That’s not true. Bs they care, They may not have figured out how to help you but some people do really care. Plenty of people really do care about others.
The thing about suicide that is fucking me up is that everyone starts caring when it's already too late. People you knew 10 years ago comes forward and says that they miss you when you're dead even though they didn't bother to contact you for those 10 years.
I agree Zetv. I see myself in so many of these comments. On the outside people think I'm happy with no problems. I hate my life so bad. I live my life waiting for the other shoe to drop. I'm pathetic. I'm weak. I hate that I'm like this. No one knows how bad l feel. This world is so full of suffering l can't stand it. It's just not right.
This is a realization that I had too when I was approaching a suicidal crisis. People always have argued that suicide is a selfish act, and it never sat well with me. But what I realized is, the real selfish thing is to expect someone who is battling these demons every day to continue suffering, just to spare you the grief. I will never ever condone the idea that a suicide victim committed a selfish act. Telling suicidal people "don't be selfish" is not the way to help anyway.
I contemplate suicide most every day. The pain on most days is too much. I've been enduring this pain for 5 years. Noone understands and truthfully. I also truthfully believe that my ppl do not want to hear my boo hoo bullshit. There are two things that hold me back: 1. I believe suicidal is hereditary and 2 i do not have enough balls. I just want the pain would lessen.
@@marion3878 I'm sorry to hear that Marion i hope you're coping. It's true to some point that no one understands, even if you told them every detail you can think of they still can only judge is based on their own experience, they wont truly know what you're feeling inside. But on the opposite, there's plenty people who also in their own ways feel so bad they too contemplate doing that. I wont bs you and say it will get better for you but I can honestly say it's a possibility. maybe conditions and circumstance wont or can't change but maybe one day you can learn to live with what's happened and find some way to enjoy life a bit despite what's happened. But if you go, there's no chance of you finding that :(
Its always too late when people start to care. When you're suicidal and depressed, your "friends" leave you on read, ignore you for days, laugh it off and say you're being dramatic. Your family calls you crazy and teachers, coworkers, classmates? They don't have a clue. And you're left crying and shaking at 2 am, watching your phone, begging for someone to just text you and tell you they care. But you know they don't, and they won't unless you're dead. My heart goes out to everyone suffering with suicidal thoughts, mental illness or have gone through this.
Me too .. i fucking watched at the celing and thouth about my brother hwo is suizidal but still lives .. me my dad and his girlfrend are his only points for living. He dont have any other .
Honestly that spoke to Me on another level. With the way my life is and has been for years, I don't have any hope. I don't have any desire anymore. I don't get hungry, I don't get excited to go places or to see old friends from my past. I don't know why I'm the way I am. But I know that no one else knows either. I'm at my end. I'm not going to be around much longer.
Colton Tipton please don’t go. We need you. You don’t feel that way, but your contribution to the world could be the very thing we need if you continue to live. I have a sister who is suicidal and she just turned 16 two days ago. Thinking no one cared, my mother didn’t listen to her and her father wasn’t around. But I listened. She was hospitalized but made it out and she’s on medication now so things are getting better. It’s still very tough but I will not rest my soul until she is able to see the potential she has within herself. My younger brother tried to end it too, our family was broken apart and my siblings and I were separated. Split up between our fathers and suffered from bad parenting and lack there of. In fact I even contemplated the same. I got help. I went back to therapy and it took me to years to work through my sexual abuse as a child but I’ll tell you Colton it was worth it. I’m the oldest of four and I’ll tell you if it wasn’t for my younger siblings I wouldn’t have made it. But I stuck around and now I’m able to love myself and I’ll never let it go. With this love I’m able to help and reconnect with my brother and sisters in a new way and help them understand their pain so they can move on and do the same for them. They helped save me and they didn’t even know it so now I will use my new life to help save them. And Colton I would love for you to do the same. When things get this bad it’s best to seek therapy and start a medication as soon as possible. Sometimes life is so hard that will power is not enough because there is no hope or drive to help support it or aim it at. It’ll help. It really will. You don’t know what’s on the other side, none of do and it’s possible that even if you decide to take your life your pain may not end, and I believe that’s why you should make this life you have count. I do not know you, but you are my brother and I do care about you. I tear up as I write this because I may not be you but it hurts to hear your pain. Someone will listen to you, it’s hard to trust but it’s worth the risk. It’s worth not suffering anymore and you can in turn be the next person that could save someone in your situation. You are not useless. You are needed. You just don’t realize how strong you are yet, but god damn I know we’d all love to see what you could be. Please consider my words. Please be kinder to yourself. It is not your fault, I know it isn’t, but you deserve so much better and you deserve to have a smile on your face and a reason to wake up with a sense of purpose. I’m a complete stranger but the fact that I’m willing to do this tells me that you are more important than you think. Please don’t leave us.
EXACTLY, you nailed it. When you break your arm, they come running to sign your cast. When you have the flu, they bring soup and ask how they can help. With depression you're treated like it's a character flaw, a lack of some religious belief or some 'mood' to snap out of. And we wonder why people suffer in silence. Just this past week we lost Katie Meyer from Stanford, Azusa Pacific swimmer Sydney Benveniste and former Nebraska basketball player Dylan Talley. I wish the world would wake tf up, but damn sure won't hold my breath.
Same here. Sometimes I scared to sleep bcs dream gives me a false hope. I can't talk to my family, they won't let me speak, while my friends kinda scared lol. I'm on meds, have appointment once in a month. I have different doc for each appointment, it kinda irritating...
True. Working a service job that funnels tons of customers a day. I've realized the biggest fakeout among people I talk to is "How's it going?". If you say anything besides "Good, how are you?" 99% of the time, they interrupt you or completely check out. Genuine conversation is scarce.
I feel like there should be a mandatory class in school throught your school life teaching people signs and love how to help people you love or how to speak up if your suicidal. Its not that people dont care. Sometimes people just dont see the signs and think everything is ok. Just hard times. But fact is. Sometimes its more then just hard times. Sometimes it feels like the worst time and it will be timeless. Last forever. No hope.
To be honest.. What's the point of our existence... we all will die at some point.. Be it today or when 85 year old...the world is already overpopulated with full of problems, terrorism, chaos etc..
Same meaning put in with a touch of denial . but understood. world w2 was bad . we are in a new much different silent war that most are to blind to even think about.
