I can't wrap my head around the act of splitting siblings just because you want to adopt one of them... That's not love. It's selfish of anyone to do that.
@@thelonelyghosts9004 you guys are forgetting the family might not be able to take on 2 kids, let's just be happy they go to a good home and the brothers will meet again and catch up
you could've avoided that by adopting them.Well, it's too late now but I'm sure there are other siblings on the system waiting for adoption. Go get 'em tiger.
Selfish parents who only want to adopt the smallest child. They are so selfish and think only of themselves that they don't care who suffers along the way as long as they can have "their baby."
💞 UPDATE: Within days of this segment airing in Aug 2020 and went viral across the USA, OK DHS received 10,000 inquiries (5,000 w/in the first 12 hours) from ppl asking how they could adopt the adorable, sweet Jordan. It looks like he’s been adopted (or in the process of it as of the last reporting I saw from Jan 2021) and the family said they will ensure the Jordan & Braison reconnect and rebuild their bond. 💞
@@sunnyoutdoors IKR?! Though, there are far more than 50k in the USA. Of the 400k children in foster care, ~120k are waiting to be adopted, leaving ~280k with no family in sight. And as you mentioned, kids with disabilities or who are PoC have less of a chance. What’s the game plan, my fellow vegan (assuming that’s what your UN refers to)?
@@sunnyoutdoors Sadly most of the kids that are about Jordan's age and through their teens are overlooked, all these adoptive families are after are babies....the older kids are always shoved aside, overlooked, and they're the most vulnerable. They're the ones that will remember this for the rest of their lives. If I could adopt I would. I'm a single male, and have a felony on my record so I'm unable to adopt or foster....although my felony has nothing to do with kids, abuse, etc...it was theft, it leaves me unable to do anything to give kids a forever loving home :(. But damn it its perfectly OK to place them into abusive foster homes or leave them with abusive relatives or their abusive parents....the system is beyond flawed, its so sad...
@@johntran4738 Hi John I see you responded 3 hrs ago, so I chose you to ask you my stupid question. Since this was filmed last year does anyone know if the boy was adopted. Cause this broke my heart.
dear Lord thank you for letting this little boy get his family...im adopted but was only 6 weeks old and have an amazing life with loving parents but always felt like i have a sibling...i hope he sees his brother 💙
While I understand that it makes sense with two siblings, it does make it harder to find a home that will adopt 2 older kids, and then it becomes MUCH harder when there are three, four, or more more siblings. It would be near impossible to find adoptive parents with that kind of law in place
I still don’t understand why they separate siblings. That family should of adopted both brothers and not picked their “ favourite one”. I can’t imagine what that does to a kid.
We do it to other animals regularly. We should not be doing it at all. The guilt and pain his brother will have may be on par with vets who have survivors guilt. I hate that this is legal.
@@thebeardedshad1776 how about you get some mental health and anger management counseling instead of being over dramatic and harassing me over my opinion?
@@thebeardedshad1776 Wow, you're a piece of work, calling people you don't even know names and obscenities. You think that you have a right to judge others?! Grow up.
@@kathleenedwards6435 I’m very happy to read you had the adoption with your family! I hope you and your brother and family are wonderful and blessed in life ♥️
As someone who was put into the system with one of my sisters, we were lucky enough to both be adopted at the ages of 6 and 7 and I agree, it's so fucked up that these kids get separated not only from their siblings, the people that helped them survive whatever hardships they faced. It angers me to no end
Siblings should be adopted as a pair, and we as adults should oblige those kids. Siblings should always stay together and go to good homes. Much love to these two adorable, sweet little boys
It's the states fault for not having a better system in place that puts the welfare of the kids first and foremost. No child should be in a group home for years without the state successfully finding them a home with a fully vetted family that is capable of taking all siblings.. not just the one they "picked". Kids are being treated like puppies in the mall.... aww i want that one! sickening!
That is you're assuming the kid who got adopted agrees with your idea! For 1, you could NOT force people to adopt 2 or more when they only want and can afford 1. For 2, nobody FORCED the little kid to be adopted if he didn't want it! Between NOT being adopted and being adopted and seperated from the brother, the kid CHOSE the later. You should have been there to adopt BOTH if you want PERFECT SOLUTION! Too bad, you WERE NOWHERE to BE FOUND! 😏 So, stop telling people what to do or the right thing to do when you don't even know your own place, maybe??
