I help moms and moms-to-be find joy, ease and mental wellness through their transition to motherhood. I'm a mental health therapist and educator and my practice is entirely focused on supporting women navigate what it means to become a mom. I teach about mental health in pregnancy, the postpartum phase and beyond, how your relationship changes as you become a parents, and how you can find a way to truly love your life (even when it feels really hard sometimes!).
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I would never hurt my kids but sometimes when there to after me I would feel like pushing them but I don't do it and I feel frustrated, sometimes I just want to be alone and not being bothered. I find myself with lots of situation of anger. I guess my dad had a situation with anger and fin myself stuck with this because he had this issue or whatever the reason. But I love y kids
12 weeks pregnant here. I feel exactly the way you described, knowing I am with child, a planned pregnancy and not beaming with excitement but more thinking about what else to plan. I feel a massive disconnection between the friends and family who are over the moon, sending gifts, message etc and my husband who’s so excited and has been waiting for this for a long time. No direct judgement from anyone but a huge guilt for not being like them and sticking to the facts about what’s to come, what changes it will bring, and the fears that come along. You don’t how how good it was to me to hear you say that ! I actually cried. Thank you for this video 🙏
Thank you for starting off so strong. 3 weeks and it was my first pregnancy... we were so excited for our blessing. We only knew for 24 hrs before miscarriage started. I only knew for 1 day and ive been grieving all week. Thank you for this video god bless you
It’s awful. It’s like signing up to be tortured daily. Then you get the painful guilt when they go to bed. 42 yo male. 3 kids under 5. I’m desperate. Wife is great but she already does a lot. I can hardly stand being alone with them. It’s overwhelming. I get rage when they don’t listen. I wish I was better equipped.
I know this was made a long time ago but I never planned on being a mom. I’m 25 and the thought of kids of my own genuinely made my skin crawl. Tested last night at home and today at the doctor and got a few confirmations. I am terrified. I have done nothing but cry. I never saw myself as a mom but said if it happens it will happen. But now I’m just upset I feel like I’m grieving a 25year plan that just caught on fire. My sister is so excited making lists etc it’s too much on my very first day. I’m seriously overwhelmed and upset. I haven’t told my mom yet and I just feel awful and horrible that I’m not happy or excited. I struggle with depression on top of it and I am just so broken right now
Feel you! We are on summer break, it’s been a fucking he’ll ride , I feel like I’m dying through the exhaustion! It’s rough. But hopefully when they get a little older. We will be better. I’m here if you ever need a rant, I know how tough it is, no help or support, or friends xx
Literally said this out loud an hour ago -to myself. Sorry you are also feeling the same. I hope other people who know moms get a brief moment to think of at least calling and talking to a mom. Even a conversation could help a mom in need.
Hello mam it feels very different n difficult to deal with delayed babies n I really need help to control my anger n frustration it's b 10yrs n really Hard to manage
HI Kate. I really need some help. I'm 42, first time pregnant, staying up till 4 am obsessing. Have struggled with severe anxiety even before this. I'm only 4 weeks and just found out on Friday. I feel trapped and like my life is over. I can barely think straight to function. I'm terrified. Pleaae help.
I'm gunna buy new running shoes - mine are busted! And clean up my feet. And find a woman on this motherhood journey who is farther down the line - hoping to find a mentor.
Thank you for this video. I did feel an instant bond with my baby when they placed her on my chest, but soon medical complications and severe colic erased that, and while I love her tremendously I just feel as though I don’t know my baby and she doesn’t know me. It makes me very sad.
I know this was made a long time ago! Hopefully you still see this- My husband had cancer while we were engaged and went through treatment.He was told he had 0% motility before his chemo even started so they thought this was a preexisting issue. Finding this out was hard but I really started to cope with the fact that we would not have kids and I was okay with that. Well I just found out that I am pregnant and we were not trying but not preventing due to the fact we were told this would not happen for us. I am completely unprepared emotionally. It’s been really hard to process this because I was happy and content. I feel guilty because I should feel blessed that we didn’t have fertility issues and so many people struggle with that. But my first reaction was I don’t want kids and I don’t want to be a mom. It’s been a week and I feel a little better but still not excited or happy.
