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my child is everything you've described, EXCEPT the behaviors only happen at home. i don't know if it's adhd, over stimulation, over tired from the day? control?
Haha, thank you! And thank you for your support! Glad it worked well for you. I do try to talk a bit slower in newer videos. I think everyone has their own preferences. What's important to me is that the info makes sense to as many people as possible.
I know some do! 😊 It's hard though. There's so much at play in a school/classroom, and trying to meet everyone where they're at with the resources available is tough. I think it would be great if more mental health education was part of professional development though.
We are on week 8 of daycare my son just turned two this month. He had pictures of us and we tried a stuffed animal - he carried it around all day with the picture. But unfortunately I have to be at work at 7 and the daycare opens at 630am and I have another child to drop at his before school Program. I have less than 5 minutes. I’m out of ideas, I’m so sad I see him upset on the cameras all day long. It’s not his personality at all. They are kind of him and do all the right things there. I’m just out of ideas.
I know, it can really tug at your heart when they're struggling. And it's hard when their verbal skills are still developing. When kids continue to stay upset for long periods of time, it's a good idea to double check something else isn't making it harder for them, like being sick, too tired, hungry, overstimulated, etc. Starting a daily special time practice may also be helpful. There is a playlist of videos on that, if you haven't seen them yet. I also have a separation anxiety masterclass that offers more support. Hang in there. Around age 2 can be a really tough separation phase. 💚
Thank you for your video. I never considered that anxiety might be the reason our almost 4 year old adamantly refuses and cries every time (3 times a week) to go to preschool. Today, he was under the kitchen table holding on to a table leg and wrapping his legs around it, in essence anchoring himself. Will try some of your suggestions.
schools dont care about adhd as they are left brained schools. i learned years agomy youngest son has dysgraphia and the school doesnt care either. i had to do it all on myself. i agree,pajamas vs an argument is not worth it. just put a t-shirt on and go to bed
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid, it got easier to focus on school as I got older. Throughout my junior and senior year I gradually pulled myself off the medication, to where I would sometimes take it duirng exams to not at all. I can still be forgetful or get distracted from time to time, but I manage.
My 7 year old is suffering from separation with going to school. Ive been able to address some of the issues she has told me where things that made her sad or worry, but it seems like no matter what we change she almost doesnt want to accept that things are better. How to tell a child its ok to be happy and its ok accept changes were made to make things better? It like she is afraid to say or accept things are better.
Sometimes when anxiety has been a problem for a while, it can feel really strange or kind of scary when things are actually better. That tends to get better with time as kids get more used to the new normal. If drop off or separating is still tough, there may be more to practice and plan for to help ease more of the anxiety.
Thank you! While behavior strategies are important, I think the relationships deserve a lot of attention too. And it's universal, no matter what the struggles are, that kids and grownups do better when they have strong relationships. :-)
True Kids behave as their mind makes them to To comfort..them unsurmountable task. No quick fixes...yet we can try..for them😢something should work...God!😅😢
First! logged on just in time to catch this. (you may have this in your library i just haven't looked) A version of this video where you focus on an ADHD parent struggling with an ADHD child would be an awesome resource, at least for me personally. While i entirely agree with the strategies mentioned, this is for neurotypical's Not exactly for Adhd parents. No shade or complaint this is a perfectly valid video with great tips. But as a parent with ADHD these tips feel like they would be very difficult to make actionable in most cases. Your an awesome resource, Thank you for your work.
I don't have one yet specifically around parenting a child with ADHD when the parent also has ADHD, but it's in the queue. It should be live in October. It is probably the most requested topic lately. Just curious, and I know everyone is different, which tips in this video feel tougher to put into practice? That way I can make sure to include more around that in the next video.
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Hello grandparent, struggling with ADHD herself, with almost 15 years of recovery under my belt, at 54 years old in menopause currently fostering, my almost 4 year-old granddaughter who has undiagnosed ADHD (per the neurologist. She’s too young to actually diagnose) developmental delay, possible oppositional defiance disorder, and I am struggling. FAMILY SERVICES has done absolutely nothing to help, even though I’ve explained them that I have no experience in dealing with a child with these issues. Insurance doesn’t help, she has an IEP at school that has been chiseled down to 30 minutes a day once a week.
Hi and thank you for watching. Sometimes it can be so hard to access the right services and support. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate and you are doing the very best you can. PCIT or parent management training might be helpful therapies. Sometimes it's tough to find a therapist who specializes in ADHD in young kids. If you live near a metro area, children's hospitals usually have those expertise and are covered by most insurances.
Thank you, this is very helpful. A COVID born baby in 2020, didn't find it hard during his pre-school years. But he's developed sudden anxiety and fears for his new school with no friends around, impacting all our sleep massively and we are stuck in a vicious circle. Will start implementing from today and update how it goes in the coming days and weeks :)
Depends on the child and their specific needs. For formal accommodations in school, their ADHD symptoms generally have to interfere with learning. But I do think as parents, it's great to be open to doing things differently in ways that work with an ADHD when things are tough.
Can you explain WHY it may cause things like having a messy room, lack of emotional regulation & outbursts, or being bad with time management?? Other than that it’s a collection symptoms in men/women I don’t really understand what the disorder IS, is there something that scientists have found to malfunction in the brain that leads to these things like forgetfulness & inattentiveness???
