EFFORT MEANS ATTEMPT. THERE IS NO ATTEMPT IN NEARLY KILLING YOURSELF. ATTEMPT IS DONE TO ACHIEVE YOUR PURPOSE, SOMEONE'S PURPOSE, OR SOMETHING'S PURPOSE & ALMOST ROBBING ONESELF OF GETTING TO ACHIEVE ONE'S PURPOSE ACHIEVES NOTHING. STOP MISUSING THE WORD ATTEMPT.
Even if its for attraction that is a child they to put attention on the fact that they are unhappy someone who is happy wouldn't try to kill themselves saying its for attention honestly its more a cry for help and any parent who denies that there child is going through something shouldn't be a parent
and as if it being a cry for attention isn't alarming in itself!!! like your kid has to try to kill themself so you can become aware of how much they're suffering and you're ok with that?
EXACTLY! For Self harm in general, it isn’t unpopular for it to be for “attention”, but they’re not seeking pity, they’re seeking for someone to notice so they can get help. It’s a cry for help.
When I heard that man say "if he actually wanted to kill himself, there are ways to insure that happens. Anything else is a cry for help" I just started shaking. It's comments like these from adults that made me try in the first place! And hearing stuff like that makes me go to the doubting place and have me ask myself well was I doing it for attention maybe I was being too dramatic. and no one who is suicidal should feel like their attempt wasn't good or real enough. I honestly just can't even process this right now.
Please don’t attempt taking your life. Things just wouldn't be the same without you. You're worth it here, so please don't think you aren't. Life can be tough sometimes, but please hang on! You aren't doing it for attention, some people are just jerks who keep saying that you're doing it for attention. Block out those people and look to the brighter days soon to come. I believe that there is good in a lot of bad situations, and covid is one of the bad situations for example. Hopefully, something great will come out of this time of social isolation and madness. Idk what it will be, but just stick around with us to find out!
Dear Caitlin, please don't question yourself based on what other people are saying. Nobody risks their life because they're 'too dramatic'. The will to live is one of the strongest instincts that we have, so when something inside you gets even stronger than that, then it's serious by definition. Even IF it was a cry for attention, then that only means that you needed attention really, really badly. In the end, you did what you did because you were in a terrible place at the time, otherwise you wouldn't have done it. And there's no way that you're to blame for that. I promise. Now having said that, please promise me that if you start feeling like that again, you'll look for help. I assume that you're young, because you're talking about 'adults'. So maybe talk to your parents or a teacher that you trust. Or some other family member maybe. Or if you don't feel comfortable doing any of that, most countries have phonelines that you can dial and there are online chats that you can go to for some help. There's absolutely no shame in that. You're a beautiful person Caitlin, I can tell. I wish you all the best.
Its in the people who suffer... Sadly I want to cut myself but I'm scared because of my parents saying I'm doing for attention when really I'm suffering because of their standards for me. Its rare that I try to commit suicide but its common for me to try and cut myself... Its not attention grabbing... Its suffering and wanting to end it. But its sad we get ignored because rats called fake depressed people do it for attention. then the real ones get called fake because of them. (Never do what I do... Which is cutting currently.. Just don't. It may feel good but its not.) As the end note.. I get what you're saying... I know what you're going through.. You can make it through this... People who have suffered the same are here for you.
I would just like to say no one who commits suicide is looking for attention. That is a complete myth. People who commit suicide are in such pain that they need a way to end it. They are in a dark tunnel and the only way out is death. They are not looking for attention at all. Those who seem fine are really the ones going through so much and need help. Don't take anyone for granted and believe me when I say no one is looking for attention. Thank you for reading this.
A lot of cries for help, are cries for attention. I've never gotten why people get mad that people who want to die, want attention. DUH. They want help at first! But eventually it gets serious.
@@crayon294 dam is hard to imagine that 😂 but in this case her mom only focus on craig you can look when dr phil ask her mom you can't see you son at hospital 😂 but i'm 💯 percent confident if craig in hospital she can go and see craig at hospital so on basic this mom only focus on craig you can see her mom face when ask can't go see her son
@@sarcasticstranger3817 I don’t think he’s implying that Dr. Phil is wrong, they’re probably meaning that the adults that are involved in the situation: Mother, Father, and Mom’s boyfriend
@@RYCH3 no way. he was in such a dark place that he wanted to end it. imagine you were so sad that there was nothing to keep you going and nothing seemed work it. you don’t know what it feels like. it’s not selfishness, you need to put some thought into what you said because you are being an inconsiderate brat.