I really feel for this kid. I was in the system from 16-18. Initially my sibling was with me, but they grew out of the system sooner than I did. They had the option to stay with me but chose to leave and go with my half siblings. They promised me adoption in 6 months but never did. I hope this strong, resilient lil guy gets the unconditional love he deserves.
That's so sad, but it seems like a very common thing to have happen...one gets adopted, one gets left in the system....split apart, sometimes forever. The age that you were in the system is one of the worst, the older you get the less of a chance at getting adopted you have, and its very sad. I'm not a baby person, so older kids would be something I'd love to get into adoption and foster care for, but due to things from my past, and being a single male I'm unable to foster or adopt. So many kids out there need safe forever homes with someone to love them, yet the system plays games with those kids as if they're just an object...I really think with the kids school age/teens it should honestly be up to them, if someone comes in willing to take them, at that age they should be given the chance to speak up for themselves....most kids honestly have a better sense of feeling safe & loved by someone than us adults ever would LOL. Its extremely hard for me to watch any of these types of segments on the news or online it breaks my heart to see these kids struggle with things that I take for granted every day. I have a home, and a job, all these kids want is someone, anyone to take them home forever, give them the love, guidance, and life they desperately need/want.
@@wildbill23c yeah it's a bit like in animal shelters the older an animal is the less chance it will get adopted, most people.only want puppies and kittens a bit like in the adoption system people only babies and toddlers, they do it because they want a fresh start which I understand but it leaves kids without homes, once you hit age 10 its impossible to be adopted unless your very lucky, anyone over five has a hard time getting adopted.
Yes sick. And then the brothers family lets him visit his brother once and awhile how cruel. There must be more to the story as why they separated the brothers
let's get them back together then Guy come on you already know and everybody in this pace bonus RU-vid already knows you already know you already know and you already know what we got to do you already know what we got to do because this is heartbreaking right here I've been separated for my daughter for 8 years and this is ridiculous we need to do something about this
@@paigeroberts3034 What a disgusting thing to say. If there was any basis for saying that, you'd have to be professionally involved in his case. And if you were professionally involved in his case, you wouldn't be posting it on RU-vid. Of all the challenges this kid faces, random a88holes on RU-vid making up stuff about him is also something he needs to be concerned about. Try doing something more productive with your sad life.
@@luism8130 Jordan now has a family. If the selfish humans who took his brother and keep them separated wanted an only child they could've looked for one. They ripped the only family that poor young boy had.
This little boy must have cried his heart out when the family adopted his brother and left him alone. His brother is the only family he has! So cruel. 😢
@Saa Shaa almost all of the children that are taken NEEDED to be taken..... and much more cause of how horrible parents are. The problem is, there isn’t enough stable parents that are willing to adopt
I've never supported splitting siblings during adoption. That's cruel. I've been working with children as a volunteer and it's also personally something my family had to deal with. I also understand the reasons why some people adopt one and not the other. I understand the costs and how difficult it can be. But if you're not going to adopt all the siblings dont split their family even moreso than it already is. P.s. gosh, I wish I could adopt all children in need of a home.
I can’t believe they would split them up and leave this gorgeous young boy on his own. I hope someone comes forward for him soon. I would but I’m 60 and in the U.K.
I will forever be grateful to my adoptive parents for adopting 3 almost teenagers who had behavioral issues ( me and my two brothers) just so that we wouldn't be broken up. 🥰🥰
I want to adopt when I'm financially ready and one thing I would never do is separate siblings. It's already emotionally hard for them already and then you separate them. Omg 😭😭😭
Hi, Nadia such a sweet comment. I have 17 grandchildren and 9 are adopted and all equal and loved the same. I believe siblings should always be placed in the same home if possible or at least have the families stay close and allow the siblings to stay in contact with each other. Heart breaking to see family's go in different directions..Poco
Imagine being seven and having only your brother in the whole world and then one day your brother goes away and you are left behind. That's messed up, people who let this happen, how do you go to sleep at night!
