‘Love Is Blind’ Star Clay's Mom Margarita On Her Eye-Opening Conversation With His Dad 

He did her a favor. Marriage is sacred.

Clay is lucky to have a mother like that. I could listen to her talk for days

His a** shouldn’t have applied to be on the show knowing he wasn’t ready for marriage … Periodt!!!

Kudos to AD for not signing up for Operation-Build-A-Boo after the alter.

I love Clay's mom.

No accountability. He had every right to say he wasn’t ready but he knew that before bringing all of their friends and family there in national TV and embarrassing her like that. AD should have seen the red flags but he should’ve had some class and discernment and just told her that before the wedding in private.

Wish Clayton would have put in the work before going on Love Is Blind? He brought an innocent woman into his mess.

Clay always sounds like he's reading from a script

Always about what Amber (AD) has done for him, been to him and allowed him to do. smh. I hope she finds the happiness she deserves and has someone equally pour into her!

I adore Clayton's mother ❤

Clays mom is making the same mistake with Clay as she did with her husband… she is enabling him and not holding him accountable for his mistakes. Clay has said the reason he did the show was because his mom wanted him to. He knew the truth about his childhood and yet he put his mother through that (and AD). Watching this clip they come across great but I watched the series and the only reason he went to the altar he wanted to be on the show as long as possible! So don’t be fooled by his good looks! He’s 30 a grown man, it’s time he act like it! And it’s time his mother stop making excuses for him! He did to AD what your husband did to you… only lucky for AD he did it in a shorted time frame. I am so proud of AD !

Whoever is writing Clay’s responses is doing a good job. When he speaks he’s not even comprehending what he’s saying.

His mother conversation with his dad, so profound that it healed me from my parents resolution of their marriage, i carried that burden for years, her conversation healed me personal of the guilt and grief...thank you momma clay😊

I didn’t even watch the whole show but that one scene was everything.

Mothers need to stop making excuses for their sons bad behavior. He definitely chose to embarrass that woman AT THE ALTAR.

She was actually my favorite, she was A #1 class act…most gracious and graceful in her speech , she spoke life to her & the family situation… I think she knows Jesus personally… way to go 🌺 loads of love to her & Clay💕💕💕

I’ve said it before, but Tamron Hall is a gem. She is such a careful, insightful, empathetic interviewer and I love it!

Why did they let him on the show? Mom stop making excuses for him he is not a child !!!

This mother is an INSPIRATION. 🥰

Now that’s a Mama! Kudos to her & I hope their family finds healing.

I appreciate clays transparency. May God continue to bless him and AD

Clay making up every excuse and trying to do damage control when the real reason is he just didn’t want that girl. 🙄

As a mother, I’m not looking for someone to “take care of my son.” I need someone to bring something to the table and be a teammate of equal character and quality. Hopefully I’ve raised my son so that I’m the only mom he needs. A wife is not a second mother.

He’s not ready because he has some really deep issues that he’s struggling with. Interpret that however you see fit.

Absolutely not! You don’t wait until the wedding day.

I love his mom. I understand Clay's trauma but I really feel like he shouldn't have gone on this show. I didn't like the way he was cheesing extra hard and fake at AD during the wedding ceremony knowing he was going to say no. I agree with AD that he knew all along and it wasn't a "game time" decision.

I am soo glad he said “I do not” rather that saying “I do when he does not.. AD avoided a life of constant chasing him to give something he doesn’t have to give..he would have ended up leaving her. Clay needs at least 10 years from today to even be ready to think about marriage and give that commitment. AD deserves someone who is ready.. I wish them both the best.

He shouldn’t have gone on the show ! He nor his mother have acknowledged her son’s selfishness

He has a great mother, who loves him, and has his back.❤❤

I am the mother of 3 young men, and I tried not to judge Clay. A.D was always ahead of Clay. They were always at different stages. As a matter of fact, I was not happy that A.D decided to accept Clay’s proposal, because he wasn’t sure of himself, even though he wanted to become a husband. He was not ready for that huge commitment. It put too much pressure on him, and at the last minute, he caved. Totally understand what happened. He still needs more time to gain more healing. That journey is ongoing. Happy A.D is happy a year later.

Why go on the show? He clearly wanted his 15 minutes of fame.🤷🏾‍♀️🤔☹️🫣

Clay was still struggling on looks, by several comments in the show, my intuition kept saying run AD!! he wasn't ready, had she not been his physical type, I dont know how the reveal would have went. Proud he realizes he needs work and was smart enough to know it! Commendable!!!. Also such a loving insightful mother. Absolutely love her. Don't rush into things, AD too! Thought you were kind and deserving; know that you are! Love the song forever ànd ever amen.(an oldie) If you truly can say that song applies then a person might be ready. Make sure your good on your own, then your better together. Everything's a learning experience. Much BLESSSINGS to you all and TX TAM!

