Do you have contact info? Workplace issues. TY

Thank you.

A close friend told me she's been losing jobs after about a year and a half mark, never due to performance. She doesn't know why except that people tell her she looks nervous and scared most of the time. And the official reason for her being terminated is usually 'reorganization' or 'lack of fit". She's had a tough childhood and by the looks of it, might be suffering from CPTSD. I'm empathetic, but really don't know how I could help her, paid work is such a basic need.

damn,,finally a video i was looking for :-)

Oh wow. On point. Just like another writer. On my first week, it is a new field and terminology. I have really debilitating anxiety right now. Physical anxiety is so unpleasant. Your right we have other history where we became good at our job.

Going to work……..

2 days of horrible training by condescending people who thought we were in elementary school apparently. Along with having to out how old all of us were to each other and discuss personal things about ourselves when the job had nothing to do with any of those.

Thank you! This video really helps me a lot on a stressful week 🙌🏻

Thank you for this, it helped put things into perspective 😭

Seriously called me out. You said when you rehearse what you are going to say, overthink it and then miss out on the opportunity to even say it - 100% me. I have found that I worry about a certain coworker or the entire group and them judging me based on my idea or suggestion that I never even get to even say it.

Fantastic advice! I needed this

I was in a position for over two years that I liked and was settled into. HR made a decision, out if need, to mandatory transfer me. I’ve been there about two months now and I hate it anxiety every day nerves every day sick to my stomach every day cry once or twice a week no more and all I wanna do is go back to my other job part of the reason why I hate it is overwhelming and there’s a lot to learn but a great deal of it is my supervisor. She doesn’t want to really train me. She doesn’t want me to ask questions. She’ll say things you’re already asked that question I’m not answering that question, I was thrown into. I didn’t want to flea.

Lol...Thank you for this, i actually suffer from this

I never had a mom that truly helped me with tough emotions. This left me feeling scrambled when something major happens and I feel insecure and depressed. I changed jobs one month ago after being an expert and the top of the ladder at my old one. I'm totally uncertain and very depressed. I've been internally beating myself up for not being as confident as I wish I was. Thank you so much for this video, I can't express how much this has helped me right now.

I have just qualified as a nurse and start my dream job in two months. This time off inbetween a busy uni schedule to starting work has allowed my imposter syndrome to flourish. It’s so severe I’ve considered quitting nursing before I’ve started. Thank you for this video

this is what i needed everyone else telling me dnt panic and its the people who are causing u panic but yeah here is the deal

Thank you sooo much for your wise words. Right now i am super overwhelmed in my new job. Been doing this for 2 months and i am anxious everytime because i am learning new things and processes and terminologies and learning the business/industry too. I was made redundant over 3 months ago from a company i worked 6 years for (which is a very long time) and i still have a lot of unprocessed emotions thats stemmed from my redundancy that could be playing a huge factor in why im anxious all the time. Youre right, i am unable to see things from a calm perspective because im anxious all the time and therefore my version of reality is skewed. There are days where i feel fine and truly enjoy what i do, and then when i get new projects from my boss, i get anxious and start to overthink even questioning my abilities and confidence; i even had a thought of leaving. Thank you. You may have just saved me from quitting! ❤

I just got a job as a hostess at a casino in a different city, I’m scared that I will make a mistake and not like living in a new city all by myself. It’s 4 am and I can’t sleep thinking if this job is too much for me to handle, the salary is way too good, I never had a job offer with this salary, not even near so I’m kinda freaking out 😂😅. I wanna think that I deserve it but my mind just won’t shut down like I don’t feel I deserve it , what’s wrong with me? 😭

Have you ever done a personality type test? You sure sound a lot like an INFP. Might answer a lot of questions! Its an extroverted world saddly. Good luck out there!

WOW. I am so thankful that I came across this video. Yesterday A friend and I got into an argument ( earlier that day I have been feeling a little anxious and I couldn’t really figure out why) so when he made a comment I spazzed out on him and a light clockwork I started beating myself up internally because I was thinking did that comment warrant that behavior. And I notice now, when I’m talking to other people I try to pull myself back to avoid spazzing out again.

