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Yes. I’m a widow, with a young son and a young daughter. Healing from the pain of loosing my husband from heart disease 8years ago is a constant priority. I’m glad to hear more men making this conversation and normalizing the psychotherapy that you gentlemen did. I hope my children watch this video someday.
One of the most powerful and direct conversations on the status of Men in America I've heard in awhile. There is empathy and nuance in this conversation. I hope it goes viral. Thank you Lewis and Scott for this important discussion.
I'm a female therapist and I work with a lot of boys. I am frequently frustrated with the lack of resources for my young, male clients. Sometimes I want to cry at the utter lack of real concern for males.
I am 38 and I’m at a loss as to what to say to young men . There used to be a lethargy and passivity there that I don’t understand - they seem afraid to do normal things. Oh and the term ‘toxic masculinity’ is definitely not helping anything
@@brianmeen2158 Near as I can tell, there doesnt seem to be a point to anything. When I was a young man I looked to do things that were uniquely male but all those spaces have now been invaded by women. In the past men were also looked to do things uniquely male like hunting, physical labor, war, be fathers but those are all disappearing too. If I werent a father, I think Id just he a wandering nomad.
Thank you for your work! My brother in law does the same thing, and shared the same sentiment. Really concerns me, but I’m thankful for those of you helping.
I am a woman and I'm so grateful that 2 men are having this conversation and other men are watching! Thank you!❤❤ I hope more men feel comfortable to talk about all this and more and the importance of having male role models.
When it comes down to it, people don't care about the feelings and emotions of young men. Women especially don't care. So, no this is not going to improve anything because society doesn't care. It's gonna get alot worse before it gets better.
@@ddavis8988Yes, I believe this imbalance will definitely cause major social disruptions in world societies. Mark my words, the next 20 years will be pivotal for our species.
This is not a standard rule I was married with 2 kids in the 80s and we were renting for 10 years before we bought our first home, my youngest child born in 1995 is 29 owns a franchise business and a home. Two of my children (all girls) put themselves through college graduated high school early or had an associates upon high school graduation and went on to graduate college sumi cum laude by working themselves through school. They certainly did not grow up rich, but with values.The biggest problem in America today was letting Wall street into housing and less strict regulations on corporate and government graft.
wow this was so filled with authenticity and wisdom. Love seing men lean into there wholeness and vulnerability. Makes me , as a women, feel inspired and trusting. Beautiful and healing. Thank you both. Very moved by your experience of abuse Lewis and loss, and your journey as a man. You are a very inspiring role model, especially for men to see it is possible to be viril and masculine and vulnerable.
Dude the last 30 seconds of him speaking…got me choked up. Been on a Scott Galloway binge lately. Love the content from both him and you, Lewis! Thank you for hosting yet another amazing guest!
@@lewishowes I check in everyday to see what’s new! Also, thank you for your vulnerability, I was unaware, but it adds so much to the meaning behind the platform you’ve built/the work you do and my heart goes out to you 💙 Great episode from some great men!
My 33 yo son led me to you, I'm 64 and found this very enlightening. More of this. 3 final truths.. 😢 I had a good childhood except to be prepared to be successful.y parents were 2 generations older and were not up to speed with financial stuff, so now.. here am I.
Great discussion on Stoicism and being emotionally available. You are spot on Lewis - it’s such a fine balance. And Scott has good wisdom on this. As men, we need to learn to access our emotions more yet keep them in check. 🙏🏼🙌
You both are having the most difficult conversations that has been long overdue. Well done and keep up the amazing contribution you both are providing society. Thank you.
I have a male friend who is 33, in the last 10 years, 3 of his friends have taken their own lives. My friend is struggling to keep his head above water, he has a job but has to contantly move from 1 home to another in rented accommodation. I do worry, because he's suffering because of his friends losses, with no stability, and no hope of stability in his young life 😢😢
there is a thing as bootstraps. yes, as a young person you must “cut your teeth” but by that age he should already have a path in life to be self-sufficient emotionally. keep your eye on your ultimate goal & navigate your way towards it. no one promised you a life of comfort. it is rather a journey of adventure & battles you must win & that is when you can be proud of yourself. vey important to realize that you slayed the dragon & put yourself in a life of accomplishment.
it may seem toxic to you but as you proceed through life you realize that the only person that really matters is you. if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of others. it is unfortunate that others don’t have the same out and will take advantage of you. word of caution, there are many more cb parasites than hosts
I totally dig how Mr. Galloway owns up to what he knows AND what he doesn't know. I sense that he focuses on capturing what is important and not afraid to speak his truth. Great content. Continued success!
