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Attention Talk Video is the leading site for self-help talk show content focusing on Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), including managing symptoms of attention deficit disorder, adults with ADD, or adults who have children with ADHD. Our show provides support for ADHD and ADD. Attention Talk Video, hosted by ADHD coach Jeff Copper, www.digcoaching.com, is topical with an emphasis on paying attention to those impacted by ADHD. The show is designed to help those diagnosed with or impacted by attention deficit disorder or attention deficit disorder symptoms in life or business who are stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated. It helps adults and children get unstuck and moving forward by opening their minds to paying attention to what works.
I want to and feel called by God to do Theology research, so I will have to delegate house cleaning and hire a maid service for every other week and I can handle cleaning every other week since my husband works full time. I love research and hate cleaning.
Im a creative type and i enjoy making/crafting things but there are things I know i realllllllly struggle to do myself. I just finished doing 7 years of a BFA and i had to get a lot of help with writing my essays. I like making music and drawing, and i really like writing but always found i can brain dump my ideas on the page fairly quickly but I have a massive, physical aversion to reading back what i have written. Since i find the modern world largely lacks authenticity, i get obsessed with the idea that everything i create has to be done manually, by me, which only slows me down, upsets me when i hit walls and frustrates me when i have to submit work that doesnt meet my standards due to deadlines. I started relying more on my dad to help keep track of my due dates as well as proofreading all my work. In a way, sending my papers ro him to proofread meant that i had to sit down and write something, but it also gave me the space to break up the long process of writing and editijg into several chunks. Admiting i needed help and especially admitting my dad was rhe best person to keep me accountable really hurt my pride but it has helped grow and realise that i do indeed have very real and valid limitations, a notion that runs contrary to everything i was told growing up. In essence, i had my childhood, grew up physically, but had to go through an almost, second childhood, unlearning the toxic ideals of the first childhood. Sometimes i feel its all made me fall behind in life and has damaged my self confidence, but other days i feel like im wjere i need to be and i needed to take longer to get a graps on how to navigate the world independently (for the most part)
Great video on accountability and responsibility, Jeff! While I can outsource doctoral research tasks like transcribing interviews, I still handle much of the research myself. However, I do delegate certain cognitive tasks to tools that I control, which frees up space for creative and analytical thinking (or just to clear my mind). I also compartmentalise my focus by engaging different aspects of my research self: ‘Admin Me’, ‘Analysis Me’, ‘Editor Me’, ‘Cat Reaction Videos Me’, etc. It makes uncomfortable transitions a bit more tolerable. Instead of struggling to recover from one spill a day, I can now bounce back from six! Your videos help. Thank you. 😊
can you make a video about note-taking, because I've noticed that with lists it may work (sometimes we forget the important items on the list because the process of rewriting sometimes items slip off the list. Also when it comes to note-taking I noticed I do the same habit with to do lists and therefore have scattered un-reusable notes. Sometimes this even happens with meetings
Thanks for tuning into my channel. I always like it when people request videos on specific topics. Your request is more complex than it looks on the surface but i'll see what i can do! If will be a bit before i can record them and air them. Stay tuned.
Absolutly... however at some level all come down to self-awareness. The non med MEDS can really help. They are Meditation, Exercise, Diet, and Sleep! Thanks for posting.
It feels like my ego just did not allow me to see myself being unable of inhibiting myself..but now all the anxiety around that makes sense. I refused to understand that i'm just not able to do this. Instead i repeatedly hoped every single day, that this day i will make it..😅 this hope is wasted time and unnecessary failing and frustration..
Wow! Big break through. I've done a presentation at various places called mirrior mirriro on the wall what is scary about it all. Basically i talk about two of the major execuative functions self-awareness and emotional self-regulation. You need to be self-aware to down regulate your emotions and to down regulate your emotions you need to be self-aware. In other words the two are in conflict. Often people emotionally resist owning their ADHD. Now you do. A NEW WORLD can open up for you in terms of managing yourself... can i get a BOOYA!!!!!!! Thanks for posting.
