before commenting instead of spreading misinformation.

Like learning a new skill. Marshal art, sim racing, cooking, wood work, anything that requires generative attitude and learning, not consumption.

Yeah but... I want to whack it at night, I'm not gonna go to a martial art lesson or go to the shed and work on a DIY project.

Then play video games lol. Not the most productive thing but its not the worst thing ever and may be enriching if with friends or trying out new genres​@@richardmccabe2392

Only thing that can truly replace it is a real relationship

​@@jready1455it doesn't.

mindfulness is powerful

hey, congrats on getting over your addiction!! I am curious on how long you have stayed clean for and what other things did you do to get over the addiction?

Great idea, i'll try this for sure

@@Dhr_v I was in my mid-teens, so unfortunately I could only resist for a couple months at a time before hormones would get the better of me, but even though that might not count as completely "clean", I didn't feel like it was controlling my life anymore and I was satisfied with where I'd gotten. Nowadays I hardly feel the need to do it at all due to hormonal changes, but it should be noted that I'm a special case in that regard, so your mileage may vary. Sadly I can't remember doing anything else in particular to overcome it. I just slowly but surely made progress towards my goal until it wasn't really a problem anymore.

@@Zakaker Np, this clears it! Tysm for getting back to me.

​@@Zakaker Was it porn specifically or was it everything?

Congratulations! You quitted marijuana, but now... You are addicted to DOGS! 🐶 ok now actually, congrats on quitting 😁

Congrat on quitting smoking that! I hope you have lots of fun with your dogs.

I remplaced my addiction with sport every morning, journaling BUT in the first place I just smoked RAW CBD wich was disgusting because to me tabacoo was the reason why I'd smoke 10g of mari juana an eveninf alone I felt like it. Because mari juana feels nice AND I was reaaaaally addicted to tabaco. Smoking raw Cbd is so useless and bruh that my brain said Ok you've had your dose but also, don't so it again please (with enough time) and mostly because doing anything else felt better

How long did it take you to notice improvements in your memory and stuff in day to day tasks?

Thanks for this! I will never be able to get a friend (and definitely never get a date or girlfriend) but I CAN get a pet. If that’s enough purpose for you, maybe it will be for me.

Only way I could develop a habit of fleeing is by developing habits and practices that I am responsible for that I prioritize in my time. Then when the temptation is there, I can easily understand how it distracts from the priorities I am responsible for. I believe "flee" comes with "fear". If there are things you love more than your own immediate self-gratification, then you will fear the possibility of losing what you truly cherish.

I had the same mantra last year

did u even see video? the whole video explains why that might not work and why people fall back to it again

​@@JeyAnirudhJekka I spoke from experience in overcoming it, and, yes, running isn't the same as resisting. Avoidance isn't fighting. "Only a little murder" isn't a thing. He may have good reason to talk about self control burn out, but Evolution is a very stupid theory and anyone who judges human behavior on such fairy-tales is losing in the area of understanding human nature. This man is very wise. He knows alot about what he is talking about and is often very right, but iniquitous means will never lead to righteous ends. There is a way to not sin and overcome it; "To shun evil is understanding." Addictions are not equal. With sex specifically, there is a spiritual component that is particularly weak against the environment. This is the only reason he is wrong. By treating sex the same as any addictive behavior, his recommendation is blinded. "Setting up the battle to beat the addiction." It means changing the environment with sex. Go to a place where it stops attacking, and stop feeding it by not giving it fuel to foster thoughts in your head. Running is the solution, not to addiction, but to sexual temptation. He even mentions the differences. He is floating around the right prescription. He is almost there. XD

​@@JeyAnirudhJekka First: "Scheduled murder" is not a thing. There is a way to conquer sin without participating in it. Iniquitous means do not lead to righteous ends. "To shun evil is understanding." With sexual sin in particular, and he mentions this, it is weak against environmental changes. Running is only the solution to sexual temptation, not every addiction, because it is different spiritually. Running is the key, and avoiding the triggers that feed it in the first place, because with time, particularly lust, goes away, unlike other addictions.

I don’t drink anymore but when I needed to quit, I first cut back like you’re describing. I made rules for myself like light beer only, no drinking until 7 pm and in bed by 10:30, no more than 6 beers a night. Then it reduced to just weekends and drinking socially until finally I stopped for good. Knowing that I still could drink but not as much as before made it a lot easier to eventually get sober. Best of luck to you if you do ever decide to fully quit, but it’s great that you’ve learned to moderate.