I cannot figure out how to do any of this. I am lost. I feel I rely on others too much, but it’s not enough. It will never be enough. I don’t have enough to give. I don’t have this in me. No matter how much sleep I get I’m exhausted. No matter what I do for my body I’m constantly in pain. If it’s not one thing it’s another. I cannot do this anymore.
I loved this thanks so much. I loved that you said your emotions are valid that really helped me with people in my life not thinking it’s a big deal. This made me emotional because I felt like you heard me and allowed me to feel what I’m feeling. Thanks again.
My wife is 7 weeks. We didn’t use protection but were both surprised at how quickly we conceived. I was ecstatic, still am. Today she told me she wouldn’t be too upset if she miscarried, which crushed me because it makes me feel like I’ll be mourning alone if it does happen. And it makes me feel a bit guilty for being so happy, the happiest I’ve ever been. And now I feel like I have to hide or tone down my joy. 😞 I know she’ll be happy with the baby once it’s born. I just hope she can begin to be happy about it sooner, while pregnant.
I feel like i could have done something different, i thought I was in a safe place cause I was taking care of me with the tools I have, i wish I could had have more tools, and be near my family, i want my baby back, i was dreaming my life with it, i always wanted a baby boy and and i know he was going to be a boy, i wasn’t even able to know the sex😢 i talk to him all the time, i ask him to forgive me, he was such a surprise for me and my partner, and i wish I could bring him back as soon as possible, we were waiting for him with too much love, hundreds of people were excited about him coming into our lives, but we aren’t in a position to bring another baby yet, i know I have to wait, and i was so prepared to have my baby by this summer, i want him back so bad,
@@daughterofgod8671Thank you for your comment. Yes, this is why I am in a constant state of guilt. It has waned a little but it is still very much there. Try again? and risk getting another boy?
@Floki711 Thank you for your comment and I understand why you say this. It is the last thing I want of course and have kept it to myself for that reason
@@danielwilliam4306you don’t want to “RISK getting a baby boy”??? What the f is wrong with you? You need to seek professional help, I feel terrible for your poor son he does not deserve a mother who hates his gender. Evil
Im scared. All the time. Im 24 weeks - I feel her kicking me, shes always with me. Im highly independant and I am so worried that having a child totally dependant on me is going to make me feel trapped
Yes! Thats my worst problem. And at the same time i didn’t go to the abortion, I feel so sorry for this baby and I feel just depressed and different. I miss my silence and my Indepence and freedom…
@@imanishantel3769 I‘m 20 weeks pregnant. I would be happier if I would have been a long time in a relationship, with a safe home, everything financially stable. I just feel i have the worst circumstances that someone can have. And I think that stresses me. And I can easily imagine being alone all my life. I‘m not so focused on marriages, kids etc.
My son is 18 months old and I still struggle with this close connection with him. I really struggled with this when I was pregnant and in the newborn period. Of course I loved him but due to PPD, I regretted having him in general. I was really struggling and wish I had the village and support that I needed.
I feel lost, I am 28 turning 29 there is a pressure my entourage somehow putting on me, all my friends are either mother or are pregnant and there's me in the other hand ....I don't want to be a mom I have always been told I will change my mind which never happend, my husband is talking about wanting to have kids but this scares me a lot I feel my life will drastically change and there's no going back....I don't know what to do
Thank you for the video. I am a single mother living in a different country than my own. I definitely have not enough help and support and I’ve struggled with anger and rage and I feel terrible every time 😢
3 weeks in and I've already felt like my baby must hate me. Smiles at others and not me. I can't make milk anymore, so I am going to stop trying. I feel like a failure. Like she doesn't want me. Oh well I guess. I just feel bad that she got me as a failure of a mother.