People say ‘Cowards commit suicide’, but trust me ending your life is the hardest decision in life and not everyone can do that ....... People commit suicide after trying every possible way to fight back 😔
@@uglychild4028 I wonder if telling people that “ suicide Is a permanent solution to a temporary problem “ would help. Because I thinks most times that’s what it is. I know of a21-year-old boy who committed suicide because he lost his girlfriend. I wonder if someone had told him that within five years he probably would not even remember that girlfriends name .😢
@@sunnydaze2359 the thing it’s not a temporary problem. I know I guy who tried to suicide because of breaking up, but she was his only hope, his light in this world and without her it means nothing. It’s not a temporary problem if u could think what was the reason he thought about that. I’m thinking of suicide, but not because of a breakup. I’m constantly being the target of my dad when he’s irritated, but I can’t escape because my mom or my brothers would suffer in my place.
@@alinehiga6596 I’m so sorry for your situation. I know it probably feels like this will go on forever, but it won’t. I don’t know how old you are but you and your siblings can and will most likely be able to leave the situation when you turn 18. You will still have a lot of life ahead of you that can only get better than the situation that you’re in now. Please remember that nothing last forever. As they say what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger . I hope that will happen for you. Stay strong .
Sometimes it's not wanting to die. It's regretting being born. Or perhaps regretting living through a certain situation. Or chronic illness that there seems to be no way out of.
joe s self forgiveness from a certain situation or loving yourself. Do you feel good when you become successful. Try studying. Even if you dont go to school, study online classes. Spend time with family. And if you dont have any spend time with god. Volunteer in work. In vets. Try exercising. Or drawing or doing smth you love. Our life has 2 points. We live and we die. But there is afterlife, allah has promised us. For there be in heaven rivers of honey and wine. And our lord will remove his veil. You will smile the happiest. With every hardship comes ease.
Diana Abbett yes. Chronic illness and/or pain can definitely increase the notion to ending one’s life in order to be free from that ever increasing pain or even feeling as if you wish to free those you love so dearly from that situation as well.
@@ascensionmojo5910 It's not just the chronic pain, it is the loss of the ability to do the things you love, then the loss of the ability to take care of yourself (bathing and laundry have become so exhausting that I spent three or four days at a time in the same clothes - so of course I don't go anywhere). And no one cares, they just wish you would shut up and stop complaining. If I tell this one friend about my latest round of foot ulcers, I have to hear about the frostbite she had on a toe when she was 30. It becomes increasingly difficult to maintain social contact with other people, while at the same time, recognizing that no one will ever comprehend what your disease is doing to you makes you just not want to be around anyone. Sometimes there really is no hope in that box.
When I was suicidal, my family thought I was overreacting and over dramatic. They told me I was being ridiculous and crazy. Then when I attempted, and was almost successful, instead of them comforting me or helping me, they continued to tell me I was crazy and they got mad at me, scorned me, judged me. Told me I was crazy and had problems. They also thought it was embarrassing. My mom was afraid that her family would find out and think she had a “crazy daughter”. Imagine already being suicidal, and then trying to commit suicide, and then after an attempt, being even more suicidal than before. It was deeper than rock bottom; it was an even deeper and darker darkness that I hadn’t even known existed. I thought being suicidal was the darkest it could get, but there was something even lower than that and my own family was the one to get me there. Here I am today no longer suicidal and have overcome my battle with depression. I look back wondering how I ever managed to even get out of that endless pit of despair-but I did and it was the moment I decided to take matters into my own hands-my very weak and feeble hands at the time-and hold on to the teeny ounce of courage to seek help from other people and professionals. Once I realized my family did not actually support me I realized that I had the choice to seek people who did and who wouldn’t give up on me. It was one of the hardest things to realize because I thought family was the one thing that was supposed to help you in your desperate times. However, I had to accept that where I was looking for love, happiness, and support was in the wrong place and that I could choose, no matter how hard it was and despite my lack of motivation-that I could find hope somewhere. Anywhere. And I didn’t stop looking until I found it. And you know where it was? Not only did I find the hope support and love from the RIGHT group of people-but I found that I didn’t even love, support, or find hope within myself and that was when I went on the quest to develop and find that within myself. It isn’t easy. It takes time. But there is a light at the end of that long and dark tunnel. I promise you. Sending love and positive vibes to all those out there who are suffering. I wish I could take everyone’s despair away and prevent them from suicide. I really do.
Your story brought back flashbacks to me. I'm afraid to look back there now. Thank you so much for sharing this. You sound so strong now. I'm very happy for you! Most people won't even listen, most people are impossible to help. But there are those who will listen. And most of the times it's the people who went through this in the past. If you care about someone who is having suicide thoughts, you have to just listen.
I wish you you would share more of your story , I feel for you , your experience of your family is devestating , but somehow a tiny spark within you ... Kept you afloat... Sharing your struggle and path may help others . I commend your courage and strength to continue forward to the light.
"You can prevent suicide by visiting therapist" they say but nobody wants to listen to me if I can't pay them. For those who can't pay what should they do?
There’s free help on discord servers and a few website hotlines (I know they’re not the same as therapy). But hopefully they help, especially in my experience mental health discord servers have been helpful.
"Don't argue, blame, or tell the person you know how they feel. Because you probably don't." I wish everyone who knew about me being suicidal would know this.
Briana Whittle the point isn't just if they know what it's like or not, though, when people feel so terrible to the point of committing suicide, someone saying, 'I know what it's like' doesn't help. If they speak to you, which takes a lot of courage, then they finally are able to tell them self how real this is and important it is to them. If you say you've been there it's like shifting the conversation to you in this time of need. Sometimes it is of good intentions, but it makes people's emotions feel less important and valid.
I'm always crying silently. Sleeping is always my escape route from the real world. Whenever I wake up, my tears will start falling again. I will get disappointed because I woke up. I just wish I could die peacefully while I'm asleep.