If you like the way i put it... you can also think of stairs as an accomodation for a climbing impairment is a way! There are accomodation everywhere. Thanks for posting.
Lots of food with gluten taste good... so you hunger for it. It can create issues. I went gluten free... it has reduced inflamation... my body aches less. thanks for posting.
The symptoms of “adhd” are a stress (trauma) response … I’ve never met anyone who didn’t develop these symptoms/behaviors from a stressor (trauma) to the body. That is both “emotional” and “physical” , the two can’t be separated , always intertwined… the head and body don’t operate apart…we already know that Cptsd, complex trauma, changes the brain function…so clearly “adhd” can be caused by “physical” stress/trauma like chemical toxicity, vaccines, “emotional” stressors like abuse by another person… The reason people often want a “simple” answer is because they want an excuse rather than a reason… Parents aren’t exactly walking into Drs offices and admitting that their child is stressed because of home life or relationships… they want to be told it’s not their fault… Some adults with “adhd” will also get offended or mad and say “I had a great childhood, trauma has nothing to do it” and others refuse to believe that vaccines are absolutely unnecessary poisons that effect the brain, nervous system, body as a whole.. It’s not really a mystery, our brains and nervous systems respond and ADAPT to our environment and experiences
I respect your perspective... in a way we agree. My perspective from coaching and studying Dr. Barkley's mode. ADHD is and execuative functioning impairment. Again an impairment. My eye sight is impaired. With out accomodations (ie. glasses) i can read. It would logically create stress and anxiety if i was having to live in the world without glasses and told to read. Understanding ADHD is an EF impairment... problem solving inside your head is impaired for those with ADHD. Without accomodations it would create stress anxiety and emotional trama. Again, just a perspective. Thanks for posting!!!!
Complaining is a form of control and a manipulation tactic. My partner is a relentless complainer. I think my 63 yr old partner has ADHD and if ONE thing goes wrong then everything is AWFUL. This is so exhausting. He is an expert at noticing what is WRONG. One wrong event will set off a tirade of complaints of things that happened years ago! He is always a victim....this is how he sees himself and it sucks for me to see him like this. Ugh. So one you tube video I watched said I have to "allow" him to "just be”..and not react. Ok but he goes on and on and on and ON...I have left the house many times just to get AWAY from him and get some peace..and this helps me calm down but if it's dark outside then I will NOT leave and so I have to endure this negativity which is depressing and horrible for ME I'm getting worn out .....agh........
After years of ADHD coaching and studying Dr. Barkley’s model I see ADHD as more of a problem solving impairment (thinking inside your head towards a goal). I say impairment. My eye sight is impaired. If I wear glasses (an accommodation) I can achieve what I’m capable of. This would explain what you posted. When something goes wrong there is a problem. Problem solving is effortful (uncomfortable)… it takes a lot of cognitive effort to sit in discomfort… thus the emotional reaction to escape the thinking and complain. For many with ADHD they are resistant to get help because they don’t want to have ADHD or see it as an impairment… which is challenging. This can be explained by Dr. Barkley’s model. To be self-aware one must set themselves as they are. That is a threating experience… it is uncomfortable… again the reflexive urge is to escape facing themselves as they are. I realize this doesn’t solve your problem. I do hope it helps you have a more literal understanding of what might be at issue… again based on my experience and learnings. Thanks for posting.
@@AttentionTalkVideo -thank you I have reserved Dr Barkley's book on adult ADHD from my library. I want my significant other to see his doctor and ask if he can be evaluated. Thanks again
When I need to work on a complicated issue I grab a blank piece of paper (I have a pile of printer paper nearby in my cubicle at work and in my home), or turn to a blank page in a spiral notebook, or open a blank document on the computer. Then I break it down like an outline, figure out the first step, then the first step of the first step, etc. if the step is to get information then I also write the information there. That gets me into it enough to get started and I keep notes I need there as I go.
