It takes hard work to maintain a healthy weight so going strictly based off that they are more likely to get the selection of men they prefer, and they are more deserving of love because they put in more work to enhance their strong asset to the opposite gender (beauty). But that's only one metric we're talking about, there are obviously other factors you consider like personality, moral character, etc
I think a lot of people misconstrue body positivity as "if you are fat, then you have to STAY fat or else" (which is why people were harassing lizzo a few years ago when she went vegan) and that's not the case at all. Body positivity exists on the same plane as pro-choice. Ie: it's your body, so do whatever tf you wanna do with it. So if you're fat and you don't want to lose weight or CAN'T lose weight, then you have every right to stay at your weight without people shaming you or pressuring you to lose said weight. Same goes if you're fat and you DO want to lose weight; you have every right to do so without people shaming you or calling you a "sellout" (like some people were doing to lizzo bc she's a body positivity icon that went vegan). It's literally just talking steps to be comfortable with your own body. That's ALL it is. But people will hear body positivity and say "oh so you're telling everyone to get fat" 💀 people and their ignorant, one dimensional thinking baffle me.
I think that any movement or stance that believes that there is no such thing as bad, wrong, or negative needs to be instantly and constantly questioned. There is such thing as a negative body. We can understand how someone got there, but that doesn’t make it a positive. Our bodies can literally show us if we are being unhealthy. You wouldn’t tell an anorexic woman that she’s fine the way she is. Some people are smaller, some people are bigger, but we know that when we eat healthy foods and workout the body naturally goes in a certain direction.
1000% agree when Dee started talkin about people attaching their whole personality to one trait of them. Idk why people don't understand how complex we are as humans. We can't be defined and shouldn't define ourselves over such simple things like our weight, age, skin color or sexual preferences. I cringe when I see other black people whose whole identity is them being black, or gay people who that is their personality.. gay. Its like nigga, what you prefer in the bedroom should have very little to do with your personality. You don't have to act a certain way. I actually think people would be more accepting of things like skin color, weight and sexuality if we would just stop acting like they were major defining characteristics. There would be less of a separation in my eyes
@@jalenwinstead9981 “I cringe when I see other black people whose WHOLE identity is them being black” learn to read before you call someone slow. Being black is apart of how people identify me. A shallow part. Not my whole identity
@@greg2797the fact that you think being black and being proud of being black is shallow shows that you’re indeed slow. all pro-black people are cringe to you? why? because they love themselves and express that unapologetically? same with gay people. why can’t they be themselves without ignorant people like you trying to shame them? grow up and educate yourself
fam i was just gonna comment that. I came across her youtube channel and thought "She dont even believe this bs she saying. She's saying this to get more viewers and to look good to men"
@@williams1025 because it’s seeking for make validation. Pick me’s are girls who bring down other girls and think they aren’t like other girls for male attention. She’s the perfect example. People throw around the word pick me all the time but she’s the first girl I see be the exact definition .
I don’t think anyone deserves love. I think you work for it. You deserve basic human respect, but not love. Even your mother only loves you because you’re her child.
It takes hard work to maintain a healthy weight so going strictly based off that they are more likely to get the selection of men they prefer, and they are more deserving of love because they put in more work to enhance their strong asset to the opposite gender (beauty). But that's only one metric we're talking about, there are obviously other factors you consider like personality, moral character, etc
People celebrate their body/skin color/sexuality because they've been made to feel ashamed abt them. That's why they make it a personality trait ma'am. We all have different life experiences, some people have had harsher times having to deal with those traits so they choose to celebrate them.
Please! I need everyone who is heavier to understand, it is ok. Please im begging you to love yourself, stop putting your self worth in what other people have to say. Be happy and do what you need to do to be healthy. I love you.
I think anyone has the right to leave for any reason they see fit. But...the reason u marry someone should not start and stop with how they look to u physically or how ur genitals feel when u see them. I think if you leave because their looks changed then u didn't love them to begin with. Because someone can get hit by a car and have their face and body irreparably disfigured. Someone could develop a hormone or health condition that makes their weight harder to control in either direction. Looks can change with age. And even after pregnancy with caring for a newborn baby and dealing with post partum depression can hinder a woman from not losing weight as quickly. It's more factors than just ..oh ur fat so ur lazy. Hurry and lose the weight or God forbid my penis won't get hard. You can leave but itd make u a dick in my personal opinion. but im just one person out of billions with an opinion right so who cares. But I also think we should all keep up with our health as best we can.
I would argue it's especially worse for a guy to be overweight when it comes to who finds him attractive or not. I feel like overweight women can find an easier time getting attention from men and even have sex with them than for an overweight guy to even have a woman look his way.
Funny enough im watching/listening to this video while working out at the gym.. I agree with everything yall said but not gonna lie, that "ew" stung a little 😂😂
Why is she acting like her opinion was a fact? How is “FAT PEOPLE DONT DESERVE LOVE” a fact? Like she seems like she is hurt so she wants to hurt other people.
@@RegReg02 I don't get why she cares about what a fat person thinks they deserve? If someone thinks they deserve love that has nothing to do with anyone else. It must be that she can't feel good about herself unless she's talking down on others.
The funny part is that, that man with the 6 figures is probably obsessed and "unfortunate looking" (as Dee would say), lusting over an hourglass woman. That's how fucked Societal Standards are. Staying on topic and regarding finding someone, obsessed or not, do what you got to do to attract the type of person you want (although that type may not be what you need or will end up with). Yall do you.
Her OPINION was rude just like how she feel like she had the right to voice her opinion they have the right to respond back to her almost anybody can become obese so can we please stop acting like big people aren't human and don't have feelings
See the thing is, if she wanted to talk about it she should've have said what she said when she got called out... Cause obviously feeling attracted is important, but she started to insult fat women instead of just talking critically. Nobody gon listen to you, when you just out here insulting people. Cause every point you might make automatically becomes invalid.
Sorry Dee, if someone is going out there and making comments about a community like that (a community that isn't a bother to any other group of people just for existing, i.e., overweight, people of color, people who belong to a particular religion, people of one gender or another, people in the LGBT community, etc.), demeaning comments that say you have no worth/value, and no right to experience joy and happiness - in this case, the kind of joy and happiness that can only be the product of romantic/intimate relationships... then going out there, and calling that person out through a video is absolutely warranted. Fat shaming is absolutely disgusting, and a form of bigotry and bullying. I'm not making excuses for those of "fat logic" or "fat victim" mentality, but genuine fatphobia is shameful and shouldn't tolerated. Especially when you consider that being fat is not necessarily from just overeating or being a "pig." There can be genetic issues, someone could have a slow metabolism, some people put on weight/overeat due to mental stress/issues (depression, anxiety), or as a coping mechanism. It's not just lazy, sloven, overeaters. It's fine to have concerns - and to raise such concerns - over someone's health due to weight issues, and worry about their life expectancy. We get mad at people for body shaming bulimics and anorexics except for concerns about their health... the same should apply to people that overweight. Not to mention, some people consider an average body type as overweight.