S ok////people that cry are also people that laugh because were not robots. Get Teddy bear, before you go to sleep little wave teddy bear arm ,nite nite!!🐻
@@beurre_au_miel, I’m so sorry you feel that way. I hope you have loving support around you. You ARE enough. I pray for you, sweet girl. Sending you lots of love and positive energy.💕
I can’t explain how impressed I am at the lack of robotic “dont do it”, “think of the people who love you”, “call suicide prevention” comments here. Nothing says “I don’t understand clinical depression” like those types of comments
Yuri M this is literally me. I’m living my worst nightmare and when I manage to fall asleep I literally just have a nightmare of what I’m going through during the day
The ZGX I’m never going to pray again I’ve been praying every single day for the last 5 years for help I begged god to heal me and my dog and he didn’t he’ll not even once and now here I am again alone there’s nothing for me here anymore I just want to be with my dog again she’s my best friend in the whole wide world I have nothing anymore I’m totally lost and there’s no way back :(
The ZGX I’m lost without her though, people say they’re only animals but she is so much more to me, I literally love her as much as I love my mum.. my dad died when I was 12 and I was literally miserable throughout most of high school then in year 11 my mum allowed me to have my dog sleep in my room with it, something special happened in my heart and I finally felt happiness again, she fixed my heart and pulled me out of such a horrible place.. and know I’m in and even worse place than when I lost my dad but this time there’s nobody to fix me.. all of my friends stopped messaging me months ago because I decided to do a little test, I told myself I wouldn’t message them so I could see how long it would take them to finally message me first and what do you know 4 months later I heard nothing from them, and now this has happened they all want t message me which makes me so angry because I won’t be friends with somebody through pity. I’m trying so hard to hang on but it’s so difficult I’m in so much pain :(
The ZGX that’s what makes me so angry is good people always have to go through the worst lives why is that? It just isn’t fair I know so many people who don’t deserve to be happy getting to live these great lives, they never lose a parent, they never know anyone going through a terminal illness, they never have money worries, they never get bad news they just get perfect lives and I don’t understand why.. I don’t even trust myself anymore I say I won’t kms but sometimes I find my self trying to subconsciously if that makes sense? For example say my mum gets in a bad mood, if she was to take it out on me then I’d literally go upstairs and try and kms I don’t think about it I just do it.. and I’m scared that one day I will die, because the reality is I just don’t want to be here anymore.. I really don’t, why should I get up again when I’ll just be knocked down again in a few months :(
I listen to RU-vid videos to keep the thoughts away (hence, me here). It's sad, because I used to go into my own imaginative worlds when I was alone with my thoughts. But, I do what I have to in order to survive, and to keep my mental illness at a level where I can keep fighting.
This is the most powerful Ted Talk I've heard about suicide. It was so powerful. Suicide is horrendous. Depression is horrendous. I only wish it was treated as seriously as cancer is. I have always hated the whole "it gets better" line. When does it get better? Next week? 5 years from now? Have you any idea how much we fought just to get through today? Holding on to the hope that it gets better is exhausting.
i really like this my bet friend always says I need to have therapy I know their trying to help but it just makes me feel like I'm bothering them with my issues when really I have no way of doing it and they are he Iraq person I've opened up to in five years I have suicidal ideation and honestly idk j have times in the day every day where if I was on a cliff by myself I wouldn't trust myself to not jump people don't know how tempting it is to take a pain that doesn't lay for too long rather than live with the other pain I might have til I die I want to jump in terrified of falling but it's better than drowning I'm referring to my thoughts byw
I agree. I have a suicidal friend who I met online. I would give anything to see them in person but the best I can do is be there for them, show them that I care, listen to them, and treat them like a decent human being. There are times though where I panic that the next time I message them will be the last. This TedTalk had me in tears because I couldn’t stop thinking about them. Meeting them has made me realize that I want anyone who is going through the same thing as my friend is that there are a lot of people on this world and there is definitely someone out there who cares.
I feel the same way. I’ve heard the phrase it gets better to many times to count but when does it actually get better because for me this has been happening since the beginning of middle school and I’m 22 now
My mom told me to stop telling her about my problems. She doesn’t give a crap. Nobody does. But if I died, they would love to play the role of grieving family, and get all the attention.
@@Witchygirl22 I'm sorry you had to deal with that. It's better to stay far away from toxic people. I avoid my mom as much as I can. But it's so hard going through life without a mom.
@@LittleLulubee It really is so hard. Still after 5yrs, sometimes out of instinct I pick up my phone to call her.. Then promptly remember to put my phone down. Lol
You are right. So many people gaslight the problem and then when that person in pain is gone, suddenly there is so much attention. Human beings largest flaw of all is it inability to save itself more. Makes me sick.
My answer to that box quote was to make your own hope it can take years to grasp it but when you grasp it you can get a full hanfull of that hope and sooner or later you have made your own happyness
The so-called ‘depressed’ person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of ‘hopelessness’ or any abstract conviction that life’s assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom is in invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level and will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise. Make no mistake about people who leap from burning windows. Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me standing speculatively at the same window just checking out the view; i.e. the fear of falling remains a constant. The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames. When the flames get close enough, falling to death is the lesser terror. It’s not desiring the fall, it’s the terror of the flames. And yet nobody down on the sidewalk, looking up and yelling ‘Don’t!’ and ‘Hang on!’, can understand the jump. Not really. You’d have to have personally been trapped and felt flames to really understand a terror way beyond falling. ~ David Foster Wallace
My friend, I offer you the most beautiful human values that humanity has ever heard. The beauty of his words and the support of logic and reason to him. And his answers to the inquiries of the soul makes the soul feel happiness that it has never found before and is not bored of it, and the appearance of tears of joy from the West to hear it attracts the souls of those seeking happiness to hear it. Thank you. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GnnD7YUWybI.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-jd8ufmPwpXk.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-bngMSeCoIbo.html
this is a quote by David Foster Wallace, by the way, in case anyone is wondering. It's probably the best depiction of feeling suicidal that I've ever seen or heard.
My friend, Islam is a universal religion that came with the Holy Quran, which carries the spirit of tolerance and beautiful human values and teachings that include all aspects of life, logic and reason supports it - He acknowledges and approves of other religions, and rejects coercion, disثدcrimination, violence and terrorism - was brought by the Seal of the Messengers, Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace - Everyone who studied his biography from the West loves him and admits that he changed the course of history that he treats everyone with mercy and kindness, that he did not strike anyone, did not drink wine, and did not look at women with desire throughout his life - he cultivates hope in the souls and gives you happiness and reassurance, and this reality confirms and thank You ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-aXFnYzX-wmY.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GnnD7YUWybI.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-skaCLhTs8_4.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-skaCLhTs8_5.html
@@JustMeSach Well it is like the question I ask myself every day" What if life without any meaning?" I saunter on into the same place of work I hate. I do the same job that I am obscenely overqualified for. I opened the door to suicide once before. I swore I would wait for my parents to take their final rest so they would not feel shame or failure. Meanwhile, I am left waiting for my pain to end. Joy and happiness what are those? What do they feel like? I do not know anymore. My mother is now gone. Dadd will likely follow in a few years. After that...maybe I will finally be free of my "duty". I am just tired of existing for my duty of making sure my parents do not feel pain and suffering. Once that is done what is a tool suppose to do when it is no longer useful? I look for "meaning" in my life and I see waste. I exist so others can be happy. If that is meaning soon I will have none and maybe then I will find what is on the other side of that door I opened 16 years ago when I was 17.