Those adopting "parents" weren't suitable just by the very act of separating the siblings they clearly did it for selfish reasons and their willingness to only take one should of been enough evidence to go against allowing them to adopt.
this breaks my heart to see the two little brothers being split apart. my siblings and i were split apart when we were in foster care, and i haven’t seen most of them in person in about 4-6 years. the amount of mental and emotional pain that separating siblings puts the children thru is unreal. i’m glad that cps is starting to realize this and now trying to save sibling groups
Im so sorry I feel like crying. Growing up my sister was rly the only friend I had. I cant imagine not having het in my life! Sending u cyber hugs friend....
It is cruel to separate the brothers. What on earth were the social workers thinking? I've seen this before when I worked in a group home. So wrong for the youngsters. One car accident folks. That is what can happen to a family. Never text and drive.
@mamaknows Sometimes a family can't take more than one. That happened with me and my little brother. My little sister stayed with me. But my heart isn't whole without my brother. His family won't let me see him until he is 21. At least that's what they said 8 years ago.
My brother and I both went through a pretty traumatic childhood. I’m 24 I couldn’t imagine not having him. Absolutely terrible and inhumane they were separated. No matter what I always had my brother, something this poor kid doesn’t even have. What a terrible thing to do to kids. Really pisses me off. The family that took the one child and not the other are terrible people and the social worker who allowed them to be separated is also a terrible person. People who are that heartless shouldn’t be in this line of work or in the position to adopt. Cruel is an understatement.
I was a child in the system along with 2 of my younger siblings. Both of my siblings have mental issues that caused issues in the foster homes, so even though they started out trying to keep us together if was impossible. I honestly didn't feel it a huge loss... we just grew stronger and we're still siblings who love each other.
No it’s not ideal and it’s heartbreaking but I have a friend who works in the system and it’s very hard to get one older (non baby) child adopted never mind multiple even if their siblings. Just me it’s better that they each go to separate good homes (and stay in contact) vs one bad home.
Oh my what a loveable child. He is so articulate and communicative. That is a powerful young man. He is very well spoken for his age. Is there a follow up? Has he found a home?
Just so y’all know he has gotten over 5,000+ submissions for people wanting to adopt him and they are sorting through all them now to find him the best home let’s hope he gets it soon 😇
This is so dumb. Imagine if there were 4 orphan siblings and any family had to adopt all 4 at once, imagine how difficult would it be to any of them to be adopted. Making this illegal would just mean less children being adopted, a backwards imbecil law if you ask me.
I agree that that’s a terrible thing to do, but some people are only financially able to adopt one child. And adopting one is better than adopting none.
Because people only want to adopt younger children :( It's so selfish...even if he's only 9-12 months older they will literally say that's too old. Absolutely awful.
I can not deal with a system that allows siblings to be separate and an adoptive parents to do something like that. So sad for those kids. Not fair at all💔
Little ones are adopted before older ones and girls before boys. Boys at that age are considered “old” in the foster care system and, by 8 .... 9, they EASILY get into trouble as they individuate, which is viewed as “rebellion.” If you watch old episodes of Dennis the Menace now, that boy was a terror who would be on all kinds of meds. That’s around the age (4th grade) when teachers can no longer deal with boys. Their grades often shift and they are “diagnosed” and assigned to “special needs.” (This is particularly true with Black-boys who are in school. Teachers in the US are over 80% white/female and that fear factor kicks in and there’s often a shift at 4th grade when the Blsckboys become bigger, become individual, their voice gets deeper they become bigger and they lose interest in the style/content of the school system (sit still all day) and they are labeled to be defiant, rebellious, obstinant and diagnosed and are now in the special needs failure pipeline. There are studued on that, .. KUNJUFU.. FOURTH GRADE FAILURE SYNDROME.. All that said, aging in the foster care system begins very young particularly for boys and even moreso for Blackboys and the one younger sibling may leave first as they stay in the system.
@@noble604 It's normal for children to start to rebel, or they would never grow up to be an individual. It's normal for them to start expressing their individuality as they grow.