Last night I experienced a panic attack, I had an awful mind that my body didn't want to be pregnant, it's not right thing for me. I started to search for kinda issues on the internet and found you. I'm so relieved right now. Thank you ❤
I’ve had a miscarriage 2 years ago by the age of 27, I was happy at the beginning when I found out I was pregnant but then I felt completely sick, couldn’t drink water and couldn’t eat at all. I felt very scared and alone, so I took the decision to do an abortion, it was very bizarre and very hard to do that, I’ve never imagined I would take that decision myself or seeing myself on that place, I felt very weak but I worked a lot on that, afterwards I was traumatised, my sister got pregnant almost a year ago and she went through all that, she fought the sickness back and now I have the prettiest nice, I felt full of regret because I was not brave as a I wanted to be, but I do accept my feeling at that moment because I did not have anyone to guide me at all, now I am 6 weeks pregnant and at the beginning I was so scared, I didn’t know how to handle it because I did not wanted to pass through the same, but also I know I cannot go through another miscarriage because that would break me and maybe I wouldn’t have the chance to be a mom again in the future. I do still scared but I am working hard on those emotions because I am tired of feeling fears in my life, I don’t deserve it. Many times you hear mothers saying the kids are a blessing, and here many women are not considering the change of hormones and how hard your body is working right now, I think mostly women who are very scared as I was once, it’s because you don’t feel/you don’t know how to connect with your own body at all, and for me, the decision of carrying on with this pregnancy it’s way more better than going through another miscarriage that I am going to regret for the rest of my life. It’s not true that you have to stop doing things that you like once you are a mom, that’s absolutely fake. You will have a life with more responsibility but children also grow up, they won’t be babies forever, so basically what it helped me to make a decision it was imagining myself having my baby once my baby is here, and then visualising myself how would I feel if I go through another miscarriage, and definitely chose the first option because my fear it’s not being a mother but the process of pregnancy, if it will be painful, if we are gonna be fine, and a long etc.. but women wouldn’t give births at all if it’s that bad, so stop the fear and go deeply into your feelings to connect with yourself and your body, be thankful because everything happens in the right moment and for a reason, and have a deep breath to take a decision. If your decision it’s not going ahead with the pregnancy then also keep in mind that you have to look after yourself when having sex, because having miscarriages over and over again can also affect your health and your fertility for the future.
Husband here.. I cant' even suggest my wife to calm down or consider not shouting to our kid (I do this politely and considering her feelings)... she just gets triggered and tells me that I don't understand that I won't last one hour with the kid and that I shouldn't tell her that she is a bad mother (even if those word didn't came out of me).. I really know that she is overwhelmed and that she is doing her best.. but it's like she thinks it's therapeutical to shout, that she is just being herself and that I'm restricting her free speech... she doesn't want to spend money or time on therapy.. she doesn't even accepts a spa day for her as she things I can't handle the kid on my own.. how to approach her in the best way to make he realize that this is a self destructing behaviour.. or am I wrong and I should just let her be??
Alright there, mate! My most dearest respect to hearing about the situation. As a random name on the internet, as someone who is not a father but just a son, please take this comment lightly. For I am not in your environment. I hope it helps somewhat. First, it may be best not to tell your wife to calm down. Our intent of ‘rationalisation’ and ‘de-escalation’ of the moment can make it seem to the receiver that we are controlling the situation and dismissing the initial start of the escalation of emotions. Great for me to state, but I appreciate this will come into mind, ‘What about your kid who is experiencing this?’ I say, again, I’m not a father, so I say this with dearest consideration of your position. You lead them to a place where they are familiar but private to them, maybe the bedroom. Stay with them. As for a child, familiarity with unfamiliarity is the best comfort. The best de-escalation is departing from each other’s presence. I say this because now you have removed yourself and your child from the situation. If your wife forces herself into that space, it’s not overwhelming emotions. My stepfather taught me that lesson with his shotgun. Although words aren’t spoken, emotions make them a reality without fact. This may be the hardest lesson of love. I struggle to know if this is grief, entrapment, entitlement, or simply the time of the moment. The action of disputing the accusation only fuels the situation. It hurts your soul, but we now have priorities before ourselves. For the ones we love to shout, we must listen. It is a time of vulnerability. Vulnerability is a sign of trust, maybe even a sign of love. For therapy, it’s only a solvent solution to a problem, that only ears of those she loves. Much respect for you, mate. I hope things get better. I hope this comment helps you.