I'm just wondering is she coddling him in a way..saying she wanted someone who would" take care of him"🤔

That is all nice and everything, but isn’t the show for those who say they are ready for marriage? Clay knew he had issues to work on and knew he wasn’t ready for marriage, so why go on such a show? I am sorry for what his father exposed him too, but he should’ve been in therapy already. I just don’t trust Clay and his real motives for being in that show and I still don’t trust him. And his mother saying he is a good provider? Did Clay not say some ish about AD’s finances after he said his “I don’t “ to AD at the altar? That isn’t the mark of a good provider. Clay just wants a woman to continue to coddle him and it only matters what she does for him. I don’t recall him ever saying what he can do for his lady. AD needs help too, but she dodged a bullet with Clay. She needs to run and don’t ever look back. 😂

Take care of him???? Clay is literally a big baby!

😂l am a fan of the show, however today I was so disappointed. Clay was given the benefit of doubt because of his generational trauma. However As a black woman, it appeared that AD's trauma was ignored and reduced to her tears, what about her trauma, she was humiliated in front of the world. He could have been a man and told AD that he did not want to get married.Clay knew that she was dealing with the loss of her father, having to walk down the aisle alone and her own insecurities of feeling that she wasn't enough. Black women are always put in the category of being able to take anything, including public humiliation. Where are our protectors? We have generational trauma, that of being expendable, in our personal and work lives.Clay's mental instability did not give him license to traumatize another person and that's what he did to AD;it was avoidable. Clay's mother was not the hero, AD's mother was; she gracefully escorted her daughter away, with grace and dignity. As a black woman it was not AD's job to prop Clay up. I think he has been propped up too much. Sometimes we need a shoulder to lean on. Lastly, thank God for small favors, she dodged a big bullet.

Margarita is so pure. I just love her energy

One of the biggest lessons I learned from my parents whom divorced when I was a young child was to not bring the child/children into their adult situation. I was in my 30’s when I had the hardest conversation I’d ever had with my mother after she learned from my sibling about us learning about a child conceived while he was with her. She was angry with me because I didn’t tell her. It felt like years of all the stress and tension started creeping up on me when I rejected it for the first time. I told her that I wasn’t the person that cheated on her so I shouldn’t be the person hearing all the hurt and pain in her voice when she was told about it. I expected her to yell and go off on me but to my surprise, for the first time she realized she had been giving me “all the business” that was meant for him. Then he didn’t talk to me for weeks because he assumed I was the one the that told her. I politely reminded him that he had more than one child with her as he hadn’t even considered that I hadn’t been the one that “told” on him.

Finding a Therapist that’s a match for you is crucial to your healing journey. I like that for Clay!! What a awesome Mom 🙏🏽❤️

May I ask why his beautiful, well put together, wise and articulate mother has to come back? Why can’t you just give them more time on the subject matter? As a Psychologist, I definitely appreciated how she spoke with the father about their marital issues and confronting his infidelities, which affected their son’s attachment style. For a boy or girl to witness their mother be unloved is heartbreaking. Women may seek to replace the love they never witnessed, while men will be traumatized to commit, and attach, due to never seeing their mother, whom they learn how to love from. I do see something far beyond his attachment issues. It appears he does not feel good enough and felt the need to perform to feel worthy of love. His dad is smart, well put together but more focused on riddles and being a vacation dad, than actually helping him with development. His mother was most likely authoritarian, while growing up. Clay also seems to battle with sexuality and manhood issues. He is more interested in dragging a Romantic situation out, while he figures himself out. The truth of the matter is, he does it at the expense of others, which is narcissistic. Not once, has he discussed why he finds this A.D. woman to be amazing. It’s all about what she did for him and how she carried him but it never focused on how he carried her. He went on a dating show to find love, yet he also stated he never expected to find it. That tells me everything I need to know. He’s a man moving through life and waiting for an epiphany. I just hope he truly finds his authentic self because it doesn’t appear his parents, who are very focused on reputation and presentation helped him with this. It’s all about Clay!

I could only watch the recaps on YT. But Clay did express apprehension the whole way through. Still how heartbreaking it must've been for AD to get a no at the alter is undeniable. In the end, Clay made the right decision. And I love his Mom! ❤

AD you are enough for any man, God speed, please don't fall into the drama mode circumstance. Girl you are wonderful 🌹

Clay’s situation is so real and so raw. Thank you Tamron for shining light while other sources continues to disregard the truth about what an everyday Black man goes through when infidelity is involved at a young age.

S/o to Clay. Keep putting in that work. I saw this interview live and rewatching now.