SusieLa1 - What some kids do is called “normal”childhood behavior by some people and other kids doing the exact same thing is called “rebellious” “bad” and even “criminal.” The responses will be much different and punitive - “How dare you talk back to me/ act out” etc. it’s all perception and it’s often based on alot of things .. race of the kid, gender of the kid, perceived poverty level , looks... as in, is the kid cute?.. is the kid well spoken .. education level .. where they live ... For example .. today on the news there’s a 9yo boy who climbed up on and through the airport xray luggage conveyor belt. The comments about this will largely depend on his perceived race. It’s all relative
Its not fair our good kids go at the very back of the line while thousands are running our Borders and being propped up like the most needy people in existence.
@@noble604 What kind of excuse is this? I have a Cousin adopted at this age and HE WAS FINE. Even through his Parents Divorce and having a child of his own out of High School. Psychological Bologna.
The cruelty adopting one brother and not the other! I hope a family adopt this wonderful boy and make sure he has visitation rights towards his little brother!
I think it’s tough on the siblings, but what if the new parents could only afford one child, and wanted to help improve at least 1 persons life? Aka-his little brother
@@oltoz7003 Adopting children is extremely expensive. If you can afford the process you can afford 2 kids. Its morally obtuse at best, reprehensible in my opinion. I dont even think it should be legal.
Why was he separated from his brother? That’s so cruel. This boy deserves a chance. He’s bright and craves a family to belong to. Imagine what he will become with the right guidance.
Sadly, this happens all the time. Children's services generally tries to get siblings into the same home, but if people want to adopt one and not the other, they'd rather at least one child have a home. If Jordan has special needs (ADHD, trouble with authority figures, violent outbursts, etc.), either due to neurological stuff going on or his response to being exposed to trauma from an early age, that can make things complicated as well, since not all adoptive parents are willing to deal with that. Depending on the situation, some might be willing, but realistically, they just can't for a variety of reasons. I doubt that's the case here, as parents who were willing but unable would likely still be trying to facilitate a relationship between the two boys, but it's hard to say from a two minute clip. I really hope Jordan is able to find a home, though. And that his brother is ok despite being separated from Jordan as well. That's probably tough for him too.
From what I understand, the parents did actually want to adopt Jordan as well as his brother, but Jordan had certain behavioral needs that the parents sadly couldn't provide for. While it's heartbreaking that Jordan doesn't have an adoptive family right now, a lot of children in the care system do suffer from extremely intense behavioral issues as a result of years of abuse and neglect. It's extremely important that they get placed in homes with parents who can provide for their specific needs. Especially since a lot of adoptive parents who can't handle their adoptive child's behavioral issues end up returning the child to the care system, which only leads to the child suffering more unnecessary emotional scars.
After our parents died in a crash my little brother and i were separated and put in different families 💔 i miss him horribly. he is all the way in the USA. im in France. god i miss him... pls dont ever just take the sibling.. take both i beg you 😭😫
@@KimAhrina11 we were both born in france but then we had to move to the usa for my dads job but after they passed the friend of my uncle adopted me and some person i dont even know adopted my little brother
it’s the system hats broken not the adoptive families tho. If we specify that we are increasingly helping more people to feel comfortable when they adopt and not blamed for being the only ones who cared to save at least one life.
@@louvretreekay12_ See, no. If you want one, and if you know what being a human being actually is, and actually means, and if you actually understand family, since you are adopting, you take both boys, or you take neither. Oh what 'we want one of the brothers but only this one'? 'We can only afford this one'? The life bonded, alone together brothers? No. I don't think so. This world is so ugly.
@@darkwebgirl First of since no one is judging the birth parents why are people so willing to judge adoptive parents and WITHOUT ANY further information are ready to judge adoptive parents? Second, adoptive parents are not always responsible for what the system decided. If a minor abused abandoned and forgotten by his or her birth parents is separated and put into a different foster care, that’s on the system. Not on the adoptive parent. Where does your knowledge of mean spirited, not logical adoptive parents who are only so spoiled and morally corrupted to just want ONE child come from? Second, if an adoptive parent comes out and as you suggested would want just one child ‘cause it’s just like a puppy dog, so well take one but not two’ wouldn’t still be the government system to be at trial in this matter? How is the system allowing that? But stating that people who purposely opened their heart and house to love and care for a child would not be bothered to take care of two, it’s just a narrative in our minds until we got more information. So spreading the concept that adoptive parents , who are taking care of a brother but not of the other one, just and solely because they’re not compassionate or mindful enough it’s just wrong.