@@doomnova1946 I don't think the meaning of life is to make others happy. It's something, I don't know what yet, but I think you'll figure out really soon as well. In the meantime, would you like to talk? I'm here if you wanna, lemme know and we can talk on Instagram or stuff
@@doomnova1946 Have you heard of Dr Gabor Mate? I highly recommend going to his website or watching his interviews. He talks about depression and why we feel alienated in society, and what we can do about it. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-TIjvXtZRerY.html I think most people have a feeling of living a life without meaning, unless they've been lucky enough to stumble on something that gives them purpose. But that doesn't mean that we can never find a purpose or fulfilment. Even if your situation forces you to keep the job you have, how could you find purpose outside of work in your community or online? What about writing about how you feel for others online? It might help them to see someone in the same situation that they are? What about volunteer work in your community? Sometimes people find meaning in playing an instrument, writing, drawing, doing sports... Our jobs don't define us as people. Russell Brand also has RU-vid videos about how we are stuck in a cycle of consumption and the need to feel gratitude to deal with anxiety and destructive habits. I'm surprised to be recommending him, but he has been through a lot of therapy and speaks in a very open minded way.
I know someone who committed suicide, he saw the good in the smallest things. He helped many people who where suffering. He constantly made people happy. He said what made him happy was seeing everyone smiling and laughing. He said his final GoodNight before ending his life. No one not a single soul new he was actually leaving this world behind when he said GoodNight. He was suffering and no one knew. Now he is no longer with us. He had been diagnosed with Depression. I didn't know because he was always happy. Y'all depression is not a feeling/emotion Depression is a mental illness.. you can't see depression. Don't be fooled. May he rest in peace 😔❤️
my best friend at school had Depression even though he was always happy and smiling and he only told me this two months ago even though i a friend of him for 6 years
@@nerodivergent yeah it takes time. We want to talk about Depression we just dont know how. And just recently I was told that this person doesn't talk about how he/she feels because he/she doesnt want family and friends to become sad.
@@kamillaiqbal6521 Please Don't again. I know things get hard but someone out there needs you just as much as you them.. the world is bigger then four walls. I wish you the best!
Bless you for your strength. Not all of us are that strong, or have a second chance worth living. I first attempted at 14, and since then, it has only gotten worse, I have attempted 4 more times since then in the intervening 28 years. I am wondering if what I need is what Kevin said most of his rescues needed: Someone to listen. No one ever cared enough to listen to me before. I wonder if that is what I need, and if so, who, more importantly, how long do I have to wait?
I once was approached by a highway patrolman on a bicycle when I was looking down at the Pacific Ocean from the Golden Gate Bridge. He simply asked how I was doing and if everything was ok. I knew why he was asking me and for that I really appreciated it even if I wasn’t contemplating ending my life.
' What happens when you open the box, and hope isn't there?' killed me EDIT: coming back to this video after 2 Years. After I first posted this comment, I attempted suicide a few months later. Just here to tell all of you that are struggling that things do get better. I know that it sounds unreal but it does. After my suicide attempt I got diagnosed with depression, OCD, ADHD and EDNOS. That alone helped a lot to understand why I was feeling so hopeless. Please dont give up. There are people that listen. They want to help and you are worth the help. I'm not saying it isn't hard work to get better, but it is worth it. I want you all to hold onto those who love you and speak to them. Get help If you need it, there is no need for shame. You matter, I dont care what you believe; I'm telling you that you are lovely and you do matter. I was so convinced I didnt matter, but I saw what my attempt did to my family. Dont let your mind trick you into believing you're not loveable. Because you are. I love you all.
be at peace Jason. I pray that god has you in his embrace surrounded by such goodness that we can't even fathom the joy you are feeling right now. it's in Jesus mighty name I pray. amen.
But because of that when beautiful times in life come we appreciate them so much more and enjoy them too. Life is made to go crazy, sometimes up, down and etc... I hope you are doing great!
To be fair, nobody knows what its like to be dead, pain going away when you die is only a theory when you think about it, maybe dying feels so much worse, like your soul being raped everyday, who knows honestly 🤷♂️
its not just wanting to die, it's regretting your own birth and wishing it never occurred. Everyone needs to know how it feels people just need to listen.
I remember telling my grandfather when I was a child that I wished I had never been born. Looking back over everything that has transpired since then I can't help but wonder if I knew subconsciously/at a soul level what life was going to be like for me. That wish never went away either.
@@markwilliamson8047 if you need someone to talk to or someone to listen reply this comment or send me an email in the description of my channel. I will reply you.
@@markwilliamson8047 If your mind was at that state even back then, then no wonder things only became worse for u. Our lives are defined by our actions, but the actions are defined by our thoughts. We can only do to the extend at which we think. So if u want to have something u've never had, then u need to do something u've never done.. but for that, u need to think of something u've never thought. The information we come upon, no matter the form, is what ultimately shapes our thoughts. So if the conclusion is to be that u need a new way of thinking, then it is only logical that u seek for information u've never come upon before. And here's the key part... u won't find, unless u seek. And if u seek, then u deserve to find, and u will find something. Someone once said... the major key... to your better future... is you. Life in general is as it is, as it has been and as it will be. It ain't gonna change. But u can change. And if u change... then everything changes... for you.
The sad thing is.. the thought of suicide just never goes away and your left feeling completely empty inside but when your around others you just have the biggest smile to hid the pain you fight everyday.
I see this in my daughter. I'm at a loss for what to do. Her whole life has been an uphill battle that continues still to this day, almost 24 years now. I see and understand, but trying to get her to see that I care has been futile. I hope all is well with you.
first of all i feel you and you deserve so much better,i'm sorry that you have to fake everyday that rlly sucks. but honey i promise it does go away. i was literally suicidal my whole life. i'm 20. the reason why you still feel like this is because you still feel hopeless and depressed. start working on your depression and recognize the roots of it. is it your family? is it your friends? is it school if you're in it or is it work? and then go from there. i'm going to give you practical advice cause i fucking HATE when people are just like work on that and yada yada without telling you how🤣 i will say go to therapy if you have the possibility, download books about self help(for example i'm working on getting out of my abusive family and i've read A MILLION books on abuse and you know what i've realized?they are SO FUCKING wrong! i'm great and they are fucked up),even watch videos about the topic on RU-vid if you're more of a visual person. also,if you have the chance, try journaling (writing down how you feel),i know it sounds stupid but it can really help,see if it works for you. do an emotional check up everyday like talk in the mirror or simply talk to yourself. like how am i? and why do I feel like this? it feels SOO good. ultimately healing's real complicated. somedays are awful and filled with sadness and tears and anger and resentment. and then you feel better. then you spiral back down again. it's something to accept. it's highs and lows and at the end of your healing journey it will be all highs and a few lows you now know how to deal with without feeling suicidal. i know for a fact now that i deserve to live and to be happy and not be brought down by fucked up people (like my "family") so this feeling of happiness i feel every once in a while, is going to be my always,cause that's what I deserve. i know this comment was written 11 months ago and i hope you're even a little tiny bit better. sending you so much love,i'm proud of you ❤️❤️❤️
It is not the answer i am replying here. I must say though that it helps by any amount worthy to look at the luxuries we take for granted . When i watch informative videos on here like _ vids showing the brutal lives of undeveloped countries. Where there is no toilets in any homes. The homes not being homes , but shacks on dirt. No water available etc... People allowed to hurt u or mobs setting u on fire and a lawless moral-less world... We complain about Trump and not having the better clothes or looks. When people actually die just trying to survive another day of hunger. Those with illnesses and children working in mines and pain ... Just remember ... If it gets worse i bet ud want what u had. Dont wait till what u have is gone to appriciate it.
