What if making costumes and historical clothing is only the beginning? What can we learn from how people did things before us? What if creating is part of how we perceive and learn about and find meaning in our lives? And what does it mean to be neurodivergent at the same time? Join me as we ponder the bigger questions that arise while we make things. The journey we take in our creative process is just as important as what we end up making. Let's learn from history, NOT repeat it.
@@HerGracefulAcres these are the infurture rose gold nc headphones. But after testing several, my kids really like the jlab brand. And I agree, I tried them, they don’t hurt the ears as much.
Oh man. THANK YOU for showing those photos. As a creator, I've got the same DOOM piles of fabric, trims, trimmings, etc. I'm Dxed ADHD (moderate to severe) but self-diagnosed autistic. And the battle between the ADHD part of me and the Autistic part of me leads to freezing. As for the Autistic cleaning part taking over - I take DAYS and toothbrushes, toothpicks, whatever I need to detail and clean like I've never cleaned before and then I enter burn out for days. And sometimes that spirals me into depression. Relate to EVERYTHING in here.
Well, I found your channel via adhd chat and now the flighty part of my brain is all like "ooh, lace" and the the solid part of my brain is all like "stop it, fucking finish what you're doing first, jesus". And if I had the time, and the space, I guess I would. But I'd also build a marudai and start making tiny solenoids but never really get further than buying materials so never mind
Thats my life 😂😂 I love seeing this cuz I don't feel super crazy and alone ... what was diagnosed with ADHD a long time but not autism I'm going to ask my doctor about it on the 10th everything you said is my life it's completely and utterly exhausting but also fun and interesting but also stressful irritating the older I get and the more stressful life gets the harder it is to control the consistent brain noise and life
I really felt this video because I'm in the same place.I got my official autism diagnosis last week, and I feel validated and relieved ... and I'm forgiving myself for all the autistic traits I shamed myself for and masked so much even I didn't realize I was masking. I 100% agree that if people came to the conclusion they're autistic by research and talking to autistic people, they deserve to be listened to. I was self-diagnosed before I got my official Stamp of Neurodivergence. 😂
I relate to this so much. My heart goes out to you ❤️ I hope you’ve found a more nurturing path since you recorded this. It’s so hard being a mom, being a wife, being a unique and sensitive being. Peace
I really commend you for doing your best <3 as someone that had a later ASD diagnosis it’s that double edged sword of clarity of yourself but also that accessing support, understanding, respect and grace from others can be confronting,traumatising and not exactly a positive experience. Incredible job for sharing this on the internet, hope you find genuine people who love and support you for who you are and you can also give yourself the grace even if it’s hard and not easy. You’re worthy of being yourself and having your needs met and respected :) Wishing you healing and hope, from a random on the internet ❤️
Your experience is super duper insanely helpful. 31 years of struggling on my end as a person who is AuDhD is validated further by your amazing effort to publish this video
diagnosed both, my best advice is "give in" or allow yourself to have sensory stims whenever you want. For focus, consider the ADHD aspects and sensory overload, do not underestimate the value of noise cancelling headphones with no music playing. This looks less "special needs" than wearing noise blocking ear muffs if you care about judgement. Silence can really help. Meds do help, stimulants for ADHD. I only ever had luck with Vyvanse though and cannot currently afford it ever since I lost fancy health insurance. The meds can have their own side-effects, but being able to fall asleep instead of tossing and turning for an hour or more is ... life changing.
For me I find the best way to deal with the struggles of having both is by creating a routine but allowing alot of flexibility, havine routines in place that will help the ADHD version of me later on/ tomorrow (i almost view the adhd version of me as my twin/childish version of me that's not as productive, but has more creativity which is also useful). Like if you feel up to cleaning a bit or like it's not the hardest thing in the world do, it, even if you're in the middle of a project that you're bored of, you can go back to it when you aren't bored of it and get some cleaning done, allowing us some freedom and control helps immensely. Being aware that our brain will not always be receptive to doing things and then capitalizing when it can is sort of like trading stocks lol. Meal prepping will probably help alot too but I'm still trying to work it in, I think also not being too hard on yourself and taking a one step at a time approach to be very helpful as well. Basically use the adhd part to come up with creative ideas/inspirations, and then use the autism to reign everything in and maintain some semblance of a routine.
