她的孩子全上名牌大学是很好,但是希望不要引导孩子一定非要上名牌大学不可!我对二个孩永远是一个标准:尽自己最大努力就行了,他们在美国中等大学、研究生、博士毕业,却进了一些名牌大学毕业了却进不了的公司,而且工作非常开心,他们说:I love my job! 我从来没有要求他们要进什么大学,读什么专业。我可以退休了,内心无比轻松。在美国,是真的不需要孩子挤破头去上名牌,给他们压力,实际的工作能力,有礼貌、有教养,诚实诚恳这就是成功的开始,
2:25 she respects and supports their own choices. She didn't persuade her kids "一定要" go to ivy league school. Please watch the video carefully before making a statement. Doing the best is good but teaching the kids to go beyond their comfort zone is important as well.
@@janeruiz884 She herself has a PHD of education from Stanford U. There was a story behind what she said. She was a very famous pop singer in Hong Kong and Japan in the 1970s and 1980s. At the time, when she had her first child she was,a working mom/singer in Japan. She chose to continue her career was very much an antiestablishment act as a Japanese wife. She was attacked by Japanese society as a morally corrupt Mom. Stanford U invited her to attend as a PHD candidate and started research on working women. Her using my 3 sons attend stanford as a come on title is really an honorable explaination of her methods. Another child rearing methods for anyone to reference. Just take what u think that works for u.
I m shock to read some of the comments left here about their childhood... but thank them for sharing their pain growing up. Talk is easier than done. Chan might be a perfect parent ( I doubt ), But she ain't a saint. Every kid is different, most parents I believe are doing their best on raising their kids, they might not know what they have done to their kids are wrong. We children should not take them for granted... it's really okay to vent or even to complain, but do not hurt yourself. Forgive your parents for what they have done wrong to you, I m sure some of them use the name of love but solely for sake of their own egos. If the childhood was the hardest time in your life, try to think how tough you are because you went through and you are okay, what else can be worse than that, yes?!well, perhaps just follow Chan s simple methods, we all will be great parents and all the kids will have a happy childhood and a successful future. :). Seriously, don't compare!
Recuerdos, u say that u doubt Agnes is a perfect parent, but please do not judge her by saying that she'a no saint, because neither r u nor anyone else in this world. As parents, we all do our best 2 teach our chidren 2 b altruistic,n caring n selfless people when they grow up.The most important thing 2 realize is that parents have 2 b good role models 4 their children, bcos kids learn by listening 2 n then watching how their parents bhave. I was born in a middle-class family n although I didn't have everything I wanted, my parents saw 2 it that we had good food 2 eat, nice clothes 2 wear, toys 2 play with, prestigous schools 2 go 2. Being a Christian was good spiritual training, preparing me 4 life in a material,n competitive n avaricious society n world. Although I didn't have everything I wanted, I'n very grateful 2 my Mum n Dad 4 bringing me up n I had everything I needed plus some things I wanted. My faith taught me not 2 covet things bcos the're r always people who're richer, better-educated, have bigger cars n houses,n etc.He than u. I attended a school in which many of the students n even my classmates came from affluent families, their parents being doctors,n lawyers,n businessman, n even one particular boy whose Dad was a politician.There were many boys whose parents had more,n some considerably more,n money than mine.He Despite this,I never envied them n never felt inferior 2 them. It may seem incredible, but I was never materialistic (bcos ultimately I can't take it with u.I had a very happy childhood bcos my parents loved me (Mum was the disciplinarian n Dad was the doting father) n what one parent couldn't give me,the other would. And lastly I learned 2 strive 4 excellence n did well in school. If u ask me what were my most important lessons as a student, my reply would b the teachings from the Bible.
There is no perfection, it's only 'standards' created by someone. Don't be too harsh to yourself or ppl who care about you, I guess that is what I was trying to say. I m glad that you have a happy life, keep up the good job and cherish all your blessings. P.S. no one is perfect, if you think someone is perfect, it's just an illusion, the one who traps you in is guilty, and she might not be as sincere as you wanted to believe... more observation required.