As a mother, I would be sooo embaressed. Its crazy how much we give black men a pass because of "generational trauma"... He's a whole ass adult man. He knew EXACTLY what he was doing. He is manipulative and narc. His mom needs to stop capping for him. Edit: He knew FROM THE START that he didnt want to get marry. He played all his family, Ad's family and AD herself. Did the whole wedding prep, the ceremony and did his lovey dovey speech and ditched her in front of EVERYONE. This was planned. Everyone has some kind of generational trauma. Black women, we have the most, yet that didnt stop us to take care of our kids, be responsible adults, get ourselves educated etc.

An example of a woman who coddles her precious man child. She’s super smart and seems kind but nowhere did she ever call him out for his poor behaviour. They’re all about Clay and don’t put the same weight on AD’s trauma!

Clay never wanted AD he never even came home at night she dodged a bullet.

This is exactly what Clay wanted. Popularity! Social media frenzy! He said no because it would be controversial and he would be the center of attention. He seems very calculated. I don’t by this therapy crap, how are you suddenly so introspective? This was completely thought out. He’s a salesman; not buying it.

I adore Clay's mom she's the biggest superstar of love is blind :)

Clay is only about Clay, AD find your real love, you are

Oh I love it that they were on your show! This particular conversation is bigger than him saying love is blind. They brought something to the table that has been too silent 🤐 Great job for providing a safe place, Tamron! 👏🏾👏🏾

I’m excited to watch this- she was such a warm, welcome presence on the show 💜

I wish more of us could be this reflective, thoughtful, mature and responsible in our decision making. It’s refreshing to watch shows like Tamron Hall’s that use their platform to hold such important and honest conversations about trauma, marriage and other issues that affect our daily lives.

I don’t know why everyone hates Clay. I appreciate what he did. He said more about his feelings than my narcissistic gaslighting ex ever did! I appreciate his mom’s transparency so much! I was screaming and crying at the TV like YES Mama say all that’s 😂❤ much love to you all. Clay I respect the honesty, the only thing is perhaps a heads up might’ve softened the blow for Amber. 😢sad bc I could see the potential! ❤

So we need to be the "Trauma First" then they become the best version of themselves, this is Bull Don't speak to him ever again move on and receive love from the one that comes for you, and he is out there. Let this dude continue to do his media Blitz. Watch the door that opens for you.

That right there is an amazing momma. I cried twice hearing her perspective. We need more people like her in this world. Keep on shining and being you Momma Clay.

Omg I just finished watching this and this had me sooo emotional. I absolutely adore his mother and I truly feel like Clay is a good guy who had a really bad example of what a husband should be and he’s really trying to break that cycle. I really wish him the best and hope he heals and finds love. I wish the same for AD, of course. It’s just sad because they could’ve been amazing together. The way she poured into him was something magical.

Guys you have an amazing man who is facing his trauma and doing the work with the help of his mama to change a pain cycle. This is amazing. It took hurting someone for him to grow and he did, with his mama’s support, which deserves applause. Sucks AD got hurt and she has an opportunity to do the same level of healing work to choose and vibrate with an emotionally available partner. The work done is beautiful and deserves celebration. No one showing up to do the work should be shamed.

I'm a 37 year old divorced mom of 2 who was blindsided by the betrayal of my ex-husband back in 2020, 14 years into our marriage. When I see Ms. Rita, I see strength, power and a conversation I'll likely never get to have with my ex. I pray no one ever has to live through this type of pain as a mother. Sometimes it is overwhelming and we'll do anything within our power for our kids, including confronting our betrayer.

I salute the honesty and the truth of what Clay and his Mom is saying here with humility and a lot of understanding. AD and Clay will always going to be friends for life and both had an eye opening experience from the show and learned a lot about themselves. The message they send out through this whole experience is genuine and educational. God bless them all.

Listening to his mother and seeing how she handled everything, she is a part of the problem. She babies Clay, even at his big age, and expects another woman to do it, too. His mother is a pick-me. And the cycle continues.

I love the healing that's happening and that his mom was brave enough and courageous enough to speak up and tell her ex husband that he needed to man up and apologize and begin the healing process🙏🏾🥰

I’m so glad that him and his mother went on the show. These type of conversations around divorce and trauma are not being had. This was a conversation that was much needed and I respect them for being so vulnerable and speaking their truth. I commend Clay for having the courage to say no to AD and admit he was not ready. Loved this interview ❤️

I love the real conversation.

These two are so inspirational. Much needed to hear, we can all learn from this.

Mama's boy.

I think Clay just don’t want to be married … he grew to like her but didn’t love her … from the first time he saw her out the pods my opnion 🙃

I Love that he’s on there with his mom ♥️

Mom you are greatness! Thanks for your wisdom and sharing it with the world. Love you mom.

Every time I watch a video from this lady’s show it’s always a top quality subject

This woman is an absolute gem. She deserves nothing but great things and Clay is so fortunate to have her as a mother.