I am a father of twins son, Gen Z. I told my sons to take their master degree overseas and start their adult life there. It simply more affordable and better environment for them.
lol really?? what a father! I'm a single mom who taught, trained, and prayed for my kifs. All three are grads from Cali unis and all three live here and make 6 figures. They are doing well, saving, buying homes, investing, traveling together overseas as family (7-8) of us and taking mini vacays. They are generous, kind, caring and God-fearing people. WE EAT WELL, SLEEP WELL, PLAY WELL and love people over money!!! How much money is ENOUGH???
@@soniag4516 Thank you. Yes. From an economic perspective, I don't think the US and the west in general, will remain the winner in the next few decades. From a social perspective, I think social cohesion has deteriorated over the last few decades. I also travel abroad a lot for business or with my family. That's why I want them to live there because I can compare many of the places I've been to.
Most people will never have too many Federal Reserve notes! They cant earn them fast enough. Rents are so expensive people are having difficulty saving anything!!!
The only thing he doesn't consider are large macro trends on the markets. I'm interested to hear his view point on climatic events, wars, looming good scarcity and population migration. These will significantly hurt "the market". I did appreciate his point on realising what is your fault and not. And also really feeling your feelings
Wow. Thank you for explaining the social, psychological and economic divide between the young and old in the US so eloquently with such empathy , this was/is so on point
Last night I was challenged to awake today and do/choose something as opposite as possible to my ‘normal’. So here I am listening to two men have a discourse about life, and now downloaded the book, today with new eyes.
Incredible conversation, desperately needed, and nobody else is talking about this stuff. Lewis, your interviews always impress me but this is why we need you and are so grateful for your vulnerable honesty.
I think is the first time I hear a man say what I’ve been saying about kids all along. There’s never a perfect time. Just do it. I planned and had my first at 30. Everything was “perfect”, but life is not stagnant and is always evolving. I soon realized it didn’t matter if had them earlier or not.
Now I understand why there are many resident foreigners in my country who say that they are happier here becauss people in the US are mostly angry over something...explains the shootings bit why shoot when volunteering in socio community projects are more therapeutic, I think...i ike to work for projects helping people with disability ... I recruit high schoolers and college students for such ...
What age are you?. I am 48 and my twins son were 19. Both of them at the early years in college majoring computer science. I told them to go overseas later to continue their master degree as I have contact and family there. But for me it would be too late and I am also not in a dire condition here in the US.
As a 30 year old divorced mom to a 7 year boy, this was a conversation that made me think of so many things I had never thought about before. Part 2 please!! For part 2 - I’d love to know Scott’s (and your) advice as to what we can do/should do as parents to help pave a better future for our young boys. The 3 words that’s Scott chose at the end… oof! I think every mother would be proud to see those words.
You can't be Mom and Dad. If you take studies seriously this is what they show - Healthy Heterosexual couples raise healthy kids, 2nd is single Dad households. 3rd is Gay (male) couples. Women chose the government and their bosses instead of husbands. Yet, they still choose to have children with men who wouldn't stick around. It's a disaster.
I agree AkosM .. I talk to young men and I feel For them - they are very lethargic and apathetic. From what I see they don’t know what to do as young men .. and definitely the term ‘toxic masculinity’ is not helping anything.
What a intelligent, classy and delightful conversation! Intelligent men, immersed in their health masculinity are extremely attractive. My childish note here: I could MARRY Scott tomorrow!!! 😅
There's no such thing as "toxic masculinity". Only masculinity. "Toxic masculinity" is a buzz word by man hating feminists. That's why you never hear about toxic femininity. There are only really toxic PEOPLE.
The hypothesis that boys and men are significantly weaker mentally and emotionally is not supported by scientific evidence (e.g. women are significantly more frequently affected by high neuroticism). The difference actually lies in the fact that girls and women receive significantly more support and sympathy in society as with women the role of the victim is not perceived as a weakness of character.
Men need to raise men. Good men that have integrity and dismantle misogyny. Our boys see the model if a man that resents his mom and wife and they hrow up doing the same.
No it’s not, it’s so many toxic red pill podcasters who are men bashing women. Fresh and Fit, Oshay Duke, Kevin Samuels, Donovan Sharpe, so many who are very loud on women bashing. Please name any women podcasts who are doing that ? Take accountability or move along this is conversation is for high value mature men
Obviously men should encourage their sons to not be resentful of women. How many gen z and millennial women were taught growing up that they don’t need a man? How many were told that career will always be more important than a relationship? How many women trashed their ex-husbands in front of their daughters? This sword absolutely cuts both ways. Women trashing is mostly limited to the manosphere, and has wide cultural criticism. Men-bashing seems to be mostly culturally accepted still…
Warren Buffet said it first; that the most important decision your can make is the person you choose as a life partner when asked by MBA students. Glad there is agreement.