@@louvretreekay12_ I stopped reading your comment as irrelevant points do nothing for arguments but render them invalid. You as well, do not know the circumstances of the birth parents, these for all you know could be Hard R children, born out of attack...literally, stop. I'm going to assume they were wanted children given up. In this case, the birth parents should burn. Just like my father, who left me. Regardless of this, whoever chose the younger brother, obviously out of ease of age and adaptation to family life (the most common reason younger children are adopted as opposed to older) is a mortifyingly ugly and awful human, as are you, for spending ten minutes writing an essay to defend them on social media. Do better.
My adoptive parents and my older brother's adoptive parents would have taken both of us, but our birth mother refused to sign his papers. Then a year later there was another baby. Again, both sets of parents were notified. Both wanted to take him. Birth Mother fought it again. She had no choice in my case as her rights were terminated in 14 days, the quickest involuntary termination in their records to this date. ( 45+ years ago )
The parents who adopted one boy have a bigger heart than you do. They have given one of the boys a home. You have done *nothing* for either of the boys.
@@carriebaker5161 too much is paid to the blood parents feelings and rights. Once and I mean once a child has been neglected and abused that's it. The only rights that matter are the child's rights. You abuse a child or an animal you forfeit your rights.... Done deal.
My husband and I are expats and are unqualified for foster care adoption for this reason. I was devistated to hear this news. We could offer such a loving home for a child like this.
I thought the same thing. When he said he wanted a mother and a father and a family - I’m just one so I don’t fit the Bill. But boy do I wish someone out there who does would take in this child. What a good heart.
@@EarthsGeomancer you get tax breaks, child benefit and often a certain amount of money from agencies to support the transition from foster care to adoption. On top of this, children who are in foster care get free tuition. I've seen that tax breaks in the US are around $10,000 per child. Yes, it's expensive to have children - but there's a lot of money to support adopters
This is so incredibly heartbreaking and unfair. WHY were these brothers separated? Haven't they lost enough in this world? How do the adoptive parents of the brother look at themselves in the mirror, knowing they've taken away the ONLY person that Jordan had left in his life. And the fact that he only sees his brother infrequently tells me that the adoptive parents aren't doing anything to foster his relationship with his brother. There is something wrong with the adoption laws if this can continue to happen. These children are already emotionally raw, some of them ready to give up on life. Surely there's room for another single bed in that home!
This made me sooooooooooooo sad. Gosh, how hard I tried to stop myself from crying. May he and every child like him have the best home, family, health and wealth.
I can only imagine how he felt when his brother was adopted and he was left behind. That's traumatic. Way to go officials who allowed that to happen. way to go.
It should be against the law. That's your sibling. We aren't dogs in a shelter....that's family. At least if they were together in foster care or homes they wouldn't be alone.
@@erikgilson1687 Freddie, this is not the way. Lead by example and humbleness as Jesus once did. Threats of fire and condemnation is not the best way to the Lord. I’m an atheist by the way.
Oh my god, I just shed a few tears. This sweet baby. So sad to see his brother pulled from him, but I hope they both get everything they need to thrive in adulthood.
Whatever number of siblings should always stay together. Some people do have a big enough heart to grow their family large all at once, and take a larger sibling group in altogether at once.🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
Writing a law that forces them to be together could have unforeseen consequences. Usually when just 2 kids are separated there are issues as to why this has been done. The most common situation is that both would be placed for a trial placement and it does not work out for one but the other one is adjusting well and thriving. To place them together at this point would be cruel to the child that is happy in his new home and is torn away from it because of a law that makes him subjected to the issues that his brother has. The fact that he does not see much of his brother points to the probability that thee was an issue that made contact not good for the younger brother.
It's a damn heartbreaking World out there! Bless all beautiful children! Wishing this precious young man all the best and hope he will be reunited with his brother! What a broken system!