For the last 2 years, this is how I feel. Suicidal. Some days are very dark. Sometimes you can pull your self up, but the truth is you don’t want to. With what is going on in the world, you wonder is there any reason to carry on. Each day is a struggle. You fight to get out of bed, you fight to get dressed. You fight to do things. All you want to do, is just disappear without a trace. Not be bothered with anything. It’s easier not to talk to other people. Be left alone with your own thoughts. Still trudging along at the moment. Not getting any easier. See what happens.
Your "See what happens" sentence is allready a cry for help and bothers me much, even if we never met! A psychologist told me some 12 yrs ago, when i wasnt able to get suicidal thoughts out of my mind: "This are only thoughts and you do not let yourself beeing bothered by thoughts! Think of your thoughts like they are a train. You´re sitting on the station waiting for the train, and as it arrives YOU decide wether you let it pass, or you step on it, looking where it takes you." I´m 42 and suffering depression since 15 yrs now, do not let you´re thoughts take over your mind, and when they will, you do tell yourself that this is also ok... for a little while, maybe half a day or even a day... But not for weeks like it was in my case. I´m also no friend of the body and soul thing, my and every brain produces hormones, if they are not balanced, it can lead to any mental illness there is out there i guess. So your brain affects the body, i´m pretty sure mental illness like mine too is an effect of those imbalances. Did you ever tried a psychiatrist and spoke to them? Please search for professional help to get yourself balanced again as good as you can, i promise you will not be disappointed, suicide is a one way ticket to death we don´t need, we purchased death allready at birth. Good luck to you and write me if you need anymore help or just want to chat!
Suicide isn't a Battle with the people around you. It's a Battle with the person inside you. Some battle's you win some unfortunately you lose but believe you me it wasn't with out a fight.
I once walked halfway across that bridge, and when I got to the highest point halfway across, just out of curiosity I leaned over the railing and looked down at the water beneath the bridge. Just at that moment, a few people (young, white males) who drove by in a car on the road, yelled something at me. I never fully heard what they said, but I'm sure it wasn't something comforting, judging from the smiles I managed to detect on their faces. I was in no way, shape or form suicidal. I just wanted to see how far down the surface of the water was. However, it struck me then how indifferent and callous the world truly is.
True. The world's people can never accept not being able to have it be a people's world. No control. Accept how one responds to their unfortunate situations. It is those who have and do not want to face their demons. And so they waste efforts on hurting others instead of understanding their own vindictive reasoning.
Someone opened a topic in the college group about suicide, how to identify a suicide, how to offer help, etc. I commented on the same topic that I had depression and left some tips on. Over the next few days I noticed that people became very rude to me (they used to treat me very well), some became debauched, others even risked a bullyng. Many people feel an unmistakable pleasure to see you broken, to see you break, and to push you a little further toward the abyss. My advice: be careful who you talk about.
It's heinous the way people are incredibly self absorbed and so, I hate saying this, but mindless. Not everyone, but most people feel if something is not directly effecting them, it's completely unimportant and see no need to get involved. It's the way things are going now. Prepare thyself, not much improvement on the horizon.
4:22 “What happens when you open the box and hope isn’t there?” As someone who has suffered from depression and suicidal thoughts for as long as I can remember, that question hit close to home. What a perfect description of what living with depression is like.
You are Not ALONE. There are millions of us. What stops me is 'Hurting my Family so TERRIBLY and making them TRAUMATIZED FOR LIFE' . I know because 6 people in MY FAMILY with 'Suicidal Ideation' have taken their lives and thise of us LEFT BEHIND are hurt, terribly traumatized and asking, why didn't they reach out? Why didn't they talk to ONE FAMILY MEMBER? A friend? Psychologist? Yes, it does help to talk to a doctor. I just did it. She understood. She also has Cancer and was a soldier like me, so knows PAIN. TRAUMA. HURT. DEPRESSION. THERE ARE WAYS TO GET THROUGH IT DAILY. A PROCESS. I locked myself away inside the house and stayed away from people, society itself, That is DANGEROUS. It makes it worse. Like using pain killers in those who are physically injured. I was a counselor and worked with doctors for decades in the US Army and for LAPD and saw Pain Prescriptions actually can CAUSE MORE PAIN. MUSCLE PAIN. NERVE PAIN. Needing more is the Drug working badly in the Brain. I bring this up because I have seen so many pain patients 'End their lives';. It is so sad. Such wonderful people who were 'functional' in years past stopped due to a car accident or freak accident. They are put in a dangerous place. Depression sets in. NONE OF US EVER LIKE TO HEAR ABOUT SUICIDE. It hurts us all. 80,000 US Citizens in 2018 ended their lives. 12-34 years old on average. 817 Medical Doctors. Suicides. What? YES, they did. Some surgeons jumped off the ROOF of the very hospital they worked. Hanged themselves in the Chapel of hospital. Sending a final message? That is sad. Many have had good lives. Making money. Families left behind. Hurting so many including their PATIENTS. That is extreme! Bless you. Stay with us. Make that Call to a doctor, psychologist, HOTLINE when it gets to be too much......God bless you
Some ten years ago i saw a little black kitten on the street. He didnt have one eye,and the other was totaly white. I think his mother left him because she had other kittens to take care of and she didnt think he could make it.He was blind,and hungry and all alone in whole world. But still he stood there on the street and if he heard someone near he would run to them and meow and follow them in hope someone would help him. I saw how people,even with small kids,just make a wide arch around him as if he was some kind of disease. But that will to live..even when all world was against him till the moment when he was born i think he would try to find help till he colapsed. Yes,he is an animal,but i think we can all learn many things from that kitten. Whathever the cards world gave you,dont give up. Why? Well,maybe yust to see what happens next. P.s. I took that kitten to the doctor and then to my home. I named him Jeremija (Jeremy). Been my best frend since :)
I’m am in a room full of people right now. And I am trying my best not to bawl my eyes out. These people who are with me are close friends in family during a cousin’s birthday. I am surrounded by those who love me and the ones I love. But somehow my mind is constantly thinking about suicide.