At least you’re aware of the issue and you’re making better choices. That sounds like a W to me! ❤

thats great to hear. I guess for (some) addictions, its better to limit rather then remove. You cover the "need" while still functioning.

what worked for me is setting rules of where I'm allowed to buy alcohol. This is a big deal since I walk everywhere. So if I want a drink I'm not allowed to buy from the gas station 10 minutes away, instead I have to walk an hour to the bar or to the liquor store and suddenly getting alcohol becomes more trouble than it's worth and the craving goes away.

This comment is giving me déjà vu.

Hilarious underated comment 😂

@@funygameur who knows, may be people here are not fans of Sun Tzu's quotes😁

Create one

i actually read that book a while ago lol

@@shishlinsv when you're small appear to be large

Didn't expect the chocolate rain guy to be in a DR.K video about beating the urge to beat it. Small world.

the mind is a strong gateway to relaps indeed

how do you deal with hyperphantasia @tayzonday

Rare Aphantasia W

I read this in his voice.

Staring in the mirror?

The book Atomic Habits talks about this heavily because the environment is a giant factor in building habits, both good or bad. You, as the architect of your environment, moved out of a place of stress which stemmed directly from your environment, therefore removing all the stressors needed to signal your brain to engage in those bad habits in the first place. So you created your own environment and you did it my guy🎉🎉. Proud of you fam.

​@@rgb2296 Probably a form of self hatred

@@9volt101 Goes hand-in-hand with acne, especially severe or cystic acne

@@rgb2296 my reaction as well

For real, the voices already coming

@@summersalix sounds like you havent finished the video yet.

The title is semi-true.

he changed it back to resist

but isnt that manipulation?

Yes the gym!

Agereed but I think it’s always good to think just one more day and you will notice how your day plays out the same except now your healing

Great comment and I couldn't agree more.

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Meditation doesn’t need stimulation. Because that’s what it is.

Thought stopping? You mean like „don’t think about a blue elephant“?

yes our will has limited capacity we run out of fuel very fast and arent conscious most of time especially at our lowest points daily

@@iche9373 Google exists.

Using consumables to resist or develop passive resistance.

@@szymonbaranowski8184Just remember your will is only limited by the limit you place on yourself. You have much more than you realize.

wow that's a good friend.

risky

If you have to tell which kind of porn you're gonna watch even without going into specifics, you would resist even more. Just saying it's something from Japan and your friend wouldn't have to guess much.

I mean you also could've just used him lol

You're a good friend❤

Just do a keto diet to cure your cravings or take Ozempic.

Great episode. I think it's spot on that the real willpower, or as South Park puts it, disciprine, isn't in resisting your demons but in moderating them. It's easy to run away from addiction, but that doesn't actually work. What's much harder and much more effective is developing the ability to engage in the addictive behaviour without losing control.

Aversion is its own attachment. Attachments are natural. Just ask yourself why and whether or not it is good for you. Be aware.

And also a keto diet can regulate the cravings

I mean Cold Turkey helped me last 3 to 4 months

I'm edging rn

@@pepito69 me 2

I’ve been edging since ‘97

ugh, I'm edging really hard to this comment rn

edging to all the edgers in this comment section

By far. Been watching some since 2014, never seen better even by someone with a PHD or else.

I agree!

Agreed

Same. Heck, maybe this vid will be the most popular video by Dr. K

gulp

We'll see if that comes to be true

289k views in one day

I remember being that one person whenever I see a title I just thinks it's 100% correct and it's fked my life.

Yep, lots of people seem to buy into moralistic nonsense about how porn is inherently bad and therefore complete abstinence is the only acceptable behavior

Then it shouldn't be. But then again, a lot of them are also getting the point.

yeah, it's very subtle

Like 😂😂😂

sigh. Unzips pants

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@@UnderTheTutelage Dr. K video plays on

Young blud

Was your guess right?

Was your guess right?

Was it right? Was it? You can't just leave us hanging...

OP is clearly extensively analyzing the video in absolute detail Even though the video is 20 minutes, and the comment was an hour ago, all to see if the guess was right What a cliffhanger!

nope, i think we lost them

Samsara. If life is suffering, why engage in it? I don't think Sisyphus would be happy if he's actually aware of his situation. One must imagine Sisyphus pissed.