And I was wondering why tf I’m I procrastinating on calling my doc for my prescription meds…. I will tell you why: 1) I have to find his phone 2) I have to find a specific time for the appointment which is hard because my schedule is wild 3) I have to actually call him and there is a possibility that he won’t answers so all the prep talk will be in vein 4) Then I will have to go to the pharmacist, to 2 different ones. For some reason the part of him not picking up the phone and me having to do it again is the worst.
When things are multifacited and ambigous... emotionally people escape to things that are cognitively easer. So, what do you do? Reduce the variables and remove ambiguity through problem solving first. thanks for posting.
@@michaelangelo1417 Wow! Ableist... that is an expensive word (i've never come accross). If i'm understand your post and its definition i'm flattered. Thanks for tuning in and please share our channel with others.
Getting Things Done has a part of the system where they do thinking similar to the receipt one you mentioned, where you have to figure out the next physical action, but then you put them in context lists of where you can do those actions (home, work, computer, errands, or whatever works for you) but then I still wouldn’t move to the “DO” step, but I’m thinking based on the video that those context lists are still tools and you have to once again think in order to DO those things, even if they are goals that were already broken down into the first physical task.
Sometimes I will do the easiest task first, but have discovered that when i do the most critical and hardest first thing in the morning when i have the most energy, it gets done well. Less important tasks i can even delegate like my husband picking up my pills at pharmacy on the way home from work.
Booya! Did you notice the exercise was a challenge? Note you had to use your working memory to organize the words towards a goal. That is the challenge of ADHD. Problem solving in your head... which is why the key is to externalize it. Thanks for posting.
@@AttentionTalkVideo 🤔ummm... It was weird trying to both remember the words AND alphabetize them in a time crunch. The words became pictures in my head, so with each new word I just moved the pictures around...but then trying to hold the current pictures, form new ones, AND sing the the alphabet to myself🤣 (the h-i-k did me in lol) - that's why "kangaroo" got left behind.
Ive always been confused by why I dont want to do things I know I love doing but one of your other videos described the concept of anything multifaceted and ambiguous being a mental block with adhd and stuff I love doing is pretty complex and open ended in process so I do see a connection there. Maybe what would help is knowing what to do when faced head on with multifaceted and ambiguous processes... for example, I love building things but there can be so many ways to approach a project that I freeze up because on step might work in and of itself but could hinder the next layer. Dont know if this makes sense. I have aphantasia too and have no ability to use visual imagery... dont think that helps either in foreseeing design flaws.
ADHD is an execuative functioning impairment. An impairment. Most don't want it to be an impairment but it is. More specifically it is a problem solving impariment when you are trying to do it in your head... thus one needs accomodations for the impairment. Problem solving when something is mulitfacited and ambigous (i.e. planning, seeing the future, making decisions) is where the impaiment hits hard. The trick is to recognize it and focus on how to make thinking easier! Thanks for posting.
I just found your channel and think its brilliant! You are very well spoken and the concepts are very understandable. My adhd is crippling but I dont need the feel good platitudes of many other channels because, at the end of the day, I still wont feel good about myself or have results if there is no mechanical explanation of where I am failing. Your videos seem to point out where my breaks are so I know what to fix. Otherwise, to use your words, its still too multifaceted and ambiguous for me to recognize.
i can't tell you how much your post made my day. Especially the I don't need the feel good platitues of many other channels. I don't want people to feel bad about themselves, my hope is for them to meet themselves where they are, as is, and to address and admit what is hard. Why? to give ADHD the respect it is due. IT IS HARD. Once you admit something is hard and give it the respect it needs you can problem solve forward. Know it is 5 o'clock on 9 minutes... i'll have a glass of wine to celebrate this post. Thanks again.