I'm anxious because it's about being anxious. I drop the ball when too anxious

This was very helpful, thanks !

This was an amazing video and I needed this more than you know. I love your thought about being confident in becoming confident. I will remember that! Thank you for sharing.

I haven’t heard anything as brilliant as this in a very long time. This has really helped me after starting a new job that has seriously overwhelmed me in the past few weeks. Chronic internal primitive brain anxiety..comes in waves and then subsides, comes again and subsides, very unpleasant..but this video really covers a lot..thankyou 🙏🙏

Lady ur saint I’ve been struggling with anxiety so much and you’ve videos have helped me face my fears 😊

❤❤❤❤ you are an angel I was seriously overwhelmed, not knowing how into words what I’m feeling you helped me so much. I’m so grateful for this podcast

From personal experience, I think the reason why so many feel anxiety about working is because they don't fit that job type very well, and don't have any real passion for it, so they know it will be dependent on 100 % will-power to get through it. I had extreme anxiety/panic for my job at the restaurant, due to being expected to work amidst constant acute stress and multitasking like a pro. This was not just outside my comfort zone, but outside my ability in general. I suck at multitasking, and to also do it while under non-stop extreme stress made me freeze up. Furthermore, there was no breaks or snack breaks to be had, and the expectations of workinh oneself to death was there. I also had to be left alone in the kitchen AS A BEGINNER. Inside my body i was needing to either be rescued or somehow miraculously be make ready for this. That is a telltale sign that this is not within my natural abilities, competence, or my body's tolerance. I quit, 4 days in. The next job I got was an internship that promised employment after training, and it required me to take orders in a language I did not speak well, on top of the heavy kitchen work. They were also super strict about how you couldn't sit down and rest, except for a 30 min lunch. I couldn't continue longer than 8 days in. The next job was an unpaid internship at a giant supermarket, and it fit me great. No anxiety was associated with it. Work was minutes away by bike. I learnt the worktasks immediately after being taught them the first time. I did everything well, and beyond, and my boss was satisfied with my work. The fact that it was STRESS-FREE, independent, and i could work at my own pace, according to a to-do list, was a relief. But something was missing. It was impersonal. Vustomer interactions, colleagues, very distant and impersonal. Customers only wanted to know where something was and how much it cost, but I wanted more. I wanted to go above and beyond to make their day. This, is what compelled me to find an internship in a smaller botique, of high quality customer service, with regular customers, who genuinely needed help to feel a certain way. So I applied, and I got it. I am starting tomorrow. I feel nervous, a slight resistance to it, but more so because it is new territory of uncertainties, and because I want to become good at the tasks and customer service. So this is it, I think. Explore different job types, and see how your anxiety changes. I think the anxiety is a powerful indicator of whether something will work for you or not.

I just flew out for training. Been with the company for 5 months then I failed the knowledge test and now I'm scared they are gonna fire me. And it sucks because I work good I show up I go early I stay late and I just feel so left behind and it kills me the way they talk to me and having to defend myself it sucks because I didn't get to do alot of stuff I do now so i don't know alot and it's like they want me to know

I’ve had issues with leaning new things since grade school. As an adult once I learn a new job I want you to stay there. It took so much energy and angst to get me to a level that I was good it that changing is not an option. I stay too long in things because change is do very difficult. With that said I’ve been at a new job the last two years and got comfortable there finally and then they up and did a mandatory transfer and now I’m learning something new and I’m a mess and the supervisor Will isn’t helping much she’ll say things like didn’t you already ask that question didn’t I already tell you you need to do this on your own, blah blah blah blah blah blah just wants to shut down I’m overwhelmed and I’m 59 years old and I can afford to quit this job because I think I just have to learn another new one

put your hand down! you are so annoying ...!!!

Thank you

Really great advice! Interesting how there are whole industries and organizations that take advantage of this, and tell you exactly the opposite, and that is," You're right! It IS the environment around you that is out to get you!"