And my mom exactly that. Dismissed my depression, basically, her personality is all the things a narcissist does packed with a Karen. I'm in 7th grade, 13 years old, have thought about cutting. I want to run away.
As someone who has tried to commit suicide, I can say, sometimes, sometimes it's a cry for attention. But it's not 'give me attention! Give me attention!' It's more I'm willing to risk my life in a last hope for you to finally listen. Many people are so stressed out today, so depressed that the only way out is to try and commit suicide and it's people like the mother and step father who need to wake up and see that they might be the problem.
Wow I didn’t think that anyone else thought this way, I’ve been seeing other people say “no one EVER does it for attention” etc etc which, is wrong. Sometimes we do. I’ve attempted more times than I remember, whether I was too drunk to remember or if my trauma doesn’t let me but I know that many of those times I was trying to get attention, exactly the way you explained. It wasn’t a “look at me” “look at me”. I thought that if I did it, the people who were the reason for me doing it would see just how severe their actions were and that they would change. I thought that if I was mourned by my family and friends it would prove they really did love me, it would just take my death for them and i to see that. I wanted to die but if I gave my life to teach a lesson to people then it made me feel like I wasn’t going to be remembered as a coward who “gave up” or wasn’t strong enough. I never really said these things because I thought no one would understand and I too would be dubbed as an “attention seeker”. I wasn’t looking for attention I just wanted people to be aware, I was looking for love and understanding :( Ive never been so relieved at a RU-vid comment, knowing that I wasn’t alone in feeling this way, and being kind of ashamed of it. I hope someone else with the same feelings can see our comments.
I’ve been depressed since 7th grade & I finally told my parents about my mental health issues when I was a junior. I had contemplated suicide before, but when I told them, I was no longer in that dark place. My mom proceeded to gaslight me and scream at me because I asked my counselor how to get help before coming to them :/ Well, long story short, she accused me of making stuff up and wanting to make her feel bad lmao & I told her she wouldn’t believe me unless I tried to kill myself, but thinking about it now, maybe she still wouldn’t believe me lol
Hey Army I am really sorry for you. I never attempted suicide but I had suicidal ideation due to some personal reasons. When I told my parents that I had depression they just acted so much coldly towards me that I still can't believe it. They said that I don't know how to tolerate something in life that's why I had depression, and I am a spoiled kid :( We all are in the same boat
I feel for this girl, she didn’t wake up one day and decide to attempt suicide. This was her way of saying I’m struggling and I need help. Telling your child that you did it for attention is going to make them feel worse and deter them from asking for help.
it’s only for attention if they say it constantly arent showing any signs of truley feeling pain or depression and using it to get what they want (manipulation) or for validation in my opinion
hi guys, I just want to remind you to eat, take care of yourself, spoil yourself, etc. You deserve more than the world can give. Hope all of you are doing well, ily.
or parents pretend to care and then when i do ask for help i get called childish or immature or selfish.. then it makes me feel guilty and i repress further
@@adu1991 People who don't their own children are absolutely not parents at all.They are nothing but evil,selfish,disgusting,nasty people who don't deserve to have any children at all.Does anyone else agree with me?.
@@roguejester4986 I agree with you.If you can't accept your own children for who they are and/or listen to your own children whenever they have any problems,don't have any children at all!.Does anyone else agree with me?.
That's a pretty insensitive thing for the mom to say... ~ I just want anyone out there whether you having a bad time or doing great, please know that's better to keep going please stay :)
My mum is this. I cut for attention, I attempted suicide AND TOLD HER I WAS GOING TO beforehand when we were arguing. She still thinks it was for attention. I’m so tired
all the gaslighting coming from this mother is insane. “youre changing your story” “i never said that” you can tell the girl is so frustrated, shes even recording conversations but clearly facts are no match for whatever narrative the immature adults in her life are spinning. some people should not be parents
A friend of my daughters talked about suicide also , but she was really pretty and seemed to have so much to live for. Nobody took her seriously either and made comments about her wanting attention. Well , everyone's attention was certainly gotten when they found her a short time later hanging by the neck from a local bridge! NEVER ignore a suicide threat! That is something mist people would never play around about!
people try to use suicide as a method of getting attention all the time as a form of manipulation, but this girl is just young and emotional. i attempted three times and my story sounds really similar to hers, i think she’ll grow out of it. at least i hope so, i really hope she realizes how precious her life is.