Not only were they separated, seems like those adopted parents didn't make it important for his brother to see him regularly still. I dont like the adopted parents of the brother, and I dont know the full story, but that certainly upsets me that he doesn't still regularly see his brother.
He seems like a nice kid too. What kind of monster would separate those two. My brother and his wife were looking to adopt 1 child but ended up finding two sisters. They adopted both and I can categorically tell you that we all love them the same as if they were blood.
Right! We wanted 1 kitten but got 2 because she had a brother. Thank goodness we did because she gets separation anxiety when he's in a different room!
@@ellacockrum6473 hopefully theres still a bond, but its nothing like growing with them and i think separating siblings should be barred.. if i had to choose living in the worst conditions with my siblings or in good conditions apart from them i would choose the first option all day
This is so sad I hope he found a family this is why I hope one day I can be a foster parent and hopefully and adoptive parents even if I am still a single male no child deserves to be left behind unwanted they all deserve a good upbringing
This poor, innocent, defenseless child. His little brother was the only family and precious thing he had left, and yet they took that away from him. How sad and horrible.
@⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻ if you can only afford one then at least get one that’s an only child. this kid can hardly even see his own brother anymore
@⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻⸻ i dont care. its stupid and inconsiderate to adopt a kid and not his fucking sibling. there are only children that are availiable for adoption, get one of those.
- News report 28th August 2020 -The Oklahoma Department of Human Services said it has received around 10,000 inquiries from people asking how they could adopt Jordan - Jordan got his forever home!!!! After the overwhelming response, department officials said they have found a family for Jordan and are working towards starting the adoption process.
Thank you Jesus. I pray the Lord protect and watch over both siblings, all the days of their lives. I pray they reunite yearly or more. I ask in Jesus’s name, and all of Gods people say, AMEN and AMEN 🙏🏼. 💟✝️
Wonderful news!! Everyone on this channel knows there are *thousands* of kids around the country just like Jordan desperate for a home and a family. He just happened to be on the news. Maybe, in addition to milk carton kids, there was a way to highlight adoptable children.
I hope that kid gets everything he wants in life 😓 everyone deserves a loving family , I wish I could take all the kids in foster care and love them all
So I live in a country where it is illegal to separate siblings and the reality is that sibling sets rarely get adopted. It pretty much sentences them to age out of the system. Also women who put a baby into the system every year (there are many!) destroy all chances of their children finding homes. It is sad to break up siblings but it also sad to never have a family.
I can’t believe the adopters only took one of the boys! How cruel! I hope he is being treated well because people who are horrible enough to split up siblings probably aren’t going to be the nicest people in other ways. :( I hope the boy in this video gets a wonderful family who will shower him with love and make it a priority to help get both boys together often to hang out!
*UPDATE: After this video went viral they found a family that are adopting him. I just wish it was with his brother but at least he's had his wish come true!
The adoption process in this country is so messed up. How many loving families want to adopt and find the whole process so messed up that they give up. Breaking up brothers is beyond messed up.
I'm an absolute tears the fact that a child has to have a wish of not a pony not a new baseball bat but of a home of being adopted by somebody wanting you that's just tears my heart into pieces
I personally knew a case where two sisters had spent EIGHT YEARS in foster care with at least that many placements, and the main reason was that when they were together, they fed off each others’ negative behaviors and made their foster families miserable. Parents are only human, and when there is never a break in the destructive behaviors because one sibling is always doing something, it gets exhausting. It also makes it very difficult to form bonds and attachments. It was only when the agency decided to adopt them out separately that they found permanent homes for both, and the girls had much more stable home lives. It’s not ideal, but trauma and trauma behaviors aren’t ideal, and they make things so much harder, and much less cut-and-dried.
@@MariAnKenobi so by all means severe their last familial connection instead of giving them help and keeping them together. Siblings living at home do the same thing
It's very complicated. Sometimes the parents or relatives are still legally involved in the child's life and they hold on for years, making it hard for them to be adopted, let alone adopted together...
We have celebrities that can provide a life nobody can imagine for kids here in this country, yet they ignore these types of kids and go to some 3rd world country to adopt kids to show off. It’s unfathomable, so many people don’t realize this happens every day in our own country. These kids shouldn’t be without a family at ALLL. We need to take care of our own before we can be in a good enough place to take care of others.