I think someone forgot to pin this comment

One thing I am struggling with is knowing that the environment I have no control over is damaging me, but I will need to wait out and keep doing what I am doing to have a chance to change where I am. Also I like my job but it would require me to stay where I am, where I am unhappy because of constant noise (and resulting fatigue), neglected youths and anonymity. And if I fantasize about where I would like to be, I can't find an answer even on the dream level where any place in the world and anything from a tiny apartment to a grand mansion is possible. I often think to myself subconsciously that I want to go "home", but I don't know where that is or what it means. I guess to sum it up, how to feel at home in life?

How a combination of fear and denial determine most people’s decisions.

Very well said!

yes it also ties ijn to this identity you catered towards yourself. Just imagine in all of those instances you identified as a smoker. Inherently you would have made decisions based on the mental frame that you created, and vice-versa!

Quit smoking in a similar way. That was loong ago. Keep doing what you're doing, it works well.

This very much sounds like the method of *Alen Car* in the book *_"How to stop cigarette"_* (or smth) About that book I want to say : It worked on me for two days, insanely well I didn't feel any craving BUT my body started to be insanely sick out of nowhere, like a flu in august, I was with a friend that had a cigarette. Seeing it evokes nothing, absolutely nothing. But I was of fuck head that by opposition to the guy Alen Car, wanted to prove him wrong or right. I thought: OK it seems to work but I wanna know, am I sick because of my bodys addiction or is it something else. If it is smth else, I'll just re read his book after this cigarette. The only take away to this is that I ruined the effect the book had on me by smoking a cigarette I didnt even want and retook smoking after two days when I could have stopped, I feel like O really could have. WHAT DOES ALEN CAR SAYS IN HUS BOOK ? LISTEN TO MY ADVICES. DO NOT SMOKE FOR NO REASON, WHY NO ENVY, IF YOU DO DON'T SAY MY BOOK ISN'T WORKING : YOU JUST DIDN'T HEAR MY ADVICE. I did just that. I regret it. This book doesn't have any science backing, more to the contrary, but people suceeded with it and it could have been me. To me it's self hypnosis, re writing of though pattern and I really think it's worh the try.

@@funygameur Hmm I dunno, I didn't read a book or so. I simply switched to the weakest cigarettes available and reduced smoking by simply doing other things + restrictions as I've written above. It works well. Yesterday I smoked some cigarettes more than the usal 3 or 5 a day. Today I'm way below. In general the count goes down. That's all that matters to me. And it worked well. Last week I had 2 days without a cigarette and without craving. After the 2 days I had me "normal" 3 cigarettes a day. And so on. Those cig-free days are slowly but surely raising in numbers. And I don't have any regret smoking a cigarette b/c I know statistically I'm on a trend to quit. :)

Ask God to reveal Himself. Only Jesus will show up. He will heal you and give you peace ❤ Ever since I declared and truly believed that he's my Lord and Savior, my lust and porn addiction left the day after. Been free for 1 year❤ God bless you, stay strong and seek Him ❤

@@AntonioLexanTeh friend, I've been a Christian my whole life, and I take my faith seriously. Hasn't made the addiction go away. If Jesus has healed you, great! But that doesn't mean he's guaranteed to heal everyone in the same way. He's not a vending machine for miracles, and I think it's dangerous if we accidentally give people that impression.

Watch the video

watch the video, scrub

Then can I have it?

I wouldn't know

Sounds like an ice cold take to me

Ummm, yeah I think that's how it works

@@jinfin221addict talk here

the "opc" is silent

Don't reach too deep in the popcorn or you might find a surprise

With a dune popcorn bucket?

@@marshmeowllow6816 Currently edging using the dune popcorn bucket

So I shouldn't follow Michael Jackson's advice? :\

I tihnk people confuse nofap and quitting pornography a lot. NoFap is a community of weird people thinking they will get superpowers and ultra-high testosterone by not jacking it for long enough. But there is more than enough evidence to debunk that whole shabang. It's healthy and natural to beat it every now and then. The problem is with porn, not fapping. Getting off to watching other people fuck in front of you, messes up a lot of stuff in our brains. We tend to get more sad. We tend sexualize a lot more stuff in very weird ways. We tend to get angry at or objectify women a lot more. So it's not about not beating it. It's about not watching porn.

@@GrumpyDerg 😂

Don't beat it BUT you can FLOG IT!!

Bro, for a few seconds I thought you had a weird relationship with corn. Then it dawned on me that you weren't actually talking about grains...