I love your videos. First, they are short, which is good when really I should be doing something else! Your definition of, or perspective on, ADHD is really really helpful! I think I've heard Dr Russell Barkley say that ADHD is not a disorder of inattention but a disorder of regulation (or self regulation?). Your focus on the motivation behind doing or not doing things being the discomfort that each task or situation brings with it. It helps us understand ourselves. I mean, even at 60 + I still think 'how hard can it be? (to stick to something or just get on with something without procrastination). Answer: excruciatingly hard!
thank you for your kind words. Given you like our videos, follow Dr. Barkley and stated my channel helps people understand themselves... i wanted to make you aware of a new ADHD intervention called Cognitive Ergonomics from the Inside out (TM) i've developed. It is an engineering approached to addressing ADHD. It uses Dr Barkley's model and AttentionScope (R) which i've developed to bring tangibility to Dr. Barkleys model to take a six sigma problem solving approach. in this day and age peope have a righ to be skeptical about anything new. To that end i have a recorded informational video that explains the fundementals of the program for people to judge if it is ligitimate based on its merit. Here is a link. w w w dot digcoaching dot com/cefio-info-videl I share this will you simply because... my content resonates from this program. Thanks for posting
"... Look at how to make thinking easier," really was a highlight here. The brain as system has helped over 30 years of treatment. My brain would actually change with treatment in a way I had to alter treatment. That was only for a period. Then it leveled out. Eg. Blood pressure went up with medication at age 30 something (it never did that previously). Took BP meds confidently with my ADHD treatment for a short while maybe 6mo. Then I took it back slowly with doctor's oversight and bingo no BP treatment needed. Had to switch between the two major types of stimulant as one helped with major symptom A., and the other with major symptom B. Etc.. Anyway my brain was getting better. Awareness awareness. Lol😅
So once we know we do things from easiest to hardest, now what? How can I make it less challenging to do things that don’t have pressure forcing me to do them, ie, getting dressed. If I don’t eat it’s painful so I will eat. If I don’t get dressed in day clothes there isn’t any strong repercussions. Any tips?
Thanks for posting. The first purpose of the video was to help people recognize routines. They are not always based on a topic/label/thing. They can be based off effort of function. Why is that important? It is hard to problem solve if you are paying attention to the wrong thing. Second, ADHD is more of a thinking impairment than most realize or want to admit. When something requires lots of cognitive effort the ADHD brain is uncomfortable. Reflexive it wants to escape to something more comfortable. Trying harder doesn’t work cause it doesn’t solve the underlying problem. The key is to make thinking (actually problem solving) cognitively easier. How do you do that? That is as simple as it is complex to understand. At a high level you look at what you are doing and brain storm how to make this easy and problem solve to that (I know not the simple answer you were looking for). In the end, tips and trick are guessing at what works (which is why most are drowning in a sea of tips, tricks, and strategies). If you admit something is cognitively difficult and brainstorm with other around how to make it easier based on you and the situational variability… you might find it does take work but long term more effective. Again, thanks for posting.
@@AttentionTalkVideo thank you very much for both the the clarification and response as well as uploading these educational, bite-sized videos. They have really helped improve my understanding of ADHD and my own mental process
It is both. I have Adhd n OCD. I have a severe hoarding issue. Its emotional too. I dont remember things n when i see things i remember the episodes in life.
I've coached several people and realized many things represent memories (not just a thing)... thus clutter is actually a memory... to remove the clutter is like removing memories. Emotionally that can be difficult. Thanks for posting your experience.
I think many will have tried this and found you still can't part with enough and end up with one room full of stuff from other rooms lol and then the other rooms start to fill again and back to square one, it's a change of thinking and habit that's required long term.
Times like these i like to use math as an analogy... sometimes the math just doesn't work. To your point... sometimes a person just can't part with somethings (useully ralated to an emotion... i need it... will need it... it is worth something... or it is a memory) and it doesn't fit a finite space. In the end it is what it is. thanks for posting!