Thank you for your story. I have also be there situation many times. And I have adhd, autism, ocd, rsd, maniac, depres, ptsd. And my family and friends dont believe me.
Oh! Important distinction: loving people may not understand and it might take a while for them to understand, and that was the case for my husband. It was a lot of transitions all at once to create a life less likely to burn me out. But I’m happy to say we got there.
@@tracirex sadly, I agree with you. We seem to have a very rich understanding and observation of how things work for us a lot of other people don’t necessarily have or do.
Thank you, I relate to this so much! I am finding ways too to manage it all. I realise that eating lots of sugary food doesn't help although it seems like it, it boosts dopamine right away and I'm yeay but the crash after is WILD. I have just finished a project and I'm avoiding starting anything new, nothing is interesting. Thanks for sharing all of this! It helps me understanding myself.
@@Anna_2801 I’m glad it helps! I started experimenting with what things seem to give me long term benefit vs spikes. Turns out it’s the stuff I knew but didn’t have the patience to try: meditation, nature, binaural beats, feeding birds, grounding practices, building book nooks, audio books. I tend to be so resistant to the long term stuff but it does seem to be more stable.
@@dsathreads yes I know I benefit from this but I feel exactly that I don't have patience for it. Sometimes I feel so much "on the go" that it feels impossible and boring to do something more stable like this. But I know it helps. I need to get more dedicated to it! I'm trying to understand how to trick my brain! Thanks for sharing 🥰
Some sugary food helps me! I have like a sweet spot I’m trying to hit. Too little sugar and I can’t do anything. I’m tired, moody, fed up with life, easily irritated. Too much sugar and HELLO ANXIETY ATTACK CRASH. But just a small handful of candy if I really need to focus on something big, works in a pinch! I have started telling people “sorry, I already filled my sugar quota today” if they offer me more candy. Cold showers are also helping IMMENSELY! I’m on week 3 and the moody rollercoaster is still present, but it’s a bit easier to calm down from a meltdown. Happiness is through the roof compared to before and I have had DAYS of motivation! It used to take forever to turn my brain on when I woke up. Now it’s like HEY! There’s my constant trains of creative and ridiculous thoughts! Let’s think about our special interest while we tackle all the chores and then do art! And write! Having both is so awful and amazing at the same time. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I love how my brain works.
OMG! I'm in such similar sounding symptoms etc, I was diagnosed ADHD and other diagnosis only 3 years ago, I'm 45 now. I studied fashion design but was never confident to work in the industry and didn't know anyone to help... I've always loved all the stories you discussed and am now working on my confidence to allow myself to start dressing vintage and continue my attempt to start making historical costumes/clothing. I also use novels, for me atm mostly romance, yes it's a way to want to get away from the depressive issues dealing with the rest of society, the world etc. I grew up with my parents but not a good childhood etc, my mother atm does not accept my or my 11 yr old autistic child's diagnosis etc. I've always felt I've never fit in any part of society, not Australian, not my mother's European background community, etc... All the same issues as I'm a single mother who is diagnosed. Getting away to fantasy, historical fashion or novels and art and craft helps me try to reduce the exhaustion, burn out and to cope with all the stress and depression of feeling I'm unable to meet societies expectations etc. I love the interesting things you point out to watch out for.
I've had an adhd diagnosis for a few years now and recently been questioning if I might also be autistic. What you described resonates so strongly for me, thank you for making this video.
I am 49 and latina. I contemplated if I should get the diagnosis knowing a diagnosis doesn't offer me anything. The only thing it offers is peace of mind because I have imposter syndrome if I don't get the diagnosis. It does anger me that family had always told me I was odd or quirky but once I said I may be autistic I was met with "No, you don't." So it's okay to throw labels at me but I can't get an official label that explains me? you know? Knowing I am autistic explains why my kids also have it. When before family was like "Why did this happen? Is god punishing you?" This would all piss me off to no end.
OMG, I'm dying here. You described my wacked out brain perfectly. I'm currently in the process of getting diagnosed for autism, I'm 49. I do believe I have adhd as well. My husband has adhd but I know I am not 100% adhd, I can relate so much with those who have autism/adhd.