Sometimes there is no way around seperating siblings in foster care, but whem they are the same gender it is very rare. I think someone dropped the ball or the siblings had further issues, like one shared parent can complicate things. I can't imagine adopting one brother without the other. Three years this poor kid has been waiting knowing someone wanted his brother 😢. I cant imagine his heartache.
I get y’all saying adopting them out together would lower their chances, but as someone who’s been in the system I can promise you I’d have 100% rather grown up out of the system with my sibling than been adopted on my own.
Thank you for sharing your insight dear. If your comment was listed at the top, our collective focused E(nergy)-(in)MOTION could remain where its most beneficial for this child's desire-which was all of us visualizing him happy with his new family-before we got distracted.
It depends on the person. Back when my parents took in foster kids, we would always get siblings that were constantly brought in in pairs. Many times, one sibling was a good kid who tried really hard to be a part of the family, while the other had no interest and trusted no one and just spent time either bullying their sibling, stealing things, or bringing drugs into the house, etc. Because the agency refused to split up the siblings, people never ended up adopting them, because the problem sibling always made things a living hell for the foster families who'd take them. As their foster sibling, a lot of these kids would straight up tell me they wished they were an only child. It was most likely because they were young and powerless why they said that, but you couldn't help but feel bad for them at times. I really do think it depends on the situation.
I cry inside for him and hope he gets blessed with his forever family and reunited with his little brother. My prayer is that will be a dream come true for this young child and all children who are misplaced and displaced: Help them find a place of permanency.
Come on everyone. These “Wednesday’s Child” (as they were called by my local news) segments were on every week and they routinely showed little Black kids who were split up both in foster care and in adoption. They showed families of 4 and 5 kids all over the place and no one batted an eye. The news was assumed to be doing something simply by highlighting the kids week after week with their very tragic stories. This isn’t unusual in the system. He’s just unusual as the face in front of the camera. Let’s examine this very broken system and the effects it has on children as we wonder 5 years from now why these kids are acting out. Let’s be as hurt for all the kids who never get a second glance during these news stories and ask these same questions for them.
@@noble604it’s because the nuclear family is being destroyed in the US. You will start to see more and more children like this as our society continues to be eroded. And it makes sense that you see more black children than white children in this type of situation because black families more often have absent fathers.
Carol D - You said they have “absent fathers” and ended it there as if it’s a natural occurrence to be an absent father. “Absent” means they’re alive.. they’re simply not there but somewhere else, like when you’re marked absent from work or class. WHY do they have “absent” fathers? Where are the fathers? Down the street? In jail? Homeless? Why are they there? This was the entire point. Be as vigilant and as heartbroken for all the kids we routinely see in these adoption stories and let’s not slough it off as “they have absent fathers, the end.” Get to the bottom of why the kids are languishing in this broken spiraling system and eradicate the effects and untold tolls it takes on them, as well, as they “grow up” in that system and world.
@@Positiveenergy68 what are you talking about? How does “the nuclear family getting destroyed” have anything to do with this? People having fewer biological children doesn’t hurt adoption rates. Having non traditional families like gay couples helps more kids get adopted. The adoption/foster system is broken but it has nothing to do with the degradation of whatever traditional christian values you seem to be hinting at.
Really???? I wanted to adopt him 💔 but hey as long as they care for him and give him alot of love thats all that matters to me god bless him and his little brother
What a precious little angel, he's a dream of a child.I hope a loving family adopts this beautiful little boy n takes his little brother also.Keep them together.😇🙏
I was heartbroken for days when I had to say goodbye to my dog, so I can’t begin to fathom the anguish this poor kid must have felt when his sibling got adopted. The combined grief of saying goodbye and feeling rejected must have been overwhelming.
I hate that the boys were separated. They were the only family they had. Was it not possible to find a good family who would have taken both? The only problem I could see the agency having was that it was taking too long to find someone who wanted both boys. It’s so sad.
It’s okay some of ( idk what place is i forgot ) the rule is if has sibling that mean you have accept both or more actually there a lot of place that do that :) Edit : oh yeah orphans 😅
