Eliminates extreme reactions when you integrate. 100 percent. When we are able to view our own thoughts and understand, then there is peace. Compassion for oneself and others is also healing. Frank Yeoman is so right, I did catch myself from over reacting in so many situations. My under reacting so became a habit. I no longer react at anything; I analyze then act.
They need to grow up...stop parentifying those around them...stop expecting others to take care of them and ADULT at the age-appropriate level they should be at in life. People with BPD want a perfect-parent. They need to become their own parent and stop projecting that demand onto others.
In DBT they call this not “Fragilizing” the client, perpetuating the idea that they can’t do what needs to be done. Impulsivity is described as a “skills deficit” not as not being able to “muster self control.”
This attitude applies to so many conditions in Medicine, if not all! Health care professionals, do not let your biases make your patients become disabled people by default. First, do no harm. Visualize their potential, communicate realistic hope. This also aligns with a famous speech by Viktor Frankl. Doctors’ words (just like parents’ remarks or judges’ sentences) are the most impactful medicine.
10 years of seeking for help here and getting told there was something wrong with my brain hormones, that I couldn't feel happyness and all that jazz... that's what I needed to hear TYSM 🙏
In my experience, i don't think it ever goes away. I can be ok for months and then a trigger happens and all of my symptoms whoosh back in. It's horrendous 😢. Then i have to use DBT skills ❤
What about the issue with the inability to experience any sort of true, lasting love? It’s just attachment, infatuation and neediness with no sense of true love which is the most tragic part
Sometimes I find myself in an unjust situation and I get into an angry episode that last about 3 days. Yelling and screaming it out helps, but ruins my relationship who is in my company or the even worse target of my anger.
The getting beyond people not liking me and isolating with no friends is where I'm at......It's very difficult for me to look past that and make friends......any advice/video advice?
" All these years, I'd been imagining what was in people's minds and I was wrong "... 😢 Rings home for so many of us. I'm glad I don't take everything so negative anymore. 🤍
no longer drowning in emotions as much 🤍 because you become attuned to yourself and your needs & emotions with gentle curiousity and you deal with it yourself like you are a loved one/ dear friend.
It lead to such loneliness that I enjoy too much now, like I became my own mother, father, sister, brother, etc. just have no desire to connect to anyone yet
I'm turning 40 this year, was diagnosed with bpd when I was 26. Was extreme hell for others around me. I was up and down, violent, consumed with guilt, cutting myself, suicidal, constantly internally putting myself down, constant lies. I became an alcoholic drinking 20 drinks every night after work. I pushed everyone away from me until there wasn't many people left. The theropy really didn't help me I felt like I was losing a part of myself and so I just gave up. Wasnt until I was about 38 that I felt like I could start to see issues and correct it within my mind. It does get better with age and time. But honestly I would recommend therapy for 6 months straight and keep seeing the therapist when you need after. Bpd is really hard and it's something you have to do within yourself to get better. But if anyone reads this and needs some help or guidance don't hesitate to contact me ❤
Bpd might of been easier to recognize and control if I had been diagnosed and treated correctly. But I guess if you factor in abuse, neglect and trauma it become’s much more difficult to pin down. One time I was hospitalized they did a 3 hour test that revealed I had bpd. But they never went into detail on what it was or how to treat it. So I continued on cycling and feeling completely out of control! I did try to commit suicide a couple of time’s. But for the most part I never stopped looking for help. Sadly it is very hard to find someone that know’s how to treat a person with bpd. I’m still searching. It should not be this hard to find help. Bpd is not well understood. I can honestly say that I have never found a therapist that actually knew what it was. There is just no education out there. At least where I have looked for 31 years. Even with a very supportive husband it has been a terrible struggle to just stay alive and keep pushing.
A loving parent will gently address a child’s mistakes and continue to love them. A disordered parent will punish for mistakes and withhold affection. It makes perfect sense that the child will internalize that in their psyche.
At 5:11, Frank Yeomans introduces a category of persons who never stop having that initial reaction. Can we find a way past that? Not if he is entirely right. Perhaps a deeper investigation may find a way past it? I would guess so. A more subtle understanding is hard, nearly impossible, to winkle out. Can the therapist's intuition help?
Maybe I don't understand enough but certainly people with bpd don't react to every single thing? But as far as what might heal that I thought it was interesting what Lois Choi-Kain, director of the Gunderson inst. said that therapy is not the end all and be all of healing. But then the question is what will the person even be open to even if it can work?
What you said didn't at all persuade me that you had 'borderline personality disorder'. The normal person is always looking for meaning; some people look harder than others. I think you had a severe stress, and that it overwhelmed you for a while. I think everyone has degrees of stress that can overwhelm them. That doesn't mean that they have 'borderline personality disorder'.
You are entitled to your opinion -granted the interview was short and it is hard to assess anyone in such a short period of time-however look at her affect-her expressions-her overall demeanor-she has other videos as well-God bless her for coming out!