I get so nervous I lose my ability to catch my errors. Thank you for this.

I get job first time im my life not on my field and i found chance the same salary less work days and in my field and what i want idn what to decide right know

Thank you for the video, it feels good not being the only one with this amount of dark thinking at work

This was great! It really helped me understand why I was feeling overwhelmed at my new job/promotion and how to reignite my confidence in my confidence. Thank you!

for me it was like your family is a manager but they gas light and shit talk you the entire time weather u do better than people whom been at work for 10 plus years or not also u work everday even weekends 12- sometimes 15 hours and the only time you just want to work a regular shift mother catches wind of this and tries to guily trip you into working extra hours and comparing you to co-workers 24/7 no father not to mention the co-workers talk behind your back even though you consistently helped them but your efforts are made to seem as if there nothing by not only other co-workers but family its self come home after a 12 hour shift and cant even enjoy a video without mother yelling about something so i left what would you do ps had an extremly bad back injury and back still hurts but mother refuses to get money from government thoughts?

Thank you soon much, this was helpful❤

Makes me anxious just watching....

I am considering going from private practice attorney to in-house counsel - because of MONEY. I thought I would be in a financially secure position with 10 years of experience. Now I need to ask my parents to support me financially because I do not make enough money to pay my own medical aid per month, I also have to ask them to help me pay rent. It is embarassing. My cousin who is a newly admitted attorney with 2 years experience gets a bigger salary than me at a different law firm. My current boss is comparing me with his newly admitted attorneys of PAs who did their internship with him and we practically get the same salary compared to those other attorneys who have more years of experience who worked there more than 3 or 5 years. I feel humiliated. I want to be in a financially stable position where I can support myself, but this new job made me realize how the profession tells lies about what you can make as a salary etc. I need to make a decision.

What’s your advice if I am out on PIP? Time to move out?

Part of the problem is all the job adverts and interviews these days - in Australia anyway - expect that you will be a fast learner. It’s ridiculous because it’s causing so many to have mental health issues over such unrealistic employer expectations.

Point is that I don’t really know much yet but I’m an eager student… unfortunately the person who trains me isn’t always very kind…she’s rather a bit condescending when I don’t immediately get it, or when i make a mistake its like “look how dumb you are”… maybe that’s all in my head I don’t know? I do like the job but it’s though as an introvert to be exposed to so many people all day long,… it’s actually pretty overwhelming to be honest but the people who work there do this for yeas so they forgot how difficult it was in the beginning… i just question if I’ll ever be good enough to have a voice in that company? Why should anyone listen to the inexperienced one… how can i ever be confident enough if you know that your coworkers have so much more experience? Its like I’ll always be in a submissive position, which doesn’t actually feels good

Thank you this is exactly what I was feeling I just wanted someone to say it and help me confirm it because I just wasn’t sure what the issue was.

Thank you

I’ve been set free, thank you. 🌺

What if everyone around you thinks you are lucky to have the job you have but I don’t enjoy my job! Am I an entitled brat? Why can’t I be grateful?

🙏🙏 I feel stuck!& sick of feeling inferior/anxiety to certain people..

Thankyou for this helpful advice...... I am very intuitive... personalise to much & pick up on everybodys energy/behavours.... its extremely overwhelming/exhausting & creates inferiority internally....

I work new job with kids as assistant. I have enough confidence interacting with the kids …but im not good at arts n crafts and have already felt embarrased when lead teacher asked me to do something & it was embarrassing I couldn't do it It is now the reason why I have mild low confidence @ work like part of my spirit is hiding behind an emotionless mask How can I feel good unless I know I can do these tasks? & why show so much joy & confidence when I just have admitted to teacher I'm not that good at arts & crafts I don't like that I feel like a mild anxious mouse. Fear of what will the teacher ask me to do next? I don't like this feeling I'm trying to work with the emotions, I do think I've done this before many times at work places...what is being threatened? I just don't like the feeling it makes me feel bad about myself...if I can't do something in this area..shame spiral?