Hello It'sme my bro always keep your presence of mind and always think in what you are doing atm . You can search some tips for meditation ok? But dont ever think of killing urself cuz u dont deserve that . And second thing do you believe in god? I hope you answer me asap
I'm not sure what I feel about God. I was raised in a catholic household but telling me that God will guide me or something won't really change my view on suicide
does anyone talk about what happens when you go beyond depression, when you push it real deep down inside that you no longer have suiciedal thoughts or depression thoughts, you just become...........empty
dannycool59x Elkhart Tolle is a spiritual guy. Short story he became so depressed and he "couldn't live with himself". Some people would say he then became enlightened due to the incredible sadness he felt.
yes, I tried four times, one by train, got picked up by cops, second took four hundred sleeping pills, followed by a 26 of vodka, digested it. After a couple more, I decided it wasn't worth the effort, then I found out I was pregnant, wonder why you don't die when you try so hard to? It's cause you have a purpose, if you just wait to find it. That was 11 years ago. TO KNOW EVEN ONE LIFE HAS BREATHED EASIER: BECAUSE YOU HAVE LIVED, THIS IS TO HAVE SUCCEEDED. - RALPH WALDO EMERSON.
The only man that ever loved me truly with all my faults and he committed suicide and left no note. He had PTSD from the army and turned to heroin to numb his pain. He was an amazing man. I just really hope I get to see him again one day. RIP Jon-erik Northcutt
I really hope you find a way to cope with your pain :]. There is always a way out from the sadness, i've been through it and managed. Go get yourself an ice cream and spoil yourself with what life has to offer - good food :]
trafficjon400 maybe we arent here for a reason...maybe we are just monsters cursed by god? or whoever made us??? idk i just feel so hopeless theres no hope on this Damned earth god please end our suffering
Dose not prove or explain much of what and why this wicked thing is happening today. a lot of people know think of why it happened and keep it behind doors.
I absolutely hate being told I'm not alone. I know others are depressed. I see them in mental facilities, I've spoken to them. But the reality is we are alone in it. I can't give somebody the pain I feel. The regret of waking up every day, wishing I hadn't. Been this way for the last half of my life. I'm 33. My 2 biggest fears: leaving my children behind and knowing I will willingly take my own life.
Matthee Clark please seek help, we all need to. I’ve been having major depression for almost 4 years now and it’s been so tough and sad. I haven’t felt alive this whole time I haven’t had any friends or people to talk to. Ive been alone for 4 years 😞 but I’m finally seeking help to get a better life
I came to RU-vid tonight, to find a video exactly like this - to get a grasp on what would happen to my family if I did anything tonight or any other night. As I watch this with tears in my eyes, I’m glad I did this. Even if it only delayed another day or night, I’ll take it as a small victory.
The Lightroom Official @conner rigs I appreciate your concern - Since making this comment, I’ve started getting the ball rolling into finding help and now I’m being seen on a weekly basis by a doctor and counsellor.
Alexander Ranin I’m 20 years old, have been depressed and suicidal for about 8 years. Never attempted suicide because I didn’t want to hurt my family. But they were also the reason for it in the first place. As said in the video the only thing that actually changed my condition was the people that cared when I didn’t care about myself. That stood by when I wanted to leave. I’m still on a rough road but starting to see the end. Do you have anybody in your life that you can talk to and who will listen and stay no matter how much of your burden you dump onto them?
like you said, you’re on a rough road. but don’t let a patch in it make you stop your travels. you might not see it now, but you have people who care for you. me being one of them💛
Dear friend remember this things in your mind ; Enjoy the little things in life because one day you'll look back and realize they were the big things What we think in our minds will eventually become what we believe. This is why it is so important that we start saying positive things about ourselves many times each and every day. Don’t miss out on the beauty of life in front of you and Stop telling yourself about how bad things in your life are, which may eventually create a self-fulfilling prophecy. The beauty of life is overcoming what we think we cannot Enjoy yourself now, Don't sulk in past mistakes and poor choices Try to see the good aspects of your life Never lose your hope but have patience, you are not alone, Whatever happens in your life don't despair, sometimes life doesn’t always go as we you have planned but whatever it is, life must move on Let your smile change the world, but don’t let the world change your smile ☺
I truthfully hate it when people say things like, "It's temporary." And when people try to guilt you into living. Saying that it hurts others. Why should I care? If life is torture to me, why should I force myself to live for other people? Shouldn't I be allowed to be a little selfish? Shouldn't I be allowed to be happy?
I thought I was the only one thinking that. Whenever people talk about something else, let's say, jobs or even life, they say: “Do whatever makes you happy.” But what if being happy means: not being alive, because living is too hard? Why is being alive so important? What if a person has an incurable illness and suffers endlessly? I've never been close to ending my life, but I think about it and get why other people would not want to live anymore. And I don't think it's a selfish act. It's your life and you can decide whether you want to live it or not.
Everyone is ´selfish´. It´s a primal instinct to survival, ironically. People wishing for others to continue suffering so that they may not have their own interest in mind. We all do.
Leo VonLion you have the RIGHT to be happy, but there are more ways to do it than suicide. But I can see where your coming from with the guilting someone into living. It just seems counter productive
I wont' say I know what you're going through, because I honestly don't. What I will say is that you don't have to deal with this shit alone, no-one does. Talk to your famiy and friends or If talking to someone face2face is not your thing right now, gimme a message.
You are worthy of an awesome life. Looking back I realise that things do get better, I can not contemplate what I would have left behind had I taken my own life. The truth is only you can save you, but you have to give yourself the love you deserve. It helps to picture your younger child self, would you harm you at that age or let anyone harm that innocent child? I'm sure the answer would be no. Guess what you are still that beautiful person. It gets better. You are alive today because someone up there knows you have a purpose still. Don't give up on yourself please, it gets better, life has so much good in store for you!!Sending you love x
***** I agree. Life is formed in such a way that we cannot out run our giants. We really do have to fight them all. And even if the giant knocks you down, go down swinging with all you know and NEVER EVER GIVE UP!! Because at the end of it all, its all about you! We're the real spice of life! Don't let this universe make you think otherwise.
twistedimagev2 Great comment and one I agree with. The thing is...I don't even know, myself, how I would want people to talk to me..all I know is that nothing they say helps. People seem to have a terrible habit of trying to lay some kind of guilt trip on you by saying "what about your friends/children/parents..how do you think they will feel?" What..so I go on feeling like this just to keep someone else happy? If you've never suffered Clinical Depression and been suicidal, I'm sorry ...but you will never understand the torture, pain and hopelessness it brings.