​@@TheDalekCaan_He _is_ talking about corn. I am an Iowa corn farmer and this menace has wrecked havoc on our crops for years and is well known in our local farming community. Hell I've had to decontaminate my fields 13 times this month alone because of the unspeakble things he's done. He must be stopped!

​@@magnanimus9692

Find "healthy distractions" sport, art, design, or manual crafts etc the healthy distractions will make you so passionate in your flow state that "healthy distractions" will distract you from "unhealthy distractions". So this way you will teach your brain to be passionate about healthy hobbies. Ed Mylett said a few years ago in some video. Be passionate about some hobby that, it will distract you from other distractions.

Just do a keto diet to cure your cravings or take Ozempic, Chico. The World is Yours.

Perfect clarification.

I get that the title can be misleading and potentially even harmful, but the information in the video itself mostly justifies it. It's just that some people will sadly never know that and just think he's justifying people's addictive cycles.

😂 Exactly lol

Thanks for recap

There are plenty of good arguments that watching porn is harmful even if you’re not addicted.

​@@imworkingonit2468I'm all ears

@@imworkingonit2468 Are any of them NOT based on ridiculous cultural hangups about sex?

@@imworkingonit2468please state these arguments complete with the links to scientific studies because I’ve been using them since I was a teen and I’m now 30+ with no major issues in life. I’ll wait.

@@LiftPizzas I’m the kind of person that doesn’t watch P that much, maybe 10-20 minutes a day max, and even if I don’t have an addiction, it still feels like a need to “discharge” (coupled with M). And it feels disgusting to watch P, I’ve always been not too fond of it. Either way, it’s better not to watch P than to watch it. Nothing good about it. P and M contribute nothing to my life, it’s a waste of my time and emotional energy… I’d prefer to have a relationship with a real woman, and P and M are sort of a crappy substitute. Also, isn’t it enough to qualify as addiction if it directly influences your life in a negative way? Consumption rate doesn’t even matter that much? I study and socialise occasionally, so I’n not that unsuccessful in life, but I feel like eliminating P and M from it would only improve it

Give this man a beer!!!

You dont beat your meat to that, you defeat it

i crank it to MF DOOM

@@Max-ek4dn 😂

I crank it to opeth

Just adopt a keto diet or take Ozempic to deal with your addiction

@@iche9373 Wat

​@@iche9373 Are you serious? Or was this sarcasm?

@@LukeLane1984 Dr. Chris Palmer would confirm that a keto diet can handle an addiction and Ozempic regulates Cravings.

@@iche9373 stop copying and pasting this under every single comment and actually explain why you think keto is the cure to a porn addiction

Just do a keto diet to cure your addiction

@@iche9373 it makes no sense. Absolutely 0

@@Aziz.500 According to Dr Chris Palmer, a keto diet can regulate craving and addiction. Just saying.

@@iche9373 According to Dr E.Rando keto diet sucks

excuse me! Who do YOU think you are to tell me I'm not a sigma lone wolf? I AM a sigma lone wolf. 🐺

same with any other addiction

This so called addiction is literally 5 minutes of effort to solve, cost nothing and you can move on with your day, imaginary problem of the 1st world countries.

Just do a keto diet to cure your addiction

Everyone has an addiction. If you think you have none you better check it again

@@iche9373 addictions are alot deeper than just eating/consuming foods or beverages. its something that effects your mind as well as your entire body. you can gradually change the chemistry in your body overtime an that will have some positive effects but it means nothing if you can't cull the mind telling you to do the thing that makes you feel better about a situation or circumstances. which is why its so important to re-wire or reprogram your mind to deceive yourself into thinking less is more and eventually you will no longer become dependent upon the thing which caused the addiction and can then make the decision to quit it.

Freedom is hard to find when you don’t have God to turn to.

Interesting.I guess it'll also improve your cognitive capabilities since you actually have to imagine the scenario instead of just relying on your phone.But on the other hand you also get more creative freedom with how those scenarios play out

Is there a strong reason to quit the second one?

@@sauravthegreat Yeah l believe so too, either Dr. K mentioned this before or another Psych youtuber but l never truly got around to trying, it makes sense to me though

@@UGMD other than effect on mood (depends on the person) or being tired afterwards l dont think so

I have tried this and was able to quite porn for 2 months, then relapsed but significantly decreased my porn consumption afterwards down to once a week on average. Still masturbated a lot but I am five days free of that currently and I think not watching porn often has been helpful in that. I also have made a pact with a friend which has given me a reason to stick with it-so far so good.

moreso with video game/ technology addiction for me than pornography tho