Thank you for your interest. These days everyone is claiming to have something new or the secret. You have a right to be skeptical. I did and information webinar to explain what my concept is all about for people to judge it on its own merit. Here is a link: W w w dot digcoaching.com/cefio-info-video If you are interested here is a link to the class page W w w dot digcoaching.com/cognitive-ergonomics/ Again thank for your interest
As a ministry student, I have discovered context is critical. I often want quick answers because I get anxious if I have to think longer. However, doing Biblical exegesis and Theology projects have made me appreciate slowing down the desire for a quick answer and taking time to see what others have to say about the subject.
I started to suspect this. My concerta was causing me to feel a buzzyness in my head. I have to only eaten dinner for years. I made a chicken and cheese sandwich. Almost instantly of having food in my stomach the buzzy feeling subsided. I am definitely going to keep an eye on this.
Not clear on your statement? Are you implying that stimulats are addictive? Did an interview with Dr. Rostain of UPenn years ago. Stimulats are abused (athletes or students seek them to enhance performance). They are not addictive in the sense you have to go to rehab. Again they are often abused like alchol etc. That isn't related to ADHD it is just abuse. thanks for posting.
ADHD isn't really a D.I.Y. project for most. Books and video are great of education. That said, i read a few books on how to play the guitar. When i pick up the guitar i couldn't play it. I hacked around for a period of time and then got lessons... it really accelearted things. Hope that is food for thought for you. thanks for taking the time to post.
I HATE boredom. It makes me feel HORRIBLE. It literally feels like ther is an empty hole in my head, and my brain is not interested in doing anything, and has no idea of what to do. Boredom makes me bang my head against the wall and scream and cry and stomp up and down. It makes me want to pass away.
Your experience is like many others and why i made the video. The key is... given you know boredom is painful what are you doing to manage your interest?
Consumed cannabis daily for 10 years and had a small problem with motivation. Been sober for 2 years and its never been worse. Although I am much more emotionally stable getting myself to do unwanted tasks has never been more painful.
I'm not a expert but i understand when you go sober there is a mood issue of a while. It is like your brain is used to an abnormally higher level of content. When you go to normal it feels like your are down compare to where you were. Over time things normalize. Again, don't mistake me for an expert on this... but if my perspective help you great. thanks for tuning in.
can't tell you how much that means to me. Thank. One of the big issues these days is people are attracted to emotion and what they want to work (even thought it doesn't)... thus, people market to what feels good to people... not what works or the reaslity of life. That said, it is very hard to get content that people view that is more practical. That is the reason i'm grateful for your comment.
Your videos are so concise and well-organized, it would be hard to make them much tighter and still use complete sentences, I think. Thank you for explaining the "why" as well as the "how" when talking about how to live with ADHD.
0:45 this statistic doesn’t make mathematical sense unless there’s some sort as variable like being diagnosed with one first being the perimeter. Otherwise the number for having adhd and bipolar should be the same as bipolar and adhd so I assume you are talking about a primary or initial diagnosis.
there are a lot of variables... Just my perspective (not necessarly fact)... ADHD tends to get diagnosed earlier... later in life bi-polar shows up... symptoms can be similiar... that the ADHD and mask the bi-polar or it doesn't get diagnosed till later. Let me resate.. this is just my perspective not necessarly fact. thanks for posting.
Someone i was talking to said "im hot and youre a mess" in a conversation in which they had said 5 different things that "i am hot" could have referred to. I thought they were implying that they were themselves physically attractive. I asked for clarrification tho cauae i wasnt entire sure whethet they were temperature hot, hot headed, physically hot, hot as in popular. They got annoyed when i asked for some clarification lmao
LOL! You asked them to think... to put more effort in their communications cause they were not clear and it annoyed them. Happens often. Thinking is more effortful than most believe it to be. I can feel your frustration from the interaction. Thanks for posting.