Thank you for watching and your question. Like many mental health conditions, there is still a lot to be discovered and learned, and usually many factors at play. With ADHD, we know there are problems with the brain systems responsible for executive functions, like planning, organization, and attention control. We also know there is a disruption in the dopamine system, which is responsible for feelings of reward, mood, sleep, and learning/memory. Smaller specific brain structures, like the prefrontal cortex, cerebellum, hippocampus, and amygdala have been found in kids with ADHD too. Those structures play a role in some of the other symptoms/problems mentioned above.
You must be such a nice mom!!❤️❤️❤️ I pray I can be kinder and more patient with my children. I don’t think mine have adhd, but all kids have problems with learning obedience I think.
Well, thank you 💕 Having my training is helpful, and I can assure you I am also a human and make mistakes too. Yes - all kids struggle with listening and obedience to some extent. The stat for how often a typical kid follows directions is about 60% of the time, which may not seem that great haha. So, although it can be super frustrating, it's normal for kids to not listen sometimes.
My 2 year old screams when I go to the bathroom by myself. He screams when I walk upstairs to grab laundry… he screams when I leave him with his loving, wonderful father in the next room over, or his 6 year old sister. He was the best baby ever, he was so easy, so happy. Then he hit a year old and he won’t leave my side or play by himself. I can’t shower without him, I can’t get up to pee in middle of the night without him waking the whole house up with his screams. I sort of hate to use the phrase “mental health” but It’s seriously impacting my.. mental health. 😅😢 I don’t know what the heck to do. None of this works.
Separation anxiety can be so so tough, on the parents too! If you haven't seen it yet, my video on toddler's and separation anxiety might be helpful: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-2bHdcxcn5vY.htmlsi=ejbHyxcio1njIYrs
As someone with adhd and my son i really appreciate your strategies and your views on boundaries and simple expectations on behaviors, which we all need i wish our schools saw it like this
Did I completely miss the suggestions here?? I understand conceptually that there is a better way to teach and discipline a neurodivergent child but I need specifics. Vague creative ideas aren’t working in any way, shape or form.
This video gives me so much hope for my son. He’s young. He’s only 5 but I have been feeling like he might have this.. especially because 5 of my adult siblings have it. I see him struggling and I haven’t always handled my approach the best, but this gives me a great guide to help him. I’ll be getting him an appointment soon to see if he has it so his teachers will be able to work with him well too. I always watch him next to my 4 year old daughter and I see a huge difference in the way they both behave. Her staying on task easily and him not so much. Your videos are so helpful! Thank you ❤
Hmm I have adhd and although I thought at the time of listening it was good information after 10min you kept giving more and more advice and I just forgot everything. Is there a more simple video that will make it easier for me to understand and remember?
Your vidoes are awesome. We just discovered our 5 year old had adhd. He is seeming to have a difficult time at school. Schools in india are not so aware of adhd. I dont know if he is taking that frustration on his two year old sister at home. Even when she is doing something calmly, he keeps hitting her and disturbing her..i got him a exercise ball, he will be running around the house in that and whenever he comes near her, he hits her. I lose control n hit him back. Im able to understand every other problem of his, but this one is too difficult to understand
This video describes me as a child to a T, but looking back at my old reports, my struggles were blamed on me being over-reactive, ambivalent towards my family members, and just being too sensitive. All those were said by a professional assessor, too! I was bullied, and teachers were often the ringleaders. They hated me for taking too long on assignments or messing up writing down homework. I was so often shamed in class that I stopped trying. I really wish no more little girls would have to go through that anymore.
Thank you for sharing. Sadly, I know you are not alone in your experience. And I'm sorry that anyone has to go through that. It's painful and can have such a lasting impact. I too hope that collectively we become more educated on ADHD and mental health and can take a more non-judgmental and curious stance when someone is struggling.
(In case you missed it in the Description) 0:45 - #5 - What is different for kids with ADHD? 3:33 - What kids with ADHD need most 3:50 - How can parents actually do this? 5:32 - #4 - How to reduce stress and conflict 7:50 - What to do when things get difficult 10:20 - #3 - Dealing with big emotions and reactions 14:19 - #2 - Are there positive things about ADHD? 17:30 - 2 important things for parents of kids with ADHD 18:45 - The flipside of ADHD in kids 20:18 - #1 - Don't underestimate the effects of this! 22:20 - What you can do when you need more support
Mu daughter was talking to her therapist one day: D: it feels like my brain is at the trampoline park! T: what do you mean, how does that feel? D: like Bluey T: like Bluey? D: yeah Bluey is a dog. And a sister. And shes like (twirls) and then (points in all directions)- butterfly!! Rainbow! Woah!!!
Im 13 and I have extreme separation anxiety and every time we’re going to the store or some place without my mom then I get sad and just want to go home😢 I don’t know how to fix it and it’s hard cause the always tell me to go and do something but it’s not possible 😢
My son was at the park yesterday and kept hitting me. He is always hungry and tired and went home and had a nap. I felt overstimulated as an adhd person myself. How do I explain this to his dad, who also has adhd? His reaction now is to scream and yell like he was when he was a child, it makes me angry and anxious about being home. How do I get his dad to stop overreacting to everything? Or is that different since he is an adult?
I came here for my 7 year old and now I see all the adults in the comments saying that they are STILL afraid of the dark, am I never going to sleep again without a lamp light shining in my face because my 7 year old is afraid of the dark and can’t sleep alone? 😢