I understand what you are saying and all but you shouldn’t say it was for attention, just cause you did it and say its for attention doesn’t mean other also do it for attention. Some people honestly are in so much pain the think it’s the only way out, or do it for help. I do agree with you that her life is precious but I wouldn’t say it’s for attention
“She is young and emotional” or she has a mental illness as in depression. She is obviously not feeling good so I don’t think saying that she’s young is a part of it, I agree that hormones can cause a few things but you don’t try to kill yourself just cause you are young, young people are smarter than adults now days
@@nosir4707 wait what, I was literally saying that they (they person who commented this) shouldn’t say it’s for attention, idk if you understood what I meant or not lol
“We stay away from you!” So. Instead of. Helping her through her emotions. Helping her learn to cope with tragedy and loss. You just… leave her? Wowwww
This makes my blood boil not everything is about you your child is worth more then money “she didn’t want to pay the ambulance bill” your daughter is so so sad HELP HER
That mother is wrong.Not everything is about her and the whole wide world also does not revolve around her too.She is not a good mother at all.She is nothing but a dirty selfish woman too.Does anyone else agree with me?.
I think it is a cry for attention, but not in the negative connotation that we put it in. The attention they want is not the kind presented in the negative connotation such as popularity, rather it's attention like emotional attention or helping attention. The problem is the negative connotation we put behind the phrase as a way to dismiss it because it is indeed partially right, but it's still flawed and shouldn't be said in that connotation.
Why does every parent with an unhealthy, depressed child either A. abuse and beat their child or B. ignore it? Seriously, I'm a MINOR and I could be a better parent.
I forgot to mention why are you even including the fact that the daughter is cursing? This isn't even about the daughter cursing. It's about how the mom is being so narcissistic to say that her daughter is attempting suicide for attention!
I remember being abused to that extent that I started carving out lines on my hands with a broken piece of bangle and blood started oozing out . My parents standing in front of me , mom looked straight into my eyes and said and I'm learning all these things from watching movies . She said I wa trying to hurt her when I'm the one mentally qnd physically abused . This was in 8th or 7th grade. Im starting college this year after my exams . Watching the mom in this video talk about how her "daughter only wants to hurt her feelings" reminded me of my mother . Don't get me wrong , my parents love me and I love them too . I would literally die for them but all this abuse has left me with being abusive with them and having very bad anger issues to the point where I start shaking trying to control my emotions when my parents say something to me . it has totally ruined my life but I found bts and they take majority of my pain now a days and they actually help me control my anger . so thank you bangtan 💜
Every single one of those adults are immature and need serious help getting their stuff together. Everything this mother said in this video is so messed up
this makes me so angry. is the mother gunna say, “oh she just killed herself for attention” if she actually does it? this makes me sick. suicide is NOT a joke..
My first attempt was age 8 since then I have attempted 11 times. My mother has said 100s of times it was for attention. That caused my most recent attempt. None of it has ever been for attention
When I was in college, I attempted by overdosing, and my friends took me to the ER. They begged me to call my parents, even though I told them they wouldn't care, but I eventually did. I got a hold of my father, who was only an hour away. I told him I was in the ER, he asked why, and I told him. He said, 'So, like, do you need me there or what?' I told him no, because it was obvious he didn't care and saw it and me as a bother. Then he said that I didn't need to bother my mom with it. I was in the hospital for 3 days. It happened to coincide with a 3 day weekend from classes. So, after, I just went back to classes like nothing happened. We never spoke of it again. My friends were pretty horrified, though, and completely understood my relationship to my family after that.
If I had to pick one of them that I think should shut their mouth its the mothers boyfriend. I think if you don't have a biological connection to any of the family you should stay out of it.
My father yelled and punched things when I told him how stressful I am because of my suicidal thoughts. He blamed everything, and called me weak and loser. I thought he would understand my pain. I thought he would listen. It really hurts, please someone help me
this is literally how my parents talk to me whenever i have any type of feeling other than happiness. i completely understand how she feels the fact that her parents are trying to manipulate her. i really hope she gets through this and gets away from them
Oh man, this is sad. The leading cause of suicide is a lack of love. Theres a child who tried to end her life and they're arguing about her reasons. To me it doesn't matter if it was done for attention because if someone has to do that for attention, then they're obviously feeling like the only way to get love and attention is through drastic measures and that should never have to be the case.
It's called a suicide note that someone with mental health problems like bipolar depression writes to there family members and friends when they try to attempt suicide. Suicide is a real thing that happens more often than you think and these parents are handling the substation horribly and being ignorant. People don't do this stuff for attention they do it for a cry for help or they just don't want to do it anymore.
I agree with you.Every child deserves a parent,but not every parent deserves to be around and/or have any children at all.Does anyone else agree with me?.
