What about what he said about being over here and you're over there, if you want to close the gap then start walking. Isnt it possible that happens in normal relationships where one partner thinks theres a gap but always puts it on the other person to close. And if that were the case isnt it possible being dissmissive would be a logical and fair response. What if she was constantly bringing up some percieved problem or gap and you keep adressing it, putting effor into it, making real progress on it. How long do you focus on your responsibility and part of a problem before you start dismissing it when it keeps getting brought up. When someone is refusing to hear you and rejecting what you're saying thats apparently called being dismissive and its big bad. Whats it called when someone keeps "pointing out" things they want you not to do and they just always have more. Or they are upset about something that you feel is totally unfair like workload distrabution. How many times do you accept you could put mlre effort in and pick up an extra task before you stsrt feeling like you're being talked down to and dismiss it. Idk lol
Fuck maybe I'm a narcissist but I don't know if I believe in "second hand empathy" I feel like you can only have real empathy for someone you know and understand. Or something you witnessed therefore allowing you to understand what happened. Like empathy begs to be expressed. If not expressed it's kind of purely negative. If you could have genuine empathy for things abstract to yourself. People you don't know or victims of events you didn't then why wouldn't you be feeling empathetic all day about all sorts of things. So if it's selective then why? The fact you can select what to focus on and have empathy for is why I believe only direct empathy expressed to said person to be empathize with is real.
Hear me out: couples therapy with two therapists, a man and a woman professional. That way the undercurrents and conclusions can be affirmed by more than one person other than the other person in the couple. 😅
I love this new idea that u have of takin “characters” from shows we watch and pointin out the narc traits. It’s so helpful for a visual person like me that likes to relate or understand the “characters” and why they do what they do etc. great idea I love it. Thank u so much it’s helped me a lot understand a lot . I hope your channel gets successful! ❤❤❤
15:01 _"Nothing's going to work with a narcissist at the end of the day"_ This is simply untrue. Narcissists absolutely can change, if they're willing to. The fact that there's a genetic component doesn't make it untreatable.
It's amazing to me that a guy like this can be an unrepentant shitpiece and still have someone willing to fight for the relationship, meanwhile there are plenty of other mature, reasonable, compassionate men out there but nobody wants them cuz they're "boring" 🙄
She has asbergers. Has experienced bullying and is over compensating for her wounded sense of self. She def needs a therapist. But npd vs aspd while presenting the same, the motivation is different
I really like how the therapist challenges him, however, I feel he may have fared better with a white, male, seemingly successful therapist. Purely because I believe he is quick to dismiss any input from 'lesser' beings. Not because she is terrible at her job.
If someone describes themselves as Mau does - run for the hills. No one but no one is "easy to live with." We all carry around inside us the little child who, in varying degrees, did not get their needs met.
I remember this episode i was pulling my hair out. This girl upset my nervous system. By this time the average viewer STILL hadn't figured out she was a total b-word. It was driving me completely crazy.
Rocky is a person who, at first glance, can seem frivolous and extravagant and even a little "crazy". But later, we discover a person who is much more intelligent and courageous than he seems. Not only seductive and sexy (with a natural charm which spontaneously attracts men without the need to manipulate them) she then demonstrates that she has a very original temperament of the artistic type, and therefore incompatible with this modest position of hostess, of simple execution, requiring only slavish obedience and limited intelligence. A fine psychologist, she quickly detected the unhealthy temperament of Kate, her chief Hostess, who, under her elegant and haughty appearance, hides a perverse, contemptuous coldness, adoring of power and particularly manipulative towards her hierarchy which she uses with cunning to bring down her enemies without mercy.
How foolish will her flying monkeys feel after watching this. Nancy, is projecting because Bartise liked Raven. Cole was a sacrificial lamb. How I wish the cast including Zanab watched this although I doubt it would teach her anything
she is sooo awful and it was obvious during the show. Honestly, when I first saw Cole I thought he was douche-y and through the series I ended up feeling sorry for him
He’s manipulated her so much she’s lost her identity. She had traumas and he’s taken advantage of that for 23 years. He acts like a child. She babies him. This man is a monster. I wouldn’t be a free woman.
I hope she runs away from him and never look back. Though since they have children, she may have him in her life in small capacities. God - may we be wise and stay away from people like him. He’s disgusting
The statement that Zanab 'could have shown more grace' reveals her narcissism. Grace is another word for forgiveness, implying that Cole actually did something to her that she was in a position to forgive. Cole is implied to be at fault - her main fault was not being as forthcoming with forgiveness as she might have been. Even that has a caveat, however. She 'could' have shown more grace, not that she should have. And it's 'more' grace, implying that she was already cutting him some slack. It's like saying, I could have been even more selflessly forgiving than I already was. Imagine someone that treats you like this and then when confronted acts like they were doing you a favour.
Brennan is such a sap, even his father-in-law said as much on the show. It's not just him, though. These guys are willing to throw Cole to the wolves so they don't turn on them and their behaviour. Spineless to a man.
The therapeutic relationship is not just based on logic, but on emotional connection through empathy, trust and rapport building. The therapist ideally is empathetic with client(s) while centering them and their goals/purpose for being there. While Dr Orna may understand exactly what Mau is doing and has been through, she cannot be direct to scare off and break that trust, she says in her debrief with her therapist, sometimes she's sacrificing her relationship with Annie to maintain a connection with Mau to stay tuned into him (rapport and trust) and continuing therapy. People's self-awareness may or may not happen and this can take months or years of work, especially given both clients have such traumatic and chaotic personal histories that even they themselves haven't fully faced, reconciled, grieved, processed - or even want to. In order to understand how their pasts impact their current relationships.
He knows exactly what he is doing. Honestly I believe he wants her to leave, that way he walks away a "free" man and he get to play the victim to his next prey. He gets to say: you're the one that left me, I'm the victim here, all i wanted was for you to be happy and i tried to give you everything you needed, i even agreed to go to therapy FOR YOU.
This guy reminds me of my ex who went to a whore just because I didnt throw a big party for his 40th bday. He confessed me this and said the reason was he wanted to feel loved.. he didn’t feel loved from me on his bday because I celebrated in a normal way? such narcissist
"a lot of my encouragement...I'm not great at encouraging, I guess, it was interpreted a very different way" "as pressure?" "I think certainly easily as pressure but also, maybe even, like, even more than pressure. It could be almost viewed negatively" Is he alluding to rape? This makes me think of when Annie was talking about being sexually assaulted and sexually intimidated in the past (in the fifth video of the playlist it starts around 9:15 ) Mau says she never had a similar experience with me (around 14:01) and she replies " That's not true"
