我也是第7代的槟城娘惹后裔，家里也是说福建话、英文、泰国话和娘惹马来方言、因家里长辈没有一个会讲和写中文所以当时就让我读华小和独中🤣 Emily姐完完全全说出了我们娘惹的心声！但槟城这里的娘惹后裔很多都不会说中文了，全部几乎都是ang mo sai（香蕉人）都是念英校受英文教育的，而且在槟城的娘惹后裔也越来越少了，90-00年就有一批槟城娘惹搬去泰国生活（我的亲戚也都在泰国）而我认识的娘惹朋友都是去澳洲英国加拿大生活了🥲
Singapore nonya here too. I have the same sentiments. I am forced to cook and do housework plus prepare my bother stuff. Even until today my brother wasn't even allowed to wash his own used mug. My brother can wake me up at late night to cook for him if he is hungry. Regarding pee, my mum taught me to turn on the tap when i pee. We have a big jar in the toilet to collect water when we pee. Basically once enter bathroom we turn the tap to make noise of water dripping.
One thing my mum always tells me is the skill we learnt in the kitchen and household won't let us die so since a young age i never got any toy but learn to play in the kitchen. My grandmother fled to Singapore and with her cooking skills she open a successful hawker stall for more than 40 years. At the beginning her boss take her in and give her a place to stay solely because she cook some food to convince him to Recuit her upon arrival to Singapore.
I am born in Singapore but my mum is from Malacca. Both my grandparents are half malay and chinese mix. Ancestors also include Indian and Portuguese mixed together with us. My grandfather have 2 wives because my biological grandmother fled to Singapore after giving birth to my mum. He didn't look for her but marry a new women to look after his children. 2nd grandmother also fled to kelantan and refused to even see her own daughters. My grandmother reunited with my grandpa at old age because of my mum's marriage to Singapore. My grandmother claim she fled because she cannot give birth to son so was bullied but my grandpa didn't defend her. As both wives only give birth to 5 daughters, my grand uncle's son was credited to my grandpa to pass the family line.
Just out of curiosity, in birth certificate, Baba Nyonya is under which category? Bumi, Chinese or DLL? As what Emily said, she's the 6th or 7th generation in Malaysia, hopefully they were not marginalized by the gov or the others in Malaysia