***** That was an excellent reply you gave. I can see you understand. The important thing is to just LISTEN to them..and there is no point in saying "Do you know what it would've done to the family if you had succeeded in taking your own life?"...because the suicidal person will not think in the same way, they see themselves as a "burden" to their family and feel the family would be better off without them. Their thoughts are not rational. They have failed in their attempt and you have to listen and let them talk. I really hope your family member gets therapy and some medication which will help. It's a long process and anti-depressants can take a while to take effect, usually about 6 weeks and that first month on medication is a crucial time as they may not yet feel better. The medication may not even work, if not, it can be changed. What works for one may not work for the other...it's an incredibly long process. Support, listening and understanding is very important at this time.
***** sorry it took me so long to respond. LISTENING IS 99% OF THE WORK ON YOUR END! haha. Trying to give advice is no help, and trying to feed them "positive" outlook or info is not only useless but can make it worse a lot of the time. But when this person you're worried about says something about their feelings, ask them questions that just open it up. If they're like "I feel really tired a lot" you can follow with "how does that make u feel?" or "what exactly does it feel like" just to know MORE about how they're feeling. For you, you honestly can't help whatever they're depressed about, so don't even try, bc it'll feel grating to them. Instead, just try to gather as much info as you can and be support/listener for them. Like I said, saying positive stuff often makes it worse bc it just does not help. HOWEVER, once this person is out, THEY NEED TO BE SEEING A THERAPIST/COUSELOR WEEKLY AND TO TAKE THEIR MEDS. These are literally the only things that can help them get better, so if they're not doing them, you should go as far as to schedule the appointment for them yourself, pick them up, make them go. It's important. The only reason I sounded harsh is not bc I think you're bad, but bc I'm trying to help u talk to this person, and realize what will help and what will make it worse. Hope this helps you though! good luck.
There are two times in your life, when people care for you. When you born and when you die. Edit: i wrote this comment a year ago, when i really thought that way. But now i have a lot of people who love me. It gets better!
I want to encourage you otherwise. You might have grown up in an awful environment where no one really cared about you, but I can tell you for certain I stopped at this comment and care about you. I could point to other instances where people show their care. Celebration of graduation, birthdays, anniversaries, visits when in medical danger, giving when you have expressed a need, and other such instances are other times people care. True friends will care in the most bountiful ways, so being willing to open your heart and connect with someone who shows you love in return is a reward of care all of its own. There are ways to find happiness with others, and it's not just in birth and death. I hope you read this.
Man, that is a tough position and job to be in. After you talked to somebody for an hour then they still decide to leave and you are there front and center to witness the entire thing. Then the next day you have to show up to your job to do it all over again and pray and hope for a different outcome. I certainly give you credit and thank you for saving 200 people's lives! 💜❤
Depression feels like a pointless grieving process. Intense and painful, to the point my body feels exhausted, I feel sick to my stomach. Still need to pay the bills so I go to work, trying.. needing to hide it. Every experience with people is at the very least extremely uncomfortable and or akward. So I feel the most comfortable at home where I can cry and sleep until I have to do something.
The difference can be when you have other people to share your experiences with. Try going to a meeting where people are talking about their struggles. It can lift you up and even give your life purpose when you see that you can actually help someone just by being who you are, imperfections, pain and all. Putting things into a much bigger perspective can help you relax and enjoy the smallest of things in life with joy. Don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff! ( A book title!)
Hope lives as long as you are breathing, it will never die until you decide to kill it by commiting suicide. There is always hope as long as you live physically even though you'd be dead mentally...
I hear you, I lost my hope a long time ago some people may say "oh good you're still alive" what's the point of living if you feel like you're already dead? Might as well be living in a void and the only way to get out of the void is killing yourself that's just what I thought back then but I still am alive right now even though I tryed to kill myself a bunch of times during my depression a lot of things died Inside Me My Hope my willingness to live my interest in life the hardest part is trying to get those all back and I still have feel like I'm dead sometimes just because I'm barely interested in anything honestly life is just a game of emotions and once you lose some of your emotions you lose some of your soul some people can smile at me and tell me "oh well I'm just glad you survived" honestly living a life with no empathy for others or care about a bunch of things some days I really do wish I was dead but I'm slowly getting interest back even though I might have permanently lost some
God loves you!!!❤️ That is not the answer, you were made with purpose, you are special. Have faith it God, pray, he hears and will deliver. Don’t do anything, it’s a horrible choice, because life is precious and we only get one, it will get better, Don’t Worry!!❤️🙏🏾
Something that I've come to terms with is that when people grieve, time will pass and they will get over it anyway. When I think about suicide, I don't worry about what will happen to the people around me anymore, because I know they'll get better eventually..
Thank you dear stranger. Thank you for being alive. It is a miracle that exactly you are reading this. I am reaching out to you from afar, maybe even on the other side of the world and I want you to know that you are loved. I love you. I love the idea of you and you living the best life that you possibly can live. I love the idea of you being happy and receiving the live that you deserve. Please reach out to people, pet a dog, open your heart. Do whatever it takes to get back your will to live. Open up and let it out, and you will be free. Please continue living, if not for anyone else then please do it for me. Do it for your future husband or wife. You are worthy of so much more. Write to me if you have to, I'll gladly hear your story and we are many that will. Be strong. You are loveable, you are worthy and I wish you all the best in life. Take care friend and live your life. I love you.
Only thing I learnt...."Never surrender to any situation, don't let anyone or anything hurt you"...We might be selfless, loving and trying. But "Be selfish for once in your life"..." Live for yourself" not for anyone else...
You bring up a good point about being "selfish". Many people spend their lives being "selfless" but it's very tiring to constantly take care of others. We all have to take of ourselves first in a healthy way so we can be of service to others in a confident manner.
Something that really struck me was when he said that once people are over that rail and in their darkest hour hardly anything will bring them back over, and that's where it hurts the most, I feel like people dont understand a suicidal person until they themselves have been in that dark place where nothing can convince you life is worth living for.
Physical or mental pain? I have both, and no longer work, solife just passes by, I can't be bothered to have fun or visit freinds or go out. Sleep TV Alcohol and pain relievers.
@James Tudor "40 years and every single second of every single day from 4 years of age." At the age of 4, James, a cat walked across your kitchen counter, something like that, tracking in some tiny cysts from a garden that got onto some vegetables your mother had diligently washed but unfortunately were set down on top of those cysts, which then made their way into you, and found their way on to your brain, where they target the amygdala. Call toxoplasma. They eat gaba if you ask me, that's what I gather, and the result of that is that you carry around a lousy feeling continuously. Try phenibut, it restores gaba. So, no, it isn't you, it is not a character flaw of any sort, just a roll of the dice to have become infected. Do you guys want to communicate a bit? garyha at sellerline .com. That's just some dumb domain i registered ages ago and don't use for anything really. Staci?