We love your show tamron hall

Y’all are forgetting that he brought up concerns to AD about the issue of marrying so soon and continuing the experiment. He expressed several times that he felt like it was too soon and that he loved her and wanted to be with her, and be in a relationship on a typical timeline for them to get to know each other more, but she gaslighted his concerns and basically gave him the ultimatum to continue with the timeline of the EXPERIMENT (people clearly forgot that’s what it is) OR they break up now. Those were his two options. Given how much he felt he loved her, he continued to fight through his uncertainties to try to be ready on the extremely short timeline of the show. Meanwhile, he’s discovering for himself that his issues are deeper than he thought and he needed more time to sort that out to make sure he can be what she needed. Ultimately, he realized in the moment before making a serious vow to God and before their families that he was not ready for that in that moment. But y’all would rather he be pressured into saying yes, and then stuff ends in disaster because he wasn’t truly ready. This is a unique experience and you really can’t judge like that until you’ve experienced it. So I don’t understand why people are being so hard on him or even shocked he said no at the altar, when he’s not the first to do that and the show is literally setup where that is a possibility. That does not make him a bad person and it does not mean he did that on purpose. This is not a regular wedding. Please go back and rewatch him voice his concerns just to be shut down because she was so focused on what she wanted. I hope both of them the best, and I hope they find love with someone else and marry when they’re ready.

We support Clay! Hang in there and keep growing in grace.💕

This bothers me. I think Clay's mum is also part of the problem. She knew her child was problematic. Instead of sending him to therapy, she thought like his dad, he only needs to meet a nice woman, he played AD like every other woman before her. Parent, we need to do better, not just carr about our own children.

AD dodged a bullet. He's so into himself and only himself. His language was always about what AD could give HIM, nothing of what he could provide for HER.

What she may want for him could be what he doesn’t want for himself. From my viewpoint he wants to be a play boy not an husband.

So MANY men are wearing pearls. I've always considered a string of pearls quite feminine.

Wait a minute so was this #Clay way of getting out of having a trusting relationship with #A.D? Yea it's a heck nawl for me to listen to this type of behavior from this type of situation as a WHOLE. 🙅🏼‍♂#Clay will have his pretty #Caucasian girl coming pretty soon in his life, watch and see!!

This season of LIB got DEEP!!! So grateful for Clay and AD for being willing to be open and raw with their emotions throughout the whole process. Their honesty transcended reality tv which has allowed an opening in our society to talk about generational traumas and the issues that prevent us from experiencing love and living our greatest lives. These are the kinds of conversations we need to be having in order to heal ourselves individually and as a society.

She was a powerful voice for sooooooo many women with that conversation. Best part of that show for me.

Tameron is a great interviewer. I’m not one for interview shows but I might have to start watching this one.

Beautiful conversation ❤❤❤❤

This woman is a well or fountain of knowledge. So much wisdom and grace! I upload her

I loved her from her first appearance on this show, such a wise woman.

BOTH mothers were the stars of the show! When I think of this season, the mothers immediately come to mind…….🎯🤷🏿‍♀️

Clays mom is a literal angel from god. Bless her soul.

He has a feminine energy could be wrong but it looks like he is wearing a choker- AD God is protecting her and he will reveal that to her and marriage is not complicated when God is the forefront of your Marriage- people are trying to put marriage in a negative light

Clay did what was right for him! He is a smart , handsome , man, he will go far! The right woman will come in time!😍

Okayyyyy clay’s mom!! Here for the press tour 😅👏🙌

Clay’s mom is a beautiful human ❤being

Love you Tamron,

Clays Mom is the GOAT!!! To have that conversation on National TV with her ex husband… I felt that!

I didn't watch the show but saw online him tell AD that he couldn't marry her. I'm s mother of sons and daughters and there's no way I could watch my daughter hurt like that nor see my son do that to someone. We all have trauma believe it or not and what he did was horrible. His mom is a very stand up lady and she made me cry hugging AD. I'm still pissed with her son though.

Tamron should've had his mother on alone. He knew what to say to play these women and they fell for it. Of course he friendzoned AD, he got the fame he was looking for.

Clay's honesty and open heart moved the needle for many Black men.

Someone needs to ask him why he went on this show when he knows he’s not ready to get married

As bad as it may seem. I applaud him for being man enough to say no. That took a level of maturity for him to realize he could not live up to the expectation that marriage requires. He could have married her and made a bigger mess of things. Was it embarrassing, absolutely it was. Could he have said something before the wedding yes. He never once blamed her for anything. Also keep in mind this was his first time even trying to step up to the plate and attempt something like this. How often do people attempt to do something and get it right the first time. I give him grace. I pray they each find their forever.

I commence him for continuing to work on himself and his mental health and wellness.🙏🏽

LIB provides a therapist for the first year after the show. Then after that you have to obtain your own therapist. That’s most likely why he switched.