If someone harms themself or tries to kill themself for attention that itself shows the person is suffering from severe mental health issues and should be taken just as serious as a legitimate suicide attempt
A lifetime of drug taking... no wonder his wife wanted someone else... the letter that was left was self pitying, and taking no responsibility for his role in the marriage breakdown. The daughter is choosing the father because of hurt feelings and self interest.... no discipline, indulging in drugs with no consequences. I think the mother should have told the father.... shape up or ship out... been more discreet with seeking solace and support from another man and should have been upfront to the father that she needed and therefore had sought solace and support from another man.... without involving the children.
I saw a therapist as a teenager because I was suicidal. It didn't improve my relationship with my parents at all. My mother continued to abuse me. She was the one who needed a therapist, not me.
the amount of seriousness of anybody trying to commit suicide should never be determined over the reason why they tried...IT WAS FOR A REASON. all people are valid and heard esspecialy a child. i hope she is doing better now.
Can you imagine the backlash that this mommy dearest had after this show aired? Did she honestly think that she could go on a show like Dr. Phil and come out unscathed?? This show is forever out there now. Hey, mom are you reading this? I know that being a narcissist you can’t help yourself from reading these comments because it’s all about you, right? Life as you know it has changed for you, hasn’t it? Bet you’d love to erase this whole incident from your life but this thing called the internet won’t let you. Good luck trying to forget this happened.
Mom: You keep changing your story about why you tried to commit suicide Also mom: Changes her story about why she didn't visit daughter in hospital after she tried to commit suicide
The guy saying that unless your suicide attempts succeed then it’s just a cry for attention really hurts me so much. I’ve had between 20 and 25 attempts, obviously none of them successful, but I never did it for attention. In fact I always hated the attention people gave me for it. I could just never imagine saying someone just did it for attention. Also, the mother saying she couldn’t go to see her daughter at the hospital also hurts. My mum flew from one region of the country to another with my 6 month old sister just to see me in hospital. This whole situation just hits on a deep and personal level and I can’t believe anyone could be like this.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I am so glad you're here ❤ I've had about 11 attempts and I'm glad they didn't take. When I'm depressed I feel differently but it changes. People saying that oh you did it to get attention are just horrible people. Its like bloody listen to why they even went to attempt instead of sweeping it under the rug. I was in an abusive domestic violence marriage and my ex did not care at all. It hurts knowing how serious this is and people just don't care.
@@bluebree don't be sorry. I'm not. I'm not in that mindset anymore and its been just under a year since my last one but I wouldn't change it. Its given me the first hand experience along with understanding and more empathy for when I go into nursing. I wouldn't be who I am today without those struggles. I'm glad you're still here and I'm sending you lots of hugs and warm vibes 💖
@@bluebree thank you. I’m the kind of person that has accepted that that’s what happened to me. And if I can’t change it then I may as well embrace it. That’s not at all to say that it’s not hard to do (it’s just easier than trying to change it), or that I don’t have problems from it. I have ptsd and tachycardia from it and I’m absolutely not ashamed to say it. I used to be because “I did it to myself” but therapy and great support from my family and friends have taught me it’s not my fault and I can be proud because I survived and I am a fierce warrior. And you are too. Stay that warrior. I wear my scars with pride, not because of what they are from but because they represent how far I’ve come. I’m so proud of you and I love you. And just remember I’m always here❤️
@@hanns115 Aw same here, if you ever need to talk let me know ❤ I have multiple mental illnesses and take medication, I'm also in therapy which has definetly helped a lot. It hasn't been easy but I've incorporated a lot of skills from therapy into my daily life. I have been self harming since 12 and am in recovery. I haven't been ashamed of my scars for years now and it feels good to just not care what people think. I'm sorry you've got PTSD and tachycardia but I'm glad that you're not ashamed because that's not an easy thing to do. I always strive to stay a warrior for my family, friends and my 2 yr old daughter 🙂
Marci told Steve she was going home to her mother. He asked, Why. Is she going to teach you how to bury me the way she buried her three husbands?" That's what this reminds me of.
Everyone is commentating that Dr Phil finally let people comment and I think his team disabled it to protect the people in he vids, but then realized commentating on these vids let people express themselves and sometimes it helps people. Edit: They probably just did it because they were bored off seeing noting when they had turned them off.
The one thing I wanted Dr Phil to say to Craig is “You are not their father, stop trying to replace him. And stop telling them what they feel and don’t feel.” Same with that pathetic gaslighting excuse of a mother!