As someone who has contemplated suicide and had many friends go through depression in their lives, i hate when people think its so easily solvable, like calling a prevention hotline or to just forget about it and man up. Because that makes them think they're crazy and not normal only furthering their depression and feeling of uselessness. What you really need to do is listen to them on a real level, always listen to what they have to say, its really comforting to know that someone cares enough to listen to your hardships without an argument. I know from experience, and i really appreciate Kevin bringing that to light.
A person who is continually haunted by suicidal thoughts and continues living, in order to spare the temporary grief of those who know them, is worthy of adoration. They choose to suffer throughout their entire life so that those they love won't be temporarily affected. These people are of the highest order and are rarely noticed for their sacrifice. Then there's the people who ask them to do this.
Every day I wake up and still go through the motions. I don't want to live, but I have a promise to keep. Sometimes I worry about what would happen if I outlive everyone I ever loved. I wouldn't have to keep my promise anymore, but I'd be so old as to be helpless to do myself in. I don't know if I'm mentally ill. I sometimes feel like my brain isn't like anybody else's; that I'm missing a crucial component. That being desire, passion, willpower or motivation. In any case, I'm able to be rational and hold a job even if I can't do much more than that. I'm afraid to get a diagnosis, because that would label me as someone who's "not alright." Additionally, I feel that doctors are sometimes like mechanics. They keep you coming in, without fixing the problem either because they can't understand the problem or because they won't because it's more lucrative. So they throw you on a trial-and-error program consisting of medication that twists your brain until you can't tell which one is the real you, or sitting down and talking which I feel doesn't quite get to the root of the problem, since they all tell you the same damn thing; i.e. be positive, try new things, etc. Nobody gets my problem, not even myself. I'm sick of life, but I have a promise to keep, as excruciating as it is.
If you had a broken leg would you not seek treatment? There is no "fault" in being injured. Look at Stephen Frye and Carrie Fisher and the multitudes of others who suffered from deep depression, sought treatment, and were not stigmatized for it -- in fact, they were rewarded for talking about it.
It breaks my heart to hear that we are not able to "listen" to people around us. A little listening could avoid something so serious....hugs from San Francisco, CA
DereMemo That's a brilliant question. Another question is why is life so sacred. We are programmed with a bias about the importance of human life. It's probably not important objectively.
DereMemo I think it's the misery and hopelessness that drives someone to take their own life that's important. And someone's death *is* important to the people who care about them. That person is no longer around, so there's a void in their lives.
I mean, you wrote this comment in beautiful english with a poetically morbid meaning. So the creative side of your brain is still alive. And that's something. Something inspiring.
God bless you Paul. I know your pain. I'm not trying to be religious, but God will carry you, strengthen you, and carry you through the pain. I've prayed to God many times to take my life, but He hasn't. There's something out there God is working on for you and me to give us hope again. I pray you and me will find it.
You are not alone, seriously. Why people just can't face it and are pretending nothing it's happening, I don't know. The fact is that one just must keep going and learn to survive on their own. Religion helps very much, because you have someone to talk to, someone you believe is listening and understanding. Life gets colours 🌈 One day you'll find a person who cares about your feelings.
I see that you believe a lot of things without experience first hand. Life will teach you differently. Chemical imbalance is what is claimed of the brain, but this isn´t the cause. Don´t believe the doctors who generally are schooled to treat symptoms, and put people on drugs (side effects = poison), not the cause itself. Come back in ten years and rethink your statement ;)
"they dont want to die they just want to end their pain" is true except when someone's entire life has felt like nothing but pain, they cant distinguish the difference.
i hate when folk say life is a gift...maybe so but for many we can't see it that way despite trying....there is no switch that turns on the positivity light....it is a persons right to choose that life isn't for them.....just to have the basics is extremely hard and hearing the outside world tell us we aren't trying hard enough, thinking hard enough, fill in the blank hard enough just compounds our feelings of failure shame and guilt.....
Anyone who tells you you’re not trying hard enough is no friend, I hope one day people will see that anyone telling you that you’re not doing enough isn’t right in telling you so. Just take it a moment at a time.
It's funny _(soul crushingly sad actually)_ just how fucking unhelpful 95% of advice to depressed and suicidal people is. I think people generally mean well, but they just.... don't get it, and they never will.
I knew a great guy that had committed suicide, he had entered a period of depression and no one knew how bad it was until he was gone. I wish there wasn't such a stigma when talking about suicide; I believe if people didn't feel embarrassed about it that they would seek help more easily. If suicide wasn't so shunned... maybe he would still be alive today.
It's less the embarrassment of the one suicidal, it's for one that you don't want to drag down, be a burden to others; and those others? They run away because they fear making a mistake. Yet… it is that running away, that is the mistake.
It is incredibly patronizing to classify suicidal people as "weak." It is not weakness. It is loneliness. It is living in a horrible world full of cruel and callous people. It is the realization that you could disappear and no one would care. It is pain. It is a pain that screams in your head and reverberates throughout your entire body. If you don't feel this pain, then you have no right to judge suicidal people as weak. You have no idea how much strength it takes to get out of bed and go to work when you feel this pain every moment of every day year after year.
Betty Stoneman people who take their own lives are of the highest order in every respect- it is the ultimate in self sacrifice and I have absolute respect and total love for each and every one of them. Those idiots that say it is 'cowardly' etc have absolute no idea of anything whatsoever. Let them plan their own exit, they wouldn't, couldn't get past their first pathetic thought of 'I want to live'!!!
"You ever been shot? Or stabbed? You should be shot or stabbed. To be a surgeon. you know. Know what kind of pain you're dealing with. They make psychiatrists get psycho-analyzed to get certified, but they don't make a surgeon get cut on. Does that seem right to you?" -Jubal Early (I'm known to some)
I remember watching this video years ago and now I am watching it for my abnormal psychology class. The line about those who survive stuck with me all these years, now I've gotten treatment and I am doing better and working to become a therapist. It makes me sad to see how many people struggled to see anything but negative in the video, but then again that is a symptom of depression...
Mercy don’t do that to yourself. please. i know what you’re going through. i’ve thought about it constantly. that’s not what you want. think of the people that will hurt. suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
If someone needs someone to talk to, I am here. I know it's youtube, and some random person doesn't fucking matter, but I will talk to you. Don't even need to talk about suicide.