I'm American and paid 40% in taxes out of my income + property tax and 1500 a month for insurance for 2 healthy adults and a child and I get nothing for my taxes nothing! plus every item we buy in the store is taxed if you buy used items taxed, almost every item built for consumers is probably taxed at least 4 times in its lifespan. I think we can afford to have a national healthcare system to get something back we put in.
People are taught. get easy money get easy sex no love, or empathy No wonder everything is so hard to achieve. Money and building family requires time, patience and empathy. Because if you give contradictive advice to your friend about money and sex you not only lose friendships, but its harder to get money and loving family. Women seek love and intimacy and emotional intimacy, humor, humility, travelling, learning etc not just sex and material things that television is teaching them to think.
No he didn’t say “ pulled the finger out of the dike “wtf!!! Ok maybe I misunderstood him but I was really enjoying his interview. Why would he say that?
He is and he knows. But he is using his platform to change things. He worked hard for his success and finds it problematic that young people dont have the chances he had and prospered from
Start saving now or you will end up just sitting on your children’s couch waiting for your next social security check and more important than that - Find hobbies & make friends or social groups outside social media so you don’t end up rotting away with sarcoma waiting to die!
Something that really wasn't said here, is that even though most men have that innate ability to be a good role model to boys, and be a father figure to them, most men don't want to do it unless it is for their own child, or their nephew, or any other family members child. Most men don't like the idea of going into a relationship with a single mother, and being a father figure to that child which is not his. And I completely understand that. It is very hard for a man to connect to a child which he has not conceived, and even harder when the mother is his girlfriend, and the child is his constant reminder of the fact that his girlfriend created a life with another man. It is hard for a man to get over that.
I’m sorry, but if someone can’t accept that their partner had a life and other partners in their life before they met them, that’s not a “male” problem. That’s a character flaw borne of insecurity and immaturity. A person like that needs to either grow up or quit dating.
@@richerDiLefto Well if a person already is in a loving relationship with someone who has a child from a previous relationship, that is a different matter, and if he or she then leaves because of the child later, then yes, that is a character flaw, but it is not a character flaw to choose not to involve yourself with a person who has a child from a previous relationship, if you haven't started a relationship with that person in the first place. Most people don't want to deal with that. Which is very understandable.
I am moved by how much this stoic guy, who barely smiled, if at all, is so "obsessed" with being a good dad (and a good person). I am just moved by how much he loves his sons and they are at the center of his life. His kids are lucky.
This is an extremely important conversation here. I shared it with my younger brothers. I wholeheartedly agree with everything this man is saying regarding life, the economy, differences between men and women/boys and girls, upbringing, the educational system etc, social issues, relationships and dating, etc. Like, wow. The maturity and insight here is what needs to be heard. I have a son and I am always concerned about his mental and emotional well-being and feel it's so important to understand him and for his dad and I to have a good relationship with him as well be good role models.
Lewis, I can relate to your story, as a woman. Through my work and research, I've discovered there are MANY of us out here who have been abused and we need more answers how to heal our life and soul, while continuing our service to humanity on earth, loving people more than ever and living our purpose in life.
43% Modern Women are deemed unattractive for Long term relationship/marriage, 68% Men don't feel like approaching women, pursuing relationship/marriage proposal, women wanted equality, sexual liberty, hook up culture, feminism liberated women from relationships/marriage.
I got nothing from my ex! He was so healthy, made bad decisions and I was a woman that trust her husband, and after I was with 4 boys starting with 2 mattresses… I have now everything now because of me! Alone
He takes facts and comes to wrong conclusions. That is a common failing of teachers-and I am a teacher/trainer. He collected up facts without truly appreciating the complexities of what he’s talking about. This is actually a dangerous and devisive conversation. And coming from a rich liberal. I am from working class America. This won’t fly there.
I like Scott and what he’s doing because it’s rare that people outside of Male spaces online can articulate or understand most of our gripes. I’ve been in these spaces for years now and they’ve improved my life immensely. While some of the more “popular” channels are used as examples of “toxic masculinity”, lesser known channels where Men actually exchange information, are often “lumped in”. Hopefully before I pass, my nephews will live in a country that actually cares about them enough to fix a lot of problems Scott mentions.
